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Backlash Against Bumble For Anti-Celibacy Ads

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 18:30:04 GMT

Backlash Against Bumble For Anti-Celibacy Ads

Recently Bumble, an online dating platform, came out with an advertising campaign that disses celibacy. Some of the ads included phrases like "You know full well a vow of celibacy is not the answer" and "Thou shalt not give up on dating and become a nun."

While this is not surprising with how the dating culture is today, what is surprising is that there was a major amount backlash towards Bumble for publishing these ads. According to BBC , Bumble pulled the ads and "offered the advertising space to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, among other organizations and donated money."

While some organizations aim to diss on sexual purity until marriage, Abstinence Clearinghouse embraces abstinence and all of the benefits that come with choosing to not engage in any sexual activity until marriage.

This is why we created The Truth About Abstinence brochure . This brochure shares the benefits of abstinence, the truth about second chances and information debunking the "sex myths" of our culture.

June 19, 2024

The Rise (And Dangers) Of #BookTok

Wed, 05 Jun 2024 18:28:25 GMT

The Rise (And Dangers) Of #BookTok

Due to social media apps like TikTok, it has become easier for teens, tweens, and even younger children to stumble upon different online communities. One community in particular, #BookTok, has become popular on TikTok over the past couple of years, especially amongst teen girls.

#BookTok is a community where creators focus on content to review, talk about, and recommend books they've read.

"The demographic is almost exclusively teenage girls, but the power it has is huge. We have a ‘BookTok recommended’ table – and you can tell which books are trending by the speed at which they sell," a #BookTok festival assistant told the Observer. "I can’t stress how much #BookTok sells books. It’s driven huge sales of YA [young adult] and romance books, including titles such as The Song of Achilles by Madeline Miller and authors such as Colleen Hoover."

While most times encouraging reading is a positive thing, parents need to be cautious about what their tweens and teens are actually reading.

"Spicy" Books

A trend in the #BookTok community is the promotion of so-called "spicy" books.

"Spicy" books are ones that contain explicit, pornographic content, otherwise known as erotica or smut (sexual material). Some of these books even contain graphic depictions of sexual assault.

Content creators on TikTok will often make statements in their video reviews describing the level of "spice" of the book. If the creators don't comment on it, people will certainly ask about the "spice" level of the book in the comments.

You Can't Judge A Book By Its Cover

Besides the pornographic content in some of these books, another problem with some of these "spicy" books is that they have been designed to look more discreet.

There is a growing trend of these "spicy" books to be designed to have seemingly innocent covers with lots of color and cartoonish characters. This, coupled with discreet titles, could mislead parents into not knowing the type of content their child is actually reading.

While some authors do disclose that their books contain adult content, tweens and teens are being drawn to the books because they are recommended or talked about on TikTok or by their peers. A #BookTok video like this could easily come across their "For You" page.

What You Can Do

While you may not be able to control all of what your children are exposed to on social media or in real life, it is important to know what types of content they are seeing, reading, or watching.

Here are some preventative measures you can take as a parent to limit sexually explicit exposure:

Take some time this week to have a conversation with your child about the books, TV shows, or movies that are popular amongst people in their age group.
Be curious about the types of social media platforms they're on and who they follow. Explain to them how social media is designed to target them with material that is appealing to them and addictive to consume.
Ask them to share with you a content review before they would choose to read a book.
Set boundaries around how and when they can utilize social media.
Remind them that it's important for them to tell you if they have unintentionally encountered explicit content or material. Establish yourself as a safe person for them to talk to without strong, negative reactions.

June 5, 2024

The 2024 Dirty Dozen List REVEALED!

Sun, 05 May 2024 18:26:19 GMT

The 2024 Dirty Dozen List REVEALED!

The annual Dirty Dozen List, published by the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE ), aims to hold twelve organizations accountable for "facilitating, enabling, and even profiting from sexual abuse and exploitation." This list encourages people like you and I to become aware of some of the current dangerous practices and policies, hold these entities accountable, and to promote change by calling them to change harmful practices.

The 2024 Dirty Dozen List features some very well-known entities that you will probably recognize. While some may be predictable, others may surprise you.

Click on any of the twelve entities above to learn more.

Here are some notable takeaways:

Predators are taking advantage of different platforms that don't enforce their rules.
Because these big platforms are easily accessible, children are at a high risk of being exposed to sexual content and predators.
We have a duty to hold prominent entities accountable. Keeping our children safe is of vital importance.

To watch a video that goes through the 2024 Dirty Dozen List, click HERE !

May 5, 2024

The Rise of Deepfake P*rnography

Wed, 03 Apr 2024 18:21:10 GMT

The Rise of Deepfake P*rnography

Artificial Intelligence (AI) technology is causing a new problem: deepfakes.

Deepfakes , according to the Department of Homeland Security, "utilize a form of artificial intelligence/machine learning (AI/ML) to create believable, realistic videos, pictures, audio, and text of events which never happened."

Some people are using this technology in evil ways, such as creating deepfake pornography without the consent of the individual. This recently happened to one of the biggest popstars in the world: Taylor Swift. The New York Post reported that someone had created fake nude photos of Taylor Swift that ended up circulating Twitter for around 17 hours before they were removed.

What You Should Know

A recent article by the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) explains that there are three main categories of synthetic sexually explicit material (SSEM):

The alteration of an image of an identifiable person utilizing so-called “deepfake” technology so that a person not in pornography appears to be in pornography
The “nudifying” of a person so that they are “stripped” of their clothing via “nudify apps” or other technology
AI-generated amalgamated pornography which utilizes mass collections of images of persons scraped from assorted websites and AI to create “new” pornography, typically depicting an unidentifiable, computer-generated “person.”

So how can you keep you and your loved ones safe?

The National Cybersecurity Alliance reported in a recent article that there are ten ways to lower your chance of being the victim of a deepfake:

Be careful about what you share online
Restrict who can see your social media accounts or online information
Put a watermark on pictures or videos so that they are more traceable
Learn about deepfakes and AI
Use multi-factor authentication to double your security on all accounts
Create long, strong, and unique passwords
Keep your software up to date
Be extremely cautious when receiving emails, direct messages, texts, phone calls, or other digital communications if the source is unknown
Report deepfake content
Consult with cybersecurity and data privacy legal experts if you are the victim of a deepfake

April 3, 2024

What Parents Should Know About TikTok

Wed, 06 Mar 2024 18:16:39 GMT

What Parents Should Know About TikTok

TikTok has become quite popular with teens over the past couple of years.

According to a PEW Research Center report published in 2023, "58% of U.S. teens are daily users of TikTok and 1 in 5 teens say they're on TikTok 'almost constantly.'"

TikTok is an online video platform where users can create and share their own content, as well as view the content that others create.

So what should parents know about TikTok?

Axis , an organization aimed to help parents navigate conversations with their kids, recently published an article explaining the ins and outs of TikTok and what parents should know.

Here's a sneak peak of some of the topics discussed:

Why Kids Love TikTok
The Dangers of TikTok
Parental Controls
What's in the Home Feed (aka the For You Page, or FYP)?
Does TikTok Cost any Money?

Click HERE to read the entire Parent's Guide to TikTok.

March 6, 2024

7 Tips on Talking to Your Kids About the Dangers of Porn

Wed, 07 Feb 2024 18:13:24 GMT

7 Tips on Talking to Your Kids About the Dangers of Porn

Pornography can be an uncomfortable topic to talk about with your children, but it doesn't have to be!

The presence of pornography on the internet and social media has become more prominent over the years, so while it may be an uncomfortable subject, it's one that should be talked about. For example, CNBC recently reported that "a new legal filing about child exploitation on Meta’s Facebook and Instagram apps alleges a 2021 internal company estimate found as many as 100,000 children every day received sexual harassment, such as pictures of adult genitalia, on the platforms." Educating and warning your children about the dangers of pornography is a way to help keep them safe.

Below are seven practical tips from Defend Young Minds on how to talk about pornography with your kids. Their mission is to "educate, encourage and equip parents, professionals and community leaders to defend young minds from the harms of pornography."

Be prepared with facts
Ditch the discomfort and shame
Start talking to them early
Give age-appropriate definitions
Give them reasons to reject pornography
Create a response plan for if/when they stumble upon pornography
Continue to have conversations about pornography with your child

To read more in depth on these great tips, click HERE !

February 7, 2024

Roblox - The Online Gaming Platform that has Many Parents on Guard

Fri, 12 Jan 2024 18:11:26 GMT

Roblox - The Online Gaming Platform that has Many Parents on Guard

Roblox is an online gaming platform for many user-created games. According to their website, "Roblox is the ultimate virtual universe that lets you create, share experiences with friends, and be anything you can imagine." There are gaming genres such as adventure, fighting, town, fantasy, comedy, and many others.

Roblox became more popular during the COVID-19 pandemic, and currently has a whopping 70.2 million active daily users, with about 29.7 million of those being 12 years old or younger.

So what should parents know about Roblox? Is it safe?

Axis , an organization aimed to help parents navigate conversations with their kids, recently made an informational video about some of the main features and concerns of the platform.

Here are some of the key points discussed in the video.

How Roblox makes a Profit - Roblox makes money through in-platform purchases. Using real money, you can purchase their in-game currency, Robux . According to their website, "Robux allows you to purchase upgrades for your avatar or buy special abilities in experiences."
Catfishing on Roblox - Catfishing can and has happened on Roblox. Catfishing can look like someone pretending to be a child who then befriends your child. This person could be wanting them to click on a dangerous link, trying to get personal information, developing an inappropriate relationship with them on Roblox and/or luring them into chatting somewhere else online or offline.
Roblox on the National Center on Sexual Exploitation's Dirty Dozen List - Roblox was recently featured on the 2023 Dirty Dozen List. The National Center on Sexual Exploitation, creator of the list, explains that "The Dirty Dozen List is an annual campaign calling out twelve mainstream entities for facilitating, enabling, and even profiting from sexual abuse and exploitation." The list is made as a call-to-action, so that the public can try to hold bigger corporations accountable for bad practices that are exploitative. Children have been exposed to highly sexualized content and themes on Roblox, as well as predators.

Using discernment with an online gaming platform like this is crucial. Because of its creative features and instant chat-like feature where you can talk with other people in real time, it's important to be informed and careful about the potential dangers.

Challenge: Start a conversation with your child about the types of games and platforms they use.

January 12, 2024

2 Major Ways to Help Prevent Child Sex Abuse

Wed, 10 Jan 2024 18:07:58 GMT

2 Major Ways to Help Prevent Child Sex Abuse

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) recently published an article highlighting two main tactics to help prevent online and offline child sexual abuse:

Preventing predator's online access to children
Preventing pornography exposure in childhood

Preventing predators' online access to children is key because we live in a world filled with technology, social media, and gaming platforms that are risks to children. It's important to hold bigger companies accountable for their practices to ensure that children are safe from predatory people.

Exposure to pornography in childhood is an established risk factor for child sexual abuse perpetration and victimization. According to a study done by Lin et al [3], early adolescence exposure to sexually explicit media was strongly related to three risky sexual behaviors—early sexual debut, unsafe sex, and sexual partners.

Parental controls are a good option to help keep your child safe if they use technology. There are stronger parental control options available, like Covenant Eyes, that have monitoring and filtering tools to help filter out explicit material. Overall, it's important to be aware of your child's games, social media, online platforms, and friends.

January 10, 2024

Online Sextortion and How it May Affect your Kids

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 18:05:48 GMT

Online Sextortion and How it May Affect your Kids

Minors, especially young males, have recently been affected by a particular type of extortion called sextortion.

According to an article from the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) , "Sexual extortion [sextortion] is the use of sexual images to blackmail the person or persons depicted. The blackmail may be for the purpose of obtaining money or more sexually explicit material, coercion into in-person sex or sex trafficking, pressuring the person to stay in a relationship, or other benefits to the perpetrator."

The usual sextortion scheme happens like this: a victim engages with someone online that they think is around their age and/or is romantically interested in them. The perpetrator, who is likely using a fake profile to engage with the victim, coerces the minor to send explicit images and or videos of themselves. The perpetrator then blackmails the victim, threatening to send the images/videos out to family, friends, their school, etc., if they don't give them money or gift cards. Usually, even if the money is sent, the blackmail will continue.

Victims of sextortion are often afraid and embarrassed to speak up because of the nature of the explicit images that they were coerced into sending. The shame and fear of being victimized in this way has resulted in some individuals committing suicide as a way to escape.

“They [Parents] should have a sincere conversation with the minors in their lives about what is appropriate behavior online, and they should report that crime to the FBI if they know about it,” Special Agent Fernando Uribe said in a quote to NBC4 Washington .

In a time where using technology is nearly unavoidable, it is critically important that parents and other adults who have strong influences in the lives of children and teens have regular conversations with them. Talk about the dangers of technology, how to use it wisely and what they should do when they are being asked to do something they do not feel is right. Those parents and other important adults need to be safe places for kids and teens to turn to when they are not sure what else to do.

December 6, 2023

Gen-Z Youth, Ages 13-24, are Sick of Hypersexualization

Wed, 06 Dec 2023 15:30:10 GMT

Gen-Z Youth, Ages 13-24, are Sick of Hypersexualization

In a new study conducted by UCLA, 47.5% of Gen-Z age youth, ages 13-24, "think that sex and romance are too prominent in TV shows and movies."

51.5% say they want to see more realistic friendships and platonic relationships in the TV shows and movies they are watching. Gen-Z youth want representation of other types of relationships, like strong friendships, instead of just defaulting to romantic relationships.

Have you asked the Gen-Z youth in your life what their thoughts are on this topic?

Abstinence, AI & Your Family

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 18:04:01 GMT

Abstinence, AI & Your Family

In the past year, we have seen an explosion in the use of artificial intelligence (AI) in all areas of our society. Businesses are finding ways to utilize AI to increase their marketing potential, design new projects and even analyze large swathes of data. In education, students are finding ways to utilize AI for research, papers and projects. Sometimes these uses of AI are allowed, but often students can use AI to cheat and avoid doing the work themselves. Then there are fun AI bots that many teens use at home to try out new hairstyles or create pictures of their favorite sports team winning a championship.

While many of these uses of AI are fun and harmless, there are some uses that pose concerns. For example, a member of the NAC team recently tested out Planned Parenthood's "Roo" AI to ask about abstinence. Roo told our team member, who was posing as a 14-year-old girl, that the average age when people have sex for the first time is 17, "but everyone gets to decide what's right for them." There was no mention of discussing this topic with parents, no mention of the benefits of abstinence, and no reference to laws regarding statutory rape which vary by state but often include a 14-year-old with any sexual contact. There are many such AI chat bots that provide information that is inaccurate, misleading and dangerous.

Parents are the primary educators of their children, and it is crucial that AI not be allowed to take that away from them. Actively forming your child in virtue is one of the most important tasks that you can take on. But this role as a parent was given to you by God, and thus He will empower you in this role. Talk to your children about what kind of AI they utilize and encourage them to come to you with any questions before turning to AI.

November 1, 2023

Back to School Checklist for Parents

Tue, 08 Aug 2023 18:03:02 GMT

Back to School Checklist for Parents

With a new school year about to begin, you're likely busy filling out forms and shopping for everything on your child's school supply lists. Amidst all the necessary preparations, don't forget to ensure your child is safe from explicit content and radical ideologies this school year!

Here is a list of questions you can ask your child's school to ensure your child's safety:

What sex education curriculum is used at my child's school? You can learn about radical sex education and connect with parents in your state through this interactive map .
What are my rights regarding opting my child out of controversial subjects and surveys? Questions on annual student surveys may ask students to disclose opinions and feelings about gender, race, family structure and sexuality. Author Deb Fillman warns parents that these surveys serve a dual purpose. First, the government (local, state and/or federal) collects data on your child and that information will be in their possession forever. Second, the goal is for your child to quickly become accustomed to violations of their personal boundaries, especially since the surveys are conducted by a teacher, who is to be considered a trusted adult.
Are vulgar or pornographic books available in the library and accessible to all students? Organizations like Take Back the Classroom seek to remove exploitative, obscene content from school libraries across the country. Download the free toolkit to learn more about obscenity laws, the individuals behind the sexualization of children, how you can petition to have vulgar books removed and more.
What clubs are active on your child's school campus? Get on their email list and follow their social media accounts. Even if your child is not directly involved in these organizations, it is good to know what they may be exposed to indirectly through their peers.
Does your school have a student newspaper? If so, subscribe to learn more about current events, read op-eds and see advertisements geared towards students.
What policies are present regarding restrooms, locker rooms and overnight field trips? What ongoing training is required of teachers by the state or district and what topics are typically addressed? Can your child be released from school for confidential medical services without parental consent? If there are problematic areas of these policies, connect with the principal, school board and other individuals in leadership at the school to state your concerns and ensure you are informed of changes implemented.

Your role as the parent means that you are the primary educator of your child. Do not allow your rights to be undermined as aberrant behavior is normalized in the classroom.

August 8, 2023

Teaching Chastity During the Little Years

Thu, 27 Jul 2023 17:57:58 GMT

Teaching Chastity During the Little Years

By helping children understand that their bodies, minds and spirits are not just accidents of nature, but divine gifts given from a loving God, we can teach them how important it is to care for their bodies and to maintain their purity. This is the true meaning of chastity.

Chastity stems from the Latin word cactus, which means pure. Teaching children purity means sharing ways they can protect their body, mind and soul even when they are young.

Long before we talk about the importance of waiting to engage in sexual intimacy until marriage, we can teach children the blessing of being mindful of how they care for the special gift of their body. They need to respect it, protect it and demand that others do the same.

At a young age, a child can grow in their understanding of nutrition as this plays a large role in the care and keeping of the body that God has given him or her. Children can quickly observe the long term effects of how they fuel their bodies, substance use and smoking.

We should desire to clothe ourselves in a way that encourages respect from others and does not distract others from God's goodness. Teach your children to clothe themselves with strength and dignity by encouraging them to ask these questions when they look in the mirror: Am I going to draw attention to myself in a way that detracts from God's goodness? Does this outfit reflect to others that Christ is the most important thing to me and not my body being noticed?

Instructing your children in forgiveness will help them understand how they can seek purity of heart and soul. Encourage your child to keep short accounts by asking forgiveness from those that they have mistreated.

The Squire and the Scroll , a book written for young boys and The Princess and the Kiss written for young girls, appeal to a child's natural desire for adventure and love. Your child will learn the virtue of purity through a fun-filled story!

Learn more about teaching purity to your children through our blog post, What is Sexual Integrity?

July 27, 2023

How to Interpret Emojis

Mon, 17 Jul 2023 17:55:53 GMT

How to Interpret Emojis

Today’s children are growing up in a world that is more technologically connected than at any other time in history, and they are increasingly spending more time communicating through digital means.

Texting, instant messaging and emailing have added convenience for anyone who needs to communicate a message, but so much of the verbal and non-verbal cues we rely on during in-person conversations are lost in digital communication.

Think of the last time someone sent you the dreaded text that reads, “Ok.” That short, direct reply often leads us to think that person is upset. It’s impossible to interpret the sender’s tone of voice, facial expression and body language.

Then enter the introduction of emojis…Emojis are digital images or icons that convey an idea or emotion. Now a layer of non-verbal cues exists to interpret what someone else is really trying to communicate. According to a recent report, 54% of Gen-Z use emojis in their texts frequently and 41% admitted that they help provide context.

Over time, however, emojis have also been used to communicate messages more discreetly–think code messaging so others can’t easily decipher a message. Often, a few emojis strung together can communicate sexual, suggestive actions.

If you encounter unknown emoji messages on your child’s devices, don’t panic. Chances are your child may not fully know what she is saying or receiving, or your child may be using the emojis as intended (a taco means she just wants to eat a taco). Nonetheless, it’s still important to be an informed parent, especially before you talk to your child about messages you’ve observed. The list of suggestive emojis that are used is long, frequently changing and may vary by region. However, having a general sense of what popular messages are being used will give you a good place to start.

July 17, 2023

Talk to your child about the emojis they use and receive regularly from their friends. Ask if they have ever received a message that they didn’t understand. Has an emoji, or series of emojis, been sent that doesn’t seem to fit the context of the texting conversation?

At an age-appropriate level, share how emojis can be used in harmful, suggestive ways. Ensure your child that you are a safe person to come to if they receive explicit messages or images. Explain the importance of reporting an incident immediately to a trusted adult. Use this opportunity to share that beyond emojis, receiving or sharing sexual images can have a lasting impact.

It is important to never take a picture or video you wouldn't want the general public to see because even when it's not sent to another person, it can appear in unknown locations. If it is shared, it can last forever. If a sexual picture of someone underage is sent, the recipient is just as responsible for the image as the original sender and may face legal charges. Remind your child that incidents must be reported prior to deleting content.

While conversations with your child about these topics may be challenging or uncomfortable, they are necessary if your child has access to any kind of messaging.

As you navigate these conversations with your child, consider reading Abstinence Clearinghouse’s blog, What is Sexual Integrity or the Truth Series , as they are designed to help guide future conversations with your child about pursuing purity and sexual integrity.

For other resources, as you have conversations about purity with your child, view our full online store .

Discipling Your Children and Grandchildren

Thu, 06 Jul 2023 17:51:51 GMT

Discipling Your Children and Grandchildren

Discussing the latest music, artists, celebrities, video games, social media influencers, apps and sporting events with teens can be challenging. There is a lot to learn and things are constantly changing. Discipleship in these areas takes creativity and courage.

Utilizing these six steps created by Axis will help you as a parent or grandparent better understand and translate today's culture and, ultimately, point teens to the truth of God's Word no matter the trend:

Pray - Ask God to protect the hearts and minds of children and offer wisdom and discernment.
Ask Questions - Rather than guessing what your teens watch, listen to or enjoy, ask them! Express genuine curiosity in your conversation and don’t offer any reaction or analysis. Your goal is simply to learn.
Research - Now it’s time to learn about the things your child or grandchild enjoys! If they enjoy a certain musician, look up his or her music. If it’s a show or movie, read reviews, learn about the actors and consider watching to learn more. If it’s a celebrity or influencer, look up their social media pages. If we never read, download or listen to what Gen Zers enjoy, we are missing an opportunity to understand why they like it.
Analyze - After listening or watching, what’s at the surface? What were your initial reactions? Then ask yourself what about this thing is good, bad, missing or confusing? Finally, what does scripture have to say about the underlying ideas and principles expressed?
Discuss - It’s time to talk to your child or grandchild about what you learned! Focus on a conversational discussion, rather than a monologue. Offer questions, not answers, and allow them to think critically to come to a balanced conclusion. The goal is to train the conscience, not be the conscience. It’s often more powerful to guide them to the truth rather than spoon-feed it to them.
Pray - Again, commit your child or grandchild’s heart to the Lord in prayer. Recognize that God is in control and has the power to align your teen's thoughts, will and emotions under His authority.

Humility, curiosity and kindness should be the posture when guiding discussion about culture. Coming off as arrogant or judgmental shuts down the opportunity for future conversation. Remember that you are on the same side and when our kids win, we win too

July 6, 2023

Activities for Your Next Family Road Trip

Wed, 31 May 2023 17:48:40 GMT

Activities for Your Next Family Road Trip

Nearly every family can relate to the frustration of ansty kids in the car yelling, “She’s looking at me!” or “He’s breathing on me!” Sometimes car rides feel like a shuttle service that results in everyone in the vehicle asking, "Are we there yet?"

Whether you’re going across town or across the country, driving is an opportunity for family connection! Research shows that families who play and pray together form healthy, strong bonds that promote communication, academic skills and spiritual development. The next time you are in the car, consider these family-friendly activities:

Play - Nothing says road trip, like classic car games . Whether it’s 20 Questions, The License Plate Game or I Spy, your family is guaranteed a good time! Plus, your kids probably won’t even notice they are practicing important academic and social skills (Bonus!).
Pray - Being in the car as a family is a perfect time to teach the value of prayer and Scripture memorization. Teach your kids The Hand Prayer or help them learn and memorize the Word of God with ABC Scripture Cards . Simply print these cards and keep them in the car to break out anytime you’re together.
Sing - Every road trip needs an epic road trip playlist. Abstinence Clearinghouse’s Family Road Trip Playlist is sure to have something for everyone in the car. Now turn it up, sing along and bust a move!

Everywhere you go, you can build family connections and inspire virtue and integrity in your children. Now go start the road trip fun and impact the next generation!

May 31, 2023

Memorial Day Family Traditions

Thu, 25 May 2023 17:29:21 GMT

Memorial Day Family Traditions

For many Americans, Memorial Day weekend marks the start of backyard BBQs, summer vacations and pool time. But it is so much more than that! In 1971, Congress declared Memorial Day a national holiday to honor and remember the men and women who died while serving in the U.S. armed forces.

Your family may be remembering and honoring your own family members who previously served or thinking of loved ones who are currently serving our country. As you gather with family and friends for your Memorial Day activities, take time to appreciate the gift of being able to spend time together. Talk to your children about the gift of freedom and the meaning of service.

Here are some patriotic activities for your family to consider this Memorial Day:

Display the American Flag Displaying the American Flag is a great way to honor our country and those who have served. If you own an American flag and are able to display it, you can teach your older children how to properly display and fold the flag.
Attend a Memorial Day Service or Pay Tribute Attend a local Memorial Day service to honor those lives lost in service. Services typically include patriotic songs, reflections and a reading of some names of the men and women who have died in service. If your community does not have a Memorial Day service, consider going to the local veteran cemetery or war memorial. Often, cemeteries allow community members to show honor and respect by bringing flowers or small American flags to be placed on the graves. You can find a list of state veteran cemeteries here .
Observe the National Moment of Remembrance In 2000, Congress established The National Moment of Remembrance . It asks Americans, wherever they are at 3 p.m. local time on Memorial Day, to pause for a full minute in an act of national unity to pay our respects to the men and women who died in service of our country.
Make Red Poppy Art As a family, make the remembrance symbol of Memorial Day – the red poppy. While making the craft, talk about the history of the red poppy and how it came to be a prominent symbol.
Play Patriotic Games With a little prep ahead of time, your kids will have a blast playing Red, White and Blue Tag or Red, White and Blue Balloon Toss . Not only will your kids get some good exercise, they are sure to get in some good laughs with their siblings and friends.

This Memorial Day, let us help our kids remember the true meaning of Memorial Day and what it means for our country’s history. Let us especially remember those left behind by fallen service members: their widows, children and those who served with them. Their lives were forever changed by the sacrifices made by their loved ones.

May 25, 2023

The Truth About Second Chances

Wed, 03 May 2023 17:26:00 GMT

The Truth About Second Chances

Mistakes happen. It is a fact of life. But when your children mess up, what do you do?

Whether it’s drug and alcohol abuse, premarital sexual activity, reckless driving, unhealthy relationships, lying, self-harm or stealing, it hurts to see your children make mistakes, especially since their choices will affect their future.

It can be easy to blame yourself for the mistakes your children make, but remember this: everyone messes up. Even Paul said, “For I know that nothing good dwells in me, that is, in my flesh. For I have the desire to do what is right, but not the ability to carry it out. For I do not do the good I want, but the evil I do not want is what I keep on doing. Now if I do what I do not want, it is no longer I who do it, but sin that dwells within me” (Romans 7:18-20).

When you acknowledge the reality that, because of sin, you and your children will fall short, you can better prepare to respond well and help your child live rightly and have abundance in Christ.

The next time your child tells you about a mistake, remember this: a safe space for healthy conversation is found in discussion with a non-judgemental person. Your child needs to know that he or she is able to come to you to discuss difficult topics.

So what does healthy dialogue look like? And how do I create a safe space for healthy conversation?

1. Control your initial reaction

When your child discloses information that may seem disheartening or overwhelming, the key is to not overreact or freak out. When a parent overreacts, it communicates one thing—mom or dad is not a person that offers a space for healthy conversations, and your child will likely shut down and be less likely to approach you in the future.

Your reaction and initial response are what your child may be the most afraid of and a reason why they might not want to have a difficult conversation with you.

It takes a lot of courage to open up about a mistake and your child may already be experiencing shame, guilt and regret for a decision they made. There is no need to add to these feelings by responding with anger and frustration.

Consider using these two phrases: I’m so glad you told me and we will work through this together. Reacting and responding calmly and graciously will communicate to your child that you are someone they can come to with hard conversations and that your love for them has not changed and will be with them throughout this difficult time.

2. Give yourself time to think

Give yourself time to think about how you want to respond. Delay any sort of necessary consequences for actions that have already taken place. This has a two-fold advantage for you. Not only will this give you time to stop and think of a good response, but it also gives you time to research, ask the advice of another individual, pray for guidance or consult your spouse/child’s other parent on how best to handle the situation.

3. Listen to your child

Ask your child to share his or her side of the story. Show your child that you are willing to listen and understand his or her perspective.

Asking follow-up questions will help you gain context into what is being asked or shared and allows you more time to process what’s being said. You may gain information that will change how you respond to the situation. But more importantly, you are giving your child the opportunity to feel heard and understood.

4. Make a plan

Making a plan should start with seeing what needs to be made right and taking action. Mistakes can cause pain and result in challenging consequences, and your child’s actions and decisions may have hurt others. If your child has hurt someone else, are they willing to acknowledge what they have done and ask for forgiveness? Help your child also understand that God is forgiving, loving and good towards him or her when they seek their own forgiveness.

Next, consider together what boundaries are necessary in your child’s life for him or her to use their time and energy in a wise, healthy way. Small steps and accountability each day will help your child pursue and maintain a life of virtue and integrity.

Failures and past hurts do not have to define your child’s life. Because of God’s mercy and forgiveness, we all have an opportunity for a second chance.

At Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe in second chances and that purity of heart, mind and soul are essential for living a life of virtue and integrity. The Truth About Second Chances can help you create a safe space for healthy conversations and support your child in reaching their God-given potential. With a section to customize a plan, you and your child can work together to make healthy choices, restore relationships and plan for a successful future by setting and achieving goals.

Change starts now . Get your Truth About Second Chances booklet now.

May 3, 2023

What is Sexual Integrity?

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 17:23:34 GMT

What is Sexual Integrity?

If you are starting conversations about purity with your child, you have probably come across the phrase sexual integrity.

You are familiar with the word integrity–being honest and strong in moral principles. Essentially, a person of integrity does what is right even when no one is watching.

Sexual integrity is living according to the highest moral sexual standards, consistently guarding our mind, will and emotions from sexual impurity. A person pursuing sexual integrity has committed to raising the bar and upholding high moral principles as it pertains to all these areas of their life. As Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you knows how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God.”

Sexual integrity is often not modeled in today’s culture. As your child’s parent, you have the unique opportunity to share the truth and model what it means to pursue sexual integrity and live a life of purity.

It may seem daunting or intimidating to start conversations about sexual integrity with your children. Take heart! God has given you everything you need to be prepared. As your child’s parent or guardian, it is good and right to desire that your children hear about God’s model for abundant life from you first, and not a friend, relative or other adult who could share information contrary to God’s good design.

God would not give parents this duty without equipping them. God’s Word holds all the knowledge needed to “train up a child in the way he should go” as it says in Proverbs 22:6. It is the revelation of a God who has infinite knowledge and can therefore give you the absolute truth. God’s Word presents an accurate and comprehensive picture of children, parents, family life, values, training and discipline-all you need to be equipped for the task of parenting.

Sexual integrity doesn’t just happen. As humans, we are naturally inclined to rebel from God’s intended design. We must actively evaluate our hearts and repent when we fall short of the standard God has given us. The Bible’s teachings on sexual integrity apply to everyone at all stages of life.

For some parents, conversations about sexual integrity are surrounded by shame and apprehension based on past personal experience. Recognize that sexual integrity is a lifelong journey as we are constantly aligning our attitudes and actions to the standard that God has given us. Psalm 86:5 is a tender reminder of God’s mercy, “You, Lord, are forgiving and good, abounding in love to all who call to you.”

God knows our tendency toward sin, yet in His grace, He offers forgiveness and a new path. Romans 3:23 states that “All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God.” Ephesians 2:8 declares “For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing, it is the gift of God.”

If you are in Christ, you are made new. As Psalm 103:12 says, “As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us.”

Before talking to your children about sexual integrity: Is there any unrepented sin that can be brought before God? Do you believe that He has forgiven you? Do you believe you can live in the freedom that He has granted through the death of His Son on the cross?

Teach your children about the boundaries that God has given for relationships. Share the fruit that comes from walking in accordance with His will for their life! For example, in the context of a marriage relationship, two people have taken responsibility for one another. They are committed to love, honor and respect each other for a lifetime. God has given us a blueprint for true intimacy, true love.

In addition to teaching your children God’s design for relationships and intimacy, offer your children practical tools to pursue sexual purity. Teach them what to do when they find themselves in situations that would come into conflict with their convictions. Encourage them to find friends who hold their commitments, make a list of goals for their life and develop personal boundaries that uphold purity. As your child grows older, help them find an accountability relationship or mentor, who will encourage them and help keep them responsible for their thoughts and actions.

As you shepherd your child’s heart through all life’s seasons, parent graciously. Throughout your child's lifelong journey pursuing sexual integrity-whether single, dating, married or widowed- pray that they will joyfully see and glorify God as the author of life and love.

The most important thing to remember and keep in mind in conversations is that we are constantly under God’s forgiveness and grace. We have been given new life in Christ’s death and should seek to do His will in all things and in all areas of life. If we struggle to keep God’s design for sex, we can be assured of forgiveness when we bring our sin before God. 1 John 1:9 is a beautiful reminder that God can and will forgive: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness.”

April 25, 2023

The Virtue of Kindness

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 17:20:49 GMT

The Virtue of Kindness

We all want our kids to be kind, but that is not the same as knowing what to do when you catch your child being unkind.

As a world-renowned developmental psychologist, Dr. Thomas Lickona has led the character education movement in schools for forty years. In his book, How to Raise Kind Kids , he shares tools that parents need to bring peace and foster cooperation in their home. Kindness doesn’t stand on its own. It needs a supporting cast of other essential virtues like courage, self-control, respect and gratitude.

With concrete examples drawn from the many families Dr. Lickona has worked with over the years, How to Raise Kind Kids will help you:

Give and receive respect
Hold family meetings to tackle persistent problems
Discipline in a way that builds character
Improve the dynamic of your relationship with your children while putting them on the path to a happier, more fulfilling life

In today's world, creating a family culture of kindness and respect is countercultural. It will be harder with some children than others, but we can help every child make progress on the road to good character.

April 18, 2023

The Truth About Living Together Before Marriage

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 16:47:48 GMT

The Truth About Living Together Before Marriage

Living together, or cohabitating, before marriage, used to be a rare living arrangement in our society with 0.1% of 18- to 24-year-olds and 0.2% of 25- to 34-year-olds living together before marriage in 1968. Today, living together before marriage is often an assumed progression of a serious dating relationship with approximately 15% of people ages 18-34 living together before marriage.

Couples who move in together usually do so as a “trial run” to see if they want to commit to one another in a marriage relationship. In fact, 48% of adults in the US ages 18-65+ say couples who live together before marriage have a better chance of having a successful marriage than those who don’t live together. Despite this common idea, decades of research on subsequent marriage stability still determines that cohabitation before marriage increases rates of divorce.

As your children get older and start dating, it is likely they will have friends who choose to cohabitate or they may have that conversation with their significant other. How could living together before marriage affect your young adult’s life?

Divorce

Couples who live together before marriage are 50 to 80% more likely to divorce than married couples who did not live together before marriage.

While the divorce rate among couples who lived together before marriage is lower in the first six months of marriage, research indicates that after that first year of marriage, people who cohabitate end up having a higher risk of divorce compared to those who did not live together until marriage

Finances

Married individuals make between 10 and 40% more money than their single and cohabitating peers.

As of 2019, the median net worth for cohabiting couples ages 25 to 34 was $17,372–less than a quarter of the $68,210 net worth for married couples of the same age range.

The key to married couples’ financial security may come from the long-term mind-set. Married couples are significantly more likely to plan a future with each other and any possible children in mind. When married couples combine finances, save and invest their pooled money, they are more likely to achieve more long-term financial goals and build wealth. Cohabitating couples are less likely to use their combined incomes to pursue long-term investment and saving goals, often keeping income and investment opportunities separate and individual-oriented.

Commitment & Relationship Satisfaction

Women are more likely to view cohabitation as a step toward marriage, while men are more likely to see it as a way to test a relationship or postpone commitment . Couples also tend to be less committed in marriage when they live together prior to their wedding.

Research has also found that married couples are more satisfied in their relationships than their cohabitating peers. From sharing household duties, balancing work and personal life to communication, fidelity, trust and financial responsibility, married couples all report higher satisfaction.

Today's Choices Affect Your Tomorrow

When talking to your children about healthy relationships, always remind them of this: Today’s choices affect your tomorrow. While he or she may care for a significant other and desire to live together, remind them of God’s design for marriage and the higher standard of living that will result in a happier and longer lasting marriage. Help them develop boundaries, initiate accountability mentor conversations and honor their significant other.

Need help in this ongoing conversation? The Truth About Living Together Before Marriage booklet can guide your conversation and support your children in their pursuit to live with virtue in healthy relationships.

April 11, 2023

Holy Week Family Activities

Wed, 05 Apr 2023 16:40:47 GMT

Holy Week Family Activities

Holy Week is an opportunity for your family to pause and ponder, to carefully mark each day and not let the week fly by like every other. These are some of the darkest and brightest days in the history of the world, and they are rich with soul-satisfying truth and life-clarifying vision.

Consider how your family can make the most of this week with the following activity ideas:

Listen to the Holy Week Playlist our team created for your family on Spotify. Whether it's Palm Sunday, Maundy Thursday, Good Friday or Resurrection Sunday, the songs in this playlist encompass truths that will stir your heart to marvel at the work of Jesus Christ throughout this Holy Week.
Read through a Holy Week devotional or the Passion narratives from the Gospels: Matthew 21–28, Mark 11–16, Luke 19–24, John 12–21. Choose a time each day to slow down as a family and savor what was happening during the Passion week over two thousand years ago. Block out several minutes, find a comfortable place to sit, seek to quiet your soul and pray that God would meet you in the events and significance of this week. Receive this week with thanksgiving, and make it holy by the word of God and prayer ( 1 Timothy 4:5 ).
Create traditions with young children by baking Resurrection Rolls or Easter Story Cookies to help illustrate the meaning of Easter. Make a stained glass masterpiece with colorful paper or paint on a prominent window of your home.

Whatever the activity, rejoice and observe with reverence how deep the Father’s love is for us. “God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us” ( Romans 5:8 ).

April 5, 2023

The Story of St. Patrick

Fri, 17 Mar 2023 16:37:30 GMT

The Story of St. Patrick

Have your kids ever asked you about St. Patrick's Day? For many, St. Patrick's Day elicits thoughts of shamrocks, big parades and wearing green to avoid being pinched. Did you know that this overlooked Irish holiday has profound spiritual depth? St. Patrick was a man of faith who changed the course of history in Ireland, bringing thousands of people to Christ during the fifth century.

St. Patrick was not a believer when he was kidnapped from Britain and taken to Ireland as a 16-year-old. In the midst of suffering as a slave for six years, St. Patrick began to believe and pray. St. Patrick trusted that God would be faithful to sustain him in these trials. After years of hardship, St. Patrick was given an opportunity to escape slavery. God delivered him and he was reunited with his family and friends in Britain.

Once in Britain, God called St. Patrick to preach the Gospel to those who had never heard it before. Ironically, St. Patrick was being drawn back to Ireland, the very place he had been held captive for so many years of his life. St. Patrick was obedient and lived out biblical teachings in order to show his former kidnappers Christ's love and forgiveness.

Many were not receptive to the Gospel and St. Patrick endured their persecution. The Celtic people, who worshiped pagan gods, were threatened by the Christian teaching that St. Patrick shared. Christianity went directly against their ancient traditions, including human sacrifice. Despite persecution, St. Patrick persisted in spreading the Gospel. Soon, there were churches and believers all over Ireland.

Here are a few ways you can intentionally celebrate St. Patrick's Day with your family:

Share the story of St. Patrick with your family and friends. Allow the life of St. Patrick to encourage you to be intentional with relationships, offering forgiveness, and living in obedience to the glory of God.
Read the prayer of St. Patrick. Consider how St. Patrick's prayer applies to your life. Do you know anyone who has not heard the message of Christ? What are you willing to sacrifice so that they might know and understand the saving grace offered in God's Word?
Be green! Green represents new life and the lush, rolling hills of Ireland. Wearing green will also help you avoid being pinched!

Make Your Voices Heard!

Wed, 25 Jan 2023 16:28:41 GMT

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The Gift Bundle For Women is created for ages 15+ and includes Elisabeth Elliot's Heart of God devotional and a beautiful Purity Necklace in a 10x8 inch clear bag with an adjustable strap—a perfect stadium purse!

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Order your bundle now, and Abstinence Clearinghouse will ship so that it arrives just before Valentine's Day!

January 18, 2023

Sanctity of Human Life Sunday

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 16:20:59 GMT

Sanctity of Human Life Sunday

This coming Sunday, January 22, marks 50 years since the landmark case, Roe v. Wade, was decided by the Supreme Court. This legalized abortion across the United States, costing millions of unborn lives. Last June, the Supreme Court released another landmark decision, Dobbs v. Jackson, overturning Roe v. Wade and sending the issue of abortion back to the states. While this was a major victory, there is still much to be done to recognize and protect the sanctity of human life beginning at conception.

In the face of this daunting fight, in 1984 President Reagan declared the Sunday closest to the anniversary of the Roe v. Wade decision "Sanctity of Human Life Sunday."

This Sunday, pause to remember the sanctity of each human life. Life is sacred and worth defending at all costs today and everyday. Every person, born and unborn, has inherent value, from conception to natural death.

Commemorate Sanctity of Human Life Sunday with your children this week and inspire appreciation for life-affirming convictions by reading Little Lives Matter as a family!

January 18, 2023

Marijuana & Pregnancy PDF Download

Wed, 18 Jan 2023 16:19:15 GMT

Marijuana & Pregnancy PDF Download

Communicating the harmful effects of marijuana on both a developing child and a pregnant mother is essential as a growing number of women are utilizing marijuana to treat pregnancy-related nausea, vomiting and anxiety. In the United States, one study found that 7% of pregnant women reported using marijuana in the past month.

This Marijuana & Pregnancy PDF Download shares marijuana's effects on a developing baby and pregnant women. You can purchase and download the resource, shown on the right, to share with women who receive a positive pregnancy test.

January 18, 2023

The Power of Parents

Wed, 11 Jan 2023 16:18:09 GMT

The Power of Parents

Since 2020, the power of parents has become increasingly evident in the public square, especially in regards to education policy. But parents have been instrumental in important changes in other areas of public policy too. From social media filters to exploitation of children and promoting accountability, when parents come together, they can make a monumental impact.

Find groups in your own community like Moms for Liberty (Dads can join too!) or Mothers Against Sexual Exploitation to learn more about how you can make a difference for generations to come.

January 11, 2023

True Girl Podcast

Wed, 11 Jan 2023 16:17:04 GMT

True Girl Podcast

True Girl, formerly known as Secret Keeper Girl, is a program developed by Dannah Gresh for "tween" girls to encourage them to be young women of confidence and faith. True Girl works to equip moms in raising their daughters to withstand the pressures of the culture while providing a fun framework for mother-daughter connection that leads to the growth of virtue and relationship with God.

True Girl performances travel around the country to bring a special experience directly to communities like yours. However, if you're looking for a way to participate in True Girl in your own home, be sure to check out the True Girl Podcast ! The seven seasons of True Girl that are currently available cover a variety of topics, from beauty and dignity to best friends and mean girls. These 15-minute episodes are meant to be listened to together—perhaps on the car ride to school or sports practices.

January 11, 2023

Heart of God by Elisabeth Elliot: God's Helping Heart

Wed, 11 Jan 2023 16:14:21 GMT

Heart of God by Elisabeth Elliot: God's Helping Heart

The following is an excerpt from Elisabeth Elliot's Heart of God: 31 Days To Discover God's Love For You. In the daily devotional, she explores different aspects of God's heart: loving, sovereign, awesome, caring and helping.

The heart of God yearns to help His children. But sometimes they resist His help by disobeying His commandments. Never let yourself fall into that spiritual trap. God's commandments were not given to make life miserable for you. Indeed, just the opposite. They were given to help you avoid many of the pitfalls of life.

God's helping heart yearns to keep His children safe. He longs to help them live full and satisfying lives. Jesus said, "I have come that they may have life, and that they may have it more abundantly" (John 10:10).

Do you want to live an abundant life? Then let God's helping heart show you the way. Study His Word and apply it to your daily life. God's helping heart is as near as your Bible.

Shop Heart of God today!

January 11, 2023

Born To Be Brave

Wed, 04 Jan 2023 16:11:27 GMT

B orn To Be Brave

Fathers play a vital role in shaping the next generation of young men. This is why Dannah and Bob Gresh's team at Pure Freedom Ministry created the " Born To Be Brave " program. Born To Be Brave boxes come packed full of fun and formative activities for fathers and sons. Each box includes a devotional or a set of Scripture journals and promotes biblical literacy, growing in virtues essential for authentic manhood and growing in relationship with God. Going through these activities together will help fathers and sons lay a foundation for continuing conversations about manhood and purity for years to come.

To learn more and order your Brave Box, click here .

January 4, 2023

Building A Culture Of Belonging In Marriage & Family

Wed, 04 Jan 2023 16:09:16 GMT

Building A Culture Of Belonging In Marriage & Family

Dr. Pat Fagan, head of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute (MARRI), recently announced that the institute will be reframing its work for the coming years based on their findings on marriage and family over the past decade. This exciting endeavor will look to network fathers and husbands to order their lives in worship of God and service of others. In doing so, Dr. Fagan hopes to help build up a stronger society and better culture.

While MARRI recognizes that it takes centuries to rebuild a culture, the impact can be felt much sooner and more directly in each family and community. Dr. Fagan recently shared an amazing lecture on building a stronger culture through sense of belonging in the family.

January 4, 2023

Parents & Screentime

Wed, 04 Jan 2023 16:08:06 GMT

Parents & Screentime

The Institute for Family Studies and the Wheatley Institute recently released a study examining teenager's screentime. The study surveyed 1600 adolescents ages 11-18 in America. The findings were staggeringly high across the board, averaging a total of approximately 10 hours and 4 minutes a day. This is especially shocking when taking into account the time spent at school, in extracurriculars and sleeping.

However, researchers found that teens who come from "intact households," that is a home with two married, biological parents, spent less time on screens than all of those in non-intact households. Examples of non-intact households are homes with single parents and step-parents. Researchers said that it is important not to place blame on all non-intact parents, but rather to recognize the vulnerability that comes with a non-intact home.

To read more about this new research, click here .

January 4, 2023

Year in Review

Tue, 27 Dec 2022 16:06:34 GMT

Year in Review

A think tank that offers parents tools to create meaningful conversations and deepen relationships with their children, a network of individuals committed to sharing truth about purity with the next generation, a provider of resources that inspires the pursuit of a virtuous life…this is National Abstinence Clearinghouse.

2022 was another banner year for NAC!

In addition to hosting events like Knight to Remember, Purity Ball and God, Mom & Me Tea for parents and teens, your partnership and support provided parents, educators and organizations with resources on the nation’s most pressing topics:

Sharing the message of purity with young people
Parenting children through a world of technology
Defending parental rights in education
Celebrating the sanctity of life
Upholding religious freedom
And much more!

We were also able to celebrate the release of ELEVATE , our new sexual integrity program launched in partnership with VirTru Training. ELEVATE has helped men and women evaluate relationships, set boundaries, recognize destructive habits, establish accountability mentors and ultimately, say yes to pursuing a life of purity and meaningful relationships!

Believing parents are the primary educators of their children, NAC remains committed to empowering parents to overcome insecurities and unashamedly share truth so the world is not given the chance to fill the void of silence with a contrary message.

Now beginning its twenty-sixth year, our work is more vital than ever before. NAC provides resources created to transform our culture - all while being grounded in a firm foundation of faith in Jesus Christ.

Thank you for continuing to partner with us as we raise the bar and empower the next generation to say “YES” to pure love!

Raising The Bar,

December 27, 2022

Celebrating Christmas With The Whole Family

Thu, 22 Dec 2022 16:03:53 GMT

Celebrating Christmas With The Whole Family

You may be looking forward to welcoming your grandchildren into your home for Christmas, or you might be looking for ways to focus the chaos of having your children home from school for winter break. No matter what your situation is, in the midst of all the busyness of the season, direct your family back to the true meaning of Christmas with these fun, age-appropriate activities focused on celebrating Jesus, Emmanuel, God with us.

Ages 0-3

Invest in a kid-friendly nativity scene that you can use to play with and act out the Christmas story with your baby or toddler.
Avoid making Christmas a "don't touch holiday" for little ones by giving them fun things they can touch. Move glass ornaments and lights up to higher branches on the Christmas tree and help your child make fun decorations for the bottom.
Get some fun, holiday-themed stuffed animals to set up and have a Christmas tea party.

Ages 4-7

Place the Christmas cards you receive in a basket on the dinner table and take turns drawing one out each night. Pray together for that person or family.
Start a family tradition by picking out a new holiday-themed book to read aloud throughout the season.
Decorate ornaments for the tree with glitter and paint! Allow each child to choose one ornament to mail or deliver to a friend or family member.

Ages 8-12

Decorate cookies and build gingerbread houses together as a family.
Assign each of your children a country to research and report about how that country celebrates Christmas. Encourage interactive elements that involve preparing a traditional treat, song or dance. Pray for the people of that country so that tall who live there might understand the meaning of God's love and the true meaning of the Christmas season.

Ages 13+

Plan a creative caroling outing as a family. Proclaim the birth of Christ by singing a few songs and reading Scripture passages at a local retirement home, homeless shelter or in your neighborhood.
Bundle up (if you live in a colder climate), grab some hot chocolate and drive around town to see all the Christmas lights. Let the beautiful Christmas lights remind you of God's goodness and how Christ's birth brings light to the darkness of our world.

December 22, 2022

Victory: PornHub Booted From Social Media

Thu, 22 Dec 2022 16:00:57 GMT

Victory: PornHub Booted From Social Media

This has been a bad year for pornography giant, PornHub. In the first half of 2022, many companies cut ties with PornHub, including Mastercard, Visa and all other major credit cards, as well as advertisers Wish, Unilever and Kraft-Heinz. The distribution outlets Roku and Comcast also removed PornHub. Then in September, PornHub was banned from Instagram for going against the platform's community standards.

Last week, YouTube banned PornHub's account from their platform. A few days later, TikTok followed suit, permanently removing the pornography giant. While these accounts didn't share content that met the legal definition of pornography, they did share graphic and explicit content with the intention to direct people to their website.

To read more about PornHub's fall, click here .

December 22, 2022

Heart of God by Elisabeth Elliot

Wed, 14 Dec 2022 15:59:11 GMT

Heart of God by Elisabeth Elliot

World-renowned author, speaker, and missionary, Elisabeth Elliot, shares how to recognize the compassionate hand of God in every circumstance. In her book, Heart of God: 31 Days to Discover God's Love for You , she shares how even amidst suffering, you can encounter the mystery and joy of unfolding the infinite layers of God's unprecedented love for us. This book is excellent for anyone looking to know the Lord's heart. To know His heart is to come to a better understanding of His character and His plans for you.

Heart of God makes an excellent gift for anyone on your list! Order by Friday, December 16 to get your copy by Christmas!

December 14, 2022

Ditching American Girl

Thu, 08 Dec 2022 15:57:49 GMT

Ditching American Girl

American Girl is not the same company that you may have once known and loved. While the company formerly promoted stories of friendship, love, adventure and patriotism, the content released in recent years has become more and more "woke." This week, however, many parents are deciding that they've had it with the company.

American Girl recently published a book called Body Image: How to love yourself, live to the fullest and celebrate all kinds of bodies. Despite the title encouraging young girls to love and accept their own bodies, the book does just the opposite. It tells young girls that their bodies may be a mistake. In the book, there is a section on transgenderism. It claims some girls may be born in the wrong bodies and encourages them that their doctor can prescribe puberty blockers to help them transition. It makes no mention of the lasting medical side-effects these drugs have on young girls, nor does it touch on the social or spiritual harms.

American Girl used to take young girls on adventures through history, teaching the joys that come in girlhood. Now they are actively taking the beauty and joy of femininity away. This Christmas, it's time to ditch American Girl.

To read more about this, click here .

December 8, 2022

Planned Parenthood Director Sexualizes Children

Wed, 07 Dec 2022 15:55:54 GMT

Planned Parenthood Director Sexualizes Children

Bill Taverner, the Executive Director of Planned Parenthood's Center for Sex Education in New Jersey, recently made headlines by claiming that children are born "sexual" and that humans are sexual beings in "all ages and stages." He said this while pushing for comprehensive sex education (CSE) in schools from kindergarten through 12th grade. He believes that kindergarten is an appropriate age to start CSE because kids are already gaining an understanding of sexuality at home from their parents and the way they interact with one another.

Even more disturbing, Taverner has advocated for "porn literacy" as a part of CSE for children "of a certain age." Pornography is never appropriate no matter what age a person is. Showing it to children is abusive. It especially should not be used to teach children about sexuality.

God's design for sexuality, that is between one man and one woman within the covenant of marriage, is best taught by a child's parents. Parents are the primary educators of their children and have a God-given right and responsibility to educate their children.

To read more about Planned Parenthood's CSE agenda, click here .

December 7, 2022

High-Fashion Brand Normalizes Child Abuse

Wed, 30 Nov 2022 15:54:23 GMT

High-Fashion Brand Normalizes Child Abuse

The high-fashion brand Balenciaga, popularized by Kim Kardashian, recently came under fire for putting out a holiday photo campaign featuring some disturbing images of children. These children appear to be the victims of abuse, holding teddy-bear bags dressed in "bondage" gear. Even worse, in the foreground of one of the pictures, there are documents from court cases regarding child-pornography.

Following the public outcry concerning the extremely disturbing nature of these pictures, Balenciaga pulled the campaign. In a public statement, the brand apologized but took no responsibility, blaming the production company who handled the photoshoot. They have since filed a lawsuit against the production company.

Balenciaga has been heading down a dark road for a long time. They acknowledged that it was a mistake to feature their leather-clad plush bear bags with children, but perhaps the bigger question is why they are designing a leather-clad teddy bear bag. Teddy bears are for children and the bondage gear on the bear sends a degrading message, especially to abusers and the wealthy elite in Hollywood. Kim Kardashian, the celebrity face of Balenciaga and mother of four, said in a belated public statement she was disturbed by the images, but she stopped short of cutting ties with the brand. With image-based sex abuse on the rise, we must do more to protect children.

To read more about the Balenciaga scandal, click here .

November 30, 2022

Self-Harm & Social Media

Wed, 23 Nov 2022 15:44:32 GMT

Self-Harm & Social Media

Researchers from Rutgers University and Network Contagion Research Institute recently released a study that found self-harm posts on social media increased by 500% between October 2021 and October 2022. More and more, teens are sharing their struggles online, but not in search for healthy support or encouragement to seek professional help. Rather, teens are posting about self-harm to find people who affirm them in this behavior, even advising them in ways to hide self-harm from others, especially their parents.

In October 2021, the hashtag “shtwt," which means, "self-harm twitter," was tweeted 3,880 times. By July 2022 it was being mentioned 30,000 times a month. Twitter and other social media companies have been criticized for doing little to moderate self-harm content.

More recently, with the popularization of " MAID ," or "medical assistance in dying," in Canada, many Canadian teens are posting about their hopes to apply for the program as soon as they turn 18, or even that they were encouraged by a doctor or therapist to do so. The responses these posts get are incredibly discouraging, as they are mostly from other teenagers who feel the same way. Twitter’s policy on self-harm prohibits users from “encouraging someone to physically harm or kill themselves” or “asking others for encouragement to engage in self-harm or suicide, including seeking partners.” Despite this policy, MAID conversations have not been impeded on the platform at all.

Parents of teenagers need to be aware of self-harm posts and suicidal ideation amongst youth. Parents can read Axis' free Parent's Guides to Depression and Anxiety and Social Media.

To read more about the new self-harm social media study, click here .

November 23, 2022

UPDATED Sexual Exposure Chart

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 15:42:03 GMT

UPDATED Sexual Exposure Chart

The updated Sexual Exposure Chart Card is finally here! This new card features up-to-date statistics so that you can feel confident that the information you share is medically accurate. The Sexual Exposure Chart Card dramatically depicts how the likelihood of contracting an STD increases with each sexual partner. When you have sex with someone, the likelihood of contracting an STD does not just depend on your current partner. It also depends on their partners, and their past partners' past partners. Current statistics regarding STDs and the benefits of waiting to have sex until marriage are included on the back of the card.

November 16, 2022

A Guide For Single Mothers of Boys

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 15:41:01 GMT

A Guide For Single Mothers of Boys

Millions of single mothers find themselves in the difficult position of raising boys alone. Many of those boys are at risk of falling behind in school or repeating the patterns of their own absent or negligent fathers. Single mothers, who are often the only parental influence on their sons, are critical to reversing this troubling trend. But how?

You might be wounded by the broken promises of your child's father, but God offers a greater promise to you and your family. Roland Warren, himself the child of a single mother, invites single moms on a journey not only to heal their hearts but also to parent their boys to become healthy men, good husbands and strong fathers. His book Raising Sons of Promise: A Guide For Single Mothers of Boys offers guidance and wisdom to moms striving to raise sons who will make and keep their commitments.

Drawing from the Genesis story of Hagar and Ishmael, Warren shares insights and stories of how mothers can find healing and hope for their sons to become men of character and action.

October 26, 2022

Knight To Remember Sponsorship Opportunities

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 15:39:06 GMT

Knight To Remember Sponsorship Opportunities

Young people are constantly surrounded by messages promoting a “hook-up culture” grounded in the pursuit of instant gratification. Social media and television are distorting the meaning of love and commitment. Our culture is unashamed to talk about difficult topics; therefore, parents must engage in challenging conversations with their teens. There is no better time than now to inspire virtue and integrity in the lives of young men! At the Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe parents must be equipped to educate their children in matters of sexual integrity.

For this reason, Abstinence Clearinghouse, in partnership with Alpha Center, will be hosting a Knight to Remember on Saturday, February 11, 2023, at Five Oaks in Sioux Falls. The evening will include a speaker, hors d'oeuvres, dessert and a dance!

It is our pleasure and privilege to include you in our vision to empower young men to pursue sexual integrity and offer parents the resources needed to have genuine conversations with children about relationships, setting boundaries, technology and more.

Would you consider impacting the next generation as a Knight to Remember event sponsor? Your partnership will allow the next generation to hear the life-changing truth of the Gospel and be empowered to embrace a virtuous life.

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October 19, 2022

Teens Plan to Cohabitate

Wed, 19 Oct 2022 15:36:53 GMT

Teens Plan to Cohabitate

The Marriage Strengthening Research & Dissemination Center recently released new research regarding teenagers and cohabitation. They found that marriage is not viewed favorably by the majority of teenagers ages 15 to 19, despite the fact that 95% of the teenagers in the study said they expect they'll get married someday.

Researchers also found that 80% of teenagers expect that they will cohabitate with a significant other outside of marriage someday. While about 10% more teenage boys expect to cohabitate than teenage girls, the biggest disparity is in religiosity. Teenagers who attend church weekly or more are almost 20% less likely to plan on cohabitation someday.

Young people need to understand the many benefits of marriage over cohabitation. Young people who choose to get married without cohabitating are more financially secure, more likely to experience sexual satisfaction, less likely to get divorced and overall experience better physical and mental health. Check out our booklet The Truth About Living Together Before Marriage!

To read more from this study, click here !

October 19, 2022

iPhone Updates for Parents

Wed, 12 Oct 2022 15:35:08 GMT

iPhone Updates for Parents

This fall, Apple released the iOS 16 update. Along with basic fixes and improvements, it also included updates for the iPhone's screen time parental controls making them more accessible and easy to use!

Apple moved the "Family Sharing" group to the top of the settings menu so it is much more convenient to get to. Apple also added age-based screen time defaults to their systems. Previously, it took parents through many steps to change the default settings on a device.

For more information on these updates and how to utilize them in your family, click here !

October 12, 2022

Social Media Dangers

Wed, 05 Oct 2022 15:34:06 GMT

Social Media Dangers

Recently, a court in the United Kingdom ruled that Meta (the company formerly known as Facebook) played a role in the death of a teenage girl. She had been seeing suicidal content for months, even copying part of her final words directly from a post she had saved on Instagram. The role that social media plays in young people's lives is incredibly significant. And while there is no single correct way to manage social media use, parents must learn to recognize the dangers of social media and have and open, ongoing conversations with their children in order to keep them safe.

Beyond social media safety basics, now parents also have to keep up with the trending challenges on TikTok. Some past challenges, like the lethal Tide Pod challenge, gained national attention. The latest challenge is the NyQuil Chicken Challenge, encouraging young people to cook chicken in NyQuil, presumably to get high off the fumes. Other challenges encourage teens to steal bathroom appliances like paper towel or soap dispensers from public restrooms. The key elements to these challenges are peer pressure and receiving attention on social media. But according to psychologist Dr. Danielle Dick, the most important thing that parents can do to protect their children from these challenges is talk with them.

To read expert advice on how to talk with children about these challenges, click here .

October 5, 2022

Best Phones for Kids

Wed, 28 Sep 2022 15:31:54 GMT

Best Phones for Kids

September 28, 2022

When it comes to children and technology, it is so important to be an engaged parent. The internet is a dangerous place for children, vulnerable to predators and unsafe content. While protecting kids from the dangers of having a phone is best, there comes a time for many parents where they need their children to have a phone for safety and convenience. When this time comes, we are grateful there are so many options for safe phones for kids.

Protect Young Eyes recently put together a list of the best phones for kids. Gabb, Pinwheel and Troomi are great, mission-oriented organizations that offer phones with limited calling and texting, and without internet, games or social media.

To read more about these phones, click here .

Marriage Impacts Aging Health

Wed, 28 Sep 2022 15:30:37 GMT

Marriage Impacts Aging Health

A study published in 2021 by the National Library of Medicine examined the effects of marital satisfaction and social support on age-associated biomarkers, or health be nchmarks as couples aged.

Researchers found that older couples with high marital satisfaction and social support had the highest functionality and health. While older age generally leads to inflammation, the couples with high satisfaction and more support also generally had lower levels of inflammation. A healthy, satisfactory and supporting marriage has a pronounced positive impact on an individual's health.

To read the full study, click here .

September 28, 2022

Safe Teacher Badges are Dangerous

Wed, 28 Sep 2022 15:28:27 GMT

Safe Teacher Badges are Dangerous

Teachers in Ohio have begun wearing badges that designate themselves as a "safe space" for LGBTQ+ students. Parents are especially concerned, because these badges also have a QR code that links to a website containing sexually explicit material.

These badges were given by request to teachers at the discretion the local chapter of the National Educator's Association (NEA). This has also led to increased division among teachers. Since the badges are given at the discretion of the NEA, when teachers are pressured into obtaining a badge, they also must align themselves with the NEA, whether the teachers agree with them or not.

Another concern is that these badges are being given to teachers from elementary all the way to high school. Many parents are also concerned that having certain teachers officially labelled as "safe" may open the door for bad actor teachers to take advantage of vulnerable students.

To read more about the safe space teacher badges, click here .

September 28, 2022

Teenagers and Dating

Wed, 14 Sep 2022 15:27:28 GMT

Teenagers and Dating

As homecoming dances approach at high schools all over the country, many teenagers are thinking about who they might go with. This can bring about all kinds of questions about dating, especially if expectations and boundaries have not been clearly laid out by their parents.

The topic can seem intimidating, however it doesn't have to be! Jason Evert created a resource for the Chastity Project to help parents answer all the questions young people might have about dating. Topics include how to stay pure, finding love, relationships and breaking up.

The Chastity Project equips parents to handle any question their teenager may have. It is important that parents embrace their role as primary educators of their children, so that teenagers can see their parents as an authority on the topic of dating.

To read the Dating Q&A, click here .

September 14, 2022

A Parent's Guide To Purpose

Wed, 07 Sep 2022 14:42:36 GMT

A Parent's Guide To Purpose

September 7, 2022

One of the bigge st issues young people currently face is "purposelessness." Too many young people are finding their purpose and identity in unfulfilling places. Parents need to be the primary educators of their children. Parents must equip their pre-teens and teenagers to handle the big questions they will inevitably face. Whether these questions are about where they should attend college, what activities to participate in or whether God is listening to their prayers—their questions matter. How parents handle their child's questions can shape the way children view themselves, the world and their purpose.

This is why we are so excited that Axis just released a free resource called A Parent's Guide to Purpose where they discuss what purpose is, how teens can find their purpose and what the Bible has to say about it.

To view your free guide from Axis, click here .

Post-Roe Sex Education

Wed, 17 Aug 2022 14:06:09 GMT

Post-Roe Sex Education

Since the Dobbs decision was released in June, our country has changed. Women nationwide are discussing how they will cope without easy access to abortion. More broadly , many men and women are thinking about how they want to prepare the next generation for a world without abortion (ironic, we know). Unfortunately, they have come to the belief that comprehensive sex education (CSE) is the answer to their questions.

A simple Google search of the term, "comprehensive sex education," yields pages and pages of results proclaiming that more sex education is the solution to the new post-Roe concerns. Across the country, school districts are updating their sex education programs to include more information about sexual orientation, gender identity and contraception. CSE is linked to increased sexual activity among teenagers. Since contraception is not 100% effective, many teens using contraception will still find themselves in unplanned pregnancies. This curriculum is incredibly harmful to children, and parents are raising their voices at local school boards. The only form of "safe sex" that is 100% effective at preventing STDs and unplanned pregnancies is abstinence until marriage.

To look up CSE curriculum in your state, click here . For advice on how to get involved in your local school board, click here .

August 17, 2022

Quitting Pornography for Good

Wed, 10 Aug 2022 14:05:00 GMT

Quitting Pornography for Good

Pornography is a public health crisis. It is a persistent problem for both men and women. While men consuming pornography is considered "normal" by society's standards, women with a pornography addiction suffer added shame from struggling with a "male's problem." Pornography is an uncomfortable topic to address; but we all need to stand up for what is right. If we ignore the problem of pornography, it will destroy our families, friends, faith and society as a whole.

To overcome pornography addiction, many find it helpful to enroll in programs like Covenant Eyes. For the past 22 years, Covenant Eyes has helped over 1.5 million people begin a porn-free life with the philosophy, "Freedom from porn isn’t just about quitting porn but about changing your life so there’s no room for porn in the first place."

They are offering a free e-book to help individuals learn how to make small life adjustments and change habits to transform one's need for pornography and outlook on life.

Click here to download your free e-book!

August 10, 2022

Marijuana's Risks for Young People

Wed, 03 Aug 2022 14:03:39 GMT

Marijuana's Risks for Young People

The marijuana that is available today is not the same as the marijuana available years ago. A report from the U.S. Senate’s Caucus on International Narcotics Control in 2021 found that Tetrahydrocannabinol (THC) levels in American-grown marijuana products are increasing rapidly. THC is the psychoactive chemical that gets marijuana users high, and some say it provides some relief from pain and nausea.

In 1990, the average TCH concentration in marijuana in the US was 4%. By 2012, the average TCH concentration tripled to 12%. Today, as "high potency" products have become more common, THC concentration can be found as high as 90%. In 2020, National Institute of Health researchers found that marijuana's medicinal qualities and pain relief come with a THC concentration of 5%. Yet, around the nation, policy makers push for legal and accessible marijuana with high THC levels for the sake of medicinal qualities.

A common myth believed by young people is that marijuana is not addictive. Unfortunately, this has been disproven time and time again. Recently, the New York Times shared the story of a teenage girl who became addicted to highly potent THC through her vape pen and the disastrous effects it had on her health. Young people using marijuana are at an increased risk for opioid addiction, hallucinations, mental health issues, increased traffic accidents and poisoning.

To read more about the current marijuana crisis, click here .

August 3, 2022

Consent is Not Enough

Wed, 27 Jul 2022 14:01:51 GMT

Consent is Not Enough

More and more, young people are expressing their dissatisfaction with the current sexual ethic that society has inflicted. This modern sexual ethic is where the morality of sexual activity is entirely dependent on consent. If both individuals consent to sex, then that sex is good! If one individual does not consent, then any sexual activity that follows is considered wrong. However, young people are finding that this consent dichotomy leaves them feeling confused and less than satisfied. One young journalist, Emma Camp, recently wrote an opinion guest essay for the New York Times titled, "When We Consent, We Shouldn't Feel Terrible After, Right?" where she questions the benefits and expresses the harms of the modern sexual ethic.

She is not the first to point out that mere consent is inadequate. In March, the Washington Post published a similar piece titled, "Why We Need a Sexual Ethic That Goes Beyond Consent," by Christine Emba. Both pieces recognize that sex is often viewed as a physical transaction before two people, rather than something that impacts the whole person: physically, emotionally and spiritually. Both Emba and Camp recognize that sex must come with some sort of responsibility to the other.

This responsibility and genuine care is exemplified in the institution of marriage. Sexual intimacy within the confines of marriage allows greater freedom when it comes to the impacts of sex. In marriage, men and women experience higher sexual satisfaction, less STDs and unplanned pregnancies than those who have sex outside of marriage. Marriage provides a clear outline for the duty of each spouse to the other. As long as society is reconsidering what a healthy sexual ethic looks like, the National Abstinence Clearinghouse would like to toss the idea of a traditional sexual ethic, or abstinence until marriage, back into the ring for consideration.

July 27, 2022

The Importance of Parental Warmth

Wed, 20 Jul 2022 14:00:14 GMT

The Importance of Parental Warmth

Parental warmth has a tremendous impact on children's development, well-being and even flourishing later in life. Parental warmth is often conveyed through affection, comfort, concern, nurturance, and support—making a child feel loved. A 2021 longitudinal study looked at whether parental warmth predicted the function of children's brain regions used for processing and regulating emotions, especially anxiety and depression. Researchers found that greater parental warmth predicted lower levels of anxiety and depression two years later when parents later criticized their adolescent and teenage children.

Another study looked even further than adolescence to see the effects of parental warmth. A longitudinal study from 2019 examined the association between the child’s flourishing in mid-life and parental warmth. Children who experienced parental warmth were more associated with increased emotional, psychological and social wellbeing, as well as flourishing during mid-life. They were less likely to experience depression and chemical dependency.

As a parent, one of the greatest things you can do for your child's future is treat them with warmth.

July 20, 2022

Minion's Mega Success

Fri, 15 Jul 2022 13:59:07 GMT

Minion's Mega Success

Minions: The Rise of Gru is the latest installment of the Despicable Me franchise which recently hit movie theaters around the world. Many expected it to fail, as most movies aimed at children have not returned to their pre-pandemic levels of success in theaters. Many entertainment experts thought that perhaps families simply adjusted to watching movies at home rather than making the trek to a theater, resulting in the low box office numbers for newest children's movies. More recently, Disney Pixar's Lightyear's struggles were blamed on the fact that it was a sequel. Meanwhile, Minions is also a sequel, but it is doing surprisingly well! Movie studios will hopefully take the correct message from these box office discrepancies: parent's don't want their kids watching movies with woke values.

To read Movieguide's review of Minions: Rise of Gru, click here .

July 15, 2022

Teachers Union on Abortion

Fri, 15 Jul 2022 13:57:25 GMT

Teachers Union on Abortion

July 15, 2022

Last week, the National Education Association (NEA), the largest teacher's union in the United States, voted to promote the so-called "right" to abortion. Almost 75% of attendees voted to adopt a resolution stating that, "NEA will publicly stand in defense of abortion and reproductive rights and encourage members to participate in rallies and demonstrations, lobbying and political campaigns, educational events and other actions to support the right to abortion." The other 26%, over one thousand members in attendance, will not have their voices respected and their membership dues will go towards promoting abortion in the United States.

The NEA isn't the only national association promoting a political agenda. Immoral values are also being promoted in our public libraries. Libraries used to be a great place for children to escape the heat on hot summer days and read their way through many classical adventures. Now, parents must exercise more caution when it comes to their children accessing the library and many libraries' summer reading lists. The Association for Library Service to Children released their summer reading list for children, and it includes several books that are LGBTQ+ based. This is an excellent reminder for parents to look into what books are available and recommended at your local library.

Click to read more about the values of the teachers unions and children's libraries .

Pornhub is Falling

Thu, 07 Jul 2022 13:56:03 GMT

Pornhub is Falling

Pornhub and it's parent-company Mindgeek are falling apart. There has been a mass exodus of employees and executives quitting with some reports saying as many as 70% of employees have left the company. These drastic changes are coming after major lawsuits, government scrutiny and a decrease in advertising revenue.

National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) president Dawn Hawkins wrote in her press release, "The evidence of MindGeek’s complicity in mass sexual crime is overwhelming and continues to grow. It is time for both criminal prosecution and regulatory preventative action. However, as long as pornography sites don’t have to ensure that all who are depicted in explicit material have truly consented to participate or that all are actually adults, more criminality will happen in this pernicious industry."

Currently, there are no effective regulations for pornography sites. Due to this lack of regulation, thousands of victims are unable to remove recordings of their abuse from Pornhub and other websites, while the pornography sites make millions of dollars from their ongoing trauma. It is far past time for the United States to hold Pornhub accountable for decades of exploitation of women, men and children.

To read NCOSE's full article, click here .

July 7, 2022

#SexStrike

Wed, 06 Jul 2022 13:54:36 GMT

#SexStrike

In the wake of the Dobbs ruling that struck down Roe v. Wade after 49 years, many pro-abortion activists are making their voices heard using a surprising route—a sex strike. The day after the ruling came down, Abstinence Clearinghouse was surprised to see the word "abstinence" trending on Twitter as women pledged to abstain from sex to advocate for abortion rights. As of today, "#sexstrike" has over 3.6 million views on TikTok and thousands of videos shared.

One Twitter user encouraged women to pursue abstinence saying, “Women of America: Take the pledge. Because SCOTUS overturned Roe v. Wade, we cannot take the risk of an unintended pregnancy." Those who have celebrated the sexual "liberation" of hook-up culture yielding sex on-demand without consequences must now acknowledge that their actions do have consequences. The best way to protect yourself from the consequences of sexual activity is to abstain. No type of contraceptive offers 100% protection against STDs or unintended pregnancy.

At Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe that by choosing abstinence until marriage, people are giving themselves the best chance at a happy and healthy future. Further, promoting abstinence until marriage is the best solution for reducing abortion demand.

To read more about the sex strike, click here .

July 6, 2022

Talking to Your Children About the Post-Roe Era

Fri, 01 Jul 2022 13:53:27 GMT

Talking to Your Children About the Post-Roe Era

No doubt, by now you have heard that last Friday the Supreme Court released Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization, striking down Roe v. Wade and Planned Parentho od v. Casey and returning the issue of abortion to be decided by the states. Justice Alito wrote, “Roe was egregiously wrong from the start. Its reasoning was exceptionally weak, and the decision has had damaging consequences. And far from bringing about a national settlement of the abortion issue, Roe and Casey have enflamed debate and deepened division.” The 5-4 decision to overturn Roe initiated trigger laws that ban all abortion in 13 states, with many more states looking to increase their abortion regulations soon, moving towards more restrictions and bans.

With all the chaos surrounding this controversial victory for life, it is understandable that children may be needing guidance and support in processing all the information thrown at them from peers, the media and the world at-large.

Don't shy away from the issue, but consider it at an age-appropriate level. The way that a 16-year-old, who may be engrossed in social media, processes the news is going to be very different from a way that a 7-year-old will. Parents can honor different stages of development with the truth.
Take action together. By offering concrete steps that your family can take, you are showing your children, in word and deed, a preview of what the post-Roe era looks like. Care for women and men in unexpected pregnancies by volunteering at your local pregnancy resource center. Donate essentials for women, men and children in need. Show your children that being pro-life means acting in love and service of others.
Use your voices. It is never too young to teach your children to stand up for what is good, true and beautiful.
Pray. Your family can pray for our communities and our nation to be bent towards protecting unborn life and encouraging those considering abortion to pursue a positive alternative.

To read the Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization opinion, click here .

July 1, 2022

Lightyear Struggles in Box Offices

Fri, 01 Jul 2022 13:51:58 GMT

Lightyear Struggles in Box Offices

Disney Pixar debuted Lightyear over Father's Day weekend. While they hoped it would be their latest blockbuster, Lightyear fell flat in the box offices with one of the lowest starts in Pixar's history. While Disney blames its low success on the fact that sequels and spin-offs often struggle in the box offices, it is much more likely that Lightyear is struggling in box offices because it is unpopular with parents who believe that it pushes an immoral agenda that they do not want to expose their children to.

Several months ago, Florida adopted the "Parental Rights in Education" bill, dubbed by opponents as the "Don't Say Gay" bill. At the time, Disney came out against the bill. When the Florida governor signed the bill into law, despite Disney's objections, Disney said they would include more LGBTQ+ characters in their upcoming films, particularly Lightyear. This prompted many parents to reconsider Disney's content for their children.

When Disney and Pixar released Lightyear, the story excluded the virtues and redemptive messages previously enjoyed by Toy Story franchise followers. Instead, the story centered on indoctrination of children. According to the MovieGuide review , "The whole movie is held captive by a contentious agenda of politically correct politics. To whit, the whole movie is centered on an LGBT, radical feminist, anti-male ideology. In fact, Buzz Lightyear isn’t really the hero in the movie. The movie’s real hero is Buzz’s female friend, a lesbian, who marries another woman and becomes pregnant, presumably by artificial insemination. Together, the two women raise a son, who marries a woman and has a daughter. During this whole story, there’s no mention of a grandfather. Instead, Izzy, the granddaughter, mentions at one point that she has two grandmothers. To top it off, there are no references to Izzy’s father, including no scenes of her interacting with her father. Thus, the movie’s whole story seems to be a politically correct validation of LGBT ideology, including an attack on masculinity and the traditional nuclear family." Overall, Lightyear was a Father's Day flop.

To read more about the movie's downfall, click here .

July 1, 2022

Attacks on the Family

Fri, 01 Jul 2022 13:50:51 GMT

Attacks on the Family

Society is falling apart, largely due to the decades-long predation of Marxist-feminism on masculinity, particularly married fatherhood. According to Dr. Pat Fagan, director of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute , this attack resulting in the destruction of the nuclear family also shows us how we can begin to pick up the pieces of our society and put it back together. The solution is to support fathers in stepping up as leaders in their families and communities.

Particularly, we can encourage father's in their relationships with their sons. A father's relationship is influential on each member of his family, but his relationship with his son leaves an impact for generations.

To read the full article from Dr. Pat Fagan, click here .

July 1, 2022

Attacks on the Family

Fri, 01 Jul 2022 13:45:34 GMT

To learn more about the workshop and how to register, click here !

June 16, 2022

Teaching Internet Safety

Thu, 16 Jun 2022 13:40:23 GMT

Teaching Internet Safety

Enough Is Enough reminds us that June is Internet Safety Month! According the the Center for Cyber Safety and Education , 40% of kids in grades 4-8 reported they had at some point connected with a stranger online. Of those, 53% had revealed their phone number to a stranger, 21% spoke to a stranger on the phone, 15% tried to meet with a stranger, 30% texted a stranger from their phone and 6% revealed their home address to a stranger.

June 16, 2022

Jason Evert: Finding Love as a Child of Divorce

Wed, 08 Jun 2022 13:38:27 GMT

Jason Evert: Finding Love as a Child of Divorce

Unfortunately, divorce is very common today and children often pay the price. Too many children of divorced parents lose their own faith in marriage altogether. Many gr ow up wanting to get married someday, but they feel the odds are stacked against them. Divorce leaves a distinct impact on future relationships.

In this episode of Lust is Boring , Jason Evert interviews Joey Pontarelli of Restored Ministry about how to prepare for and find love in a happy, healthy and strong marriage, even when your parents ultimately didn't.

To listen to this episode, click here .

June 8, 2022

Generations of Fatherhood

Wed, 25 May 2022 13:36:16 GMT

Generations of Fatherhood

Positive relationships build a legacy that spans generations, especially when it comes to fathers and sons! A 2018 study looked at the quality of relationships between fathers and sons and how that quality was transmitted across generations.

Researchers found that fathers who had good, healthy relationships with their own fathers growing up were more likely to be involved and have good, healthy relationships with their own children. This also extends up to grandfathers! When the paternal grandfather is involved in his son's childhood, they are more likely to have a healthy relationship when the son becomes a father himself. A good father is a precious gift from God, and researchers show that it is a gift that keeps on giving for generations.

May 25, 2022

Dorm Visitation Dangers

Wed, 18 May 2022 13:35:02 GMT

Dorm Visitation Dangers

Once upon a time, not that long ago, colleges did not allow male students to visit female students' dormitories and vice versa. Today, many colleges have an "open visitation" policy or even co-ed dorms. Many colleges with "open visitation" have no enforced policy for visitors of the opposite gender and rely on college students to abide by their rules.

This is upsetting to many parents and the students who desire comfort, peace and safety in their living spaces. While colleges are taking measures to prevent sexual assault on their campuses by placing blue safety stations and talking to their students about safety and prevention, they are giving the impression that there is danger in public places. However, the fact is that more than 70 percent of on-campus rapes occur in campus residence halls. Furthermore, in 9 out of 10 cases, the perpetrators are people the victims know. Colleges can live up to their duty to better educate and protect their students' safety by strictly enforcing visitation policies.

To read a WORLD News article about the dangers of open visitation on college campuses, click here .

May 18, 2022

Kids Need Good Literature

Wed, 11 May 2022 13:31:17 GMT

Kids Need Good Literature

In recent years, we have seen many children's books being published that are pushing a worldview that opposes Christianity. From A is for Activist to Heather Has Two Mommies, the culture is fighting for our children's hearts, minds and loyalty. But parents are fighting too! Parents nationwide are working hard by showing up to school board meetings, looking over their school's curriculum and voting in elections as ways to help keep their kids from being exposed to coercive material.

But it's not enough to merely protect our children from bad literature. We must also be nourishing our children's minds with good literature. C.S. Lewis once wrote, "the world does not need more Christian literature. What it needs is more Christians writing good literature." The books that children read should reveal the good, true and beautiful in the world.

Thankfully, there is good literature for children today! To find some of our great resources for kids, click here . To read more about the literature kids deserve, check out this Breakpoint article .

May 11, 2022

Spring Cleaning Your Media

Wed, 04 May 2022 13:29:40 GMT

Spring Cleaning Your Media

Springtime is in full swing—as is spring cleaning! While many families clean out their homes, cars and garages, you might consider giving your family's media consumption a spring cleaning and continue to protect your kids from the dangers found in the media!

Here are a few steps to best protect against dangerous technology entering into your home:

Think about the media your family consumes in a day. Does it encourage or discourage? Does it bring you closer to God or distract you from Him? Does it uplift or tear down?
Make a tech plan for your home. This includes setting device boundaries and defining your family's values when it comes to technology. You can learn about making your own family media plan here .
Include specific rules to keep kids safe from pornography whether or not you’re home. This means listing devices children are allowed to use without parent supervision and what content they are allowed to watch.
Walk the talk. While monitoring your children's time on social media and types of shows they watch, consider examining how you model media consumption for them. Raise the bar by walking the talk!

May 4, 2022

State of Our Unions

Wed, 20 Apr 2022 13:28:31 GMT

State of Our Unions

The National Marriage Project released its annual State of Our Unions report, where they synthesize and analyze data collected over the previous year to look at the state of marriage in the United States. This year's report highlights the benefits of getting married at a younger age. More and more, American men and women are delaying marriage to their late 20s and early 30s. However, both men and women who were married earlier reported higher marriage and sexual satisfaction than those who were married later. The studies also found that while couples are delaying marriage, they are beginning to cohabitate at the same age as prior generations—just outside of the bounds of marriage. Further, couples who cohabitated before marriage were more likely to experience marital dissatisfaction and get divorced.

Read the full 2022 State of Our Unions report here .

April 20, 2022

Dirty Dozen 2022: Discord

Wed, 13 Apr 2022 13:27:04 GMT

Dirty Dozen 2022: Discord

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) named Discord on their 2022 Dirty Dozen List , a list of mainstream companies that are major facilitators of sexual exploitation in the United States.

Discord is a messaging app that was originally intended for gamers and exploded in popularity in 2020 during the pandemic. First, Discord does not have an adequate age verification system. Discord has "servers" that act as chat rooms for certain groups of people with shared interests. Users can then join servers to connect with others about the topic. While some servers are public, many are private and require an invite or password to join. While Discord's Safety Center claims to monitor every server, Discord consistently fails in the monitoring and removal of abusive content and its perpetrators.

April 13, 2022

Parents: Fight for Your Children

Wed, 06 Apr 2022 13:25:45 GMT

Parents: Fight for Your Children

In March, a mother had her speech revoked from a school board meeting for reading inappropriate content directly from the curriculum's required reading. Michelle Brown attended the Cherokee County School Board meeting in Tennessee to express her disgust with the graphic content of a book that her child was required to read for class.

When Michelle Brown began to read directly from the book, she was cut off by a member of the school board who informed her that she needed to stop because there were children listening. Brown responded, "Don't you see the irony in that? You’re saying exactly what I’m telling you. You’re giving it to our children. I would never give this to my children."

While social media, particularly TikTok, is filled with teachers referring to their students as their own kids, parents must continue to fight for their authority over their children's education. Conservative commentator, Candace Owens, advocates for reporting any pornographic curricula directly to the police, rather than school administration, saying, "There are laws against disseminating pornographic materials to minors. Teachers are not immune from arrest."

To read more about the Cherokee County School Board meeting, click here .

April 6, 2022

Dirty Dozen 2022: Netflix

Wed, 30 Mar 2022 13:24:28 GMT

Dirty Dozen 2022: Netflix

For the fourth consecutive year, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) named Netflix on their 2022 Dirty Dozen List , a list of mainstream companies that are major facilitators of sexual exploitation in the United States.

Netflix is the most popular streaming platform with over 2 00 million subscribers worldwide. While they provide a variety of entertainment, they have also fallen into normalizing sexual content, violence and exploitation. Netflix has several pieces of content that specifically sexualize children for the entertainment of adults.

Further the Netflix app is rated as "12+" even though explicit sexual content is rampant on the platform. While parental controls are available, they need to be strengthened for parents to ensure that children are not exposed graphic content.

March 30, 2022

Re-establishing Boundaries

Wed, 23 Mar 2022 13:22:08 GMT

Re-establishing Boundaries

God calls us all to lives of purity. But when society encourages single men and women to pursue physical intimacy in dating relationships and young people are taught to view abstinence until marriage as "unattainable," many stumble and fall into sexual sin. It is important to remind young people that God offers mercy and freedom from sin and shame! It is possible to re-establish the boundaries that you previously crossed and pursue a healthy relationship.

Eric and Erica Giesow write for Boundless, a ministry of Focus on the Family. Together they share their advice for re-establishing boundaries based on their experiences seeking purity while dating and now as husband and wife.

Have a unified vision of purity. Living pure lives won't work if a couple cannot agree on what purity is.
Get honest. Before setting boundaries, a couple needs to be honest about areas of struggle and temptation so that they can effectively help each other.
Set practical boundaries. Setting practical, measurable boundaries, such as establishing a 10 PM curfew for time alone together, will help a couple move forward.
Get accountability partners. Recruit mentors or friends to hold you accountable to your new boundaries.
Call a time-out when necessary. If things have just gone too far, it may be good to take a break and repent as individuals.
Celebrate victories. Be encouraged on your road to purity! No small victory should go unnoticed.
Commit to starting anew! If you have repented, move forward with freedom. You can either identify with the shame of your sins, or you can identify with God's grace and mercy!

Read the Giesows' full article here !

March 23, 2022

Dirty Dozen 2022: Etsy

Wed, 16 Mar 2022 13:20:28 GMT

Dirty Dozen 2022: Etsy

Last week, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) named Etsy on their 2022 Dirty Dozen List , a list of mainstream companies that are major facilitators of sexual exploitation in the United States.

Etsy is an online marketplace known for its unique, creative merchandise, especially items that are handmade or vintage. However, it is also facilitating the sale of explicit materials. Items that are pornographic and depict sexual abuse are available to anyone for purchase. There is also a wide selection of misogynistic apparel and sex dolls – including ones resembling minors.

Despite repeated reports, Etsy has not taken action to remove abusive content. Many customers complain about unwanted exposure to pornography and sexual content through an algorithm's recommendation, yet Etsy’s mechanism for removing such content from search results is highly ineffective and often causes more of this content to surface. Etsy has an ethical obligation to stop profiting from and normalizing child sex abuse and exploitation.

To learn what you can do, click here .

March 16, 2022

2022 Dirty Dozen

Wed, 09 Mar 2022 13:18:16 GMT

2022 Dirty Dozen

Since 2013, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) has released their Dirty Dozen , an annual list of companies promoting sexual exploitation through pornography, sexual objectification, prostitution and sex trafficking. NCOSE refers to the Dirty Dozen as an "activism tool," allowing others to become aware of the various companies and corporations profiting from sexual exploitation.

For the last nine years, the Dirty Dozen has been driving change, leading to the improvement of policies at many companies. In the last year, we saw vast improvements in policies of Google's Chromebook, Mastercard and TikTok. But there is still further to go. This year, Etsy, Meta (formerly Facebook), Netflix and OnlyFans are four of the twelve companies listed.

In the coming weeks, the Abstinence Clearinghouse will highlight the individual companies on the list and how you can advocate for change. Click here to view the complete 2022 Dirty Dozen and watch the video below.

March 9, 2022

Your Guide to Shame-Free Parenting

Wed, 02 Mar 2022 13:16:13 GMT

Your Guide to Shame-Free Parenting

Shame is painful, isolating and destructive. It tells us we are unworthy and can never change. We all experience shame, so it's essential that parents deal with their o wn shame in healthy ways, teach their kids to do the same, and avoid shame-based parenting.

Axis recently released A Parent's Guide to Shame-Free Parenting, a free download that addresses how parents can create an atmosphere of shame resilience in their home by making sure no conversation topics are off-limits and ensuring children know that they can go to their parents with hard questions.

We can help our teens move through shame toward living out of love and freedom by helping them to be shame-resilient. When we deal with sin and shame well, it looks like this:

When confronted with shame, pain, and/or sin, we reject the lies and believe truth, owning and repenting of sin if necessary.
We accept God’s grace, receive His forgiveness, reconcile with others if necessary.
We rest in God’s love, experience freedom and depth in community.

Read A Parent's Guide to Shame-Free Parenting now!

March 2, 2022

How Far is Too Far?

Wed, 23 Feb 2022 13:14:58 GMT

How Far is Too Far?

There is one question dating teens have been asking for decades: how far is too far? For young people seeking chaste dating relationships, it can be hard to discern physical limits. In a recent episode of his podcast, Lust is Boring , Jason Evert offers specific advice to those who are unmarried, to help them keep the passion of purity alive. Share the message of purity with some unmarried friends in your life!

February 23, 2022

Pornography in School Libraries

Wed, 16 Feb 2022 13:10:09 GMT

Pornography in School Libraries

The pandemic had a major impact on education. When children were attending class virtually from home, most parents had a front row seat to what their children were actually learning in the classroom each day. Since then, parents' eyes have been opened to the many issues regarding their children's education.

One issue parents are concerned about is the books readily available in their children's school libraries. Some books found in school libraries are considered by many parents to be pornographic with explicit content. Almost all of the problematic books relate to homosexual, transgender or non-gender conforming relationships.

Parents attending school board meetings to address the controversial materials most commonly cite three books: All Boys Aren't Blue, Gender Queer and Lawn Boy. These books depict graphic content including sexual experiments, oral sex between 4th graders and abuse. All three books were written for adults, but are commonly found in school libraries because they were listed on the American Library Association's annual Alex list for their "special appeal to young adults."

These books should not be made readily available to school-aged children and must be removed from school libraries. To read more, click here .

February 16, 2022

Navigating Valentine's Day With Your Family

Wed, 02 Feb 2022 13:09:01 GMT

Navigating Valentine's Day With Your Family

Whether your teenage daughter is hanging out with her friends for a "Galentine's Day" celebration or your son's friend is hosting an "Anti-Valentine's Day" party, and whether they are single, dating or simply don't care - chances are, they have an opinion about Valentine's Day.

While you don’t have to make Valentine’s Day an extravagant family holiday filled with commercialism and stress, it's important to recognize that Valentine's Day is affecting your teen on some level. Whether or not parents use it as a “teaching moment,” the holiday is a chance for us to help teens remember that they are incredibly loved, simply by jumping into their world and caring about the things that matter to them.

Consider discussing these things with your teen leading up to Valentine's Day:

If they are dating: Do you feel Valentine’s Day puts a lot of pressure on your relationship? How so? Do you know how your boyfriend/girlfriend feels about Valentine’s Day? Are there any expectations that you think you should be aware of? How can you show your boyfriend/girlfriend that you appreciate him/her while honoring your boundaries?
If they are single: Do you have any friends you know will feel sad because they’re not in a relationship on Valentine’s Day? If so, how can you make them feel special, loved and valued? Are there any activities we can plan to make Valentine's Day a fun day with your friends?

Finally, ask each member of your family if they have noticed someone recently who could really use love and encouragement. Make Valentine's cards to deliver to those in your local nursing home, plan a scavenger hunt for your children and their friends or host a neighborhood potluck. Brainstorm how you can love and support others as a family this Valentine's Day!

February 2, 2022

Redeeming Love

Wed, 26 Jan 2022 13:07:34 GMT

Redeeming Love

For months, readers of Francine River’s novel Redeeming Love excitedly anticipated the release of the movie last Friday. While the story is a clear retelling of Hosea 1 -3 , some Christians think that the nuances of the biblical account didn't translate well to the big screen.

A review by Focus on the Family shares that while the film does serve as a reminder of God’s unconditional love for His children, the explicit content “strains the boundaries of what’s allowable in a PG-13 movie.” The movie was given a “heavy content caution” rating for children, teens and adults.

The Christian Post wrote on Friday, “Redeeming Love tries hard to deal gently with tough topics, but there’s no way to sugarcoat prostitution, sex trafficking, murder and incest. The film is rife with themes of redemption, forgiveness, unconditional love and mercy, but viewers will want to proceed with caution."

Read the full Focus on the Family review here .

January 26, 2022

The Hook-Up Culture

Wed, 19 Jan 2022 13:05:42 GMT

The Hook-Up Culture

Dr. Joe Malone holds a Ph.D. in Health and Human Performance with a specialization in sexual wellness and is a professor at Middle Tennessee State University. He recent ly wrote an article about the hook-up culture and the many ways it harms young people, especially young women.

First of all, in a study of college students, women's depressive symptoms are found to increase as their number of sexual partners increases. Research also found that women hook-up even when they feel uncomfortable doing so and are much more likely to feel guilty after a hook-up than men. In a study of female college freshmen, it was found that 64% of hook-ups involved alcohol. This is why it's no surprise that around 80% of sexual assaults occur during a hook-up. All these harms and the increasing prevalence of sexually transmitted diseases are especially hurtful to young women.

Dr. Malone proposes we recognize hook-up culture for the deeply harmful issue that it is. To read his full article, click here .

January 19, 2022

The Metaverse: What Parents Need to Know

Wed, 12 Jan 2022 13:04:14 GMT

The Metaverse: What Parents Need to Know

You have probably been hearing more about the "metaverse" lately, often in reference to Meta, Facebook's new re-branded name. While the idea behind the metaverse isn't new, it is seeming more and more real lately—especially when looking to the futures of our children. But what is the metaverse?

According to Protect Young Eyes , the metaverse can be described as "a digital world that allows virtual user engagement by mixing social networking, online gaming, augmented reality, virtual reality, and cryptocurrency." Many leaders in big technology hope the metaverse will be a modern space for leisure, work, shopping and socializing with family and friends.

As this budding virtual reality infringes on true reality, there are new threats that parents should be aware of. There is already a lawsuit of a woman who was allegedly (virtually) groped and sexually harassed in the metaverse. And don't forget that in a virtual reality, pornography is more real than ever, available through virtual reality (VR) goggles with very few parental controls.

The metaverse is full of new threats to your child's health and safety. While we don't fully know all of the parental controls available for parents in the metaverse, you can start by implementing a WiFi filter.

To read more about the metaverse, click here .

January 12, 2022

The Best 2022 Resolution

Wed, 05 Jan 2022 13:01:45 GMT

The Best 2022 Resolution

As the new year quickly approaches, it is time for you to think about changes you want to make for 2022. While most resolutions revolve around self improvement, we want to suggest something different. The best resolution is to make time for God. Many of us are caught finding ourselves busy, prioritizing other things that demand our attention before prioritizing time with God.

Spending time with the Lord in Scripture and prayer is one of the most fruitful things you can do in the new year.

Here are several tips to help you and your teen overcome the obstacles of busyness:

Review your schedule. Taking time to review your schedule can help you find ways to spend quality time with God on a regular basis.
Start simple. Habits aren't just hard to break; they're hard to create too. Start simple by finding how you personally connect with God best. Then make small, simple steps to integrate those ways of connecting with God into your routine.
Stay away from the checklist mentality. Be wary of making time with God just another task to be done. Practice having a heart of gratitude, expressing your true emotions and seeking God in meaningful ways.
Memorize verses. Committing God's Word to memory ensures you are never without encouragement and connection to God.
Pray often. Relationships are often created through conversation and quality time. Keeping a consistent prayer life allows us to connect directly with God and strengthen that connection.
Set an alarm. Try setting a non-negotiable time in your schedule to connect with God. No matter what you're doing or how you're feeling, take some time to pray, read Scripture, or spend time with Him in another way.

To help your children keep this resolution, ask them how you can support them in this endeavor. Maybe it's picking out a new devotional or creating a family small group for more accountability. Be sure to foster an open line of communication with your children about faith and their relationships with God so that you can help them answer any questions regarding faith.

January 5, 2022

Knight to Remember

Tue, 28 Dec 2021 13:00:27 GMT

Knight to Remember

Young people are constantly surrounded by messages promoting a “hook-up culture” grounded in the pursuit of instant gratification. Social media and television are slowly distorting the meaning of love and commitment. Our culture is unashamed to talk about difficult topics; therefore, parents must engage in challenging conversations with their children.

There is no better time than now to inspire virtue and integrity in the lives of young men and women! At the Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe parents must be equipped to educate their children in matters of sexual integrity.

For this reason, the Abstinence Clearinghouse has created parent-teen events such as the Knight to Remember for mothers and sons ages 12-18 and the Purity Ball for fathers and daughters ages 12-18.

Knight to Remember encourages young men to reject passivity, accept responsibility and lead courageously to the glory of God. Knight to Remember attendees learn that purity is more than abstaining from sex until marriage. Rather, purity is being aware of what you watch and listen to, as well as keeping your heart and mind free from things that are not Christ-like.

For some individuals, the beauty of grace is offered at these events for the first time. Young men who may have felt as though they cannot escape past wrongs and parents who have experienced marital trials are offered hope and an opportunity for reconciliation. We are all broken, but God in His great mercy redeemed us by His grace (Ephesians 2:4-5). We pray this message is clearly communicated at each Knight to Remember event.

The Knight to Remember acts as an opportunity to empower young men to pursue sexual integrity and offers parents the resources needed to have genuine conversations with their children about relationships, setting boundaries, technology and more.

Empower young men in your community to embrace a virtuous life! Host a Knight to Remember in your area today!

“The Knight to Remember was a wonderful evening for my son to be uniquely challenged in the area of purity. The event empowered me as a mother to have conversations about sexual integrity, heart issues, grace and forgiveness with my son. Thank you for hosting a great mother-son date night encouraging us to be a clean, ready vessel for the Father’s use.” – KIM, Knight to Remember Attendee

“With so many voices trying to influence the minds of our children, my husband and I recognize that as parents we need to take a more active part in our children’s lives than ever before. As a mother, I want my son to grow up to be a strong, independent, respectful leader in society who treats women with honor and dignity. While attending Knight to Remember I saw a side of my son that I hadn't seen before. We got dressed up and enjoyed a fun evening together. By taking the time out of our busy lives to attend the Purity Ball and Knight to Remember, my husband and I are telling our kids that they matter, that they are important to us and that we truly do believe what we are teaching them.” -ALETA, Knight to Remember Attendee

December 28, 2021

Christmas Activities For All Ages

Wed, 15 Dec 2021 12:58:44 GMT

Christmas Activities For All Ages

In the midst of all the busyness of the season, direct your family back to the true meaning of Christmas with these fun, age-appropriate activities to focus on and celebrate Jesus - Emmanuel, God with us.

Ages 0-3

Invest in a kid-friendly nativity scene that you can use to play with and act out the Christmas story with your toddler.
Avoid making Christmas a "don't touch holiday" for little ones by giving them fun things they can touch. Move glass ornaments and lights up to higher branches on the Christmas tree and help your child make fun decorations for the bottom.
Get some fun, holiday themed stuffed animals to set-up and have a Christmas tea party.

Ages 4-7

Place the Christmas cards you receive in a basket on the dinner table and take turns drawing one out each night. Pray together for that person or family.
Start a family tradition by picking out a new holiday-themed book to read aloud each day or week.
Decorate ornaments for the tree with glitter and paint! Allow each child to choose one ornament to mail or deliver to a friend or family member.

Ages 8-12

Decorate cookies and build gingerbread houses together as a family.
Assign each of your children a country to research and report about how that country celebrates Christmas. Encourage interactive elements that involve preparing a traditional treat, song or dance. Pray for the people of that country so that they too might understand the meaning of God's love and the true meaning of the Christmas season.

Ages 13+

Plan a creative, caroling outing as a family. Proclaim the birth of Christ by singing a few songs and reading Scripture passages outside of a local retirement home, homeless shelter or in your neighborhood.
Bundle up (if you live in a colder climate), grab some hot chocolate and drive around town to see all the Christmas lights. Let the beautiful Christmas lights remind you of God's goodness and how Christ's birth brings light to the darkness of our world.

December 15, 2021

What's Under Your Tree?

Wed, 08 Dec 2021 12:55:27 GMT

What's Under Your Tree?

Do you really know what is under your Christmas tree?

This Christmas, many parents, with no intention of harm, will gift their children with their first laptop, tablet or phone without also equipping them with the tools needed to prepare for the online world.

Consider these tips as you confidently establish internet safety in your home:

Teach and train your children how to identify and avoid harmful content. Teaching young children age-appropriate internet safety is essential. Encourage your child to come to you should they have questions about any of the content they may come across on their device. If your child wishes to download an app or create a social media account, discuss why they desire to have the app, set up the account together and walk through each of the potential dangers of the app together. As a parent, you do have the authority to say 'no' to an app if you feel it is not appropriate.
Guard your children from seeing or experiencing what they do not know exists. Investing in an internet safety software like Covenant Eyes is one way to help guard the eyes and ears of your children. This software gives parents a report of the websites their kids visit, the search terms they use, and the YouTube videos they watch. Parents can tailor the filter to their needs and block the Internet completely at certain times in a day. For additional help on setting up filters and parental controls on any device, Protect Young Eyes has created these guides just for you!
Discuss healthy boundaries on devices and create a parent-teen phone contract with your child.

Boundaries are essential to creating a healthy and safe environment within which to enjoy technology. These boundaries will vary by family, but some items to consider would be keeping devices in a common space overnight or no devices in bedrooms. Discuss these boundaries and consider downloading and personalizing your free parent-teen technology contract.

December 8, 2021

Overcoming Pornography Addiction

Wed, 01 Dec 2021 12:52:56 GMT

Overcoming Pornography Addiction

December 1, 2021

If you or someo ne you know struggles with pornography, there is hope. Community and accountability are key to overcoming pornography addiction for good. STRIVE is a 21-day detox program for men with a community of brothers led by Matt Fradd. Click here to register for this free program.

Pornography is a taboo struggle for women too. If you or a woman you know struggles with pornography, there is healing. Some studies indicate that 17% of women struggle with pornography addiction. Covenant Eyes has a program designed to help women find freedom from pornography. Click here to learn more .

Family Connection & Flourishing

Wed, 17 Nov 2021 12:29:43 GMT

Family Connection & Flourishing

Fall is a time of gratitude for family and connection with one another. Families across America are preparing for Thanksgiving and spending time together. A 2021 study published in the journal Academic Pediatrics examined the relationship between family connection in childhood and flourishing in adulthood.

Researchers studied 4,199 American adults, ages 25 to 74. They found that those who experienced higher familial connection during childhood often experienced greater flourishing as adults. This association between family connection and adulthood flourishing was consistent, even when the participants experienced adversity in childhood or lived in a state of socioeconomic disadvantage.

As we approach Thanksgiving this year, be intentional about connecting with your family, especially the children. Research says your efforts will be rewarded for years to come!

November 17, 2021

A Father's Influence by Choice

Wed, 10 Nov 2021 19:42:25 GMT

A Father's Influence by Choice

It is well known that a father's absence has a major impact on many facets of his child's life. A review studied the association between "father absence" and "adolescent well-being and development." Results showed that the reason a father is absent impacts the effects seen later in his child's life.

There are several types of father absence. An absent father could be due to work commitments, family breakdown, parental relationship instability or paternal death. In the study, the detrimental effects and psychological wellbeing in a child's adolescence were predicted by the type of father absence. Father absence due to a father’s death resulted in positive emotions and attachment between the child and deceased father with limited negative effects. A father absence due to work commitments greatly reduced detrimental effects on children’s and adolescents’ well-being, but not entirely. However, father absence due to family breakdown or parental relationship instability showed detrimental effects on children’s and adolescents’ well-being and development. In these cases, children are more likely to develop maladaptive behavior, poor academic achievement, low self-identity and risky behavior, including early sexual relations and drug use in adolescence.

Having an absent father by a father's own choice has negative effects on the psychological well-being of children and adolescents. The relationship between a father and his child is one of the most critical relationships in a child's life, as it shapes and informs many of the relationships and decisions a child makes throughout his or her life.

November 10, 2021

October 31 - November 6: WRAP Week

Wed, 27 Oct 2021 19:41:33 GMT

October 31 - November 6: WRAP Week

White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) week is next week, October 31 through November 6. Because of how prevalent pornography is in our culture today, it is more important than ever to raise awareness of the countless harms of pornography and offer resources to combat it.

Since WRAP week began in 1987, thousands of advocates against pornography around the world have participated by wearing or displaying a white ribbon during the week. To this day, many people still host protests, letter writing campaigns, support meetings for addicts and their partners, sermons at church, and school assemblies to fight against pornography.

To learn more about the history of WRAP week, click here .

October 27, 2021

Netflix's Squid Game

Wed, 20 Oct 2021 19:40:41 GMT

Netflix's Squid Game

The dystopian drama Squid Game is at the top of Netflix's charts all around the world. The Korean sensation has become the center of cultural conversation and has spurred many memes across social media—especially among GenZ on TikTok.

Squid Game features characters in dire financial need who wake up in the "Squid Game" where they are competing for their lives and billions of Won (Korean currency). The show is rated TV-MA and is disturbingly violent. Each episode is similar to an R-rated Hunger Games. Despite Squid Game's graphic nature, young children have been watching it. One father tweeted "If I had known, I'd have not let [my six-year-old daugher] watch it. But I learned about the show after she watched it on her tablet."

Netflix has some of the strongest parental control capabilities . Parents need to utilize parental controls and filters to protect their children on every app and device they use.

To read more about whether or not your children should be watching Squid Game, click here .

October 20, 2021

Healing from Betrayal

Wed, 13 Oct 2021 19:38:50 GMT

Healing from Betrayal

When a man or woman watches pornography, they don't just harm themselves. They are often betraying those closest to them, especially if they are in a romantic relation ship. Pornography consumption by a partner can leave the other person traumatized, ashamed and alone.

On a recent episode of his podcast, Lust is Boring , Jason Evert sat down with Magdalena Terlecka to discuss the fallout of betrayal trauma related to being in a relationship with someone who watches pornography. Magdalena and Jason want women and men experiencing betrayal trauma to know that they deserve to be cherished, their expectation for fidelity is not unreasonable and their partner's actions are not a reflection of them.

If this situation sounds familiar to you or someone you know, listen to this episode and learn some ways to get help.

October 13, 2021

LISTEN: RaeLynn "She Chose Me"

Wed, 06 Oct 2021 19:37:19 GMT

LISTEN: RaeLynn "She Chose Me"

RaeLynn, a country artist who rose to fame as a quarter-finalist in the second season of The Voice, recently released a song from her upcoming album that is inspired by the story of her mother's heroic choice to choose life for her.

The song, " She Chose Me " will be on RaeLynn's upcoming album, Baytown. The chorus goes, "She could have chosen one quick fix to get her out of one big mess. She could have tied a different ribbon to the ending of the story, coulda kept her secret, gotten out before it changed her life. She could've changed her mind and changed everything. But she chose me."

To listen to RaeLynn's pro-life song, click here .

October 6, 2021

New to Netflix: Sex Education Season 3

Wed, 29 Sep 2021 19:35:49 GMT

New to Netflix: Sex Education Season 3

Netflix's teen comedy Sex Education returned on Friday for its third season. The show centers around the life of Otis Milburn and his friends as they run a sex clinic in their high school to educate their peers and answer questions about sex. The show addresses masturbation, gender identity, sexual orientation and hook-up culture. Further, Sex Education normalizes activities that are extremely harmful, such as teens "exploring kink" and having abortions.

As the primary educators of their children, parents should be outraged by the "education" their children are receiving on Netflix, often without parental knowledge. Teenagers need to be hearing about the normal changes their bodies go through from their parents, not Otis Milburn on Netflix. God has uniquely empowered parents to teach their children about God's design of human development and sexual intimacy within the context of marriage. If you haven't already, it is also important to discuss the lies and deceptions of the culture with your children when it comes to sex.

Consider the following tips from the book Abstinence 101 :

Treat sex education as a process. Educating your children about sexual integrity is not a one-time lesson but an ongoing process.
Be honest. Many young people are looking for honest answers about what to do on dates, how to interact with the opposite sex and how premarital sex can affect their future.
Be a loving guide, not "just a friend." Parents need to be a mature voice of wisdom in their children's lives.

The National Abstinence Clearinghouse also recommends that parents set up parental controls on Netflix and other streaming services to help filter negative content that you don't want streaming in your home.

September 29, 2021

Cyberbullying and Your Child

Mon, 20 Sep 2021 19:34:24 GMT

Cyberbullying and Your Child

September 20, 2021

While cyberbullying isn't talked about as much as it used to be, it is still an incredibly prominent issue for young people today. According to a 2018 Pew Research study , 59% of American teens have been bullied or harassed online, and more than 90% believe it's a major problem for people their age. Cyberbullying can occur anywhere and anytime that your child has access to the internet via their phone or a laptop.

As a parent, it is important to know the signs that your child might be experiencing cyberbullying. Some evidences include anger, a decrease in self-esteem, depression, anxiety and loss of interest in or fear of attending school and other activities. If you see these signs in your child it is important to stay calm, keep open lines of communication with your child and contact your child's school to report the issue. Be sure not to delete messages and to screenshot posts as evidence. You can also help protect your child from cyberbullying by reviewing technology best practices with them.

For more tips on how to deal with cyberbullying, click here .

Pornography, Divorce, and Church Attendance

Mon, 20 Sep 2021 19:33:00 GMT

Pornography, Divorce, and Church Attendance

A 2018 study followed married couples over the course of 6 years and found that pornography consumption predicted a higher likelihood of marital separation. Married couples who watched pornography, even once, were more likely to separate over the course of 6 years than those who watched no pornography. Further, the more pornography the couple watched, the more likely marital separation was.

Another 2017 study looked at how attending a religious service regularly and watching pornography affect the quality of the parent-child relationship. Parents who watched pornography displayed an increased frequency of shouting at their children. Parents who both viewed pornography and attended church frequently had the worst communication and relationships with their children of any parents studied. But parents who never viewed pornography and frequently attended church had the best relationships with their children!

Overall, the research is clear. Pornography is harmful for the individual, marriage, parents and children.

September 20, 2021

Pat Fagan: 164 Reasons to Marry

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 19:31:40 GMT

Pat Fagan: 164 Reasons to Marry

September 13, 2021

Marriage is the foundational relationship of society. Strong marriages directly support societies that flourish, while societies primarily made up of weak marriages will always struggle. Pat Fagan, Anne Dougherty and Miriam McElvain of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute synthesized social research to compile 164 scientific reasons men and women should get married and form strong unions varying from the benefits to the husband, wife, children and society as a whole.

To read this list, click here .

Six Ways to Wait Well

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 19:27:42 GMT

Six Ways to Wait Well

Everyone is waiting for something. Whether you are waiting to hear back on a new job opportunity, a new home or an injury to heal, there are things every day that we have to wait for. Waiting for a relationship while pursuing contentment or waiting for sexual intimacy until marriage is also challenging.

Jackie Johnson writes in an article published by the James Dobson Family Institute that waiting can be a time of preparation and refinement. She writes, "[Waiting] builds character and teaches us to exercise our 'trust muscles' so they get strong and firm as we learn to trust God more."

Jackie shares these six ways that we can learn to wait well:

Know on whom you wait. As you wait, learn to trust God. He is good, and He is sovereign over the whole world. "My soul, wait in silence for God only, for my hope is from Him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my stronghold; I shall not be shaken." (Psalm 62:5-6).
Wait with hope. While you cannot always choose your circumstances, you can choose your attitude: to fret or have faith. Ask God to help you with your outlook. Only He can do what we cannot do. As you wait, God is building in you strength, courage, fortitude and stamina. "I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope." (Psalm 130:5).
Pray and obey. Waiting is not a time to do nothing. It's the time to pray and to act, to be about the Father's business as He leads you. Share your disappointment and frustrations with the Lord as you pray. Follow His lead. We wait in hope, believing even when we cannot see.
Surrender and hold on. Appreciate where you are in the process, even if you are at the start of a new venture. There is hope ahead. Small beginnings can yield large results. Even when we cannot see what God is doing, He is working in amazing ways.
Remember what God has done in the past. As you begin to let go of your grasp on things you wish would turn out the way you think they should be, peace comes. Fear subsides as you look back on what God has done in the past with His mighty power and miracles for those in the Bible, for others, and for you. Remind yourself that God has worked, is working, and will continue to be at work in the future.
Live in the now. Where is your focus? Are you looking so far into the future that you're dropping the ball on what's happening today? Hope with future eyes, but keep your hands on what you are doing and who you are becoming in the present.

You can read the full article here .

September 13, 2021

Chromebook Removed from Dirty Dozen List

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 19:25:45 GMT

Chromebook Removed from Dirty Dozen List

This past Summer, Google Chromebook worked hard to clean up their standard safety settings. Due to changes that went into effect on September 1, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation officially removed Google Chromebook from their 2021 Dirty Dozen List, an annual list of companies promoting sexual exploitation through pornography, sexual objectification, prostitution and sex trafficking.

New settings will be in place for all students, elementary through high school, in almost all educational settings, public, private or homeschool. Student Chromebooks will be set by default to "Safe Search" allowing for only "Safe Sites". These settings filter and block all sites with explicit content. Google Chromebook will now also disable "Incognito Mode" in favor of the better trackable, "Guest Browsing Mode." These new settings will be default and can only be changed with administrative privileges.

September 13, 2021

New Movieguide Podcast

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 19:24:44 GMT

New Movieguide Podcast

In 1985, Dr. Ted Baehr and his wife, Lili Baehr, founded Movieguide in Altanta, Georgia in hopes of cultivating a better media landscape for their children and future generations.

Since that time, Moveguide has hosted radio shows, a television program and a bi-weekly magazine. Movieguide recently started a new podcast with hosts Co-CEO Robby Baehr, Managing Editor Jessilyn Lancaster and Creative Director Jeremy Carroll.

Join the team weekly as they discuss a variety of topics ranging from faith, entertainment and more! Listen on Spotify or Soundcloud today!

September 13, 2021

Jason Evert: Safe Sex is a Lie!

Mon, 13 Sep 2021 19:23:08 GMT

Jason Evert: Safe Sex is a Lie!

In this short Q&A, Jason Evert, host of the Lust is Boring Podcast, tackles the question, "Am I ready for sex as long as it's safe?"

Jason shares the truth about sex outside the context of the covenant of marriage in a way that is relatable and that you may want to share!

To hear his response, click here .

September 13, 2021

TikTok Making Improvements

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 19:20:37 GMT

The average age of first exposure to pornography decreases every year. Whether children are stumbling across the wrong website in a Google search, accidentally clicking on the wrong hashtag on an app, or seeking it directly out of curiosity, pornography is everywhere on the internet.

Axis & Covenant Eyes have partnered together to bring you the top experts, including Chastity Project's Jason Evert, so you can learn the facts, what you can do as a parent and how to be a safe place for your kids to confide in.

To register for this free summit, click here .

July 29, 2021

Physical Touch and Human Flourishing

Thu, 29 Jul 2021 19:13:59 GMT

Physical Touch and Human Flourishing

A 2021 research review looked at the neurobiological, psychosocial and behavioral correlations of decreased physical touch during the COVID-19 pandemic. Between the loc kdowns and social distancing guidelines, many people have been going without physical touch to an unprecedented degree.

Researchers found that touch activates certain receptors in the brain and releases oxytocin, a neurotransmitter that plays a primary role in attachment, social bonds, mother-child interaction and monogamy. Because of the pandemic restrictions, touch was limited. Researchers found that the limited physical touch resulted in a de-activation of certain receptors in the brain and decreased oxytocin levels which contributed to more stress, weakened immune systems and impaired emotional connection to others.

July 29, 2021

Summer Bucket List

Fri, 09 Jul 2021 19:12:29 GMT

Summer Bucket List

Now that Independence Day is behind us, only half the summer season remains! Planning for an intentional end of summer is a great investment for your family. Download a free, printable Summer Family Bucket List template and start brainstorming and creating a list of activities your family would like to complete together.

Here are a few summer bucket list ideas for your family:

Watch a movie outside
Learn and play a new board game
Unplug for the day (no television, tablets, computers or cellphones)
Design your own mini-golf course in the backyard
Lake day (rent kayaks, paddleboards or a boat)
Visit a museum
Participate in a community education watercolor class
Create a family reading goal (ex: read for 30 minutes each day)
Make homemade cookies

Click here to download your free template!

July 9, 2021

Physical Touch & Human Flourishing

Fri, 09 Jul 2021 19:10:27 GMT

Physical Touch & Human Flourishing

Studies have consistently supported the idea that physical touch is essential to human flourishing. One 2021 study looked at the effect of hand-holding by a significant other while recounting an emotionally painful event. Those who held another's hand rather than a squeeze ball experienced more comfort and less pain. The higher the relationship satisfaction, the more comfort a person got from the physical touch.

Another 2018 study looked at the effect of hugs on men and women after conflict. Researchers found that both men and women experienced suffering from conflict, and women felt significantly worse on the second day. But both men and women's feelings benefited from hugs after conflict, although women more so than men.

July 9, 2021

Iowa Court Refuses Abortion Providers Grant Access For Sex Education

Fri, 09 Jul 2021 19:08:59 GMT

Iowa Court Refuses Abortion Providers Grant Access For Sex Education

After years of funding sex education through federal grants, the Iowa Supreme Court ruled last week that the state can keep Planned Parenthood from using government grants for sex education programs. This decision reversed the 2019 ruling that declared prohibiting abortion providers from offering state-sponsored sex education using state funding was unconstitutional.

Six justices agreed that the Iowa Legislature could have reasonable concerns that allowing an abortion provider to teach sex education could undermine its goals of promoting abstinence and reducing teenage pregnancy.

Justices also expressed concern that using abortion providers to deliver sex education programs to teenage students would create relationships between the abortion provider and the students the state does not wish to foster in light of its policy preference for childbirth over abortion.

July 9, 2021

Gen-Z Dictionary: Puriteen

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 19:07:53 GMT

Gen-Z Dictionary: Puriteen

Recently, the term “puriteen” has been used regularly online, especially on TikTok and Instagram. The term was created to describe a person who is perceived to be “sex- negative” because they aren’t receptive to the online discourse around sexual freedom. Sex negativity refers to a mind-set that sex is inherently dirty, dangerous, risky, pathological or deviant.

Ask your children if they have heard this term or seen it used online. Has "puriteen" been used to describe themselves or their friends? What is a biblical response to this term?

July 1, 2021

Porn-Proof Your Family

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 19:07:05 GMT

Porn-Proof Your Family

Pornography is the most dangerous, addictive and destructive content that is widely available in almost every home in the US, accessible through computers, smartphones and televisions. Not only is it addicting and destructive to brain chemistry, it has the power to demolish relationships and one's ability to connect with the people they love. The pornography industry also feeds the human sex trafficking industry, as well as profits off of abuse, exploitation and devaluing human sexuality.

As a parent, you simply cannot ignore the problem of pornography. So what can you do to protect the loved ones in your home from pornography?

The Dr. James Dobson Family Institute put together some resources to help parents strengthen their protections and "porn-proof" their families, and they haveve made this resource available to you for FREE!

Click here to download your FREE PDF Download .

July 1, 2021

Connection and Health

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:54:29 GMT

Connection and Health

A 2019 study looked at the relationship between a person's friendships and connections, social support and the risk of dying from a major life-ending disease.

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:48:52 GMT

Freely and Fully

When you enter into a marriage covenant, it is necessary that you do so freely and with full consent. But this means more than not having a forced wedding. It means tha t you are entering into marriage in complete freedom, without fear. One of the things that creates a sense of bondage. Lust can turn you into a slave to sin, but Jesus came to set us free from the slavery of sin so that you can continue forward in purity and in peace!

To read a blog from the Chastity Project on pursuing freedom, click here .

July 1, 2021

Keeping Your Kids & Babysitters Safe Online

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:45:28 GMT

Keeping Your Kids & Babysitters Safe Online

July 1, 2021

Many families rely on babysitters more during the busy summer months. As babysitters are coming into your home, it is important to take a few steps to best protect against dangerous technology entering into your home.

Make a Tech Plan for your home. This includes setting device boundaries and defining your family's values when it comes to technology. You can learn about making your own Family Media Plan here .
Include specific rules to keep kids safe from pornography when you’re not home. This means listing devices children are allowed to use without parent supervision, what content they are allowed to watch and some ideas of screen-free activities for the babysitter to do. It may also be helpful to let each babysitter know which of your devices they may use (i.e. the TV but not the laptop, etc.), social media use and guidelines for photos/videos of your kids.
Talk about the tech rules with kids and the babysitter at the same time . By taking the time to do this before you leave, your sitter will know that pornography is not tolerated, your child will know what to do if they see pornography, and that an adult will ask about technology use while they were gone. With clear expectations, babysitters are more likely to closely monitor your children's screen time.

Some of of the most pervasive dangers facing children today are accessible in our own homes, especially pornography. As parents, it is your responsibility to make sure that your home is a safe, pornography-free place for your children, babysitters' and your own sakes.

To read more about babysitters and technology, click here .

OnlyFans and Child Sexual Abuse

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:40:20 GMT

OnlyFans and Child Sexual Abuse

OnlyFans allows vulnerable people to sell their own bodies for profit and makes money off of their exploitation. Recently, there have been increased reports of minors creating and selling sexually explicit content of themselves on OnlyFans. The National Center on Sexual Exploitation reported that, of the content of minors on the OnlyFans platform, there is even content featuring minors being exploited by sex traffickers.

While OnlyFans does require "Age Verification," this precaution has not prevented many minors from uploading their own child pornography for easy money.

To read more about OnlyFans' exploitation of minors, click here .

July 1, 2021

Netflix, Play Something

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:38:28 GMT

Netflix, Play Something

Since April, Netflix has been testing the Play Something feature on millions of users. This feature allows users to let Netflix's algorithm automatically pick something to watch based on what is on that user's watchlist.

While this may sound helpful for those who struggle with programming indecision, it may cause problems for families. This feature is also available in kid profiles, and while we would like to think that only content that parents have determined is appropriate for their children would be available, this may not be the case. We encourage you, as a parent, to test this feature on your children's devices and profiles to ensure exclusive consumption of approved media and safety.

July 1, 2021

Sharing The Message Of Purity

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:35:52 GMT

Sharing The Message Of Purity

We live in an age where truth has become twisted, devalued, and at times, unrecognizable. The truth about sexual purity continues to be manipulated and misunderstood by culture. Let’s take a moment to talk truth.

Pursuing sexual purity until marriage does not guarantee a perfect marriage, dream wedding or flawless family. In the same way, pursuing sexual integrity also does not guarantee you will get married. It is not a free pass to a fairytale life.

In the context of a marriage covenant, sex is a good gift to be exclusively shared between a husband and wife. Having accountability and an encouraging community that values the same principles will help an individual pursuing sexual integrity throughout a lifetime.

That being said, pursuing sexual integrity is much more than just being abstinent until marriage. It is seeking purity of heart, mind and soul throughout one’s life. The journey begins early in life and does not end at the altar. Choosing to not view pornography, listen to explicit music or read sexually arousing content are just a few examples of virtuous behavior. Ultimately, it's making decisions each day that honor God and are part of His plan of sexuality regardless of one's stage of life.

The message of purity is essential. Young people must know that they are responsible for their actions. They have a choice and that they can make a different decision today. They can say ‘no’ to cultures lies and choose sexual purity without shame or guilt of the past.

Speak truth in love to the young men and women of the next generation. Continue to raise the bar and counter the lies that aim to misrepresent truth. Share the benefits of sexual abstinence and encourage young people to seek purity of heart, mind and soul throughout their lives.

July 1, 2021

Tim & Demi Tebow Discuss Abstinence

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:34:45 GMT

Tim & Demi Tebow Discuss Abstinence

Tim Tebow, star football player and outspoken believer, has rarely been silent about his convictions. He and his wife, Demi, were recently on Willie and Korie Robertson's Facebook show, At Home with the Robertsons .

On the episode, Tim and Demi spoke with Willie and Korie's daughter Bella Robertson and her fiancé about dating, engagement and marriage. The Tebows encouraged them to complete pre-marital counseling, as well as remain abstinent before marriage. Demi told Bella, "To me, it was important and I wanted to honor my future husband, whoever it was, before I even met him or knew who he was going to be." Tim added, "I think living our convictions and standing firm is important when you believe in something and stand up for it."

It is encouraging to see people of influence going against mainstream culture to inspire young people to stay true to their convictions and pursue lives of virtue and purity by practicing abstinence until marriage.

To read more or watch the full episode, click here .

July 1, 2021

ComCast Drops MindGeek

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:33:03 GMT

ComCast Drops MindGeek

ComCast (also known as Xfinity) Cable recently made the decision to cut all ties with MindGeek, scrubbing them from their services. MindGeek is the parent company to ex ploitative pornography giant, PornHub.

National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) has been asking ComCast to reconsider their connections with MindGeek for a long time. In an email response to NCOSE, a ComCast representative said that they were growing deeply concerned over reports of unlawful practices by MindGeek, including the exploitation of minors on their sites. As a result, Comcast decided to drop all MindGeek content from their systems, removing all material available to customers, even for on-demand content.

To read more about ComCast's recent decision, click here .

July 1, 2021

Communicating Digital Citizenship With Teens

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:31:43 GMT

Communicating Digital Citizenship With Teens

As the Supreme Court prepares to issue a ruling in the case Mahanoy Area School District v. B.L. , students, parents and school districts alike have their eyes on the precedent that will be set regarding free speech. The case sprang into action shortly after, then high school sophomore, Brandi Levy was removed from the cheerleading team as a result of a Snapchat video that she posted. In the video, Brandi used obscene and derogatory language in direct reference of the school.

The court will soon decide if the Snapchat video falls under free speech or if she should be penalized for obscene language outside of school. Additionally, this case calls into question whether or not rules initiated on the school campus apply to social media posts.

A recent article by Tim Elmore proposes that we may be making the wrong argument. While Elmore expresses an understanding for the litigation involved, he writes, “Shouldn’t we be more concerned about digital citizenship, regardless of where those students are? This feels a little like a parent who says to their teen, ‘Sweetheart, don’t smoke while you’re on the school campus, but feel free to light up when you’re off campus.’ Smoking is unhealthy wherever we are, isn’t it?”

According to Elmore, “We either teach our students the value of civility wherever they go (in-person or digital), or we teach them they don’t have to be civil.”

Advocating for character development, civility and self-management are essential to developing students that graduate prepared to deal with emotions in the workplace and beyond! "If we don’t figure this out," Elmore writes, "we’ll continue to see cyberbullying, narcissistic outrage, sexting, and even threats of violence increase."

If you have a middle or high school age child, consider discussing this court case with them. Have they heard of this case? What are their thoughts? As summer begins, do they believe that they are living out the same values during and outside of school setting? Are they proud of their current digital footprint?

July 1, 2021

Scrolling Encouragement

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:30:23 GMT

Senate Bill 99 passed in the state of Montana allowing parents of K-12 children to opt out of sex education courses. The bill states that schools must annually notify parents if their child is going to be exposed to sex education in an assembly, organized school event or in a classroom setting.

Schools must also make all sex education curriculum materials available for public inspection, and districts are barred from allowing health care providers that provide abortion services, such as Planned Parenthood, to provide students with any materials or instruction.

July 1, 2021

Preparing Your Child For College

Thu, 01 Jul 2021 18:22:24 GMT

Preparing Your Child For College

As a student prepares to leave for college, it is common for parents to worry about their son or daughter being on their own for the first time. Once your student leaves for college, it can become one of the most challenging times as a parent.

Here are some tips to keep in mind about how to successfully parent your son or daughter through the college transition:

Talk about finances throughout the summer so your child is prepared before they leave for school. Every family handles college finances differently, but no matter who is paying for books, room and board, and tuition it helps to talk about budgeting with your student before they are on their own on campus. Encourage them to download a budgeting app to help them track their spending. Check out Mint, Wally and PocketGuard to see which one fits your student's needs best.
Take the time that you have to teach new skills! Ensure your child knows how to do laundry, check tire pressure in a car, mail a letter, purchase groceries, recognize if food is spoiled and deep clean a bathroom.
Meet the roommates and their families. While you may not have the opportunity to do this until moving day, do not hesitate to introduce yourself to your child's roommates and their parents and exchange contact information. It may be helpful down the line.
Prepare yourself to stay in touch with your child, but do not overwhelm. After leaving, allow your student to have the time and space necessary to adjust and immerse himself or herself in college life. Make sure that he or she knows you are always there when they need you. Check in every so often and schedule your visits and phone calls ahead of time.
Pray. As you anticipate this new transition, the most important thing you can do for your child is pray. They will be faced with new decisions and challenges that they have never come across before. Pray that the Lord would continue to reveal His truth to your child during this new season!

July 1, 2021

Celebrating Motherhood in All Life's Seasons

Tue, 11 May 2021 18:21:34 GMT

Celebrating Motherhood in All Life's Seasons

This Mother's Day follows a year spent navigating unique, unforeseen circumstances. There is no doubt this year has highlighted the beauty and importance of sacrificial motherhood. One could argue that motherhood is the most "essential" of all jobs. Dr. James Dobson said, "There is no assignment on earth that requires the array of skills and understanding needed by a mom in fulfilling her everyday duties."

Breakpoint author Shane Morris describes the beauty of motherhood in the age of COVID-19 saying, "...confined to home by events out of our control, I see more clearly what the Psalmist meant when he called the wife of one who fears the Lord 'fruitful vine' flourishing within his house...these four walls often reverberate with the sound of chaos. But if I listen closely, especially when Gabi is singing hymns with the kids, I can hear that choral music."

This Mother's Day we celebrate the many evidences of God's grace observed in families across the country. A mother's voice continues to be one of the sweetest melodies of all. Take the time to write a note, create a short video, compile a gift basket or host a gathering expressing thanks and appreciation for all your mother, or mother figure, has done to serve your family this year.

May 11, 2021

Transforming Gratitude in Relationships

Thu, 29 Apr 2021 18:20:17 GMT

Transforming Gratitude in Relationships

Gratitude is vital to living a happy and fulfilled life. Over the course of nine years, three different studies examined the impact gratitude had on relationships, specifically romantic relationships.

A 2019 study from Germany looked at whether gratitude expressed from a romantic partner plays a critical or determining role in reducing attachment anxiety. A person with attachment anxiety doubts self-worth and has heightened concerns about rejection. Researchers found that higher levels of gratitude expressed from a romantic partner lower attachment anxiety.

Another study in 2012 out of UC Berkley looked at how feeling gratitude affected romantic relationship maintenance. Researchers found that those who feel appreciated by their significant other, also appreciate them more and were more attentive to their needs. They also reported that those who felt appreciated by their partner were more committed and less likely to consider breaking up.

Finally, a 2010 peer-reviewed article reported on three studies that examined whether expressing gratitude to a significant other enhanced their perception of the communal strength of the relationship. Communal strength is how much responsibility one feels for a partner’s welfare. All three studies found that gratitude increased relationship communal strength.

Overall, researchers once again show the important role that gratitude plays in relationships. The person with an “attitude of gratitude” gives and receives blessings.

April 29, 2021

Dirty Dozen 2021: Wish

Thu, 29 Apr 2021 18:19:14 GMT

Dirty Dozen 2021: Wish

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation announced that Wish is on the 2021 Dirty Dozen List , a list of mainstream companies that are major facilitators of sexual exploitation in the United States.

Wish is a shopping platform that was built specifically for smartphones. It connects customers directly to third-party manufacturers offering products at a fraction of regular retail prices. Wish is very popular as the third most-downloaded shopping app in the world and it currently ships to 140 countries.

Wish is also one of the only major corporate entities that still does business with pornography giant PornHub owned by MindGeek. Wish is PornHub's top advertiser for their hardcore porn, even while the app is rated for ages 12+ in the Apple App Store. Wish reviews are full of pornographic images and videos—inappropriate for people of all ages, but especially the innocent eyes of children.

Wish sells spy cameras for men to film women in private settings without their consent. It also sells sex dolls that literally turn women and children into sex objects.

Wish profits off the promotion of sexual exploitation. Use your voice to tell Wish that you want them to value people over profits. To learn how you can take action against Wish, click here .

April 29, 2021

Remembering Dr. Judith Reisman

Fri, 16 Apr 2021 18:17:25 GMT

Remembering Dr. Judith Reisman

Renowned researcher, author, historian and teacher Dr. Judith Reisman left this earth for her heavenly home on Friday, April 9, 2021. Dr. Reisman dedicated much of her career to successfully laying the foundations for exposing the harm of pornography and deconstructing the work of Alfred Kinsey.

Her work of uncovering and documenting systemic perversion by well-funded efforts in academia, politics, business and media sheds light on what spawned the "sexual from birth" dogma. Dr. Reisman's reports and testimony as an expert witness in cases worldwide have proved instrumental in exposing the spread of Kinseyan sexuality.

Dr. Reisman served as a research professor at Liberty University School of Law in Lynchburg, Virginia, which houses her archive of over 40 years of research. She completed a comprehensive analysis as a consultant to the United States Department of Justice which provided empirical evidence of child pornography in print media.

Dr. Reisman leaves behind an incredible legacy as an advocate of parental rights and a protecter of children. Her cheerful demeanor and apparent joy despite difficult challenges and circumstances made her an invaluable individual in the fight against radical sex education and the oversexualization of our culture.

As a member of Abstinence Clearinghouse's National Advisory Council, Dr. Reisman's relationship with Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh resulted in a life-long friendship. The friendship led to the creation of The Casualties of Kinsey and decades of collaboration raised the bar on behalf of youth and families.

April 16, 2021

School COVID-19 Health Survey Included Questions About Sexuality

Fri, 16 Apr 2021 18:16:01 GMT

School COVID-19 Health Survey Included Questions About Sexuality

April 16, 2021

Parents in Washington state were surprised to learn that a COVID-19 health survey issued to students without parental consent included inappropriate questions about sexuality and gender. The survey , issued to students in grades 6-12, received backlash from many parents in the Bethel School District.

One father of a 12-year-old girl who took the survey told local radio station KTTH , “I do not trust the public school system any longer. Once she is exposed to it, you can’t un-ring that bell."

"I do my best to protect my daughter’s innocence at this age,” the father said. “I don’t allow her to watch rated R movies that have sexual content in them. We don’t allow certain magazines and monitor her internet usage. It’s infuriating when the school pushes back against my value system.”

The father rightfully concluded that as his daughter's parent, he is the one who ought to decide what she is taught regarding these important topics, not the local school district.

Money and Family Values

Fri, 16 Apr 2021 18:14:14 GMT

Money and Family Values

Scripture is filled with examples of riches being detrimental to a relationship with Christ. 1 Timothy 6:10 says, "The love of money is a root of all kinds of evil." Materialism and instant gratification are so prevalent in our society. It is not possible to serve both God and money.

It is important to teach your children about serving God instead of money. The natural human desire to enjoy material items can be seen when a child opens a pile of birthday gifts. They will tear through an entire pile of gifts so excitedly, with little thought towards gratitude, and toss aside each gift in favor of the next one. On the other hand, the child who spends weeks doing extra chores to earn a reward has learned valuable lessons. On top of that, teach your children the importance of thinking of others before themselves with their piggy banks. How can they bless others?

To read a blog on money and family values from the Dr. James Dobson, click here .

April 16, 2021

Addicted to Dating

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 18:11:10 GMT

Addicted to Dating

Jason Matthew recently wrote a blog for the Chastity Project sharing about his struggle with an addiction to dating. After college, he quickly fell into a routine with dating apps, dates, sex, repeat. This lifestyle left him feeling empty and unfulfilled. He found that God was the only one who could satisfy his heart.

He wrote, "I have come to finally realize that my worth and value will never come from this world. I finally recognize the self-centered fear within me, that the pleasure I sought was my actually not trusting God to meet my sexual needs according to His will. I tried to control my life and impose my own standards; I tried to defeat the feelings of worthlessness by finding worth in everyone and everything except the only one in whom my worth and value could be found."

To read Jason's blog post, click here .

April 8, 2021

Defining Generation Z

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 18:10:00 GMT

Defining Generation Z

Generation Z (Gen Z) is quite a unique generation. Gen Z has grown up in a time with adversity that very different from any of the generations before them. Tim Elmore put together a list of ten characteristics to help adults understand the Gen Z reality.

New Normal - Gen Z has grown up in a time of a global pandemic that altered the way daily life is lived.
On Demand - Time on streaming services increased exponentially this year, not to mention school "on demand" through virtual classes.
Multicultural Mix - More than any other generation, Gen Z is multi-racial and diverse.
Instant Access - Googling a question to get instant answers is almost reflexive. Gen Z is not used to waiting for answers.
Woke Culture - Gen Z values what they perceive as equality or equity as informed by "woke culture".
Immediate Feedback - Gen Z expects responses instantaneously. Online homework, teachers, social media and employers are expected to respond quickly.
Constant Contact - Gen Z values connection. A screen is often on 24/7 leaving little space for silence.
Blended Family - Gen Z defines family, gender and sexuality differently than ever before. What used to be considered "binary," is now expanded to a spectrum.
Anything Goes - They grew up in a time when traditional moral values were being questioned.
Panic Attack - Gen Z is the most anxious generation in US history leading to more suicidal thoughts, depression and loneliness.

To read the full blog from Tim Elmore's Growing Leaders, click here .

April 8, 2021

Attachment Style and Brain Connectivity in Children

Thu, 08 Apr 2021 18:08:21 GMT

Attachment Style and Brain Connectivity in Children

A 2021 study looked at attachment styles in children and how they affect brain connectivity. An attachment style, secure or insecure, is formed through interactions wit h a parent or main caregiver during the first three years of life and generally reflects differences in perceptions of relationships.

The researchers took a sample of 68 nine-year-old boys with secure and insecure attachment styles and used functional magnetic resonance imaging (MRI) to determine the connections in the brain critical to maintaining relationships, starting attachment behaviors and modulating reward-related processing. Researchers found that the boys with secure attachment had more connectivity in their brains, while those with insecure attachment had less functional brain connectivity. This is why it is so important for parents to build secure attachment with their small children for long term effects.

April 8, 2021

Celebrating Easter

Fri, 02 Apr 2021 17:59:47 GMT

Celebrating Easter

Holy Week is a time set aside to celebrate the immense sacrifice our Savior made through His death, burial and resurrection. For many, this week will consist of putting on your Sunday best, celebrating with the church body and preparing for a feast with family and friends.

As you celebrate the glorious grace that has been offered through Jesus, consider creating a new family tradition! Here are a few ideas that will create lasting memories with your family this Easter:

Have an Easter egg hunt. Make this year's egg hunt a little more exciting by allowing the children in your family to hide the eggs from the adults outside or throughout the house.
Wear your Easter best. Even if you attend an Easter Sunday service virtually, who's to say you can't still dress up to stay home and celebrate with family? Be sure to snap a selfie!
Go on a prayer walk. Praying for your neighbors and city as a family is a powerful way to model caring for the spiritual needs of others to your children.
Create a family cookie decorating challenge. Keep your Easter meal simple and make sugar cookies with your children. See who can make the most unique Easter-themed cookie without using a cookie cutter.
Make a stained glass masterpiece. Use colorful paper or paint to create a stained glass cross mural in a prominent window of your home.
Learn from one another. Don't miss the opportunity to engage in worship and discussion this Easter. Encourage each member of your family to take notes on Sunday's sermon and talk to your children about the implications of Gospel truths in their own lives after the service.

April 2, 2021

What Makes You Worth Saving?

Fri, 02 Apr 2021 17:57:22 GMT

What Makes You Worth Saving?

In this short video, Sam Allberry answers the question "What makes me worth saving?"

This Holy Week, be reminded that your worth does not come from what you think you can find within yourself. Rather, your worth comes from what Jesus has done for you!

April 2, 2021

11 Social Media Red Flags Parents Should Know About

Fri, 02 Apr 2021 17:55:25 GMT

11 Social Media Red Flags Parents Should Know About

Common Sense Media recently wrote a helpful and actionable article for parents titled 11 Social Media Red Flags Parents Should Know About . The article shares how parents can identify less obvious red flags like anonymity, location tracking, ads and in-app purchases on social media.

The best way for you to avoid your child using potentially dangerous apps is to enact the 7-Day Rule developed by Protect Young Eyes . When your child asks for a new app, consider testing the app yourself for seven days. The Common Sense Media article will help you know what to look for and will offer helpful tips as you determine the risks involved for your child.

April 2, 2021

Empowering Super Moms

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:53:10 GMT

Empowering Super Moms

Moms do so much for their families. And while many moms are "super moms," there are no "super powers" endowed when a woman becomes a mother. This is why the Dr. James Dobson Family Institute created The Empowering Moms Series. While they can't grant you super powers in this free 10-day series, they can offer you time-tested truths and encouragement to help you be the best mom you can be.

To sign up for this free 10-Day Parenting series for moms, click here !

March 31, 2021

The Cohabitation Dilemma Facing America's Pastors

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:51:20 GMT

The Cohabitation Dilemma Facing America's Pastors

In a recent article by Christianity Today, The Cohabitation Dilemma Comes For America's Pastors , David Ayers outlines the struggle many American pastors face as they grapple with how to best navigate wedding policies and premarital counseling among cohabiting congregants.

Ayers's interviews with pastors brought him to discover one pastor who shared that he had stopped conducting weddings because so many of his engaged couples were cohabiting and got angry when the issue was addressed. Another pastor shared that he had suffered criticism from church members when he dismissed a church employee who refused to leave a cohabiting arrangement.

A Pew Research survey in 2019 found that young evangelicals believe cohabitating is acceptable if a couple plans to eventually marry. The survey also indicated that evangelicals, especially those under the age of 40, increasingly see cohabitation as morally acceptable.

"There is hope," Ayer writes. "The cohabitating habit is less acute among those who are theologically conservative and attend church weekly. Even with shifting cultural attitudes, the studies show that evangelicals who attend church and regard their faith as very important to their daily lives are much less likely to plan on cohabitating or to actually do so."

While preservation of the marriage covenant must continue to be held in high regard by church leadership, individuals within church congregations must recognize the need for discipleship among fellow church members.

To value and cherish marriage as a relationship orchestrated by God, one must see marriage modeled by others and continually learn through God's Word what marriage means for those believing in Christ. Understanding that marriage is a reflection of Christ and His Church, believers must share truth and continue to raise the bar!

March 31, 2021

Divorce and Depression

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:49:22 GMT

Divorce and Depression

March 31, 2021

A 2019 study looked at how divorce after the age of 50 affects mental health. The study also looked at the effects of re-partnership on those who were divorced or widowed. Unfortunately, divorce later in life is becoming more common. The study looked at American couples born before 1960 who participated in the 1998 to 2014 Health and Retirement Study.

Researchers found that divorced individuals reported the highest level of depressive symptoms, followed by those who were widowed. Those who remained married reported the least depressive symptoms. Further, the depressive symptoms lessened at a faster rate for widows than for divorcees, whose symptoms sometimes lasted for several years.

Lastly, researchers found that divorced participants were three times more likely to find a partner than widows, and that levels of depressive symptoms quickly decreased following re-partnership. However, the level of depressive symptoms gradually increased after re-partnership for both widows and divorcees.

To read the full study, click here .

X-Rated Network Television

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:47:39 GMT

X-Rated Network Television

This past Sunday was the 63rd Annual Grammy Awards. Cardi B performed her chart-topping single, "WAP". The performance was aired by CBS into millions of homes around the country.

While many stars' performances were scantily clad, none quite rose to the level of Cardi B. Her performance rose to the levels of "x-rated" while she danced on a stripper pole for several minutes. The network offered no content warnings and no apologies to viewers.

By allowing this on national television, CBS is normalizing televised sexual objectification. Make your voice heard! Click here to let CBS know that this content was unacceptable.

March 31, 2021

2021 Dirty Dozen: OnlyFans

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:46:21 GMT

2021 Dirty Dozen: OnlyFans

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation announced that OnlyFans is on the 2021 Dirty Dozen List, a list of mainstream companies that are major facilitators of sexual exploitation in the United States.

OnlyFans is the latest facilitator of online sexual exploitation. When people were running short on cash because of the COVID-19 financial crisis, OnlyFans promised to be an empowering way for them to profit off of their own bodies, and maybe even become famous. OnlyFans allows vulnerable people, especially women and minors, to sell their own bodies for profit, and OnlyFans makes money off of their exploitation. While “Fans” may pay fees for nude images, videos and livestreams, it is the “creators” who pay the high price of psychological, emotional and physical harm that the sex industry imparts. OnlyFans also normalizes prostitution among young persons.

To learn how you can take action against OnlyFans, click here .

March 31, 2021

Fathers Religiosity Impacts Adolescent Behavior

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:44:12 GMT

Fathers Religiosity Impacts Adolescent Behavior

A 2020 World Health Organization study examined the relationship between adolescents’ religious faith and worship and health-risk behavior. Researchers studied a sample of 13,377 Czech pre-teens and teenagers ages 11-15.

The results of the study were unexpected and interesting. While they found no association between levels of risky behaviors and adolescents’ religious attendance and importance of faith, they did find that participants whose fathers did not attend church were almost twice as likely to report having had sexual intercourse. This result was similar for all adolescents, whether they themselves attended religious services or not.

Further, the study found that adolescents who did not attend religious worship services but participated in church activities such as church meetings and singing in the choir, were less likely to smoke, drink, or engage in sexual intercourse.

March 31, 2021

A Knight to Remember

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:42:27 GMT

A Knight to Remember

On Saturday, February 27, the Abstinence Clearinghouse hosted a Knight to Remember for mothers and sons in Sioux Falls, South Dakota.

Each February for the last eight years, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) has released their Dirty Dozen, an annual list of companies promoting sexual exploitation through pornography, sexual objectification, prostitution and sex trafficking. NCOSE refers to the Dirty Dozen List as an "activism tool," allowing others to become aware of the various companies and corporations profiting from sexual exploitation.

The list has led to the improvements of policies at many companies. In the last year, we saw vast improvements in the policies of Visa, Mastercard, TikTok and Snapchat. But there is still so much further to go. This year, Amazon, Google's Chromebook, Netflix and EBSCO Information Services are four of the twelve companies listed.

Click here to view the complete 2021 Dirty Dozen List.

March 31, 2021

The Equality Act

Wed, 31 Mar 2021 17:26:56 GMT

The Equality Act

March 31, 2021

As the Equali ty Act falls under review in the House of Representatives, we are reminded that the problems contained represent not just one specific issue, but many of the values that our nation holds dear.

According to the Family Research Council , "The Equality Act would overhaul our federal civil rights framework to mandate abortion access and special privileges for sexual orientation and gender identity. The Equality Act would erode parental rights and religious freedom, interfere with the medical profession, and jeopardize women's privacy and safety as a result of the expansion of the Title II 'Public Accommodations'."

The Equality Act mandates an anti-life, anti-family, and anti-faith agenda upon all Americans. As the House of Representatives begins to review this bill, make your voice heard by contacting your representative today.

Now in Session

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 17:25:05 GMT

Now in Session

February 19, 2021

Around the country, state legislatures are currently in session. This means that legislators are writing, debating and passing laws that will affect the day to day lives of Americans.

In Minnesota, lawmakers are attempting to pass comprehensive sex education (CSE) into state law . This was previously attempted in 2019, but failed to pass the Senate. Now it is back again. CSE removes all natural and protective boundaries for children and teens, encouraging early sexual exploration in graphic detail. It uses pornographic illustrations and graphic descriptions to teach children as young as 10 that all 'consensual' sexual activity is their right. CSE also normalizes all gender identities and permits unlicensed organizations such as Planned Parenthood (PP) into the classroom. PP already teaches 4th graders that oral, anal and vaginal sex are "normal," as is masturbation alone or with others.

It is our duty as informed citizens to use our voices to promote virtue in our states' and country's laws. The laws that are put into effect today will affect us for generations to come. Take the time to look into your state legislature's proposed bills for 2021. Email or call your legislators and show up to committee hearings to make your support, or opposition, known.

Lawsuit Against Pornhub

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 17:16:42 GMT

Lawsuit Against Pornhub

February 19, 2021

Last week, two survivors of child sex trafficking filed a joint lawsuit against MindGeek, the parent company of Pornhub. Videos and images of their sexual abuse were posted on Pornhub and other MindGeek-owned sites and still appear, despite persistent attempts to remove them.

While both women wish to remain anonymous, they still want to share their stories. One woman was drugged, raped and filmed at 16. Her abuser profited every time the video was downloaded on one of MindGeek's websites. MindGeek never attempted to verify her identity, age, or inquire about her status as a victim of trafficking. The second plaintiff's story is shockingly similar. She was a minor who was repeatedly raped and abused by adults on film for the profits of Pornhub.

The plaintiffs are suing because others have been financially benefiting from their abuse, which violates the Trafficking Victims Protection Reauthorization Act, among other laws.

To read more about the case, click here .

Meaning of Life

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 17:15:44 GMT

Meaning of Life

With the mental health crisis brought on by the global pandemic, a group of Turkish researchers looked to examine how meaning of life related to loneliness and the degr ee to which religious coping strategies mediated these relations. "Meaning in life" was measured with the Presence of Meaning Scale, religious coping with the Religious Coping Scale, and loneliness with the revised UCLA Loneliness Scale.

The results of the study were not surprising: meaning in life had significant effects on loneliness. Those who felt they had a meaning in life were less lonely. Further, those with religious coping strategies, like prayer, had a stronger relationship between meaning in life and loneliness.

February 19, 2021

Teen Dating Violence Awareness

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 17:14:42 GMT

Teen Dating Violence Awareness

February 19, 2021

February is Teen Dating Violence (TDV) Awareness month. Communicating with teens about what healthy, respectful behavior looks like in any relationship is important. Teens often think some behaviors like teasing and name-calling are a "normal" part of a relationship, but these behaviors can become abusive and develop into serious forms of violence.

Nearly 1 in 11 female and about 1 in 15 male high school students report having experienced physical dating violence in the last year. About 1 in 9 female and 1 in 36 male high school students report having experienced sexual dating violence in the last year. Unhealthy or violent relationships can have severe short and long-term effects on a developing teen. For example, youth who are victims of TDV are more likely to:

Experience symptoms of depression and anxiety
Engage in unhealthy behaviors, like using tobacco, drugs, and alcohol
Consider suicide

Physical, sexual and psychological abuse affects millions of teens in the United States. Educate young people with the facts and give them the tools to recognize unhealthy behavior in both in-person and electronic communication.

Day 7 - Pray For The Salvation Of Precious Souls And Boldness To Evangelize

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 15:36:03 GMT

Day 7 - Pray For The Salvation Of Precious Souls And Boldness To Evangelize

Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect. - Romans 12:2

Despite the footprints of Christianity in America, its mark on Millennials and Generation Z is not as visible as it was in previous generations. Many young people see the church as an irrelevant relic of the past.

Over 80% of Christians, both young and old, are considered biblically illiterate. That means a mere 2 out of every 10 Christians know how to live, articulate, and defend the Christian faith. Dr. Woodrow Kroll commented, “When we speak of creeping Bible illiteracy in America, we are not talking about the inability to read but the choice not to read... This failure to read the Bible consistently, or to hear its truth consistently, is the major factor in Bible illiteracy in America. It is an epidemic.”

There is very little that is more compelling and persuasive to a child than a parent living out his or her faith. It is human nature to learn by example. What example are you setting? Does your family regularly see you point to Christ’s death and resurrection as your source of hope? Do you ask for forgiveness from your family members when you sin against them, knowing that modeling repentance is one of the greatest things you can do as a parent?

We are not just in a culture war for the faith of our nation’s children; we are fighting a spiritual battle. We are called to make disciples among all people and all ages. The greatest prayer that we can ever pray over our nation’s youth is that they may trust and follow Christ as their supreme satisfaction and joy. Ask God to open the eyes of unbelievers that they may turn from darkness to light and to open their ears that they may hear the truth of the Gospel.

Pray for students who have recently come to know Christ, that they might be discipled by other believers. Pray for their growth and spiritual maturity. May believers speak truth in love so that they will, in all things, grow in godliness (Ephesians 4:13-15). Pray that their identity would be grounded in who they are in Christ and that they would know and understand that they are fearfully and wonderfully made by their Creator.

Finally, pray that your faith would be deepened. Equip yourself by reading Scripture, that you might be prepared to be the parent your child needs you to be. Ask the Holy Spirit to convict you of areas of your parenting that need to be realigned with Scripture. As you steward the child or children God has placed in your care, pray that God would grant you wisdom and courage to lead precious souls into spiritual maturity.

Download the entire 7-day devotional, Praying for Our Nation's Youth, here:

https://abstinence.net/files/2021/01/Prayers_For_Our_Nation's_Children_E-Book_-_Abstinence_Clearinghouse.pdf

February 7, 2021

Day 6 - Pray for Children Without A Parental Figure, In Foster Care, Or Living In An Abusive Home

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 15:34:18 GMT

Day 6 - Pray for Children Without A Parental Figure, In Foster Care, Or Living In An Abusive Home

Religion that is pure and undefiled before God the Father is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world. – James 1:27

As the church, we are called to learn to do good, seek justice, help the oppressed, defend the orphan and plead for the widow (Isaiah 1:17). For Christians living in America, adoption and foster care create a significant avenue for discipleship. Ultimately, the relationships formed offer an opportunity for children to see the Gospel lived out in the homes of believers. Faith, forgiveness and love are modeled as each family member functions in relation to the other in the midst of the day-to-day activities. I n the mundane of everyday living, a child can tangibly see Christ’s love demonstrated.

Children must be led into adulthood. In order to pursue Biblical virtues and behavior, children must see these characteristics put into practice. A child who is adopted or placed in the foster care system at 5 years old will someday be a 19-year-old. Children who have experienced significant trauma will need the support and encouragement of a family throughout life. The need for role models and relationship is great.

Do you have someone on your heart who has made the commitment to protect or care for the orphan? Encourage them today. Express your gratitude for their willingness to love sacrificially and follow the Lord’s example as He has adopted us as sons and daughters through Jesus Christ (Ephesians 1:5). For Christians, the process of earthly adoption is grounded in the reality of our heavenly adoption . Ask how you can pray for them and the children they are bringing up to love and fear God.

Pray for wisdom for the adults caring for children in foster care who experienced trauma at a young age. It takes courage and sacrificial love to care for and invest in young hearts. Ask God to grant peace and protection to children who have been abused and are without the support of a trusted adult. Pray for hearts to be opened to the hope of the Gospel. May they come to know the Lord as a good and perfect Father.

Pray for the children in foster care whose families are reconciling generational hurt and for the children undergoing difficult reunification processes. May God grant wisdom in the courts and to those in the legal system defending children from harm.

Pray for the men and women who open their home to children in foster care. Pray that the emotional toll would be a catalyst to cling to Christ as their only source for peace and joy. Thank God for the sacrificial love He has so graciously given.

In John 14:18 Jesus said, “I will not leave you as orphans, I will come to you.” We are the orphans rescued by God through the death and resurrection of Jesus. Ask the Lord how you should act as a “doer of the word” (James 1:26-27) and be compassionate towards children without hope. In light of what Christ has done, how can you advocate for our nation’s children?

Download the entire 7-day devotional, Praying for Our Nation's Youth, here:

https://abstinence.net/files/2021/01/Prayers_For_Our_Nation's_Children_E-Book_-_Abstinence_Clearinghouse.pdf

February 7, 2021

Day 5 - Pray For Our Nation's Leaders

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 15:31:52 GMT

Day 5 - Pray For Our Nation's Leaders

First of all, then, I urge that supplications, prayers, intercessions, and thanksgivings be made for all people, for kings and all who are in high positions, that we may lead a peaceful and quiet life, godly and dignified in every way. This is good, and it is pleasing in the sight of God our Savior, who desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth. – 1 Timothy 2:1-4

Pray that city, state and national leaders would be filled with wisdom, courage and peace.

May our government officials be granted the courage and stamina needed to steward the power of the office they represent for good. Pray that our government leaders will represent their constituents well, courageously upholding biblical values and policies.

Pray for policies and legislation that protect and defend our nation’s families and children.

Pray for conviction to rule in the hearts of those acting in a manner that is contrary to God’s Word and ask God to grant boldness to believers in positions of power. Pray for godliness to be the central point for policy, and for followers of Christ to recognize that their ambassadorship and submission is to represent Christ’s kingdom above all things.

Pray for government leaders and their families.

Oftentimes, a commitment to serve constituents means sacrificing large amounts of time with family. For leaders who are splitting time between home and their state capital or Washington, D.C., relational stress and public press can take a toll. Pray that government officials and their families would seek Christ’s strength each day.

Pray for relationships that leaders have with others.

A leader’s success is largely dependent on relationships they build with others. Pray that God would guide conversations and open doors to create new, unforeseen connections. Pray that our nation’s leaders would feel the urgency of the Gospel message and be bold in sharing a reason for their hope.

According to the Pew Research Center, almost 90% of the United States Congress claims to pursue Christianity. Whether they practice their faith or not, the knowledge that individuals around the country are praying for them likely serves as a great blessing and encouragement. Consider writing or emailing your city, state or national representatives today. Share that you are praying for their staff and family. If you feel led, write a prayer of encouragement.

Download the entire 7-day devotional, Praying for Our Nation's Youth, here:

https://abstinence.net/files/2021/01/Prayers_For_Our_Nation's_Children_E-Book_-_Abstinence_Clearinghouse.pdf

February 7, 2021

Day 4 - Pray For Young Women And Men Experiencing An Unexpected Pregnancy

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 15:28:55 GMT

Day 4 - Pray For Young Women And Men Experiencing An Unexpected Pregnancy

O Lord, you have searched me and known me! You know when I sit down and when I rise up; you discern my thoughts from afar. You search out my path and my lying down and are acquainted with all my ways. Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O Lord, you know it altogether. You hem me in, behind and before, and lay your hand upon me. Such knowledge is too wonderful for me; it is high; I cannot attain it. - Psalm 139:1-6

Alone in her room one night, Emilie sat in shock staring at a dozen positive pregnancy tests. Her entire future was about to change. Emilie, still not wanting to believe the overwhelming evidence that she was actually pregnant, decided to visit a pregnancy resource center in her area for one more test. She went alone, scared and uncertain of her next steps.

Hundreds of questions circled through her head as she waited to hear the results: What if I really am pregnant? How will I tell my mom? What will all my friends think? What will the kids at school say? The client advocate shared the news of her positive result with compassion and empathy. Even with all the love and support that was given to her, she left the pregnancy resource center unsure of what decision she was going to make regarding the life of her unborn baby.

After a great deal of thought and prayer, Emilie chose life for her unborn baby and within weeks she began attending Life Skills Classes offered by the pregnancy resource center. After Emilie gave birth to her precious little girl, she was able to finish high school surrounded by a support system of family and friends.

According to Guttmacher Institute, women under the age of 18 make up 12% of abortion patients each year, and about one in four women will have an abortion by age 45.

Emilie was blessed to have the support of family and friends and the opportunity to contact her local pregnancy resource center for help. However, not every woman experiences the same level of love and support.

Pray that strength and courage will abound in the hearts of women who experience unexpected pregnancy. Pray for God’s peace and presence. May an appreciation for the life He created be instilled in the hearts of expectant young mothers and fathers.

Pray for the young women who experience coercion to have an abortion from a significant other or parent. May they know God’s love and mercy. May God grant the restoration of relationships and the reunification of families.

Pray for wisdom for those working in pregnancy resource centers who are frontline responders in defending life. May they be filled with compassion and wisdom as they meet women like Emilie in times of uncertainty. May women who are considering their pregnancy options feel empowered to choose life for their unborn children and may the Gospel of Jesus be made known that they might know repentance, mercy and peace.

Download the entire 7-day devotional, Praying for Our Nation's Youth, here:

https://abstinence.net/files/2021/01/Prayers_For_Our_Nation's_Children_E-Book_-_Abstinence_Clearinghouse.pdf

February 7, 2021

Day 3 - Pray for Godly Relationships And Courage To Stand Against Peer Pressure

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 15:27:54 GMT

Day 3 - Pray for Godly Relationships And Courage To Stand Against Peer Pressure

Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up!

– Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

When you think of people who have spoken into your personal life, you will likely come to find that their influence was significant because they told you what you needed to hear, not what you wanted to hear or what would make you happy. Their willingness to speak truth, despite the tension it could cause in your relationship, was a gift.

In 2 Samuel 11, David, the king of Israel, hit a low point. He had an affair with Bathsheba, a married woman. In an effort to cover his tracks after learning she was pregnant, David called Bathsheba’s husband, Uriah, home from the battlefield in hopes that time with his wife would offer an explanation for her pregnancy. However, Uriah, being loyal to his comrades on the battlefield, told David that he refused to eat, drink and be with his wife during a military campaign. When Uriah returned to battle, David had Uriah put on the frontline, resulting in his death.

David took Bathsheba as his wife and moved on. But the Lord was displeased and sent Nathan to confront David (2 Samuel 12). Speaking to David’s roots as a shepherd, Nathan told David the story of a poor man who had a single lamb that he took pride in and treated like family. One day a rich man who had a large flock of sheep had a visitor. Rather than offering one of his own sheep, he took the single lamb of the poor man to feed his guest.

David was immediately outraged by Nathan’s story. He declared that the rich man should die and pay four times over for the lamb he stole. A realization set in as Nathan responded to David’s anger saying, “You are the man.” Seeing the parallels of his recent sin, David repented saying, “I have sinned against the Lord.”

It took a man like Nathan for David to realize his wrongdoing. But Nathan did not stop there; he spoke truth into David’s moment of conviction, reminding him that while there would be judgment, the Lord had done away with his sin. What a beautiful picture of a Gospel-centered friendship built on conviction of sin and also an understanding of the Lord’s great mercy. Shortly after his meeting with Nathan, David wrote Psalm 51, a beautiful psalm of repentance and praise to God.

Who is the Nathan in your own life? Who is willing to call you out when you sin and do not see your own need for repentance? Thank that person today and pray that your children also have valuable, meaningful relationships that encourage Christ-like behavior. Pray for godly relationships and for friends that are not too insecure or nervous to say when something is wrong. Pray for “Nathans” to be placed in their school, jobs, future college and beyond.

May our children be marked with a boldness that seeks justice for the moral standard that God has given us. We pray our children join with David when he writes in Psalm 51:10, “Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.”

Download the entire 7-day devotional, Praying for Our Nation's Youth, here:

https://abstinence.net/files/2021/01/Prayers_For_Our_Nation's_Children_E-Book_-_Abstinence_Clearinghouse.pdf

February 7, 2021

Day 2 - Pray For Protection Over The Eyes, Ears And Minds Of Our Children Against The Culture’s Messages

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 15:26:51 GMT

Day 2 - Pray For Protection Over The Eyes, Ears And Minds Of Our Children Against The Culture’s Messages

Do not grant the wicked their desires, Lord; do not let their plans succeed. – Psalm 140:8

Purity is a message that culture is not communicating with young people. Discussing difficult topics with your child early provides the best chance for your child to receive information in the proper Biblical context. Look for natural opportunities to teach your child to identify the lies culture teaches.

If you are watching a movie or TV show that shows a couple living together outside of marriage, press pause and talk about that lifestyle choice. If you are in the car and a song comes on the radio that is demeaning or uses negative language, embrace the opportunity to talk about the issue discussed in the lyrics. If you see a commercial with an immodestly dressed man or woman on the screen, talk to your child about the message that the individual is portraying by what they are wearing. What are some consequences that could result from communicating that message? Is the outfit he or she is wearing encouraging respect from and for others?

As you engage in conversations with your child, be prepared to answer difficult and sometimes unexpected questions. A thoughtful, age-appropriate answer to your child’s question is better than not answering at all. If a child is asking a specific question, chances are they are ready to hear an age-appropriate answer, though there are exceptions. Most children become even more curious when a parent does not offer an answer to a question. The child will likely go looking for an answer elsewhere. For that reason, a parent must always be prepared to take a deep breath, gauge their facial expression, and think through a thoughtful response.

There is no specific age to address difficult topics, and each child is different. Recognize that a level of sheltering and protection is warranted in a young child’s life. St. John Paul II called this time the latency period, stating that during this stage most questions do not require extreme detail or direct answers.

While it is important to protect young children from hearing or seeing too much too soon, many children are not offered that protection. In today’s world, even parents who are proactive in teaching online safety to children will be confronted with unforeseen circumstances online. The U.S. Department of Justice states, “Never before in the history of telecommunications media in the United States has so much indecent (and obscene) material been so easily accessible by so many minors in so many American homes with so few restrictions.” According to the American Psychological Association, the average age a child is exposed to pornography is between the ages of eight and ten. With technology so readily available, many children are unintentionally exposed to harmful content.

If your child has been exposed to pornography:

Do not blame your child or yourself.

Be sure to acknowledge that this situation is not his or her fault. Despite your child’s curiosity, he or she wasn’t seeking the reality of what pornography is.

Be a team. Use inclusive pronouns like “we” and “us” when discussing your child’s experience.

Seek professional counseling for your son or daughter if needed.

As you commit to praying for children who are exposed to harmful content through radical sex education and pornography, pray for Christ-like wisdom to rule and reign in the hearts of parents as they engage in difficult conversations. Whether a child is online or in a classroom, may God graciously extend protection over the young hearts, minds and souls of our nation’s children.

Download the entire 7-day devotional, Praying for Our Nation's Youth, here:

https://abstinence.net/files/2021/01/Prayers_For_Our_Nation's_Children_E-Book_-_Abstinence_Clearinghouse.pdf

February 7, 2021

Day 1 - Pray For Parents To Be Wise And Engaged

Mon, 01 Feb 2021 15:24:11 GMT

Day 1 - Pray For Parents To Be Wise And Engaged

Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man whose quiver is full of them. - Psalm 127:4

We now have a generation of young people who are not only being taught to rebel against their Creator, they are being indoctrinated in our nation’s public education system to redefine freedom as the ability to live any way they choose without consequences.

It is God’s plan that the honor of passing on the truth about life and how it begins should come from a child’s parents. Bad information or direction from a child’s friend, or inaccurate information taught in a “sex education” program, can be destructive.

Whether or not your own parents were proactive in teaching you about development and healthy relationships, it remains your God-given responsibility to guide and direct your child’s life. Deuteronomy 11:19 says, "Teach them to your children, talking about them as you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up." Take heart, parents! God would not give you a responsibility that He would not equip you for. Through Him, you are uniquely qualified as a parent to fill this role for your child.

If you are hesitant to talk openly with your child about reproductive anatomy and related bodily functions, recognize that the pause you are experiencing may just be overwhelming awe in recognizing how wonderful God’s design is. Through a husband and wife, as one flesh in the covenant of marriage, God brings new life into the world. There is certainly nothing shameful or wrong about the subject, but it is important to know how God addresses life, love, marriage and children in Scripture.

If you are still anxious, it is important to remember that you have provided context for explaining life to your child and how important he or she is to you and to God. You have shown your child, by your manner, dress and speech, the level of virtuous behavior you expect from them. The way you live out purity in your own life speaks volumes to your child. When the time comes, you should be the one to explain reproductive parts and the way they operate, but do not put off these discussions with your son or daughter. Starting these conversations early provides the best chance for your child to receive information in the proper Biblical context.

There is no age formula, and each child is different. Conversations about sex and development are not “one size fits all” conversations. Honor each of your children, recognizing that some may be further along than others in their emotional development. The biggest thing is that you are prepared for conversations when questions and opportunities arise.

Radical sex education attempts to change moral codes to match behavior rather than change behavior to fit a fixed moral code. At its core, the agenda of radical sex education promotes using graphic material and explicit language to teach highly sexualized content from kindergarten through high school.

Parents are the primary sex educators of their children. Philippians 4:6 says, “Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God.” Pray that God would equip you to be your child’s first, and most trusted, source for conversations surrounding sexual integrity and relationships.

Pray for parents to be engaged in the lives of their children. Pray for parents to rise up and be pro-active in joining school boards and other decision-making positions in an effort to protect children.

Download the entire 7-day devotional, Praying for Our Nation's Youth, here:

https://abstinence.net/files/2021/01/Prayers_For_Our_Nation's_Children_E-Book_-_Abstinence_Clearinghouse.pdf

February 1, 2021

New to Netflix: Bridgerton

Mon, 25 Jan 2021 15:22:43 GMT

New to Netflix: Bridgerton

Netflix continues to release controversial and explicit content. Last year, they released Cuties, a French film featuring a group of 11-year-old girls doing many sexually explicit actions on camera. On Christmas Day, Netflix released its newest hit show, Bridgerton, based off the book series by Julia Quinn. It has been trending at #1 on Netflix since its release. However, we urge caution before you or your teen sign on to watch the latest hit.

Bridgerton is written and produced by Shonda Rhimes, the former writer and producer for the raunchy ABC medical drama Grey's Anatomy. Since Netflix is not subject to the same standards as network television, Bridgerton is even more explicit than Grey's Anatomy. It is rated TV-MA for sex, nudity, sexual violence, language and smoking. Netflix executives are struggling to keep sexual scenes from Bridgerton off of Pornhub.

If you're looking for a more enjoyable, wholesome historical show to watch, you may want to try out Pride and Prejudice for now.

January 25, 2021

Father-Child Relationship Security

Mon, 25 Jan 2021 15:21:31 GMT

Father-Child Relationship Security

A 2018 study from the American Psychological Association looked at the ties between father involvement and the security of father-child attachment. Researchers studied 80 families in Midwestern states.

The study found that increased levels of paternal involvement indicated higher levels of attachment security. On workdays, father involvement in caregiving was related to greater attachment security, whereas involvement in play was related to less attachment security. Conversely, on non-workdays, father involvement in play was the better predictor of attachment security while involvement in caregiving was much less related to attachment security.

Overall, fathers who spent more time playing with their children on non-workdays and were more involved in caregiving during weekdays had better, more secure relationships with their children.

January 25, 2021

The Commitment to Wait

Fri, 15 Jan 2021 15:20:34 GMT

The Commitment to Wait

Research has proven that when a commitment to wait is attached to something beyond ourselves, we are more likely to find success in waiting. We are also more likely to recover well if things don't go as planned.

Many of us have seen the videos of parents putting candy or a cookie in front of their young child. Prior to leaving the child alone with the treat, the parent explains to the child that they can eat the treat once they've returned. "I'll only be gone for a few minutes," a parent may say over their shoulder as they leave the room. As the child sits anxiously anticipating the parent's return, some children stare at the treat while others cover their eyes so they do not have to look at it. When the parent does come back after a few minutes, the child typically grins, swinging their legs in excitement and anticipation!

Many children choose to wait to eat the treat and enjoy it once their parent has returned. For many of the children who waited to eat the treat, the close relationship between parent and child is evident. The child trusted that the parent would return. The child also trusted that they would get to enjoy the candy or cookie as the parent promised.

Much like the child's commitment to wait for their parent is based on something outside themselves, trust and an existing relationship, so is a commitment to wait to enjoy sexual intimacy until marriage. The choice to wait to have sex until marriage is beyond one's own self. For a believer, a decision to wait is based on one's trust in Christ and an appreciation of the marriage covenant.

Does the cookie example perfectly illustrate this point? No. Waiting does not guarantee a future marriage relationship. God calls some to singleness and others are harmed without consent. We are also human and we make mistakes. In these instances, God's love abounds (1 John 1:9). He longs to give rest to the weary (Matthew 11:8) and abundant life to those who put their hope in Him (John 10:10).

When a commitment to wait is attached to something beyond ourselves, like a desire to follow Christ, we are more likely to find success in waiting since the ultimate satisfaction is the joy found in Christ. He is glorified through difficult seasons because they require full reliance on His goodness and grace.

January 15, 2021

The Tech-Wise Family

Fri, 15 Jan 2021 15:19:28 GMT

The Tech-Wise Family

Making conscientious choices about technology in our families is more than just using internet filters and determining screen time limits for our children. It's about developing wisdom, character and courage in the way we use digital media rather than accepting technology's promises of ease, instant gratification, and the world's knowledge at our fingertips. And it's definitely not just about the kids.

Drawing on in-depth original research from the Barna Group, Andy Crouch shows readers that the choices we make about technology have consequences we may never have considered in his book, The Tech-Wise Family . He takes readers beyond the typical questions of what, where, and when and instead challenges them to answer provocative questions like: Who do we want to be as a family? How does our use of a particular technology move us closer to or farther away from that goal?

Anyone who has felt their family relationships suffer or their time slip away amid technology's distractions will find in this book a path forward to reclaiming their life in a world of devices.

January 15, 2021

Tools to Assess Curriculum In Your Local School District

Fri, 15 Jan 2021 15:18:01 GMT

Tools to Assess Curriculum In Your Local School District

Radical sex education programs are one of the greatest assaults on our nation's children. Because these programs are often presented to children without parental consent, identifying and assessing the curriculum used in your child's school district prior to its presentation is important.

Highly explicit content promotes promiscuity to children as healthy and normal. These programs focus on teaching children how to obtain sexual pleasure and ultimately fail to teach children about the emotional, psychological and physical challenges that can occur as a result of sexual activity at a young age. In an attempt to change social "norms," radical sex education takes a "rights-based" approach to sex education.

The following resources will allow you to be prepared to assess the curriculum used in your area:

15 Harmful Elements
The 15 Harmful Elements tool walks through content that has been found in radical curriculum. Each of these 15 harmful elements has the potential of causing long-term negative effects on the health and well-being of children. For that reason, having just one of these elements should be reason enough to disqualify a program from being taught to children.
Harmful Elements Analysis Tool
This tool is designed to help policymakers, school administrators, educators, and other concerned citizens assess, evaluate, and expose harmful elements within comprehensive sexuality education (CSE). The tool includes 15 elements commonly included in CSE programs that have been identified as potentially being the most destructive to children's health and long-term well-being. The analysis is done by taking examples in the form of direct quotes from CSE materials and placing them in the tool according to which of the 15 harmful elements the quote illustrates.

You can find information about the curriculum used in your state and connect with others working to defend children through this interactive map . Protect Child Health Coalition offers many tools for parents looking to fight radical sex education at a grassroots level. Resources include a step-by-step Tsunami Strategy to empower parents as they approach school boards, opt-out forms and more.

January 15, 2021

The Best 2021 Resolution

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 15:14:21 GMT

The Best 2021 Resolution

As the new year quickly approaches, it is time for you to think about changes you want to make for 2021. While most resolutions revolve around self improvement, we want to suggest something different. The best resolution is to make time for God. Even though the year 2020 seemed to make life stand still, many of us still find ourselves busy, prioritizing other things that demand our attention before prioritizing time with God.

Spending time with the Lord in prayer is one of the most fruitful things you can do for the new year. Axis put together several tips to help you and your teen overcome the obstacles of busyness.

Review your schedule. Taking time to review your schedule can help you find ways to spend quality time with God on a regular basis.
Start simple. Habits aren't just hard to break-they're hard to create, too. Start simple by finding how you personally connect with God best. Then make small, simple steps to integrate those ways of connecting with God into your routine.
Stay away from the checklist mentality. Be wary of making time with God just another task to be done. Practice having a heart of gratitude, expressing your true emotions and seeking God in meaningful ways.
Memorize verses. Committing God's Word to memory ensures you are never without encouragement and connection to God.
Pray often. Relationships are often created through conversation and quality time. Keeping a consistent prayer life allows us to connect directly with God and strengthen that connection.
Set an alarm. Try setting a non-negotiable time in your schedule to connect with God. No matter what you're doing or how you're feeling, take some time to pray, read a verse, or do something for Him.

To help your children keep this resolution, ask them how you can support them in this endeavor. Mayb e it's picking out a new devotional or creating a family small group for more accountability. Be sure to foster an open line of communication with your children about faith and their relationships with God so that you can help them answer any questions and deal with struggles.

December 31, 2020

Perceived Gender Roles: 1946-2018

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 15:12:01 GMT

Perceived Gender Roles: 1946-2018

December 31, 2020

A 2019 study published by the American Psychological Association examined the differences in men and women and the way they perceive these roles from 1946 to 2018.

The study classified predominant gender traits into three roles: communal, agentic, and competent.

A communal role means having the ability to handle people, being affectionate, compassionate, generous, honest, outgoing, patient, well-mannered, romantic and sensitive.
An agentic role means having the ability to make decisions and to remain calm in emergencies. The agentic role is also aggressive, ambitious, confident, courageous, decisive, hardworking, independent, possessive, proud, selfish and strong.
A competent role means having the ability to create or invent new things and the willingness to accept new ideas, and being innovative, intelligent, level-headed, logical, organized, smart, and detail-oriented.

Results of the study found that men were more closely associated with agentic roles and women with communal roles. Both men and women shared close association with competent roles. Further, polls indicated that the agentic trait to women held steady over the past seven decades, though their communal and competent traits' perception increased.

These three roles, communal, agentic and competent act in complement to one another. But it is in marital unity that the man and woman virtuously complement each other to provide the best home for children to flourish.

Netflix Best Practices

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 15:07:02 GMT

Netflix Best Practices

2020 has been the year of streaming-the good, bad and ugly. In 2020, Netflix added a couple new parental control settings, but it is still possible for kids to access inappropriate and explicit content.

If you have Netflix, it is very important to learn how to best protect your children while they are on the platform. Protect Young Eyes is hosting this free webinar for parents on best practices for Netflix as a part of their " The Tech Ready Parent" series.

Click here to register for the Netflix Best Practices webinar!

December 31, 2020

Mastercard and Visa Quit Pornhub

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 15:05:30 GMT

Mastercard and Visa Quit Pornhub

After years of being on the National Center on Sexual Exploitation's "Dirty Dozen List", Mastercard and Visa are severing ties with Pornhub . The New York Times recently ran an investigation on Pornhub's relationship with rape and sexual exploitation. Following the public outcry, Mastercard announced that they were no longer processing any purchases for Pornhub and Visa announced that it was indefinitely suspending all of its transactions with the website. Since PayPal cut ties with Pornhub in July 2020, Visa and Mastercard were among the last credit card companies keeping Pornhub in business.

After Mastercard and Visa's announcements, Pornhub announced changes to their platform, including limiting uploads to verified users, prohibiting most downloads and increasing moderation. While Mastercard and Visa's decisions to cut ties with the site are good news, the changes Pornhub is making do little to fix the systemic issues with the site. Pornhub continues to profit off of sexually exploiting women, men and children, while promoting the sin of lust.

As we rejoice knowing that darkness is being brought to light, please join us as we continue to pray and seek the removal of this harmful website.

December 17, 2020

What's Under Your Tree?

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 15:03:46 GMT

What's Under Your Tree?

Do you really know what's under your Christmas tree?

Many parents, with no intention of harm, will gift their children their first laptop, tablet or phone without equipping them with the tools needed to prepare for the online world. Consider these tips as you confidently establish internet safety in your home:

1. Teach and train your children how to identify and avoid harmful content.

Teaching young children age-appropriate internet safety is essential. Encourage your child to come to you should they have questions about any of the content they may come across on their device. If your child wishes to download an app or create a social media account, discuss why they desire to have the app, set up the account together and walk through each of the potential dangers of the app together.

2. Guard your children from seeing or experiencing what they do not know exists.

Investing in an internet safety software like Covenant Eyes is one way to help guard the eyes and ears of your children. This software gives parents a report of the websites their kids visit, the search terms they use, and the YouTube videos they watch. Parents can tailor the filter to their needs and block the Internet completely at certain times in a day. For additional help on setting up filters and parental controls on any device, click here .

3. Discuss healthy boundaries on devices and create a parent-teen phone contract with your child.

Boundaries are essential to creating a healthy and safe environment to enjoy technology. These boundaries will vary by family, but some items to consider would be keeping devices in a common space overnight, or no devices in bedrooms. Click here to download your free, personalizable parent-teen technology contract.

December 17, 2020

Three Gifts of Christmas

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 15:01:41 GMT

Three Gifts of Christmas

December 17, 2020

It's Christmas! But the king and queen have a problem; their precious daughter has become spoiled. With this in mind, they decide that this Christmas will be different. The king and queen choose to give their child only three gifts. Will she choose to share the treasures or hoard them to herself with a selfish heart?

The Three Gifts of Christmas , written for children ages 6-10, provides lifelong lessons wrapped in a fun Christmas tale! The book also includes an audiobook CD. Order your copy by Thursday to guarantee delivery before Christmas!

Age-Appropriate Christmas Activities

Thu, 17 Dec 2020 14:53:54 GMT

Age-Appropriate Christmas Activities

Direct your family back to the true meaning of the Christmas season with these fun, age-appropriate activities to focus on and celebrate Jesus - Emmanuel, God who is with us.

Ages 0-3

Avoid making Christmas a "don't touch holiday" for little ones by giving them fun things they can touch. Move glass ornaments and lights up to higher branches on the Christmas tree and help your child make fun decorations for the bottom.
Sing Christmas carols and read the Christmas story often throughout the month of December.

Ages 4-7

Place the Christmas cards you receive in a basket on the dinner table and take turns drawing one out each night. Pray together for that person or family.
Start a family tradition by picking out a new holiday-themed book to read aloud this month.
Decorate ornaments for the tree with glitter and paint! Allow each child to choose one ornament to mail or deliver to a friend or family member.

Ages 8-12

Decorate cookies and build gingerbread houses together as a family.
Assign each of your children a country to research and report about how that country celebrates Christmas. Encourage interactive elements that involve preparing a traditional treat, song or dance. Pray for the people of that country so that they too might understand the meaning of God's love for everyone and the real meaning of the Christmas season.

Ages 13-18

Plan a creative, COVID-friendly caroling outing as a family. Proclaim the birth of Christ by singing a few songs and reading Scripture passages outside of your local retirement homes, homeless shelters or in your neighborhoods.

All Ages

Focus on the Family offers a free downloadable Advent calendar , allowing families to gather and reflect on the meaning of the season throughout the month. This is also a great resource to read through with family members or friends who you are not able to physically meet with this year. Whether it's a virtual video chat or a phone call, it's not too late to start this tradition and begin reading the daily devotions with your loved ones!

December 17, 2020

Supreme Court Victory for Religious Liberty

Mon, 07 Dec 2020 14:16:52 GMT

Supreme Court Victory for Religious Liberty

Recently, there was a major victory for religious liberty at the US Supreme Court. Earlier this year, after months of total shutdown in the state of New York, Governor Andrew Cuomo began opening his state back up. The problem is that he did so in a discriminatory manner, unevenly applying the law. This meant that while many public spaces were allowed to re-open at a higher capacity, places of worship were subject to much harsher restrictions, virtually halting public worship in New York.

In a 5-4 opinion , the justices barred Governor Cuomo from enforcing his 10-25 person occupancy limits on houses of worship in zones with high COVID-19 infections. This opinion is in total contrast to a similar case in August, Nevada v. Calvary Chapel .

To read more about Catholic Diocese of Brooklyn v. Cuomo, click here .

December 7, 2020

Lust Is Boring: Ask Jason Anything

Mon, 07 Dec 2020 14:15:23 GMT

Lust Is Boring: Ask Jason Anything

You don't want to miss Jason Evert's recent Lust is Boring podcast episode . Listen, or watch the recording above, as Evert answers questions from listeners about the ins and outs of relationships, including:

Why is cohabitation a bad idea?
What to do if the person you like is dating someone else?
How should you deal with gossip?
Is it okay to remain friends with people who pull you down?
How far is too far?
How do you know if you're called to the single life?
What should you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend is pulling away?

Along the way, get great advice from G.K. Chesterton and learn how Blessed Pier Giorgio played pool to win souls for Christ.

December 7, 2020

Government Funding Supports Sex Ed Text Hotline

Mon, 07 Dec 2020 14:11:50 GMT

Government Funding Supports Sex Ed Text Hotline

While many parents teach their children not to talk to or give their phone number to strangers, the state of Virginia is soliciting children for the purpose of responding to a sex education text line.

That's right, there are at least ten states that now offer anonymous advice on sex and reproduction to minors. In some cases, a federal grant, intended for abstinence education, pays for these hotlines. Despite the parameters associated with receiving the federal funding, much of the advice given to teens through the hotline normalizes and even encourages sexual activity.

Read what Victoria Cobb of The Family Foundation of Virginia and other family advocates have to say about this troubling trend here .

December 7, 2020

Impact The Generation of Tomorrow

Mon, 30 Nov 2020 14:10:50 GMT

Impact The Generation of Tomorrow

November 30, 2020

There is no better time than now to inspire virtue and integrity in the lives of young men! At the Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe parents must be equipped to educate their children in matters of sexual integrity.

For this reason, the Abstinence Clearinghouse, in partnership with Alpha Center, will be hosting a Knight to Remember on Saturday, February 27, 2021 at the Holiday Inn in downtown Sioux Falls. The evening will include guest speaker, Restoration Generation Founder Tom Henderson, dessert and live music.

Young men will be encouraged to reject passivity, accept responsibility and lead courageously to the glory of God. Attendees will learn that purity is more than abstaining from sex until marriage. Rather, purity is being aware of what you watch and listen to, as well as keeping your heart and mind free from things that are not Christ-like.

For some individuals, the beauty of grace will be offered for the first time. Young men who may feel as though they cannot escape past wrongs and parents who have experienced marital trials are offered hope and an opportunity for reconciliation. We are all broken, but God in His great mercy redeemed us by His grace (Ephesians 2:4-5). We pray this message is clearly communicated at the Knight to Remember event.

It is our pleasure and privilege to include you in our vision to empower young men to pursue sexual integrity and offer parents the resources needed to have genuine conversations with their children about relationships, setting boundaries, technology and more.

Would you consider impacting the next generation as a Knight to Remember event sponsor? Your gift using the button below is a fast, secure way to allow the next generation to hear the life-changing truth of the Gospel and to be empowered to embrace a virtuous life.

You Have The Power To Inspire Virtue

Fri, 20 Nov 2020 14:08:57 GMT

You Have The Power To Inspire Virtue

November 20, 2020

Pornhub Releases Sex Education Program

Fri, 20 Nov 2020 14:06:59 GMT

Pornhub Releases Sex Education Program

November 20, 2020

With many schools closed as a result of the pandemic, many children are being exempted from the radical sex education indoctrination they would otherwise be subjected to in public schools. To make sure their "education" is still available, Pornhub recently launched "Pornhub Sex Ed" on their platform.

The information under the trailer says, "The series was launched via the Pornhub Sexual Wellness Center, an online resource aiming to provide readers with information and advice regarding sexuality, sexual health and relationships." Pornhub is offering this series for free, no doubt an attempt to lure curious young people into interacting with their monetized content on the site in the future.

This is not the first big push the pornography website has made to control young people's minds during the COVID-19 pandemic. They are advertising their so-called "clean" content, such as sex education, to pull people in and hook them on explicit content.

It is outrageous that anyone should receive information about sex and healthy relationships from a company that profits from the trafficking, abuse and exploitation of human beings. Each woman, man and child featured on Pornhub is being treated as a commodity rather than a masterpiece valued and endowed by our loving Creator.

Check out The Truth About Pornography from Abstinence Clearinghouse, and use code THANKFUL25 for 25% off your purchase.

The Value of Social Science Synthesis

Fri, 20 Nov 2020 14:00:39 GMT

The Value of Social Science Synthesis

November 20, 2020

Recently, Dr. Pat Fagan of the MARRI Research Institute, wrote a blog arguing for the synthesis of social sciences. Cultures have always expressed the centuries-accumulated wisdom of peoples and resulted in a taboo-enforced norms, shaping the thoughts and behaviors of generations. This passed-down wisdom led to the good of families and communities and resulted in functional stability and a flourishing life.

Now, with the degradation of modern society, such insights are no longer culturally transmitted. These insights need deliberate presentation to cause people to develop their moral compass.

This is where well-developed social sciences are helpful. Some will reject the invitation to accept truths, some may look but waver and some will "align with the data" - adopt "the oughts" of the data. Thus, the social sciences, robustly pursued have an important role in man's search for happiness and understanding of himself.

To read more about the necessity of social science synthesis, click here .

Reclaiming the Smart Phone

Fri, 20 Nov 2020 13:56:00 GMT

Reclaiming the Smart Phone

Are you ready to take back control of the smartphone in your life? You don't have to do this alone. Whether it is for yourself, your teen or your entire family, it is vital that you learn to use your devices in a way that honors God and that you teach your children likewise.

This is why Axis created the 3-part video series Reclaiming the Smartphone . This series focuses on the good and bad of smartphones, how to build trust with smartphones and how your family can build healthy habits with your smartphones.

November 20, 2020

Washington State Passes Radical Sex Education

Fri, 13 Nov 2020 13:53:59 GMT

Washington State Passes Radical Sex Education

Last week, voters approved comprehensive sex education (CSE) in the state of Washington. Last March, Washington Governor, Jay Inslee, signed SB-5395 into law, mandating CSE for grades K-12. However, due to tremendous opposition, it ended up on the ballot last week as Referendum-90.

Unfortunately, the referendum promoting sex indoctrination was approved by a 60 - 40 margin on the ballot. Radical sex education starting with kindergartners is now part of the state law. Whitney Holz, a mother of two young boys who also runs Informed Parents of Washington , stated, "We're disappointed at the results but proud of all that we accomplished." Parents will still have the ability to opt their child out of the education, but the dangers remain the same.

At Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe that parents should be the primary sex educators of their children, not the public school system.

To read more about the comprehensive sex education mandate in Washington, click here .

November 13, 2020

Podcast: Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality

Fri, 13 Nov 2020 13:50:27 GMT

Podcast: Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality

We used to say, "If you don't talk to your kids about sex, someone else will." These days, there is no more "if" about it! Whether it's a movie, social media, or a friend at school, you can count on something or someone else talking to your kids about sex. How can you join the conversation?

In a recent Java with Juli podcast episode, Teaching Our Kids a Biblical Worldview of Sexuality , Dr. Juli Slattery sat down with Dr. Sean McDowell to talk about how you can help your kids develop their worldview and think about sexual integrity through a biblical lens.

November 13, 2020

PacSun Partners with Playboy

Fri, 13 Nov 2020 13:49:03 GMT

PacSun Partners with Playboy

November 13, 2020

PacSun is a clothing and lifestyle brand marketed to teenagers based on coastal California culture. In the past, they've partnered with celebrities and popular brands to help market their products toward a younger age group.

Recently, PacSun partnered with Playboy. In October, the franchise released a line of clothing branded with the playboy bunny for young men and women. The pictures used in the campaign all show girls that look to be 14-16 years old wearing playboy clothing. In this partnership, PacSun is targeting young girls by marketing an explicitly sexualized brand at them. Parents should be aware of Playboy's involvement before allowing their teenagers to make any purchases from PacSun and talk to their teens about the ramifications of supporting Playboy in any way.

Parents, Be Vigilant for Grooming in Distance Learning

Thu, 05 Nov 2020 13:46:35 GMT

Parents, Be Vigilant for Grooming in Distance Learning

A member of our team at Abstinence Clearinghouse recently heard a harrowing story of a teacher grooming a high school student for sexual abuse during this pandemic. It all started because of the cover that distance learning over Zoom and Google Classroom provided the teacher. Thankfully, the student's parents were extremely vigilant about their child's safety, recognized the signs of grooming, and were able to report the teacher to the school and the police before sexual exploitation took place.

If this were happening to your child, would you recognize the signs of grooming?

Victim Selection: Children are particularly vulnerable right now because of the ease of access due to distance learning.
Isolating and Controlling: An abuser will often attempt to isolate their victim from family and friends and control their actions.
Building Trust and Keeping Secrets: An abuser will try to gain a victim's trust through special attention and gifts. They will manipulate their victim to keep secrets for them.
Testing Boundaries and Desensitization: An abuser will test the sexual boundaries of a victim and start desensitizing them to their abuse. For example, trying to set up a one-on-one, in-person meeting with a victim during pandemic restrictions.
Normalization: Through the grooming process, the victim will come to think that the behavior of their abuser is totally normal.

If you recognize any of these signs, please reach out and report it to your child's school administration and the police as soon as possible. In addition to being aware of the grooming that may occur online, here are a few distance learning best practice tips for parents, students and teachers.

November 5, 2020

Lust is Boring

Thu, 05 Nov 2020 13:43:17 GMT

Lust is Boring

November 5, 2020

Jason Evert is the bestselling author of more than fifteen books, including The Dating Blueprint and How to Find Your Soulmate Without Losing Your Soul . Jason and his wife, Crystalina, began the Chastity Project to promote purity and the virtue of chastity worldwide.

This year, Jason began a weekly podcast called Lust is Boring where he interviews special guests and delivers straight answers to tough questions submitted by the listeners on dating, singleness, marriage and sexuality.

Whether you are a young adult looking for encouragement on your decision to stay pure or a parent looking for support, we recommend that you include Lust is Boring in your podcast que.

New Feature Protects Children on Instagram & Facebook Messenger

Tue, 03 Nov 2020 19:55:53 GMT

New Feature Protects Children on Instagram & Facebook Messenger

For years Instagram has been the #1 social media platform for child grooming for sexual abuse through direct messages. However, Instagram and Facebook Messenger now allow users to block direct messages, also known as DMs, from those you don't follow.

This is a huge a step towards protecting children online! Protect Young Eyes posted a quick visual tutorial on Instagram that will show how to activate this long overdue feature for your kids.

Before initiating the feature on your child's phone, talk with your child about the direct messages they have received in the past. Have they ever received a direct message from someone they do not follow? Was the message opened? What became of the online interaction? Ongoing conversations about social media use and consumption are essential to your children learning online safety while living in your home.

This new feature is a great advance in protecting children on Instagram and Facebook Messenger and offers an opportunity to reinforce online safety with your children.

November 3, 2020

Love, Service and Relational Success

Tue, 03 Nov 2020 13:39:33 GMT

Love, Service and Relational Success

Dr. Pat Fagan recently wrote an article that examines happiness and relational failure on a global scale. If our world is arguably the most materially prosperous we have ever been, why are our relationships failing more than ever before in history?

While many would regard the phrase grace builds on nature to be a theological statement, Dr. Fagan believes it deserves consideration in the field of social sciences. In relationships, we see so much suffering: STDs, abortion, suicide, abuse, human trafficking and an epidemic of loneliness. Happiness in families seems less and less possible. As a society, we want happiness without the effort needed to get there.

This effort is found in marriage and worship. In marriage, men and women find happiness by serving one another rather than themselves. And in worship, they find happiness by serving God over their own desires. No matter how you look at it, love is the heart of this relational crisis. Dr. Fagan wrote, "With love everyone thrives. Without love everyone wilts. It is as simple as that."

So if grace builds on nature, then relationship solutions cannot be manufactured-they are delivered in relationships: one relationship at a time, each one containing some aspect of love of the person or of God.

To read Dr. Pat Fagan's blog, click here .

November 3, 2020

National WRAP Week

Tue, 03 Nov 2020 13:37:41 GMT

National WRAP Week

The National White Ribbon Against Pornography Week, also known as WRAP week, has historically brought together hundreds of national, state and local groups, along with driven, concerned citizens in a massive effort to educate the public on the harms of pornography and the many resources available to aid those affected.

Several organizations and groups will be hosting webinars, providing resources and wearing white ribbons to raise awareness. You can find additional ways to participate in last week's event activities HERE .

November 3, 2020

Comprehensive Sex Education in Washington

Fri, 16 Oct 2020 19:54:18 GMT

Comprehensive Sex Education in Washington

*Please be advised, the link referenced in this article contains graphic content.

In March, Washington Governor Jay Inslee signed SB-5395 into law, mandating comprehensive sex education (CSE) for grades K-12. At the time of signing, Washington was at the start of a strict, state-wide lockdown, and schools were shut down. This gave concerned parents and educators time to innovatively organize and resist CSE despite the lockdown.

For weeks, parents and volunteers from Washington Parents Rights in Education put on masks, gloves and rain ponchos to run drive-thru petitions in parking lots of businesses and churches across the state. Relying on social media and word-of-mouth, they hoped to collect 139,000 signatures to request that the issue be turned over to the voters in a referendum in the upcoming election. They gathered more than 246,000 verified signatures putting Referendum-90 on the November 3rd ballot.

Jennifer Heine-Withee, organizer of Washington Parents Rights in Education, said, "This is not just a general sex ed. This is grossly inappropriate and highly sexualized content." Parent groups in the state purchased sample curricula approved under SB-5395 and published excerpts and analysis* so that voters can see what the children of Washington would learn in schools. At Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe that parents are the primary sex educators of their children-not the public school system.

To read more about Referendum-90, click here .

October 16, 2020

Texas County Indicts Netflix

Fri, 16 Oct 2020 19:52:34 GMT

Texas County Indicts Netflix

Last week, a grand jury in Texas indicted Netflix on felony charges of promotion of "lewd visual material depicting a child" in the movie Cuties. In Texas, a conviction of this charge carries a jail sentence with it, but because they indicted the company rather than individuals, Netflix would have to pay a fine.

The film features a group of 11-year-old girls doing many sexually explicit actions on camera. Throughout the film, these 11-year-olds dance and move provocatively, wear revealing clothing and even sext. This is all while the camera pans slowly over their bodies.

Netflix has not responded to any media requests for comment. The only comment they've made regarding Cuties came after their original poster was deemed to be "overtly sexual". Netflix tweeted , "We're deeply sorry for the inappropriate artwork that we used for Mignonnes/Cuties. It was not OK, nor was it representative of this French film which won an award at Sundance." And yet, they continue to promote the film and have it available for viewing on their platform.

Use your voice and resources to hold Netflix accountable. If you haven't yet, consider ending your financial support of Netflix's immoral programming by cancelling your Netflix subscription and be sure to let them know why you are unsubscribing. Let's hope that this grand jury in Texas sends a clear message to Netflix that we cannot, and will not, support such despicable and immoral content for ourselves or our children.

To read more about Netflix's indictment, click here .

October 16, 2020

Effects of Early Paternal Involvement

Fri, 16 Oct 2020 19:51:15 GMT

Effects of Early Paternal Involvement

Research has consistently reflected the important role that a father plays in his child's life. A 2016 study using data from the National Center for Education Statistics' Early Childhood Longitudinal Study examined 6,000 children to find out how paternal involvement affected developmental outcomes during the prenatal, perinatal, and infant stages. Researchers found infants whose fathers were absent at the time of their birth had a greater likelihood to develop attention deficit and learning disorders, as well as speech and language disorders in childhood. The importance of

October 16, 2020

Teen Sex Decreases

Thu, 08 Oct 2020 19:50:06 GMT

Teen Sex Decreases

The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) recently released their Youth Risk Behavior Survey (YRBS) for 2019. It found that less than 40% of high school students in America reported having ever had sexual intercourse.

In 2019, 38.4% of high schoolers reported that they had ever had sex, down from 39.5% in 2017, 46% in 2009, and 54% in 1991. This slow but consistent drop in teenager sexual activity has led to decline of more than 15% since 1991. Further, while 38.4% of high school students reported having ever had sex, only 28.7% are currently sexually active.

To read more about this, check out this article from the Institute for Family Studies.

October 8, 2020

Is 2020 a Lost Year?

Thu, 08 Oct 2020 19:48:51 GMT

Is 2020 a Lost Year?

Autumn is often a season of reflection and gratitude for the many blessings of the year. But in this year of uncertainty, some of us may be tempted to look at this year as a lost year. Buzzfeed began running a series of feature stories called "The Lost Year". The stories feature people of different ages and backgrounds who share how the COVID-19 pandemic affected them. But is there really such a thing as a "lost" year?

God places people in an appointed time. As Paul reminded the people of Athens in Acts 17:26-27, "From one man He made all the nations, that they should inhabit the whole earth. And He marked out their appointed times in history and the boundaries of their dwelling place. He did this so that they would seek Him and perhaps reach out for Him and find Him." No matter how discouraging and traumatic the times seem, God has chosen us to inhabit this time so that we might seek Him here and now.

For many, this year feels like it is suspended in time, both flying by and dragging on forever. We've missed out on so much this year, from going to school, sporting events, weddings and, more tragically, funerals of loved ones. We've also seen how the virus has affected everyone as the suicide rates spike and the elderly suffer in isolation. Amidst this "lost year," we must remember: God is not surprised by the coronavirus and nothing is lost to Him.

To listen to a short Breakpoint podcast about this, click here .

October 8, 2020

Three Parenting Mistakes

Thu, 08 Oct 2020 19:47:26 GMT

Three Parenting Mistakes

Dr. Lickona, a developmental psychologist at the State University of New York at Cortland, wrote a blog that outlines what he views as the three most common parenting mistakes.

The first mistake is giving too much while expecting too little of your children. A Time Magazine and CNN poll found that two thirds of American parents think they are spoiling their children. In doing so, parents are unintentionally making their children self-centered and entitled. According to Dr. Lickona, a parent-child relationship should be give and take. Parents can achieve this by giving their children age-appropriate chores that they do with no rewards or payment attached (any allowance should be considered separately). Research finds that kids who have regular chores to contribute to family life develop greater concern for others within and beyond the family.

The second most common mistake parents make is being a friend rather than an authority figure to their children. There are generally three parenting styles: authoritarian (top-down, low on love with little use of reasoning), permissive (high on love but low on authority; kids rule the roost), and authoritative (combines high expectations with the confident exercise of authority) The authoritative parent is warm and utilizes reason to explain expectations to children. They value obedience, but are willing to give their children a fair opportunity to express viewpoints respectfully.

The third common mistake that parents make is not building an intentional family culture. Children's character is shaped by their home culture, and they carry this character into adulthood. According to Dr. Lickona, parents must work to minimize the media-driven, materialistic and hypersexualized influence of the world on their children.

Read Dr. Lickona's blog in Psychology Today to learn more.

October 8, 2020

Justin Bieber's "Holy"

Fri, 02 Oct 2020 19:46:17 GMT

September 23, 2020

A new study from Baylor University found that children whose parents divorce while they are young have lower levels of oxytocin as adults when compared to those whose parents remained married.

Oxytocin is often called the "love hormone" because it allows people to bond with others. Oxytocin plays a critical role in forming attachments in marriage and family. These low oxytocin levels very well could cause these children to have trouble forming attachments later in life.

Child Exploitation on Netflix

Thu, 17 Sep 2020 19:38:26 GMT

Child Exploitation on Netflix

Since Netflix announced the addition of the film Cuties to it's platform in August, they have received substantial backlash. Once the movie became available for streaming, however, the outrage exploded with #CancelNetflix trending number one on Twitter worldwide. The movie has already been banned in Turkey for promoting the exploitation of children.

The film features a group of 11-year-old girls doing many sexually explicit actions on camera. Throughout the film, these 11-year-olds dance and move provocatively, wear revealing clothing, and even sext. This is all while the camera pans over their bodies.

Senator Ted Cruz (R-TX) wrote a letter to Attorney General Barr calling for an investigation of all those involved in the production of this movie. Cruz wrote, "These scenes in and of themselves are harmful. And it is likely that the filming of this movie created even more explicit and abusive scenes, and that pedophiles across the world in the future will manipulate and imitate this film in abusive ways." The normalization of pedophilia has been happening slowly for many years, but now we are seeing its results in real time. For example, it has been widely reported that the Cuties producers auditioned almost 700 young girls for the role--exploiting them in front of casting directors while no one blinked an eye.

Use your voice and resources to hold Netflix accountable. Consider ending your financial support of Netflix's immoral programming by cancelling your Netflix subscription (if you haven't already) and be sure to let them know why you are unsubscribing. A Change.org petition to cancel Netflix subscriptions in response to Cuties has earned over 650,000 signatures. Let's send a clear message to Netflix that we will not support such despicable and immoral content for ourselves or our children.

To read more about Netflix's Cuties, click here .

September 17, 2020

We Wither Without the Most Powerful of Female Power by Dr. Pat Fagan

Thu, 17 Sep 2020 19:36:32 GMT

We Wither Without the Most Powerful of Female Power by Dr. Pat Fagan

"Woman's natural power is so immense that without balance on the male side the human project unravels. For his own sense of worth within the family, the man needs to be the head in a circumscribed set of decision-making areas. The woman has so much power she does not need headship but does need to grant it.

The woman's power commences with the birth of her first child. Though a father can give much, his wife gives more and more fundamentally. When young men die on the battlefield, they call out for their mother. When grown sons call home the natural order is to talk first and longest with mother. Father-son conversations, even in the very best of relationships, tend to be shorter, less relational and more project focused.

Immediately the baby is born, the greatest power of woman comes into play. For her child, she makes the world a good place to be in. She treats her baby so well it is content to be alive and grow. Babies who experience neglect --or worse, abuse - turn away from reality and in upon themselves, sometimes never to emerge again, as with some forms of psychosis. Such is the power of woman for good or ill."

To continue reading this blog from Dr. Pat Fagan, click here .

September 17, 2020

Federal Report Shows Substantial Decrease in Vaping Among Teens

Thu, 17 Sep 2020 19:35:17 GMT

Federal Report Shows Substantial Decrease in Vaping Among Teens

The number of teenagers in the United States choosing to vape has fallen dramatically for the first time in three years. According to a recent federal report , the decline was especially substantial among middle schoolers.

Federal health officials believe public health media campaigns, price increase and sales restrictions deserve credit for the vaping decline. The age limit nationwide for sales is now 21.

In a national survey, just under 20% of high school students and 5% of middle school students said they were recent users of electronic cigarettes and other vaping products. That marks a big decline from a similar survey last year that found about 28% of high school students and 11% of middle school students reporting recent vaping use. The new survey suggests that the number of school kids who vape fell by 1.8 million in a year, from 5.4 million to 3.6 million.

September 17, 2020

Take Care with Chromebooks

Mon, 14 Sep 2020 19:33:09 GMT

Take Care with Chromebooks

Now that the school year is officially in full swing, we are seeing just how different this year is going to be. Technology is much more prevalent, whether students are in the classroom or distance learning. Chromebooks are commonly distributed to students at the beginning of the school year. Since students, as well as parents and teachers, are on them more than ever, it is important to ensure that proper safety measures are taken.

In addition, because of the changes COVID has brought to schools, Google has changed some overarching settings on Chromebooks. This is why Protect Young Eyes created a new, more detailed Chromebooks guide for parents and educators.

To learn about keeping students safe on Chromebooks, check out this guide from Protect Young Eyes.

September 14, 2020

Weddings and Marriage

Mon, 14 Sep 2020 19:31:41 GMT

Weddings and Marriage

This year has been an interesting year to get married. Around the world, couples have been postponing or downsizing their weddings due to COVID concerns and local restrictions.

While it has been stressful and a less than the ideal wedding-planning scenario, it has also shed light on an important truth about weddings and marriage. Much work and effort goes into your wedding, but much more effort goes into your marriage. As important as weddings are, a wedding is a day and a marriage is a lifetime.

As weddings are getting drastically altered by the pandemic, couples are realizing that their wedding was never about the grand party but rather about the covenant of a life together.

To read more, read Rachel del Guidice's blog What I learned from a Coronavirus Wedding.

September 14, 2020

Standing Against TikTok Bullies

Mon, 14 Sep 2020 19:28:42 GMT

Standing Against TikTok Bullies

The cruelty of social media is not something Lizzie Velasquez is unfamiliar with, due to a condition condition she has that prevents her from gaining any weight. Since a YouTube video in 2006 dubbed her "World's Ugliest Woman," Lizzie has been a fearless champion against bullying for all people with disabilities.

Recently, some TikTok users were making rude, unkind comments about Velasquez and others with disabilities. Velasquez chose to speak up for others and herself, sharing her beliefs in human dignity of all. As a Christian, she knows that our human dignity is based on the fact that each and every one of us is created in the image and likeness of God.

To hear more about Lizzie Velasquez's courage to stand for human dignity, read this article from Breakpoint.

September 14, 2020

Lauren Akins and Thomas Rhett on Saving Sex for Marriage

Thu, 03 Sep 2020 19:27:41 GMT

Lauren Akins and Thomas Rhett on Saving Sex for Marriage

In May, Lauren Akins, the wife of country singer Thomas Rhett, released a memoir called Live in Love . In it, she shared about the decision that both she and her husband made to save sex for marriage. She wrote, "We were both virgins. We'd taken our parents' words and our youth leaders' words to heart, and there was something so special about knowing we were starting from the same place as we thought about getting married."

For many, it is very encouraging and refreshing to see someone in the public eye share his or her heart's convictions about sexuality and virtue, especially in a culture that is saturated with utilitarian views of sex. Lauren outright rejects the idea that abstinence is outdated by sharing about how special sex can be when it is saved for marriage.

To read more, check out this article from Axis .

September 3, 2020

Music for Everyone

Thu, 03 Sep 2020 19:26:01 GMT

Music for Everyone

Finding music that the whole family can enjoy is a struggle for many parents, especially when many popular artists create music that does not promote virtue. In fact, a lot of popular music directly promotes immorality rather than reflecting what is good, true and beautiful.

Music is a great way for parents to incorporate faith into every part of their own and their children's lives. Whether you're cooking dinner or doing math homework, parents can play music that will turn hearts toward Christ.

If you're looking for good Christian music for your family, Brett McCracken from The Gospel Coalition suggests checking out Shai Linne, Rend Co Kids, Slugs & Bugs and Colin Buchanan.

To read more of McCracken's music recommendations for your family, click here .

September 3, 2020

Staying Safe at (Virtual) School

Mon, 24 Aug 2020 19:24:40 GMT

Staying Safe at (Virtual) School

COVID-19 is preventing many students around the world from returning to the classroom in-person this year. While this may not be the school year anyone envisioned for their children, it is important to make the most of it by protecting children's well-being.

One important way to protect a child's well-being is to guard their online activity, especially if they will be online for class all day, every day. The National Center on Missing and Exploited Children saw a 93% increase in reports of online enticement of children by predators in the first half of 2020, compared to the first half of 2019.

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) has laid out three steps to protect your kids from online exploitation, especially during this time of virtual learning:

Be Aware. Make it your priority to have awareness of online risks and how to mitigate threats to your child's safety. Know what websites your children visit and all the risks associated with them.
Set Boundaries. Boundaries are essential for online safety. Whether your children are using their own tech or school-issued devices, it is important that you set up appropriate internet filters and parental controls.
Communicate. Having consistent, open communication is key to keeping your children safe during all their online learning, playing and socializing. Kids are more likely to help protect themselves if they understand what they are watching for and know exactly what to do if confronted with something or someone dangerous.

August 24, 2020

Embracing God's Mercies Amidst Uncertainty

Mon, 24 Aug 2020 19:19:56 GMT

Embracing God's Mercies Amidst Uncertainty

As a mother herself, Jen Michel understands the pressure many parents are faced with as they prepare to educate their children from home this fall.

In a recent article , she encourages parents to invite these four concepts into uncertain situations:

Embrace the value of waiting. Michel acknowledges that patience has been the "most necessary virtue" throughout this year. Pointing to 2 Peter 3:9, she writes, "Waiting reveals where we place our hope - either in God's immediate action or in his inviolable promises, which he never fails to keep." This reminds us that even when life isn't good, God still is.
Embrace the curriculum of the everyday. Take the opportunity to renew your resolve to read Scripture as a family and be intentional to disciple your children.
Embrace belonging to the family of God. Recognize the limits of your capacity and share your needs with others. Jen wrote, "This academic year, there's an invitation for Christians and churches to creatively (and safely) shoulder our collective burdens and discover a family bigger than our nuclear one. As Paul reminded the Corinthians, there is no isolated suffering (or celebration) in God's family."
Embrace the ministry of neighboring. "Just as Jesus took on flesh in order to 'neighbor' us, we can be present in our neighborhoods for the good of our cities and for the glory of God."

As we head into fall, your routines and responsibilities may be disrupted. Continue to remind yourself of the mercy that is new each morning, reflecting on the invitation from God: be still and know that I am God ( Psalm 46:10) .

August 24, 2020

Reels: TikTok's Newest Competitor

Mon, 24 Aug 2020 19:16:19 GMT

Reels: TikTok's Newest Competitor

If you're on Instagram, odds are you've noticed a new addition to your feed: Reels . Last week, Instagram released Reels, a new feature that allows users to record and share short videos with added filters, effects and music. Sound familiar? Reels is Instagram's obvious attempt to compete with TikTok.

However, Reels isn't a separate app the way TikTok is. If your child has Instagram, they automatically have Reels. And like TikTok, Reels provides kids with reward-driven dopamine compulsions. Many of the dangers and safety concerns that exist with TikTok still exist with Reels even though it's a different app. If your child is on Instagram, be sure to read Protect Young Eye's Instagram App Review.

August 24, 2020

The Art of Waiting Well

Mon, 24 Aug 2020 19:15:05 GMT

The Art of Waiting Well

Everyone is waiting for something. Whether you are waiting to hear back on a new job opportunity, an injury to heal or a baby to be born, there are things every day that we have to wait for. At Abstinence Clearinghouse, we talk a lot about waiting to have sexual intimacy until marriage. While waiting is often hard or annoying, it is also good; it provides us an opportunity to build virtue.

Jackie Johnson wrote an article giving some advice on learning to wait well:

1. Know on whom you wait. As you wait, learn to trust God. He is good, and He is sovereign over the whole world. "My soul, wait in silence for God only, for my hope is from Him. He only is my rock and my salvation, my stronghold; I shall not be shaken." (Psalm 62:5-6).

2. Wait with hope. While you cannot always choose your circumstances, you can choose your attitude: to fret or have faith. Ask God to help you with your outlook. Only He can do what we cannot do. As you wait, God is building in you strength, courage, fortitude and stamina. "I wait for the LORD, my whole being waits, and in his word I put my hope." (Psalm 130:5).

3. Pray and obey. Waiting is not a time to do nothing. It's the time to pray and to act--to be about the Father's business as He leads you. Share your disappointment and frustrations with the Lord as you pray. Follow His lead. We wait in hope, believing even when we cannot see.

4. Surrender and hold on. Appreciate where you are in the process, even if you are at the start of a new venture. There is hope ahead. Small beginnings can yield large results. Even when we cannot see what God is doing, He is working in amazing ways.

5. Remember what God has done in the past. As you begin to let go of your grasp on things you wish would turn out the way you think they should be, peace comes. Fear subsides as you look back on what God has done in the past with His mighty power and miracles for those in the Bible, for others, and for you. Remind yourself that God has worked, is working, and will continue to be at work in the future.

6. Live in the now. Where is your focus? Are you looking so far into the future that you're dropping the ball on what's happening today? Hope with future eyes, but keep your hands on what you are doing and who you are becoming in the present.

August 24, 2020

Teaching Sexual Integrity and Virtue

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 19:12:41 GMT

Teaching Sexual Integrity and Virtue

Our culture promotes a twisted view of sexuality. We live in a society that attempts to indoctrinate kids from every avenue: TV, social media, music and even public sex education. Our culture is not ashamed to talk about sex; therefore, parents cannot afford to be ashamed to talk about sex.

Parents, here are a few things you can be teaching your children:

Teach your children that sex is not a bad thing, it is a good gift from our good God (Proverbs 5:18-19, Hebrews 13:4). By teaching your children about purity, you teach them that there is nothing bad or shameful about sex in the way that God ordered it, between a husband and his wife in marriage. The goal of purity is not to get rid of your desire for sex, but to strengthen your self-control to resist impure thoughts and actions. Philippians 4:8 says, "Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things."
Model virtue in your own life. How you pursue and model relationships in your own life is a great start to teaching your children about healthy relationships. By modeling virtue, you are providing your children with context for behavior that honors God, each other and yourself.

And of course, be sure to respect your child's latency period. There are ways to instill virtue without destroying your child's innocence with too much information too soon.

August 21, 2020

Preparing Your Child's Device For Fall Learning

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 19:10:05 GMT

Preparing Your Child's Device For Fall Learning

Last fall it was estimated that 40 million students used Google Classroom and 30 million students used Chromebooks for learning. As virtual learning surged during the coronavirus pandemic, so did the use of virtual learning tools. Whether or not your child will be attending school in-person or virtually this year, it is likely that they will be asked to use a Google learning tool.

Google accounts are subject to the rules and regulations of your local school district and cannot always be controlled by in-home filters. Parents, we encourage you to be pro-active in setting parental controls on the devices given to children this fall. If necessary, talk with your school administration about how you can make your child's online learning experience safer.

Protect Young Eyes has created a step-by-step guide for parents and school administrators to ensure the safety of students using technology this fall.

August 21, 2020

It's Time to Talk About TikTok

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 19:04:02 GMT

It's Time to Talk About TikTok

The world renowned video streaming app TikTok has reached 800 million active users worldwide with over 2 billion downloads . Why should parents be conscious of these numbers? TikTok offers users who download the app the ability to search the app without actually setting up an account. This is concerning as the app does not require its audience to state their age.

The app, created for users 13 years of age or older, allows users to scroll the "For You" page, which is similar to the "Discover" page on Snapchat or Instagram. This is where the app features videos they think you'll like, something you as a user or parent cannot disable.

While the app says it's rated for children 13 years old or older, the "For You" page is filled with profanity and explicit sexual content. As a result, TikTok has become a gateway to pornography. Why does the app promote sexually explicit content to minors? Because it is addictive. Sadly, TikTok has decided advertisement dollars and shareholder value are worth more than the safety of children. Furthermore, the endless stream of videos teaches children that girls exist for the viewing pleasure of others. This has led to a wave of self-harm among young women trapped in a game of comparison.

If your child already has TikTok, they have likely been exposed to a great deal of harmful content. A team mentality is needed to navigate a conversation with your child as you look out for their best interests. Plan a time to get out of the house, go out for ice cream, or go on a walk and talk with your child about what they have seen on the app and what deleting the app would mean for them.

Here are a few conversations starters:

How does TikTok make you feel?
How do you feel about the videos you see?
Does spending time on the app cause you to respect other people created in God's image and likeness?
Rather than scrolling an app alone watching everyone else living their lives, what else could you be doing with your time?

Listen to your child with compassion. If you and your child come to the conclusion that deleting the app is the best option (which it undoubtedly is) plan intentional activities to fill that time or help them acquire a new hobby. Encourage them to live an intentional, meaningful life on their terms to the glory of God.

August 21, 2020

Nevada v. Calvary Chapel

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 19:02:38 GMT

Nevada v. Calvary Chapel

Last week, the Supreme Court of the United States (SCOTUS) denied the request of Calvary Church in Nevada that would have blocked the unjust infringement of religious liberty in the state of Nevada. Nevada Governor Steve Sisolak issued an executive order that prohibits religious gatherings of more than 50 worshipers, regardless of the size of the building and the ability to social distance. Even with this limit on religious institutions, according to the order, casinos, gyms, bowling alleys and other public buildings are allowed to maintain 50% capacity.

Nevada is not unique in specifically restricting religious institutions. In May, Minnesota Governor Tim Walz attempted to restrict Minnesota churches to 10 worshipers while other businesses were allowed up to 50% capacity. The Catholic bishops of Minnesota, joined by Lutheran bishops, wrote a letter to the governor to express their dissatisfaction with the policy saying it "unreasonably burdened" the church and prevented churches from meeting the needs of the faithful. Eventually, they came to an agreement with the Walz administration.

This singling out of churches, synagogues and mosques is a blatant violation of the First Amendment guarantee of religious freedom, allowed by SCOTUS. In his 5-4 dissent, Justice Gorsuch wrote, "Large numbers and close quarters are fine in such places [movie theaters and casinos]. But churches, synagogues, and mosques are banned from admitting more than 50 worshippers-no matter how large the building, how distant the individuals, how many wear face masks, no matter the precautions at all. In Nevada, it seems, it is better to be in entertainment than religion. Maybe that is nothing new. But the First Amendment prohibits such obvious discrimination against the exercise of religion."

To read more, check out the article from The Gospel Coalition.

August 21, 2020

Poland Stands for Biblical Marriage

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 19:01:02 GMT

Poland Stands for Biblical Marriage

The European Union (EU) is in the midst of a significant financial recovery from the economic toll of COVID-19. At a recent meeting of the European Commission (EC), some leaders demanded that financial support be withheld from members of the EU that did not conform to certain social policies, such as the legalization of gay marriage and adoption for same-sex couples. This would block billions of euros from many eastern European countries, including Poland.

Roblox conducted a survey of teen users to understand how they are using Roblox to cope with the coronavirus pandemic. They found that 40% of respondents felt like their online friendships had improved and 52% were spending the same or more time with real-life friends via online modalities. The survey also indicated that nearly a third of respondents (30%) reported their parents are showing more interest in their online lives, including learning about and playing Roblox with them.

This pro-active, engaged approach to technology is encouraging and should be normalized as it promotes safe and screen-wise internet use. Ask your child what games they have been playing online. Be sure to ask about who they meet online and ask if you can join them in their next online game.

August 21, 2020

A Win for Religious Liberty

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 18:54:47 GMT

A Win for Religious Liberty

Last week, the Supreme Court of the United States issued a ruling in favor of religious freedom. The Little Sisters of the Poor visited the nation's high court three times in the nearly ten year legal battle, and finally won back their religious freedom in a ruling that states they do not have to provide contraception and birth control if it goes against their religious beliefs.

In 2010, the Obama administration issued the HHS contraceptive mandate, which required employers to provide insurance that included coverage for contraception. This has been upheld in appeals courts for the last seven years. But in a 7-2 vote, the Supreme Court ruled that this was unconstitutional, reversing the appeals court's decision.

Justice Clarence Thomas, who authored the majority opinion, wrote, "For over 150 years, the Little Sisters have engaged in faithful service and sacrifice, motivated by a religious calling to surrender all for the sake of their brother . . . But for the past seven years, they--like many other religious objectors who have participated in the litigation and rulemakings leading up to today's decision--have had to fight for the ability to continue in their noble work without violating their sincerely held religious beliefs."

This is not only a win for the Little Sisters of the Poor, but for all American institutions with religious beliefs.

To read more about this Supreme Court victory, check out this Breakpoint article .

August 21, 2020

Increasing Marital Quality and Physical Health

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 18:53:29 GMT

Increasing Marital Quality and Physical Health

A 2018 study by researchers at the University of Southern California and the University of Virginia looked at gender differences in the evaluation of marital quality. Researchers' findings indicated that women's perceptions of marital quality depend more on expressed emotional support, shared power in relationships, collaborative problem-solving behaviors and her husband's perceived reliability. On the other hand, for men, the behavior that makes the difference in perceived marital quality is "support from their wives."

Further, a 2014 meta-analysis of 126 published empirical articles over the past 50 years investigated the association between marital relationship quality and physical health. Researchers found that greater marital quality led to better health and lower risk of premature mortality.

August 21, 2020

Utah Initiates Label Law

Thu, 20 Aug 2020 18:52:13 GMT

Utah Initiates Label Law

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) recently shared the experience of Utah resident Darby Bailey who discovered her five-year-old nephew had landed on Pornhub's website accidentally, completely on his own. Tucking him into bed, she noticed an iPad he was using was still on. She was shocked to find that, although her nephew could barely read, Pornhub's website was on the screen.

As a result of action by the Utah state legislature in April 2020, Bailey's nephew was only presented with an intimating warning label in orange and black rather than the website's harmful contents. This online label requires individuals in the state of Utah to confirm that they are at least 18 years old and agree that pornography will not be shared with anyone under the age of 18 prior to entering a site presenting pornography.

While this label can be bypassed with a simple check in a box, Bailey's nephew was prevented from entering the site. She took to Twitter to thank the organizations and legislators that made the label law possible.

August 20, 2020

Utah has paved the way in protecting children from harmful material. In 2016, it was the first state to adopt a resolution declaring pornography a public health crisis. Since then, this motivated more than 16 states to adopt similar legislation.

Pornography distributors that ignore the new Warning Labels Amendment can be fined $2,500 per violation. The Amendment also allows the Attorney General or any Utah citizen to sue anyone distributing pornography, including online distributors, for not including a warning about how the material can negatively impact and damage minors.

While the initiative to post a warning prior to entering a site may seem simple, it provides a solution that allows those browsing the web to pause and reflect on the fact that some doors should not be opened. According to NCOSE , the initiative also "introduces the idea that producers should be accountable for the harm that they cause."

A Father's Influence

Thu, 20 Aug 2020 18:49:04 GMT

A Father's Influence

The influence a father has on his daughter cannot be understated. The presence of a good and loving father has been shown to be a primary indicator of lifelong health and happiness for children, especially daughters.

A father must be intentional about influencing his daughter. Dr. James Dobson has laid out seven ways for fathers to carry out this God-given assignment:

Model the strength of authority with love and compassion in the home. While discipline is important for children, harsh discipline tends to weather the sensitive feminine spirit, while lack of discipline and structure from fathers can foster lifelong distrust for men.
Spend quality time together. Dr. Dobson believes it is good to begin "dating" a daughter when she is young. These times together are not intended simply for fun, although that is important. The father can use this time to show his daughter how a man treats a woman with respect. Later, when she is a teenager, she will know what to expect, or insist on, from the boys she dates.
A dad should always look for ways to build his daughter's self-confidence. From a young age, a daughter will be inclined to see herself the way that she thinks her father perceives her: beautiful, smart, kind, etc. A father holds an important key to his daughter's self-acceptance.
Model respect, especially for your wife. A dad must remember that he is being watched closely by his daughter. The way he treats her mother will teach her volumes about how men and women should relate to one another. Blatant disrespect toward his wife will never be missed by the child.
A father should keep the lines of communication open throughout childhood. This allows him to be seen as someone to whom his daughter can turn when she needs advice.
God designed men to be the "providers and protectors" of their families. This promotes a special father-daughter relationship that can last a lifetime.
A father must be the spiritual leader of his family. He needs to make his devotion to Jesus Christ and to the principles in Scripture clear. He should give the highest priority to bringing up his daughters, and his sons, in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.

August 20, 2020

Teaching Children About Independence Day

Thu, 02 Jul 2020 18:46:02 GMT

Teaching Children About Independence Day

As you anticipate hanging your American flag, planning a weekend at the lake and gathering with family and friends for the 4th of July, consider also taking time to tal k with your children about what Independence Day means for Americans.

The 4th of July, or Independence Day, is a federal holiday that celebrates the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776. Ask your children what they know about the history of this special date. Consider discussing why we celebrate freedom and specific characteristics about America's founding principles that are unique or different from other countries.

Here are a few ways you can show patriotism as a family this 4th of July:

Learn a patriotic song.
Share the significance of the stars and stripes on the American Flag and plan an American flag-themed art project.
Visit a local historical site.
Watch a movie or television show like Liberty's Kids that helps your children build context for understanding American history.

In summary, before firing up the BBQ and setting off the fireworks, take time to teach your kids about the 4th of July! It's a moment in time that encourages us to celebrate the United States of America and all that comes with our freedom.

July 2, 2020

Making Good Summer Decisions: Practice SWAP

Thu, 02 Jul 2020 18:43:55 GMT

Making Good Summer Decisions: Practice SWAP

"Instead of letting the summer 'happen,' why not practice Summer With A Purpose (SWAP)?" Tim Elmore asks readers . He suggests approaching the summer months with intention, making a plan for growth, relaxation, learning and laughter.

Here are a few of the ideas Elmore offers parents with children between the ages of 12 and 21:

Determine the quality time you want to have with family. Be intentional to establish how many meals each week you will have as a family, which extracurricular activities are a priority and what your child needs to learn most during the summer months that they might not learn at school.
Help them choose a theme or path. Instead of allowing the summer months to be haphazard, why not plan the path? When you choose a summer theme, it is easier to coordinate goals and family activities.
Depending on the ages and abilities of your children, you can choose a service project to do together or individually.
Prepare for the next school year. As you near August, what if you asked your kids to plan some goals for the next school year? Pick up a sweet treat and discuss them in a park or on a walk.
As you lead your children, help them find balance in their week and find time for sleep and unsupervised activity. Too many activities can intrude on a balanced family life.

While practicing SWAP takes effort and intentionality, planning ahead will help your family establish a routine and will help give your summer meaning! Read more of Elmore's SWAP ideas here .

July 2, 2020

Contraception and Abortion

Fri, 19 Jun 2020 18:41:59 GMT

Contraception and Abortion

A 2018 study from the Guttmacher Institute, a pro-choice research organization, examined the use of contraception by women who had abortions between 2000 and 2014.

Using data from the Abortion Patient Surveys, assessments administered to women who obtained abortions at certain facilities, the researchers found that condoms were the most common contraceptive method used. They also found a significant increase in the proportion of women using long-acting reversible methods of contraception, like an IUD or hormonal implant, in the month they conceived. Furthermore, the estimated number of abortions attributed to these contraceptive users was greater in 2014 than in 2000, with 9,500 abortions in 2014 versus 1,800 abortions in 2000.

Individuals who promote comprehensive sex education and contraception over abstinence education often do so under the guise of reducing abortions. This motive is not backed up by research as researchers have found that more than half of women who had abortions between 2000 and 2014 were using contraception at the time of conception.

June 19, 2020

New to Netflix: 365 Days

Fri, 19 Jun 2020 18:40:45 GMT

New to Netflix: 365 Days

Netflix recently debuted a new explicit movie, 365 Days (rated TV-MA). Since its debut on June 7th, the film has consistently trended as the number one movie on Netflix in the United States. This is incredibly troubling, as the content of the movie is highly demoralizing.

365 Days is an adaption of a Polish book about an abusive relationship. The story follows a young hotel marketing executive as she celebrates her birthday in Italy. While there, she's kidnapped by a member of a Sicilian mafia, and he holds her captive against her will. This man tells her that he's been fixated on her since he saw her once five years prior. Ever since then, he's had one goal: to make her "his own." He gives her 365 days to fall in love with him, and if she doesn't, he'll supposedly set her free.

365 Days romanticizes Stockholm Syndrome and glorifies the toxic relationship between the two main characters. It includes many graphic sex scenes, including rape, sexual assault and physical violence. One viewer of the movie called it, "the closest thing to porn on Netflix" and another observed that 365 Days makes the Fifty Shades franchise "seem tame by comparison." There is nothing worthy or respectable about this movie.

Talk to your older children about the dangers of watching this movie and others like it. Ask if they have friends who have seen it and what their reaction was to the graphic content. Take the opportunity to have an open conversation with your child about how to approach content like this from a biblical context. You may find verses like Philippians 4:8, Psalm 119:9 and Luke 11:34-35 helpful as you communicate with your child.

June 19, 2020

Wisdom for Fathers by Boyd Bailey

Fri, 19 Jun 2020 18:38:16 GMT

Wisdom for Fathers by Boyd Bailey

"Where are the faithful fathers? Where can they be found? They can be found in church, on the little league ball fields, building sandcastles at the beach and on their knees in prayer for their child's future spouse. They camp in the woods, buy ice cream, go shopping, teach the Bible to middle school youth and coach high school athletes. They can be found in stable societies and in cultures that love Christ. Faithful fathers matter.

Faithful fathers are not a fantasy, but a reality rooted in fear of the Lord and care for their children. They are compelled by their heavenly Father to provide a home that nurtures, disciplines, accepts, and loves. "Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord" (Ephesians 6:4). They research and discover creative ways to win over their child's heart for Christ.

Faithful fathers are friends with Jesus. They see Him as a model of unselfish service, generous giving, radical responsibility and the selflessness to put the needs of others before His own needs. "Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves" (Romans 12:10). Dedicated dads find strength to carry on from Christ's affirmation and accolades. They father for the audience of their heavenly Father.

Lastly, faithful fathers lead their children to know, love, and obey their heavenly Father. This is your most vital role as a dad. Children learn from your life how to live, but they need to hear from your lips how to believe. "Consequently, faith comes from hearing the message, and the message is heard through the Word of Christ (Romans 10:17)."

- An excerpt from Wisdom for Fathers by Boyd Bailey

June 19, 2020

A Heavenly Model for Fatherhood

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 18:36:58 GMT

A Heavenly Model for Fatherhood

As Father's Day approaches (June 21...don't forget!), the spotlight is once again on fathers and the vital role that they play in the lives of their children. The loving and steadfast presence of a father or father figure is vital to a healthy and wholesome upbringing of a child. Fathers can find biblical instruction for fatherhood in God the Father.

Here are some eternal truths:

A father is a source. Fathers are an important source of our genetic makeup. God the Father is the ultimate source of all life, including our own.
A father provides. Fathers find joy in giving and serving their families. In Matthew 7:11, Jesus explains this truth, "If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!"
A father corrects. Fathers discipline their children out of love. Fathers correct wrongdoing to form children with virtue. Hebrews 12:6 says, "The Lord disciplines those he loves, and he punishes everyone he accepts as a son."
A father is loving. Fathers are called to love their children. This love is to be a reflection of the eternal, steadfast love that God has for His children.
God is the source of our existence. He provides for us daily and corrects us when we sin. God also loves us unconditionally. When fathers model their own lives after that of the Lord, children's lives are transformed for generations to come.

To read more about God's model for fatherhood, click here .

June 12, 2020

Shifting Online Boundaries for Relationships

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 18:34:32 GMT

Shifting Online Boundaries for Relationships

The 2019 State of Our Unions Report from the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, called iFidelity, found that today's young adults are more likely to cross online boundaries related to sex and romance and likely have lower quality relationships.

The study found that while younger people support and have a strong desire for relationships that are sexually exclusive and faithful, they are less likely to practice sexual fidelity in real life because of "i-infidelities" or unfaithful online behavior such as sexting a previous girlfriend/boyfriend or viewing pornography. Sadly, the boundaries for what people believe to be "infidelity, cheating or unfaithful behavior" are shifting, lowering the standard. However, Americans who report such behaviors online have "markedly less happy, less stable, and less committed relationships than those who do not."

We need to raise the bar on what is expected from relationships. Researchers found that those who keep strong boundaries on their online behavior are much happier in their relationships.

June 12, 2020

Marijuana Use Among Teens

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 18:33:03 GMT

Marijuana Use Among Teens

A recent study, published in the journal Sleep , found that teens who consume marijuana are more likely to suffer from insomnia as adults. "People tend to think that cannabis helps with sleep," said lead author Even Winiger, "but if you look closely at the studies, continued or excessive use is also associated with a lot of sleep deficits."

Researchers found that about one-third of subjects who started using marijuana regularly before age 18 had insomnia in adulthood, compared to less than 20% among those who did not use cannabis regularly as teens. People who started using marijuana after they turned 18 also had slightly higher rates of insomnia in young adulthood. These patterns persisted when controlling for depression, anxiety and shift work (which can all also impair sleep).

The research adds to a growing body of evidence suggesting that while marijuana may help some users fall asleep occasionally, chronic use can have negative long-term consequences, particularly for the younger users.

As you look to engage in conversations with teens about marijuana, consider our spiritual obligations to God and others, legal responsibility and the importance of living with wisdom. In 1 Corinthians 10:23, Paul writes that while all things are lawful, he will not let anything master Him. Our decisions should be made out of reverence for God and a love towards those around us. Some questions you can ask your teens are:

What do you know about marijuana? Do your friends use marijuana, and if so, why? Have you ever been interested in using marijuana?
Why do you think people like to use marijuana?
Why do you think people use marijuana in illegal situations? What does the use say about their view of authority?
What are characteristics of someone who has self-control?
How can we exercise wisdom regarding our physical health?

For additional information on marijuana use in teens, click here .

June 12, 2020

What You Need to Know About Eating Disorders

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 18:30:22 GMT

What You Need to Know About Eating Disorders

Eating disorders are incredibly prevalent, affecting 30 million individuals in the United States each year. Technology, more specifically social media, has attempted to normalize the harm and accelerated the prevalence of eating disorders. A simple search on social media or a Google search of words like "fitness," "fitspo," (fitness inspiration) or "weight loss" can provide an introduction to the world of eating disorders because of the vast online pseudo-communities created to encourage each other in perceived successes and failures.

Here are some words you can keep an eye out for when watching for toxic eating disorder content online.

Meanspo: Short for "mean inspiration", meanspo is just as it sounds- insulting statements meant to shame anyone who is not "thin enough" to inspire them to stop eating, purge and lose weight.
Thinspo : Short for "thin inspiration", thinspo is usually accompanied by a picture or video of someone who is very thin to be seen as a sort of goal to inspire eating disorders.
Pro-Ana: Individuals who identify themselves as pro-anorexia. They encourage themselves and others to pursue an anorexic lifestyle. They don't see anorexia as a problem, they think it's a great thing! Often portrayed by the hashtag #proana (sometimes just #ana) on social media.
Pro-Mia: Similar to Pro-Ana, but Pro-Mia are people who identify themselves as pro-bulimia. They encourage themselves and others to pursue a bulimic lifestyle. Often portrayed by the hashtag #promia (sometimes just #mia) on social media.
Bonespo or Ribspiration: Similar to "mean inspiration", "bone inspiration" often involves photos of dangerously thin people, usually women, with protruding bones, serving as an inspiration for someone to eventually look like that, encouraging viewers in their eating disorders.

As the primary educators of their children, it is essential for parents to have earnest conversations with their children about eating disorders, especially because it affects millions of people every year. Axis made a list of questions and conversation starters to help these conversations.

For more resources and help with eating disorders, visit EatingDisorderHope.com.

June 12, 2020

Adolescent Sexual Activity and Suicide

Fri, 12 Jun 2020 18:25:43 GMT

Adolescent Sexual Activity and Suicide

A 2019 study published in Psychiatry Research Journal took a cross-sectional examination of 116,820 adolescents ages 12 to 15 years old from 38 countries who participated in the Global School-based Student Health Survey. The survey, in part, looked to see if there was any relationship between sexual activity and suicidal behavior in this age group.

The researchers found that adolescents who engaged in sexual intercourse were at an increased risk of attempting suicide. Researchers also found that the greater the number of previous sexual partners an adolescent had, the greater the risk that the individual would attempt suicide. While the study is not able to show any sort of causation relationship, the positive correlation between sexual activity and suicide attempts is reason for concern.

For more information about the benefits of abstinence until marriage, check out The Truth About Abstinence.

June 12, 2020

Raising the Bar During COVID-19

Fri, 22 May 2020 18:24:04 GMT

Raising the Bar During COVID-19

The American College of Physicians (ACP) recently published a resource called Sexual Health in the SARS-CoV-2 Era . The publication outlines the dangerous possibility of contracting COVID-19 when engaging in sexual activity. According to the report, "Abstinence is the lowest-risk approach to sexual health during the pandemic." Despite the admission that abstinence is the safest, healthiest option, the researchers concluded that abstinence was simply "not an achievable goal" in society. Researchers thought it best to direct the public to tips from Planned Parenthood on masturbation, sexting and pornography.

What message is being communicated to young people when the ACP does not think individuals are capable of abstaining from sexual activity? Should we not raise the bar on what we expect people can achieve when it comes to sexual purity? Is pointing people to the false satisfaction provided by pornography, masturbation and sexting really the best option? Pornography desensitizes viewers to the cruelty and mistreatment of human beings and teaches them to see individuals as sexual commodities. This can ultimately lead to lower self-esteem and self-harm.

In this time of crisis, we must send young people a message of empowerment, safety and hope found in sexual abstinence until marriage rather than a message of false satisfaction, risks and despondency. Abstinence is far from an impossible standard. We must continue to raise the bar.

To read more about the dangers of our sexualized culture, check out The Truth About Pornography Booklet.

May 22, 2020

Building Mental Resilience

Fri, 22 May 2020 18:22:04 GMT

Building Mental Resilience

May is Mental Health Awareness Month. The COVID-19 pandemic has resulted in widespread fear, anxiety and stress for people of all ages, especially young people. While these emotions can be overwhelming, they are normal reactions to the present ambiguity, unpredictability and uncertainty. As social distancing continues, it is more important than ever to help others cope with stress and anxiety.

Dr. Krystal Lewis of the Anxiety and Depression Association of America suggests that we remind young people to be "G.R.E.A.T" as they manage mental health.

G - Be grateful.

R - Practice relaxation.

E - Engage in exercise.

A - Acknowledge your feelings.

T - Track thoughts and challenge them.

According to Dr. Lewis, in addition to being G.R.E.A.T, it is important to practice recognizing things that are out of our control. As Christians we are called to surrender all things to Christ because nothing is outside of his perfect sovereignty. If something is causing your child distress, help them make a plan and act on the issue. Regardless of the issue at hand, part of the plan should include them bringing their problem to God. No problem is ever too big or too small for God. He is the ultimate source of renewal and resilience in the midst of crisis.

May 22, 2020

Inspiring a Culture of Commitment

Thu, 14 May 2020 18:20:02 GMT

Inspiring a Culture of Commitment

According to a recent report from the National Center for Health Statistics, marriage has dropped to an all-time recorded low in the United States. The marriage rate in the US fell 6% in 2018, with only 6.5 new unions formed for every 1,000 people.

While many attribute this decline to economic concerns, there are other factors to consider. Bradford Wilcox with the Institute for Family Studies writes, "there was no marked increase in divorce, family instability, or single parenthood at the height of the Great Depression."

One could argue that the most influential factor causing this drop is a cultural shift. Our culture is not supportive of commitment. Instead, our culture values economic prosperity, instant gratification and personal freedom over marriage and the family. For example, while marriage decreased in 2018, cohabitation increased.

We must focus on discouraging the culture of instant gratification and promoting a culture of love and commitment because the choices we make as a society today affect our society tomorrow. Discover how living together before marriage may affect finances, long-term satisfaction, physical and mental health, and future relationships in the booklet The Truth About Living Together Before Marriage.

May 14, 2020

Becoming a Servant Leader

Thu, 14 May 2020 18:17:42 GMT

Becoming a Servant Leader

The body content of your post goes here. To edit this text, click on it and delete this default text and start typing your own or paste your own from a different source.According to John C. Maxwell, a leader is a servant leader if their "focus is on serving others rather than serving themselves or being served by others." This definition of servant leadership mirrors a Gospel-centered approach to service. Christ washed the Apostles' feet at the Last Supper (John 13:5) and told His disciples, "But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many" (Matthew 20:26-28). These passages outline a Biblical approach to leadership.

Mark Cole, CEO of John Maxwell Companies, offers three habits that will help you become a servant leader:

Perform small acts of kindness. Start with those closest to you. Find ways today to do small things that show other people you care. Even the smallest acts of kindness carry tremendous weight in the lives of others.
Learn to walk slowly through the crowd. As you are surrounded by those you lead, take time to talk to each one individually. Spending time with people creates not only the desire to serve them, but the connection and know-how to serve them well.
Move into action. If an attitude of servanthood is conspicuously absent from your life, the best way to change it is to start serving. Feelings will follow footsteps - if you begin serving with your body, your heart will eventually catch up! Then keep at it until your heart desires to serve others well.

Click here to read more from John C. Maxwell and Mark Cole.

May 14, 2020

Motherhood in the Age of COVID-19

Wed, 06 May 2020 18:16:17 GMT

Motherhood in the Age of COVID-19

If your family chooses to participate in the online commencement event on May 15, be prepared to share with your teen a biblical perspective of the wisdom being shared.

Consider using the following questions to start a discussion in your family:

Who are the commencement speakers calling you to emulate?
How should believers view success?
What should drive or motivate us?
Where are the speakers encouraging listeners to place their hope?

Rating Restrictions: This feature allows parents to select the material ratings that a specific user is allowed to view. This means that parents can set up individual accounts for their children, and each child can access any content that their parents deem appropriate for them.
Title Restrictions: Parents can single out specific movies and shows to block.
User Locks: Previously, if a child wanted to get around parental controls, they could easily go into their parent's account rather than their own. This allowed access to all Netflix content, prohibited or not. Now, Netflix allows single users to be locked with a PIN or a password. This means that unless a child has a password, they are unable to access an account other than their own.

While this is an excellent step towards safety from Netflix, parents should remain vigilant for the protection of their children. To read more about the Netflix Parental Controls and how to implement them in your home, click here .

May 5, 2020

Sex Education Programs Under Review

Tue, 05 May 2020 16:43:37 GMT

Sex Education Programs Under Review

Many parents across the country are taking full advantage of time at home with their children during the COVID-19 outbreak. For a number of parents, this time serves as an opportunity to compare personal philosophies and convictions with those being taught within their children's local school district. This ideological assessment is particularly eye-opening as parents begin to take a closer look at the sex education programs being taught locally.

Around the country, many schools are adopting curricula from an organization called Advocates for Youth . Advocates for Youth is a large special interest group that empowers children to become activists who will fight for their "rights" to sexual reproductive health. The group advocates for access to abortion, contraceptives and the pursuit of gender rights and "honest sex education."

The group explicitly expresses that parents have no right to discuss or infringe upon their children's decisions regarding sexual health. As stated on the Advocates for Youth website , "Young people are the experts of their own lives and are most equipped to decide whom they involve." Young people are far from experts on life-altering (or life-ending via abortion) decisions.

At Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe that parents are the primary sex educators of their children. Advocates for Youth holds a worldview that we fight daily. As you enjoy this time at home with your children, take a moment to analyze this toxic worldview and agendas that are possibly being taught within your local school district. Don't pass up this opportunity to share truth with your children.

Interested in starting a conversation about sexual integrity with your children? Our friends at VirTru have made a number of free courses available to you!

May 5, 2020

Using the Language of Kindness

Tue, 05 May 2020 16:41:31 GMT

Using the Language of Kindness

Have you ever wondered what the secret is to raising kind kids? Spoiler alert: It starts with you, parents! According to Dr. Thomas Lickona, "Kindness is a teachable vi rtue, but you have to make it a high priority."

In his book Raising Kind Kids , Lickona looks to come alongside parents as they inspire kindness in the lives of their children. Lickona encourages parents to "use the language of kindness" in the home. This type of language helps convey kindness as an important family value and an expectation.

Here are some examples:

Would you be kind enough to help your sister pick up the family room?
That was a kind thing to do.
Thank you for your kindness.
Can you use kinder words to say that?
How can you settle this in a kind and peaceful way?

In addition to learning the language of kindness, regularly brainstorm ways to practice kindness as a family. Words are a powerful motivator and are foundational in developing moral, virtuous children.

Interested in learning how to hold family meetings, tackle family problems or improve relational dynamics in your home? Check out the book How to Raise Kind Kids today!

May 5, 2020

Teen Vogue Encourages Sexting Amidst Quarantine

Tue, 05 May 2020 16:38:34 GMT

Teen Vogue Encourages Sexting Amidst Quarantine

May 5, 2020

As self-quarantining continues across the nation in the midst of COVID-19, teens are spending even more time using technology. Phones have gone beyond being the primary means of socialization for teens, they are now the only means of socialization for teens.

While there are a number of positive social media campaigns geared towards teens, some companies and social media platforms are taking advantage of the high volume of time spent on technology in negative ways. Recently, Teen Vogue published a story on Snapchat Discover encouraging and educating teens on how to sext as a way to sustain their relationship with a significant other while social distancing.

Not only is their content on Snapchat encouraging teens to exploit themselves by asking them to compromise boundaries, it is also opening the door to emotional and relational harm. Research has linked sexting and sexual coercion in female adolescents. Moreover, it makes teens more susceptible to being exploited via sexual extortion, abuse, and even trafficking.

Have a conversation with your teen about what they have seen on Snapchat and other social media platforms. Have they ever come across questionable content? Have their friends come across questionable content? Based on their feedback, ask your child's opinion on whether they should be using that particular social media platform. It may be time for your family to delete Snapchat.

Divorce Rate Hits a 40-Year Low

Tue, 05 May 2020 16:36:29 GMT

Divorce Rate Hits a 40-Year Low

According to the National Center for Family & Marriage Research, the national divorce rate in the United States dropped to a 40-year low: with 15.7 divorces per 1000 ma rried women.

Geographic analysis of these statistics revealed that, with a few exceptions, the majority of the states in the south were among the highest divorce rates and the majority of the states in the Midwest and Northeast were among the lowest divorce rates. While individual states are still seeing isolated spikes in divorce rates, it is encouraging to see the divorce rate drastically trending downward.

To read the full National Center for Family & Marriage Research article, click here .

May 5, 2020

Zoom Best Practices

Tue, 05 May 2020 16:34:48 GMT

Zoom Best Practices

Video-conferencing apps saw record downloads in the month of March. If you are working from home or if your child is distance-learning, odds are you have downloaded a v ideo conferencing app in the last few weeks. One of the most popular apps is Zoom . Zoom is an incredible tool for staying connected with family, friends, coworkers and teachers. But, as with all innovative technology, there are dangers to be aware of.

Zoombombing is the process by which someone "drops" obscene content in front of others during a Zoom call. This can be blocked if the host has adjusted the file and screen sharing settings correctly. Students and teachers can guard themselves and others by using Zoom Best Practices .

If you are using a video-conferencing app besides Zoom, like Google Hangouts or Houseparty , be sure to read reviews to ensure that you have your security settings to allow for optimal safety.

May 5, 2020

The Importance of Parental Affection

Tue, 05 May 2020 16:32:55 GMT

The Importance of Parental Affection

May 5, 2020

A study from Harvard University examined the relationship between parental warmth and the flourishing of children later in life. Parental warmth was defined as the level of love and affection given from parents to their children. The study found that parental warmth increased the likelihood of adult children flourishing emotionally and psychologically. Children with warm parents were more likely to have greater educational attainment, greater household income, and higher occupational class as adults. The study also found that parental warmth in childhood decreases the risk of drug use, smoking and depression.

The study also examined the effects of a mother's warmth versus a father's warmth. Both are important, but they were found to have different effects on a child's life. A child with a warm mother is specifically less likely to be depressed or smoke, whereas a child with a warm father is less likely to engage in substance abuse as an adult.

To read more from the study, click here .

Family Activities for Self-Quarantine

Wed, 18 Mar 2020 16:31:31 GMT

Family Activities for Self-Quarantine

Social distancing is hard for both parents and children. But this can be a great opportunity for you to spend some time with your family. School-work can only fill up so much time everyday.

Here are some ideas for things to do while your family is self-quarantined:

Go on virtual tours. There are some great virtual experiences that you can have without leaving your home! Check out these free virtual tours of beautiful National Parks and international museums .
Reach out. Call, text, video chat and write cards to your friends and extended family. Focus on those who are most isolated and vulnerable to the coronavirus.
Exercise. Get outside and go for a walk. Stay healthy and soak up some vitamin D.
Develop skills. Since you and your kids have the time, teach them life skills like cooking, baking, laundry, etc .
Take on home projects. Is there a room that you've been thinking of painting for a long time? Now is the time for you and your kids to tackle fun projects together!
Deliver groceries to the elderly. The elderly are the most vulnerable at this time and should not be going to the store, even for necessities. Serve them by delivering necessities directly to their doors while maintaining safe distance.
Make butter . Making homemade butter in a mason jar is a great and rewarding way to entertain kids.
Pray . Prayer is powerful. God speaks hope into even the darkest of situations. Take the time to pray together as a family. We read in Matthew 18:20, "For where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them." Read Scripture and go on prayer walks as a family. Let God sustain you.

March 18, 2020

Talking to Young People About Coronavirus

Wed, 18 Mar 2020 16:28:52 GMT

Talking to Young People About Coronavirus

This is a difficult time in our world. With COVID-19 impacting all corners of the globe, uncertainty is everywhere. While the virus seems to have the smallest infection rate in young people, they are certainly experiencing its effects at maximum rates. From cancelled school, graduation ceremonies, sports, church and social events, young people are facing the unknown in a way they never have before. Change is never easy, especially when it is unprecedented.

We are called to lead with wisdom and faith, not fear. How can we help young people cope with the anxiety brought on by this epidemic?

Communicate clearly and precisely. Don't downplay the struggles young people are facing in light of coronavirus. Listen with an intent to understand their thoughts and feelings regarding the impact the virus is having on them. Engage in conversation with compassion and understanding.
Establish a new normal. Routine is important. Have a discussion with your child about reasonable expectations during this time of transition. Work to hold each other accountable. Be gracious towards others as everyone is learning how to deal with this situation.
Talk about the important things. In a time when school and activities are cancelled and social distancing blocks young people from the community of their friends, use this opportunity to talk about the importance of faith and family.
Talk about the eternal things. This virus reminds us just how fragile we are as humans. It is easy to think that we are in control of our lives, yet we are finite beings. As believers we are not without hope. God is still sovereign. He is not blindsided and He is not helpless. Our identity is found in Christ, and because of that we know that whatever happens in this world, our treasure lies in the next. God is still on His throne, even in the face of a pandemic.

For more advice on how to lead students well in the midst of COVID-19, read Tim Elmore's Growing Leaders article .

March 18, 2020

New to Netflix: Sex, Explained

Thu, 12 Mar 2020 16:26:27 GMT

New to Netflix: Sex, Explained

In 2018, Netflix teamed up with Vox to produce Explained, a documentary web television series that attempted to explain different issues in an intelligent yet entertaining way. This show is controversial at best, but their 2020 spin-off takes things too far.

Sex, Explained is Netflix's new addition to the Explained series. Narrated by Janelle Monáe, the episode titles range from sexual fantasies and attraction to birth control. Netflix has always been good at enticing young viewers to be exposed to content centered on teen prostitution, pornography, hook-up culture and more. The clickbait title of the series is overstepping boundaries.

The authority of parents as the primary educators of their children must be respected. Young people need to learn about God's beautiful gift of sexuality from their parents, not Netflix. Communicating God's design for development and sexual intimacy within the context of marriage needs to be expressed by parents. Likewise, the lies and misuse of God's intended plan for sex need to be discussed in the home.

Not sure where to begin these conversations? Developing a relationship with your teenager that encourages open conversations and gives your child the opportunity to feel heard and understood is a step towards routine dialogue to discuss difficult topics. Even if your past reflects poor choices, you can still speak truth in the lives of your children and grandchildren. Consider the following tips from the book Abstinence 101 :

Treat sex education as a process. Educating children about sexual integrity is not a one-time lesson but an ongoing process.
Be honest. Many young people are looking for honest answers about what to do on dates, how to interact with the opposite sex and how premarital sex can affect their future.
Be a loving guide, not "just a friend." Parents need to be a mature voice of wisdom in their children's lives.

In addition to regular conversations and discussions, setting parental controls on Netflix can help filter out negative content from your family's streaming options.

March 12, 2020

The Story of St. Patrick

Thu, 12 Mar 2020 16:23:43 GMT

The Story of St. Patrick

St. Patrick was not a believer when he was kidnapped from Britain and brought back to Ireland as a 16 year old. In the midst of suffering as a slave for six years, St. Patrick began to believe and pray. St. Patrick trusted God would be faithful to sustain him in trial. After years of hardship, St. Patrick was given an opportunity to escape slavery. God delivered him and he was reunited with his family and friends in Britain.

Once in Britain, God called St. Patrick to preach the Gospel to those who had never heard it before. St. Patrick was being drawn back to Ireland, the very place he had been held captive for so many years of his life. St. Patrick was obedient and studied biblical teachings in order to show his once kidnappers Christ's love and forgiveness.

Many were not receptive to the Gospel and St. Patrick was persecuted. The Celtic people, who worshiped pagan gods, were threatened by the Christian teaching that St. Patrick shared. Christianity went directly against the their ancient traditions, including human sacrifice. Despite persecution, St. Patrick persisted in spreading the Gospel. Soon, there were churches and believers all over Ireland.

Here are a few ways you can intentionally celebrate St. Patrick's Day with your family:

Share the story of St. Patrick with your family and friends. Allow the life of St. Patrick to encourage you to be intentional with relationships, seek forgiveness, and live in obedience to the glory of God.
Read the prayer of St. Patrick. Consider how the prayer applies to your life. Do you know anyone who has not heard the message of Christ? What are you willing to sacrifice so that they might know and understand the saving grace offered in God's Word?
Be green! Green represents new life and the lush, rolling hills of Ireland. Wearing green will also help you avoid being pinched!

March 12, 2020

2020 Dirty Dozen: Amazon

Thu, 20 Feb 2020 16:19:54 GMT

2020 Dirty Dozen: Amazon

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) announced that Amazon is on the 2020 Dirty Dozen List , a list of mainstream companies that are major facilitators of sexual exploitation in the United States.

This is the fifth consecutive year that Amazon has been on the Dirty Dozen List. Amazon is extraordinarily powerful in the world of sales. It is an international provider of e-commerce, logistics, data storage and media. Unfortunately, it also provides a space for sexual exploitation.

"As an online retailer, Amazon is in the business of selling incest-themed pornography, sex dolls, photography books with eroticized child nudity, pornographic magazines, and more," NCOSE released in a statement. Moreover, Amazon's media platform, Prime Video, features unnecessary and graphic sex scenes and unreliable parental controls. And Amazon's web services are a host to thousands of violent hardcore pornography and prostitution websites.

Amazon's actions are not acceptable. To learn more and take action, click here .

February 20, 2020

What is Hoop?

Thu, 20 Feb 2020 16:17:41 GMT

What is Hoop?

A new app called Hoop , has made its way to the top of the App Store Social Media charts. It does not take long for one to realize that the app is Tinder for teenagers.

Users are shown a profile and are able to swipe left or right based on physical appearance. If both users swipe right, the users each receive one another's Snapchat information. While no information is shared outside of Snapchat usernames, one can only imagine the implications of the information exchanged through the app.

Not only does Hoop encourage the use of Snapchat (which can be harmful ), the app facilitates predatory behavior and cyber-abuse against young teens. Hoop is not alone. Yubo (formerly known as Yellow), is practically the same app. Known as "Tinder for Teens", Yubo is a "hookup" app for teens. Yubo is also known to have high predatory and privacy risks.

Ask your child if they've heard of Yubo or Hoop. If they are familiar with either of the apps, ask if they've used it or know a friend who has used them. Whether or not your child has used Yubo or Hoop, talk about why others chose to use them and if your child feels it's safe.

Knowing what is on your child's device and engaging in regular conversations about the apps and accounts they use is essential. As you pursue conversations about technology with your child, act as a team. Determine which apps should and should not be used together. Allow them to take part in the discussion knowing that in a few years they will need the tools to assess technology on their own.

February 20, 2020

2020 Dirty Dozen List

Tue, 18 Feb 2020 16:14:13 GMT

2020 Dirty Dozen List

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) has announced the 2020 Dirty Dozen List , a list of mainstream companies that are major facilitators of sexual exploitation in the United States.

The Dirty Dozen List is an influential tool that has led to over 50 policy changes within major corporations. The campaign calls upon individuals across the nation to participate in online petitions and share social media messages in order to end sexual exploitation and raise awareness throughout the year.

"In today's world, corporations drive our culture," NCOSE states on the organizations website . "They influence how people communicate, how they dress, and what information they receive. When a company makes a positive change to stop promoting sexploitation (sexual exploitation), it has a ripple effect that influences countless lives."

The 2020 Dirty Dozen List includes Amazon, Google, TikTok, Twitter, Massage Envy and more. Learn how you can advocate to end sexual exploitation and view the full Dirty Dozen List HERE .

February 18, 2020

2020 Guide to Gen Z Slang

Tue, 18 Feb 2020 16:12:22 GMT

2020 Guide to Gen Z Slang

Are you ever confused by something your teen says? Does it feel like you're missing some important piece of information or reference? You are not alone. Many parents, teachers and adults feel lost in the world of teen lingo.

This is why Axis compiled a quick glossary of terms commonly used by teens to help you understand what is being said and identify any potentially dangerous ideas being communicated so that you can address them.

While "And I oop" and "sksksksksk," are totally harmless (also indicators of a VSCO girl ), you will want to watch out for "KMS", "thirsty" and "smash".

To read the rest of Axis' 2020 Teen Slang Glossary, click here .

February 18, 2020

Being a Safe Source for Conversation

Mon, 03 Feb 2020 16:10:24 GMT

Being a Safe Source for Conversation

Setting a precedent for how you respond to a teen's shortcomings and questions is an important indicator of how a teen can expect you to respond to future shortcomings and questions. Your teen will be more apt to see you as a safe source when you show that you care to listen and attempt to understand their world. How do you respond when your child makes a mistake and you desire to create a safe space for conversation in your home?

Take Your Time:

Give yourself time to think about how you want to respond to your teen's shortcoming. Delay the punishment. This has a two-fold advantage for you. Not only will this give you time to stop and think of a good response, but the delay in punishment acts as a punishment in itself. Your teen will have a hard time waiting. For example, respond by saying, "I'm sorry to hear you did not put your phone on the counter last night before bed. Please put it on the kitchen counter before you go do your homework and we will talk about it later."

Listen:

Sit down and ask your child to tell you their side of the story. Show your child that you are willing to hear them out, that you want to listen and understand. You may gain information that will change how you respond to the situation. More importantly, you are giving your child the opportunity to feel heard and understood.

Keep Boundaries Consistent:

Boundaries offer security. Stand firm in the boundaries that you have put in place for your child. Do not feel like setting boundaries and rules will cause your child to not talk to you about controversial or embarrassing topics. Having expectations to live by offers security and autonomy because they know what is expected of them to be successful.

Utilizing these three tips when responding to your child's mistakes will help to create a safe space for future conversations.

February 3, 2020

Is Your Child Ready for Social Media?

Fri, 13 Dec 2019 16:09:10 GMT

Is Your Child Ready for Social Media?

Age should not be the single determining factor in your child having personal social media accounts. The right question should be closer to "based on everything I know about my child, do I believe he or she is ready to handle the pressures, emotions and unpredictable nature of using social media responsibly?"

In order to answer that question well, it requires you to truly know your child, study your child and analyze the behaviors of your child. It requires parents to be observant, engaged and informed.

Here are six questions Protect Young Eyes encourages parents to consider:

What are your child's friendships and social skills like?
If friendships in real life have any level of drama or tension, those relationships will ignite on social media. Social media can be like gasoline on the fire of cruel behavior. Furthermore, can your child carry on a meaningful, face-to-face conversation with an adult who is not their parent? If not, then they are likely not ready for social media. Your child should be able to order their own food at restaurants, shake hands, look people in the eye and speak confidently to adults. Allow them to master face-to-face interactions long before they are tested through a screen.
How well does your child obey rules?
Is there a level of deception or defiance in your child? Does your child lie regularly? If yes, then they are not ready for social media.
Does your child have a strong heart?
Is your child confident and secure in their identity? The ability to overcome the temptation to compare is a necessity on social media, especially for young people. If your child cannot name three positive qualities about themselves, they are not ready for social media.
Is your child trustworthy?
Is your son or daughter able to be home alone for an extended period of time without contact from you? If your child is not able to handle two hours alone in the real world, then he or she likely cannot handle a few minutes alone in the social media world.
Is your child at least 13 years old?
Children who begin using social media before age 13 are beginning their journey into social media by lying about their age. Children must be 13 years old to legally activate a personal social media account.
Have you had direct and frequent conversations about social media?
Discussing sexting, pornography and sexual predators is a must before allowing your child to engage on social media. Before using social media, your child needs to know what sexting, pornography and sexual predators are and what to do when confronted by situations that involve them.Go through every possib le "what if?" scenario and ask yourself the following questions: Have we talked about that? Does my child know what to do when they see pornography? Can my child recognize the signs of a sexual predator and be confident in knowing what to do if they are approached online?

At the end of the day, it is important to recognize that each child is different and will reach a level of maturity and preparedness at different times. Open communication and continued discussion once your child has their own social media account is essential to your child's online safety.

December 13, 2019

Creating a Family Media Plan This Holiday Season

Fri, 13 Dec 2019 16:05:33 GMT

Creating a Family Media Plan This Holiday Season

In a world where children are "growing up digital," it's important to help them learn healthy concepts of digital use and citizenship. Parents play an important role in teaching these skills. Here are a few tips from the American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) to help families manage the ever-changing digital landscape:

Set screen time limits and encourage playtime.
Screen time shouldn't be alone time.
Be a good role model.
Limit digital media for your youngest family members.
Create tech-free zones.
Don't use technology as an emotional pacifier.

Finally, AAP suggests creating a Family Media Plan that is specific to your family. According to the AAP, "Media should work for you and within your family values and parenting style. When used thoughtfully and appropriately, media can enhance daily life. But when used inappropriately or without thought, media can displace many important activities such as face-to-face interaction, family-time, outdoor-play, exercise, unplugged downtime and sleep."

As you anticipate your children being home for an extended winter break, consider taking time to establish a Family Media Plan together.

December 13, 2019

Kally's Story

Wed, 20 Nov 2019 15:47:33 GMT

Kally's Story

I was involved in an abusive relationship when I found out I was expecting. I ended things to protect myself and my baby. I agonized about being a single parent and realized I wanted my child to have more than the life I could give her by myself. It was heart-wrenching, but I decided to choose a family and place my baby in an open adoption. On November 21, 2018, I had a baby girl and put her into the arms of a couple who loved her as much as I do.

I am so blessed that my friend told me about the local pregnancy center. I know I wouldn’t be where I am today without all their support. My mentor, Courtney, has not just given me guidance and encouragement, she has given me unconditional friendship and led me into a closer relationship with God.

I don’t know exactly what the Lord has planned for my life, but I have a feeling it is going to be wonderful because His plans are amazing. I have hopes of someday mentoring another young woman who comes to the pregnancy center looking for the kind of care and reassurance I found.

I also have a new admiration for all mothers and the love they have for their children. I may not see my daughter every day, but I will always be her mother. My daughter has two mothers…how cool is that?!

November 20, 2019

Instagram Tool to Combat Cyber-Bullying

Thu, 14 Nov 2019 15:45:29 GMT

Instagram Tool to Combat Cyber-Bullying

With over 500 million active users, Instagram is one of the most popular apps for teens and young adults. And now, Instagram is making it easier to keep those teens and young adults safe.

Recently, Instagram introduced the new "Restrict" tool. This tool allows a user to limit another user's interactions with them. When you restrict someone, they can comment on your post but their comment will only be visible to the restricted account. Unlike a block, the restricted person will have no idea that their content is being limited. Further, if someone you have restricted attempts to DM (direct message) you, you will not receive a notification and the message will only show up in your message requests.

This tool is a strong start to Instagram's initiative to fight bullying and harassment on the platform.

To read more about Instagram's new tool, click here .

November 14, 2019

What is the YouTube Kids App?

Thu, 14 Nov 2019 15:44:22 GMT

What is the YouTube Kids App?

YouTube, a company owned by Google, launched the toddler-oriented video streaming app YouTube Kids in 2015. With over 70 billion video views since its release, the app's popularity is extraordinary and calls us to look at the safety measures available to young users.

The designers of YouTube Kids describe the app as a "safer" experience than the regular YouTube video-sharing service as it is created specifically for kids. According to YouTube Kids' description in the app store, the app allows "for finding Peppa Pig episodes or watching user-generated videos of people unboxing toys, role playing their favorite cartoon characters or teaching kids how to dance."

According to Goggle, "videos available in the app are determined by a mix of algorithmic filtering, user input and human review." It is believed that the filtering system in place will filter out inappropriate content; however, this is not always the case.

In answer to concern about the available content, YouTube Kids created a number of opt-in parent controls and settings. These settings however, are not automatic. Parents must explicitly turn on the various safety settings within each child's profile in YouTube Kids' settings. An article by Protect Young Eyes , walks parents through the process of setting up parental controls on YouTube Kids.

Regardless of whether or not these controls are set by parents, it is important to recognize that the content displayed is based on algorithmic filtering and human review. Viewing video content alongside children is the most effective way to monitor what your children are watching.

November 14, 2019

CDC Finds Common Link in Vaping Deaths

Thu, 14 Nov 2019 15:43:17 GMT

CDC Finds Common Link in Vaping Deaths

Recently, the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) released an early report underlining the discovery of a commonality in the deaths caused by vaping-related illnesses. Lung samples taken from 29 patients found that every sample contained vitamin E acetate.

While vitamin E acetate is found most commonly in THC-containing products, it is not exclusively in THC products. THC is the agent in marijuana that causes a high. The CDC report states that vitamin E acetate "might be used as an additive in the production of e-cigarette, or vaping products; it also can be used as a thickening agent in THC products."

The CDC cautioned that more work still needs to be done to definitively prove that vitamin E acetate is the cause of vaping related deaths.

November 14, 2019

Talking to Your Children About Pornography

Thu, 24 Oct 2019 15:41:48 GMT

Talking to Your Children About Pornography

Having an ongoing conversation with your children about pornography is the best way for you to help them reject pornography. It is important to have these conversations early and often.

There are three questions parents commonly have about talking to their children regarding the dangers of pornography: when should I have the conversation, how often should we have the conversation and what should I say to my child.

Covenant Eyes wrote a guide for parents, answering these three questions:

When should I talk to my child about pornography? While you don't want to interrupt the latency period , you also want to speak with your child before their first exposure to pornography, which is happening at an earlier and earlier age thanks to the accessibility of the internet.

How often should I discuss pornography with my child? Your child trains several times a year on how to react to a fire at school. Similarly, you should discuss pornography several times a year so that they know how to react when they encounter it.

What do I say? There is no age formula and each of your children is different. Conversations about sex and development are not "one size fits all." Honor each of your children, recognizing that some may be further along than others in their emotional development. When you believe the time is right, define pornography in an age appropriate way, discuss why it is harmful, teach your child how to react, and talk about where and when they may be confronted with pornography. The biggest thing is that you are prepared for conversations when questions and opportunities arise.

For additional ideas on how you can start a conversation with your child, check out the parent's guide created by Covenant Eyes.

October 24, 2019

WRAP Week 2019

Thu, 24 Oct 2019 15:39:53 GMT

WRAP Week 2019

Start the conversation about pornography - White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) starts Sunday, October 27.

WRAP Week has historically brought together hundreds of national, state and local groups, along with driven concerned citizens in a massive effort to educate the public on the harms of pornography and the many resources available to aid those affected.

Several organizations and groups will be hosting webinars, providing resources, and wearing white ribbons to raise awareness. You can find additional ways to participate throughout the week HERE .

October 24, 2019

Delivered

Thu, 24 Oct 2019 15:37:39 GMT

Delivered

The following is an excerpt from the forward, written by Jason Evert, of the book Delivered .

While pornography--and all sin, for that matter--leads to isolation, love draws us toward union. In fact, the virtue of purity draws us to a deeper union with those in the pornographic industry than sin could ever offer. Pure love beckons us to unite ourselves to them through prayer, fasting, and other forms of intercession and activism in order to love them as they may never have been loved before. Their inherent beauty as persons is asking for response in us!

Therefore, through the grace of God, every temptation can be transformed into an act of intercession. Every time we resist the allure of a model in an internet pop-up ad, we ought to turn our hearts immediately to heaven, besieging God with prayers for a person's conversion. By doing this, we're responding to beauty with love.

Delivered is a book filled with the true stories of men and women who turned from pornography to purity. To order Delivered, click here .

October 24, 2019

Family Fun in the Fall

Fri, 11 Oct 2019 15:36:03 GMT

Family Fun in the Fall

The falling leaves have begun and so has the season of gratitude. This autumn, celebrate your thankfulness by spending quality time with your family and friends. Family outings can be a great time to invite your kids' friends and use it as an opportunity to get to know them better. Especially if your teenager has friends of the opposite gender, these fall activities can give them an opportunity to hang out in a group setting. Here are some ideas on how you can have fun with your family and friends this fall:

Go apple picking. Have a contest to see who can find the shiniest apple.
Get lost in a corn maze (but not too lost!).
Enjoy the last of a local farmer's market.
Mow a little football field into your yard and have a touch-football game.
Hike on a trail to see the changing leaves.
Plant flower bulbs in your garden--you'll appreciate it next spring.
Tailgate at a high school football game.
Participate in a local fun-run.
Go to a pumpkin patch and carve your pumpkins together afterwards.
Collect the most colorful leaves to use in a fun craft.
Bake the best apple pie.
Offer to rake an elderly neighbor's yard.
Make spiced apple cider to warm up on a chilly day.
Have a family bonfire with a s'mores buffet.

Download this Fall Bucket List for more ideas! We challenge you to pick at least five activites and share your favorite memory with us after!

October 11, 2019

Forgiveness of Brandt Jean

Fri, 11 Oct 2019 15:34:23 GMT

Forgiveness of Brandt Jean

October 11, 2019

This viral moment stunned everyone who watched it. Many have been closely following the case of Botham Jean. Amber Guyger, a former Dallas police officer, shot Botham Jean in September 2018 after mistaking his apartment for her own and thinking he was an intruder. After her sentencing to 10 years in prison, Botham Jean's brother, Brandt, took the stand to speak. Brandt forgave her outright and encouraged her to give her life to Christ. He then requested to give Amber a hug, and as they embraced you can hear sobs in the courtroom.

To watch the viral exchange, click here .

Planned Parenthood On Your Screen

Fri, 04 Oct 2019 15:33:33 GMT

Planned Parenthood On Your Screen

Abortion is becoming normalized in our culture. It is featured on movies and TV shows, presented as a safe and normal medical procedure that is "really not a big deal at all". And while we know this is not true, it is still discouraging to see this false message broadcast on prominent media platforms.

Planned Parenthood plays a direct role in the normalization of abortion. Caren Spruch is Planned Parenthood's Director of Arts and Entertainment. According to MovieGuide , "Her primary job is to convince filmmakers to dissimulate about the reality of abortion and present murder as a casual procedure with no long-term consequences."

Spruch's main goal is to collaborate with TV shows and films on storylines about sex education, birth control and abortion. She told Refinery 29 that Planned Parenthood had consulted on TV shows like Netflix's GLOW, Jane the Virgin, Parenthood, Crazy Ex-Girlfriend, and Girls. She also said that they collaborated on several films.

Thu, 22 Aug 2019 15:29:10 GMT

Planned Parenthood Says 'No" to Title X

On Monday, Planned Parenthood announced they would no longer be receiving federal funding from the Title X program. This came after the Trump administration implemented a new rule stating that any clinic receiving funding from the Title X program cannot refer women to an abortion provider. Planned Parenthood previously received $60 million annually from the program. Several states have sued, thus far unsuccessfully, against this new rule. Planned Parenthood has made it known: abortion is more valuable to their organization than $60 million in federal funding.

Click here to read more about the new Title X rule.

August 22, 2019

Students and Sleep

Thu, 22 Aug 2019 15:28:08 GMT

Students and Sleep

Now that school is back in session, the days of staying up late and sleeping until noon are over. It is time to get back into a routine. This includes a healthy sleep schedule.

According the the Centers for Disease Control , 57.8% of middle school students and 72.7% of high school students are not getting enough sleep on school nights. Students with sleep deficiency are at a higher risk for certain health problems such as obesity, diabetes and poor mental health. They are also more likely to have attention and behavior problems.

The American Academy of Sleep recommends that children ages 6-12 get 9-12 hours of sleep every night and that children ages 13-18 get 8-10 hours of sleep every night.

Between family time, homework and activities, this may seem unattainable. But the most important thing that you can do to encourage healthy sleep in your child is to model healthy sleep habits yourself. For example, try to stick to a regular sleep schedule and limit technology use before bedtime.

For more information on healthy sleep, click here .

August 22, 2019

The Importance of Family Dinners

Thu, 22 Aug 2019 15:26:02 GMT

The Importance of Family Dinners

Life is about to get busy. Evenings filled with homework and activities are just beginning. It can be hectic. In this chaos, it is important for families to take a break from the business and share a meal together. According to Dr. Anne Fishel , family dinners are nourishing to a child's mind, body and spirit.

Research has shown that young children who routinely share family dinner have stronger, more diverse vocabularies than those who do not. Research has also found that nightly family dinners are a strong indicator for high academic performance in older children. Family dinner is also associated with lower rates of depression and suicide, smoking, binge drinking, marijuana use, violence, school problems, eating disorders and sexual activity. However, all these benefits go out the window if the TV is on during family dinner or if everyone is eating at different times throughout the night.

To read more about the value of family dinners, click here .

August 22, 2019

Letting Go of FOMO

Wed, 21 Aug 2019 15:24:09 GMT

Letting Go of FOMO

When you start college, the "fear of missing out,"--or FOMO--is real. For the first time in college students' lives they are living independently of their parents. And with this independence, comes a multitude of options. There is always something going on. Young people worry, "Am I missing out?"

In his article for Moral Revolution, Cole Zick tackles this question. When all your peers are sexually active and it seems like they are having a great time, FOMO might make you ask, "Am I missing out by remaining abstinent until marriage?"

Check out his article on FOMO here .

August 21, 2019

Campus Safety

Wed, 21 Aug 2019 15:22:43 GMT

Campus Safety

Concern for the safety of college students has grown in light of numerous incidents and tragedies on college campuses. Ideally, a three-way partnership will do a great deal of good in ensuring the safety of college students: parents need to talk to their student about safety, students need to exercise awareness and behave responsibly, and colleges need to take precautions to keep students safe.

Here are a few safety tips for students transitioning into college:

Be aware of lighting on the campus at night and take a well lit path even if it results in a longer route.
Do not let an unknown individual into the residence hall.
Always lock dorm rooms and car doors when you are gone, even if you are only leaving for a few minutes.
Know where you are going. When navigating a new location, walk with confidence and avoid looking confused.
Be aware of emergency phones or "blue light" locations on campus and do not hesitate to use them.
Have the Campus Security phone number saved in your phone.
Share your schedule with a roommate or friend. Let them know where you will be and when you expect to return.
If you are leaving campus for a run, walk or bike ride, consider finding a friend to share these activities with. If need be, utilize a safety app such as Find Friends or React Mobile so that someone can track you when you're by yourself.
Learn how to physically defend yourself in a self-defense class and purchase safety supplies like pepper spray and/or personal alarms.

Students and parents should not be overly concerned about safety, but they should be aware and use common sense. An open conversation with your student about campus policies, your concerns, and his or her actions will help them think about safety and help you feel more secure about your student's well-being.

August 21, 2019

How to Find Good Friends in College: Mary's Story

Fri, 16 Aug 2019 15:20:12 GMT

How to Find Good Friends in College: Mary's Story

It's been said you become most like the 5 people you spend the most time with. That idea is something that weighed heavily on my heart as I prepared to head off to college four years ago. The first week of school was stressful. There were so many feelings surrounding the first week of freshman year: loneliness, independence, fear and excitement.

As soon as my parents left my dorm room, I felt a sense of urgency. My parents were gone, now I needed to find friends. I had spent time getting to know my roommate before school started, so we set out to make friends together.

We both ended up with amazing friends from our first year at college. Some things we did to make friends worked, and some things didn't. Based on our steps and missteps, here are a few pieces of advice for making friends during your freshman year:

Go to church. Attending a church on or near campus is a great way to meet people who share the same values as you. It's also fun to have a group of friends to go to church with every Sunday.
Join a club. Get involved. That's the classic college advice for making friends. However, I want to amend this advice. It is easy to become over-involved. Instead, get involved by joining a club or two that you are passionate about and will actually attend. Clubs are a wonderful way to meet potential friends you share passions with.
Leave your door open (when you're in your room, of course). This is how I met my best friend in college. She lived on my floor and always kept her door open when she was in her room. That way she could get to know people who stopped while they were walking by. I was one of those lucky people.
Stay open and reserve judgement. My freshman year, I made the mistake of writing people off as friends before I had really given them a chance. Later in my college career, I discovered that some of the people I had written off were awesome and we became really good friends.
Listen when people talk. In doing so, you can act as the kind of friend that you hope to have. This may seem obvious. But honestly, lending a listening ear is a simple way to show people you care.
Never change your convictions for friends. It will be hard to be in a new place without knowing anybody. You may find yourself with a roommate who is polar opposite to you and your values. But you need to hold on to your values. Pray for God's help and strength in your convictions.

Finally, friends will come and go in college. The most you can do is trust that God's hand will guide you and He will provide you with what you need, including friends.

August 16, 2019

Parenting During the College Transition

Fri, 16 Aug 2019 15:17:42 GMT

Parenting During the College Transition

Here are some tips to keep in mind on how to successfully parent your son or daughter through the college transition:

Talk about finances before your student leaves for school. Every family handles college finances differently, but no matter who is paying for books, room and board, and tuition it helps to talk about budgeting with your student before they are on their own on campus. Encourage them to download a budgeting app to help them track their spending. Check out Mint, Wally, and PocketGuard to see which one fits your student's needs best.
Meet the roommates and their families. When you are moving your child in, do not hesitate to introduce yourself to your child's roommates and their parents. It may be helpful down the line.
Stay in touch, but do not overwhelm. After leaving, allow your student to have the time and space necessary to adjust and immerse themselves in college life. Make sure that he or she knows you are always there when they need you. Check in every so often and schedule your visits ahead of time.
Do not pressure students to come home. If your son or daughter wants to come home frequently on the weekends, encourage that they stay on campus instead. Students who stay on campus for classes only and return home each weekend tend to enjoy college less because they are not as tied to the campus community. Encourage him or her to join a campus club or activity to get to know some other students.
Send a care-package. Consider creating a care-package your college student can enjoy with others. Gift cards, movies, a long phone charger, holiday decor, a diffuser, snacks and games are a few items you could include.
Pray. The most important thing you can do for your child after dropping them off at college is praying for them. They will be faced with new decisions and challenges that they have never come across before. By lifting your heart up in prayer, the Lord will draw you nearer to your child even though you are miles away.

August 16, 2019

Encouraging Faith in College: Mary's Story

Fri, 16 Aug 2019 15:14:32 GMT

Encouraging Faith in College: Mary's Story

As a recent college graduate, it's been almost 4 years since my parents dropped me off at college. I had been counting down the days to move-in day for months. My roommate and I had planned our room in coordinating colors. All my belongings were packed and my books were bought. I was ready for college.

I didn't realize it at the time, but my parents had been setting me up for more than just academic success in college. From the time I was a child, they were preparing me to take a new ownership of my faith when they dropped me off at college and I would no longer be living in their home. According to a survey done by Barna, approximately 59% of professing Christian teens will denounce their faith by the time they graduate college. In college, I experienced challenges in my faith. But I faced those challenges and they strengthened my resolve in Christ.

Looking back, here are some simple steps my parents took to encourage me.

We went to church together during move-in weekend. Find a church, whether it's on-campus or near campus, that your child can attend regularly during the semester and go there together. The first time going to a new church can be intimidating; you can circumnavigate this by attending together.
They introduced themselves, and me, to my campus minister. I will never forget how embarrassed I was when my parents marched up to the campus minister and introduced me to him. But this was very beneficial to me; it's good to have someone in ministry who can call you by name.
They gave me a new devotional. You may have already gotten all your child's textbooks, but you can also set your child up to have a good prayer life in college. Talk about how busy they'll get and ways to make prayer a priority in college.
They helped me incorporate faith in my dorm decor. My roommate and I may have gone overboard in this (if that's possible), but all of our decor served as a daily reminder of Christ's love for us and our love for Him.
They encouraged me to get involved. They encouraged me to sign up to serve my church in some way. This helped me get to know my peers and my leaders in addition to serving God in His Church.
They called on Sunday. While it is important for parents to give their kids some space when they move to college, it is still great to receive a call from home. My mom said she would always try to talk to her kids on Sunday evenings so she could ask how church was without being overbearing.

My parents still maintain that the most important thing they did to help me grow in my faith in college is prayer. My parents prayed for me every day, and my mom made sure that I knew I could call or text with any need or prayer request, large or small. And you can bet those prayers were deeply appreciated by the time my first midterms rolled around.

For more guidance on sending your kids to college, check out Axis' College Prep Guide .

August 16, 2019

Daughters and Dating

Thu, 01 Aug 2019 15:12:17 GMT

Daughters and Dating

Many parents have seen a version of an "Application for Permission to Date My Daughter" as it is often shared on social media. For those who have not seen the application, it is a lighthearted joke that parents share to emphasize just how valuable their daughters are to them. The application includes questions that cover a variety of topics such as, "Social Security Number," "Greatest Fear," and "In 50 words or less, explain what the word 'Late' means to you."

The creative license taken in creating these contracts can be funny. But when well-meaning parents begin taking this joke a little too seriously, we run into pretty real dangers. As Jen Wilkin points out in her article for The Gospel Coalition, parents need a legitimate strategy--and this funny application isn't going to cut it. Wilkin offers these three pieces of advice to parents on how to raise their daughter to date in a way they can approve of (without an application process):

Build a wall
Encourage your daughter in her own strength
Put down your shotgun

Build a wall might sound like odd advice as it relates to parenting and dating. But Wilkin isn't referring to a Rapunzel wall, through which you hide your daughter from the world. Rather, she suggests that you raise your daughter to be a wall herself: "If she be a wall, we will build upon her a palace of silver"(Song of Solomon 8:8). Her beauty is her strength and she is able to defend herself against any unworthy suitors. Then, teach your daughter to never back down from her strength. Her strength comes from God, and she should never diminish it for fear of intimidating a potential suitor.

Finally, put down the shotgun. Wilkin states, "She shouldn't need you to scare off weak suitors. Let her strength and dignity do the job. Resolve to settle for nothing less than the best protection for your daughter. Resolve to be the kind of man you want her to bring home. Resolve to build a wall."

To read more about these steps, click HERE .

August 1, 2019

Risk the Breakup

Thu, 01 Aug 2019 15:10:14 GMT

Risk the Breakup

Risk is scary. Risk means leaving the safety of your comfort zone. But risk is a necessary part of life. Those who are unwilling to take risks often find themselves trapped in situations they don't want to be in. And Christians cannot be afraid of risk when it comes to relationships either. Sloane Wilson wrote a blog for Moral Revolution about when to take risks in relationships. Fear is never a good leader for what we should be doing with our lives. If you are not breaking off a relationship because you are afraid, you need to take a risk. If a relationship is not serving your end goal, it likely means you need to risk the breakup. "What I learned is that breakups are a bridge to your final destination. They are not the end of the world." Be rooted in your identity in Christ. He will give you courage and strength to take the necessary risks. To read the full blog from Sloane Wilson, click HERE .

August 1, 2019

Sadie's Story

Thu, 01 Aug 2019 15:09:07 GMT

Sadie's Story

August 1, 2019

Sadie Robertson became famous for being the daughter of Phil Robertson, the lead on the hit TV series Duck Dynasty and a season of Dancing with the Stars. But Sadie has since mad e a name for herself, touring the country preaching the Gospel to young people, especially young women. Following her recent engagement, she wrote a blog on her site, Live Original, about her journey to find the husband God planned for her and the joy of waiting on Him to write your story.

To read Sadie's blog, click HERE .

Biology of a Father

Thu, 25 Jul 2019 15:07:37 GMT

Biology of a Father

The many ways that a woman's biology changes when she becomes pregnant are obvious. Having a child changes a woman mentally and physically. What many people often do not think about is the many ways that having a baby also changes a father. Not only does a man's mental state change when he becomes a father, but his body goes through some biological shifts, optimizing his abilities as a father. In an article by the New York Times, anthropologist Dr. Anna Machin discusses these changes. She reports that after the birth of his first child, a father's body experiences a dip in testosterone. Not only does this drop in testosterone encourage the father to focus inward and protect his wife and child, it is also believed to trigger the release of the important bonding hormones oxytocin and dopamine. Unlike in women, these hormones peak when fathers are spending quality time playing with their children. In mothers, oxytocin and dopamine peak when they are nurturing. There are also observable differences occurring in the brain. Machin writes: "For moms, regions closer to the core of the brain which enable them to care, nurture and detect risk were most active. But for dads, the parts that shone most brightly were located on the outer surface of the brain, where higher, more conscious cognitive functions sit, such as thought, goal orientation, planning and problem solving." To listen to a podcast about how having kids changes men, click HERE .

July 25, 2019

The Lost Art of Civility

Thu, 25 Jul 2019 15:06:08 GMT

The Lost Art of Civility

We live in a world where the term "pro-life" is so often equated with political affiliation. It is hard for many people to have a conversation about being pro-life without a heated debate about politics ensuing. As Christians, how are we called to respond when others are being uncivil? Dr. Greg Austen, Executive Director of Church Outreach and Engagement for Care Net, advises we look to these Bible verses for guidance:

"Let your speech always be gracious, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how you ought to answer each person." (Colossians 4:6)
"But in your hearts honor Christ the Lord as holy, always being prepared to make a defense to anyone who asks you for a reason for the hope that is in you; yet do it with gentleness and respect." (1 Peter 3:15)
"To speak evil of no one, to avoid quarreling, to be gentle, and to show perfect courtesy toward all people." (Titus 3:2)
"A servant of the Lord must not quarrel but must be kind to everyone, be able to teach, and be patient with difficult people. Gently instruct those who oppose the truth. Perhaps God will change those people's hearts, and they will learn the truth. (2 Timothy 2:24-25)

When we encounter incivility, we must always respond with truth in kindness. This will give the best possible face to our pro-life convictions.

Click HERE to read Dr. Austen's full blog.

July 25, 2019

Kindergarten Sex Education

Thu, 25 Jul 2019 15:04:51 GMT

Kindergarten Sex Education

July 25, 2019

School is almost back in session and that means that many districts are spending time updating their curriculum. The Texas Board of Education is looking at introducing sex education for students as young as kindergarten. The proposed curricula focuses on healthy relationships and reproduction.

The school board is planning to vote on this proposal in September 2020. To learn more about Texas' radical sex education proposal, click HERE .

The Story Behind COPPA

Thu, 11 Jul 2019 15:03:54 GMT

The Story Behind COPPA

Today, many parents consider 13 to be the age of adulthood on the internet. After all, PG-13 movies are for age 13 and up for a reason, right? But the reason might not be what you think. The age 13 has legal significance when it comes to the Child Online Privacy Protection Act (COPPA). COPPA is a law from 1998 intended to protect the privacy of children 12 and under by preventing companies from collecting their personal data. This is why you have to be 13 to use certain websites, download apps and watch PG-13 movies. This means that as soon as a child turns 13, they can do almost anything on the internet without parental consent, such as share photos and stories on Instagram, form a Facebook group, tweet, create a Gmail account, start a YouTube channel and send disappearing Snapchats. Many parents think the age 13 has to do with the level of appropriateness and safety of the content. However, the age restriction is entirely due to COPPA. A study done by Harvard's Berken Klein Center for Internet and Society found that the majority of parents and youth "misinterpret the age requirements that emerged from the implementation of COPPA. Except for the most educated and technologically savvy, they are completely unaware that these restrictions have anything to do with privacy." Because websites are not required to disclose the reasoning behind COPPA, parents remain unaware. Age 13 is a young age. At the age of 13, a child's prefrontal cortex is far from developed. When lawmakers wrote COPPA, they needed to define "child" from a legal perspective. It was believed that 16 was too old. But Senator Edward Markey, one of COPPA's writers said, "It was too young and I knew it was too young then. It was the best I could do." To read more about how COPPA has affected a whole generation, click here .

July 11, 2019

C.S. Lewis on Pursuing Chastity

Thu, 11 Jul 2019 15:02:23 GMT

C.S. Lewis on Pursuing Chastity

In one of his most famous books, Mere Christianity, C.S. Lewis gives advice on growing in the virtue of chastity that still rings true. He offers three steps for those looking to pursue a chaste life:

You need to want to grow in chastity.
You need to believe that living a chaste life is possible.
You need to ask for God's help.

Each step is crucial for those desiring to live a chaste life. If you have little or no desire to be chaste, when temptations arise you will almost certainly fail in abstinent convictions. And if you do not believe that chastity is attainable in your life, then why bother? You must understand that you can live chastely; it is not impossible.

And finally, you need to know that it is possible because of God's sovereign hand in your life. With God's help, nothing is impossible. So it is important to ask for His help: "Ask and it will be given to you" (Matthew 7:7).

To read more about C.S. Lewis's advice on chastity, click here .

July 11, 2019

New to Netflix: Stranger Things 3

Wed, 03 Jul 2019 15:00:59 GMT

New to Netflix: Stranger Things 3

Fans of the Netflix original series Stranger Things have been patiently waiting for the release of a new season since 2017. After two years, Stranger Things 3 comes out this week. With the tremendous success of the first two seasons, expectations for the upcoming third season are high. Teenagers love Stranger Things. No doubt the show has made its mark on our culture. It is important for parents to be aware of and moderate teenage media consumption. While the writing, acting and general 80's nostalgia are seemingly harmless and fun, there are other considerations: dark themes, teenage sex, drinking, smoking and foul language. Parents should determine whether their children are mature enough to handle Stranger Things before allowing them to watch the new season. Axis has created A Parent's Guide to Stranger Things to help parents engage in conversation with teens about the show's themes and messages. To read a full review of Stranger Things, click here .

July 3, 2019

Sexuality and Identity

Wed, 03 Jul 2019 14:59:27 GMT

Sexuality and Identity

Christopher Yuan is a prominent Christian teacher on sexuality and the Gospel. With a unique perspective of coming to God in the midst of pursuing homosexuality, Yuan is able to testify to God's grand, redemptive story in his own life.

In his new book, Holy Sexuality and the Gospel , Yuan poses the question, "How did 'This is how I am' become 'This is who I am'?" Identity is a central theme to culture, but when we conflate "how I am" with "who I am" we move further from the truth and, therefore, from God. Yuan, by God's grace, was able to discover his true identity in Christ.

Holy Sexuality and the Gospel provides a practical and theological framework for where we find our identities, especially against the temptation to find identity in sexuality. While we recommend this book for everyone, we especially encourage those questioning homosexuality, as wells as their parents and loved ones to read this resource.

July 3, 2019

Happy Independence Day

Wed, 03 Jul 2019 14:57:26 GMT

Happy Independence Day

Independence Day is almost here! The Fourth of July brings memories of swimming, cook-outs and fireworks. But there is much more to the holiday than these traditions. July 4, 1776 is a day that Americans commemorate annually because of the prevailing courage of our Founding Fathers and the strong values with which they established our nation.

It is important to learn the history behind our nation's independence. According to Arcadia Publishing and The History Press, we need to be teaching our children American history from a young age for five fundamental reasons:

Children appreciate history more when they learn it early.
Children may not be learning everything in school that you consider important.
Learning history helps children develop a sense of identity.
History can help your child develop qualities like compassion and empathy.
Learning local American history helps children build connections to their community.

To learn more about teaching your children American history, click here .

July 3, 2019

Libraries Push Sexual Indoctrination

Thu, 27 Jun 2019 14:55:26 GMT

Libraries Push Sexual Indoctrination

A young mind is the easiest to mold and many institutions are looking to take advantage of that. One such institution looking to impact children, and not in a positive way, is your local library. The library used to be a place where parents could allow children to browse books unsupervised and with an understanding that the content of the library's materials would be appropriate. This simply isn't the case as one mother recently discovered.

Andrée Seu Peterson went to the library looking for a Max Lucado book for her upcoming puppet show. She could not find any Max Lucado books in the "L" section, rather, she found a stand devoted to LGBTQ+ reading in the children's section. She sat and read through a few of the books and was astounded by there content.

But this is not just an issue at the library. If you walked through the children's section of Barnes & Noble during the month of June, more than likely you saw a similar table. WORLD recently released an article on the prevalence of indoctrination in our nation's public libraries. Read the full article here .

June 27, 2019

A Biblical Perspective in Talking to Your Teen About Sex

Thu, 27 Jun 2019 14:53:26 GMT

A Biblical Perspective in Talking to Your Teen About Sex

Axis recently released a new video series called Sex Talk 2.0 in an effort to offer ideas, guidance and support to parents looking to begin talking with their pre-teen or teenager about sex from a practical, biblical perspective. So often, conversations about sex are dominated by "distortions of God's design." While discussing these distortions is important, the conversation should be so much more than that. This video series looks at the sex talk using four heart postures:

Understanding that sex is primarily good.

Learning the why behind the what.

Recognizing that abstinence is agency.

Knowing that we are God's image-bearers.

Using these four heart postures, parents can initiate an open line of communication about sex with their pre-teens and teenagers, helping them to recognize sex for the gift that it is.

Don't wait to watch Axis' Sex Talk 2.0 video series, available free of charge until Saturday, June 29.

June 27, 2019

6 Ideas to Give Summer Purpose

Thu, 27 Jun 2019 14:52:09 GMT

6 Ideas to Give Summer Purpose

Summer is officially here! With it, parents are on the lookout for fruitful ways to fill their children's days outside the classroom. This can be a struggle, especially attempting to strike a balance between work and relaxation. But there are better ways for students to relax than sitting around a pool or playing video games every day. Growth is a continual process. In the summer, it is important to seek growth in fun ways.

That's why Tim Elmore is encouraging students to practice Summer with a Purpose (SWAP). Instead of sitting around, floating from day to day and letting the summer fly by, he encourages students and parents to put a purpose into the summer months in 6 steps:

Determine family quality time goals.
Decide on a theme for the summer.
Plan vacations that fit the theme.
Make a reading plan.
Find a service project.
Prepare for the school year.

Read more about how to turn your summer into a SWAP here .

June 27, 2019

Teen Magazine Promotes Prostitution

Thu, 20 Jun 2019 14:50:26 GMT

Teen Magazine Promotes Prostitution

Teen Vogue has long been known to publish controversial articles. Recently, Teen Vogue published an article titled Sex Work is Real Work . In it, Dr. Tlaleng Mofokeng argues that because she works with reproductive and sexual health, she is no different than a sex worker. This claim is disingenuous at best as no true comparison can be drawn between practicing medicine and prostitution.

This article is especially troubling as it is aimed at a teen audience. Teen Vogue is normalizing commercial sex. This is a dangerous notion for teenage girls. According to a report from the US State Department, "60-75 percent of women in prostitution were raped, 70-95 percent were physically assaulted, and 68 percent met the criteria for post-traumatic stress disorder in the same range as treatment-seeking combat veterans and victims of state-organized torture." If sex work is real work, as Teen Vogue claims that it is, then the magazine is encouraging teenage girls to explore it as a possible career path, regardless of the negative effects.

June 20, 2019

Religion and Romance

Thu, 20 Jun 2019 14:48:58 GMT

Religion and Romance

It turns out that religion is good for romance. According to a recent study from the Institute for Family Studies and the Wheatley Institution, couples with shared religious values and beliefs report higher sexual satisfaction and overall relationship quality. The study examined four relational aspects in 11 different countries: relationship quality, fertility, domestic violence and infidelity.

Across the board, the study found that religion was good for relationships. 50% of women who shared religious beliefs with their husband reported being satisfied with their sexual relationship, compared to only 32% of women in couples with differing or no religious beliefs. Marriages with shared religious beliefs are prominently marked with commitment, satisfaction, attachment and stability.

Click HERE to read more about faith as a global force for good in the family.

June 20, 2019

Middle School Social Media Use

Thu, 20 Jun 2019 14:47:39 GMT

Middle School Social Media Use

By the time many students reach middle school, they are brimming with anticipation to enter the exciting world of social media. But is the adolescent mind really ready for all the drawbacks that come with modern social media?

In a recent article in Psychology Today, Dr. Victoria Dunkley discusses the many effects of social media on a middle school mind. Social media is attractive to young adults because it satisfies their needs to become popular, focus on themselves and try new things. But social media can quickly become a burden to them physically, mentally, socially and spiritually.

Social media was not designed for under-developed frontal cortexes that lack the capacity to handle the distraction or the temptation of social media. It is highly addictive and can establish future addiction patterns. Further, using social media at a young age prevents young adults from developing social skills in making face-to-face connections with peers while disconnecting them from their family.

Click HERE to read more about issues presented by tween social media use, as well as some strategies to slow your kids down.

June 20, 2019

Student Online Relationships

Wed, 12 Jun 2019 14:43:40 GMT

Student Online Relationships

More and more, teens are opting for virtual relationships over those developed in-person. Generation Z will often build relationships with the people they meet on apps, video game chatrooms, and other internet-based platforms. This leads to decreased people skills that are vital to success later in life.

Click HERE to read more about fostering relational skills in teens in an age of virtual relationships.

June 12, 2019

Pastor Emphasized the Importance of Marriage

Wed, 12 Jun 2019 14:41:52 GMT

Pastor Emphasized the Importance of Marriage

Cohabitation before marriage is on the rise, but one Texas pastor is footing the bill to combat this phenomenon. In a recent article by Care Net, a 2016 study by Barna found that the majority of Americans "now believe that cohabitation is a good idea, buying into the 'test drive' before you buy philosophy of cohabitation as a practice run for marriage."

Pastor Brian Carter, Senior Pastor of Concord Church in Dallas, recognizes the potential harm resulting from cohabitation. Children raised in cohabiting households have a much harder time academically, socio-economically, and are more susceptible to engaging in "risky behavior" than their peers raised in two-parent married households. Additionally, unmarried women make up 84% of abortions.

This is why he challenged the cohabiting members of his Church to consider marriage, even offering to pay the bill! He would buy the tuxedos, dresses, rings, and one month's rent while they prepared for the wedding.

Read more about Pastor Brian Carter's bold stand for life and the sanctity of marriage HERE .

June 12, 2019

Adrian's Story

Wed, 12 Jun 2019 14:40:37 GMT

Adrian's Story

"Deanna and I met through friends at a party one night, and ended up going home together. Not long after, we found out that Deanna was pregnant. She was 19, and I was 18. I didn't know what to do besides tell her, 'Everything will be ok. I will not leave you. I'll help take care of this baby.' After our beautiful baby girl Amelia was born, we both continued to battle with drug and alcohol addictions. When we got pregnant a second time with our son, Adrian Jr., we decided to go to a local pregnancy center for support during the pregnancy and enrolled in the center's weekly Life Skills Class.

The Life Skills Class Coordinator was full of excitement, joy and a love that we were not used to seeing. The center's classes prepared us with knowledge and parenting tips, and we were able to earn baby items that we could not afford on our own. In addition to practical support, seeds of change were planted in our hearts."

- Adrian

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At the Abstinence Clearinghouse, we have the privilege of coming alongside pregnancy centers across the country as they empower men, like Adrian, in learning parenting and relationship skills to better themselves and their families. We are often reminded of the importance of seizing opportunities to plant seeds of change and inspire virtue in the lives of men and women.

By the grace of God, the seeds sowed in Adrian and Deanna's lives were brought to fruition. They surrendered their lives to Christ, have pursued God's good gift of marriage and have experienced healing from addiction.

Each day we are encouraged by those inspiring virtue on the front-lines. From our staff to yours, thank you for continuing to come alongside families in your community by encouraging and motivating positive change.

June 12, 2019

Screen Time Discouraged for Children

Wed, 15 May 2019 14:38:53 GMT

Screen Time Discouraged for Children

The World Health Organization is recommending no screen time for children under one year old and limiting sedentary screen time to one hour per day for children under five years old. The guidelines state that these recommendations along with better sleep and exercise will result in healthier adults.

"Previous generations worried about the impact of radios and televisions, researchers today are studying the impact of 'screen time,' which has become a shorthand for the amount of time spent interacting with TVs, computers, smartphones, digital tablets and video games, on brain development and overall health," the New York Times published in a recent article . There is currently limited data on the short- and long-term effects of screen time on children and the family unit. Read the full New York Times article here.

May 15, 2019

Starbucks Commits to Filtering Obscene Content

Wed, 08 May 2019 14:37:49 GMT

Starbucks Commits to Filtering Obscene Content

Starbucks Corporation has followed through on their public commitment to filter pornography and child pornography from their WiFi, Enough Is Enough (EIE) announced on Monday.

Nearly 8,500 company-owned stores will now be blocking access to obscene content following a petition signed by tens of thousands of customers over the course of the last five years. This is a huge victory for families and children visiting the establishment. EIE hopes that this commitment from Starbucks, as well as a similar commitment from McDonald's, will encourage other major corporations to follow suit in filtering WiFi for the safety of children and families.

May 8, 2019

Take a Stand on Exploitation in Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue

Wed, 08 May 2019 14:37:06 GMT

Take a Stand on Exploitation in Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue

Since 1964 Sports Illustrated Swimsuit Issue has sexually objectified women for sport and profit.

The 2019 edition is scheduled to release next week. The magazine sends a message that women's bodies are for public consumption, and any retailer that displays and sells the magazine is condoning the toxic culture of entitlement to the female body.

These images are not designed to be empowering. Rather, they are designed to portray women as sexually desirable and available to the male customers purchasing this magazine. Women who have achieved remarkable athletic feats do not need to be the center of sexual objectification in order to promote "body positivity."

Your voice as a patron and consumer of major retailers can make a difference. If you see a magazine promoting sexual objectification in a checkout line at your local grocery store or convenient store, request to have it taken down. Explain why you feel the content is offensive and request to have it removed from the main checkout aisle.

May 8, 2019

Fighting the Purity Battle Before & Within Marriage

Wed, 01 May 2019 14:35:55 GMT

Fighting the Purity Battle Before & Within Marriage

"Our culture is so obsessed with planning and preparing

for an epic wedding but we don't do anything to plan

and prepare for an epic marriage."

- Audrey Roloff

In a recent podcast , Jeremy and Audrey

Roloff discuss what it looks like to pursue the purity battle before and within marriage.

In the same way culture has overvalued the wedding day and undervalued preparation for the promise of forever within marriage, culture has overvalued virginity and undervalued pursuing purity to the glory of God.

We encourage you to listen to the Roloff's perspective on how we can refocus our energy on fighting the purity battle and not just the virginity battle. After you listen, send us your feedback! We would love to

hear your thoughts!

May 1, 2019

5 Technology Rules for Parents

Wed, 24 Apr 2019 14:34:10 GMT

5 Technology Rules for Parents

In a recent article in Fast Company magazine Sonia said when she was younger, she could hardly wait to participate in social media. Upon reflection, she later wrote: "Several months ago, when I turned 13, my mom gave me the green light and I joined Twitter and Facebook. The first place I went, of course, was my mom's profiles. That's when I realized that while this might have been the first time I was allowed on social media, it was far from the first time my photos and stories had appeared online. When I saw the pictures that she had been posting on Facebook for years, I felt utterly embarrassed, and deeply betrayed."

What her mother and sister thought was "cute" and "innocent" felt much different to the person actually in the photo, Sonia.

If parents and educators desire students to handle social media well, and be careful about what they post, we should think twice about posting their photos online as well.

Sonia wrote that it would have been different if her mom had merely shared some of those personal pictures to family members or close friends. Instead, her mom and sister felt the need to broadcast them publicly online. Sonia wrote, "Teens get a lot of warnings that we aren't mature enough to understand that everything we post online is permanent, but parents should also reflect about their use of social media and how it could potentially impact their children's lives as we become young adults."

"The fact is, our portable devices have both connected us and divided us, Tim Elmore wrote in a recent article . "Some, I'm concerned, are more consumed with posting their life, than living their life."

April 24, 2019

Workshop: Leading in Difficult Circumstances

Wed, 24 Apr 2019 14:32:07 GMT

Workshop: Leading in Difficult Circumstances

Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh presented a workshop for pregnancy center leaders at the Heartbeat International Conference in Dallas, Texas on Wednesday. The workshop inspired leaders persevering in the pregnancy help movement to excel in their calling as sowers of God's grace. Attendees walked away with practical tips on how to lead fervently, relying on God's promises and were given a greater understanding of what it means to lead well in difficult circumstances.

April 24, 2019

California Seeks to Make Abortion Legal on College Campuses

Wed, 17 Apr 2019 14:30:43 GMT

California Seeks to Make Abortion Legal on College Campuses

A California Senate committee approved Senate Bill 24, a bill created with the intention to expand abortion services, specifically the use of abortion drugs, to students on college campuses.

According to a recent article, an estimated 300 to 500 University of California and California State University students already seek abortions in California each month, traveling off-campus to facilities where they may have to make appointments to receive abortion pills or procedures. The numbers would likely increase if abortion were more easily accessible on campus. Though abortion is already covered under California's university system student healthcare policies, bill proponents say the price of abortion would be more affordable if the bill became a law.

April 17, 2019

Life Unstuck

Wed, 17 Apr 2019 14:28:38 GMT

Life Unstuck

God wants us to be reminded and refreshed by the complete and unshakable knowledge of our redeemed life. He wants us completely restored from things that keep us stuck in the past, and He wants us set free to joyfully anticipate all he has planned for our future.

In her book, Life Unstuck , Pat Layton uses Psalm 139 to lay out a clear plan for every woman who senses there may be something missing, something hidden, or something unspeakable keeping her from fully experiencing the freedom found in Jesus.

The truth is, we cannot experience a life of freedom and hope past if we have not truly dealt with our stuck past. You might get to where you feel your past is unstuck, but guess what? Tomorrow - today - will be your past! We are a work in progress. Take the journey one step at a time and allow God to do a new thing in your heart and in your life through His Word. With that freedom, the best days of your life unstuck begin.

April 17, 2019

Ohio Defunds Planned Parenthood

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 14:26:00 GMT

Ohio Defunds Planned Parenthood

In 2017, President Donald Trump signed a bill allowing states to revoke funding from organizations that provided abortions. The bill allowed states to remove the family planning funding offered through Title X.

The state of Ohio recently exercised its right to defend Planned Parenthood clinics statewide. According to CBN News , the news was delivered to Planned Parenthood by the Ohio Department of Health. The notice came following a federal appeals court ruling in April that insisted there was nothing unconstitutional about a 2016 state law that bans the state from allocating preventive health dollars to any organization that "performs or promotes" non-therapeutic abortion.

A non-therapeutic abortion is defined as a termination out of convenience that is not medically necessary. Planned Parenthood's ability to continue teaching comprehensive sex education may also be jeopardized due to a lack of funding. Parents and educators who advocate the teaching of abstinence until marriage, and encourage character based programs over comprehensive sex education, may now have an opportunity to enter school districts that were being led by Planned Parenthood.

April 10, 2019

Google Docs: The New Social Platform for Teens

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 14:24:56 GMT

Google Docs: The New Social Platform for Teens

The latest trend for communicating during school hours is to use Google Docs to chat with their friends. The app has become a staple in the workplace and in schools, as the program offered through Google offers easy sharing, collaboration and automatically saves the users work.

Furthermore, more than one person can be working on a document in real time. While many parents and educators are familiar with Google Docs, they may not be as familiar with the chat or messaging feature. The feature appears to the right of the document and can, in a sense, turn into a chat room.

According to The Atlantic , students tend to use Google Docs to chat anytime they need to put their phone away in school. Many teachers are not aware of the live-chat function, nor are they aware of the "highlight" function that allows words or phrases to be highlighted and commented on in a pop-up box on the right side of the document. To the casual viewer, it would appear the student is taking notes. If a teacher approaches to take a closer look, they can click the Resolve button, and the entire thread will disappear.

Ask your students if they have used Google Docs in class. Do they feel it is used appropriately by other students? Have they witnessed cyber-bullying through the Google feature?

April 10, 2019

Teen Slang: Do You Know the Meaning?

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 14:23:39 GMT

Teen Slang: Do You Know the Meaning?

Slang terms are ever evolving and are an integral part of growing up. A word or abbreviation can add significant meaning or emotion to a message or text. Slang helps teens define their connections, feel accepted and gain independence. Keeping up on teen slang and lingo may seem daunting; however, understanding the language teens communicate with verbally and through social media is important.

Here are a few slang terms you should know:

Throwing Shade: Saying hateful, disrespectful, demeaning words about another person, either directly ("talking trash") or indirectly ( subtweeting ).
Calculator%: An app that functions as a secret stash for files one wants to keep hidden. On its surface, it is a normal, functional calculator, but inputting one's code reveals the hidden folder. This app is typically used to keep inappropriate pictures private.
Snapstreak: When friends send snapchats through the app each day, a "streak" is created between them. To keep a Snapstreak going, both Snapchatters must send a Snap (not Chat) back and forth to each other within a 24-hour window.
The Dab: A dance move that is incredibly popular with teens. The move started in Atlanta's hip hop scene in 2012, but became popular when Carolina Panthers quarterback Cam Newton did the dance move in November 2015 in a game against the Tennessee Titans.
Troll: A person on the Internet who posts deliberately offensive content in the hopes of upsetting others. Trolls have always been around within social media, but they have especially picked up a strong social media presence in the last year.
Basic: A word used to describe someone who is viewed as boring or a conforming person. This adjective tends to be used in a negative or joking way.
Broccoli: Another name for marijuana popularized by the song "Broccoli" by D.R.A.M. featuring Lil Yachty. The song became popular in August 2016 through the app Musical.ly (a lip-syncing app targeting young teens).
Mooning: Muting a text conversation so that you can ignore it. It is named after the half-moon symbol used to denote the "do not disturb" mode on iPhone's. The sender does not know the receiver has muted a text, so it can be considered rude or passive aggressive.
Snack : A word used to describe an attractive person. Many times the word is used in a negative, demeaning way.

Familiarizing yourself with these words and phrases will help you better understand teens' online interactions and if they are amplifying positive or negative conversations in texts and on social media. Engaging in conversation and having open dialogue about technology and language are the best ways to avoid digital disaster.

For more teen slang terms, click HERE .

April 10, 2019

MYTH: My Future Spouse Will Complete Me

Wed, 03 Apr 2019 14:19:56 GMT

MYTH: My Future Spouse Will Complete Me

April 3, 2019

Loneliness can be one of the most difficult feelings we as humans can experience. For many singles, the feeling of loneliness can be a motivating factor in seeking to find the perfect spouse. However, attempting to find the perfect spouse can drive a person to give up a healthy relationship for fear there is a better person out there.

The desire to find the perfect spouse is understandable, but before entering a lifelong covenant one must consider the overwhelming joy and the inevitable sacrifices marriage brings. For most people, this is the first life-long decision they have ever made.

In relationships, how often do we guard our hearts too closely when the need to surrender to an almighty, trustworthy God is necessary? Strive to learn the motivation of your restless heart. Take the anxieties and worries that plague you to a grace-filled God who provides rest, peace and hope.

Remember to constantly evaluate your expectations. In reality there is no perfect person. Marriages require us to be sacrificing, honest, and willing to serve. Your spouse may complement you, but he or she will never complete you. That is Christ's job.

Check out these three components to a successful marriage:

Character
Assessing the character of another person allows you to understand if you value the same things. There will always be something to disagree on; however, having similar commitments and a cohesive worldview is important.
Chemistry
Chemistry is easily assessed and helps in understanding that two people are attracted to one another. Contrary to what culture teaches us, chemistry isn't just about physical attraction. There is also emotional attraction.
Compatibility
When two people are compatible, they are able to work well as a team. The old saying "opposites attract" is often true in relationships. The challenge is to maximize and encourage each others strengths.

Marijuana & Psychosis

Wed, 27 Mar 2019 14:18:08 GMT

Marijuana & Psychosis

Whenever anyone opposes the topic of marijuana they are challenged to back up their opposition with recent scientific evidence.

A recently published study in The Lancet involving, among others, researchers at King's College London, compared 900 people who had been treated for psychosis with 1,200 people who had not.

Groups were surveyed on a number of factors, including their use of marijuana and other drugs. The study's authors concluded that "people who smoked marijuana on a daily basis were three times more likely to be diagnosed with psychosis compared with people who never used the drug. For those who used high-potency marijuana daily, the risk jumped to nearly five times." By "high-potency" the researchers meant marijuana with a THC content of more than ten percent. To put that figure in context, a study of weed confiscated by the Drug Enforcement Administration between 1995 and 2014 found the THC content went from about 4 percent in 1995 to 12 percent in 2014.

According to a recent broadcast from Breaking Point, "it is not uncommon to read of marijuana that is legally sold in places like Colorado with THC content above 20 percent, occasionally 30 percent."

Since marijuana was legalized in Colorado, the state has seen a spike in marijuana-related emergency room visits by people between the ages of 13 and 20. If you have not already, we encourage you to talk to your teens about how they feel marijuana has influenced culture. Do they have friends that use marijuana? Is marijuana really all that bad? It can't be if so many states are legalizing it, right?

Axis has created A Parents Guide to Marijuana to help you get the conversation started. The guide takes a biblical approach to what is currently known scientifically about marijuana to help you guide your teens into a better understanding of God's best for their lives.

March 27, 2019

Navigating a Technological World

Wed, 27 Mar 2019 14:14:30 GMT

Navigating a Technological World

"Have you identified some specific concerns about your teens? Is it their impatience? Their multitasking that you interpret as rude? Entitlement attitudes? Not enough sleep? Complaining? Academic apathy? Quick boredom? Depression? Believe it or not, it's not their fault they are that way."

In her book, Screens and Teens: Connecting With Our Kids In a Wireless World , Dr. Kathy Koch offers encouragement, as well as practical wisdom, to adults who have the wonderful opportunity of better understanding, as well as helping young people navigate through a rapidly-moving, technological world while not feeling overwhelmed by it. Dr. Koch examines how technology has the ability to not only improve communication, but also has the capability to change our brain makeup in the process. In regards to thinking about how this biological change takes place, as well as not feeling discouraged by this development, Koch states: "Our brain patterns, and our thinking minds, can be transformed in good ways as well. It's one of the ways God is good to us: He is able to transform our minds."

March 27, 2019

Is an Internet Filter Enough to Protect Your Family From Graphic Content?

Wed, 27 Mar 2019 14:04:56 GMT

Is an Internet Filter Enough to Protect Your Family From Graphic Content?

Internet filters can have a large role in protecting children from pornography, mainly limiting or delaying their exposure to it. Unfortunately, internet filters are not enough in permanently blocking children from ever seeing pornography.

According to Covenant Eyes , an internet filter alone is not a good, safe internet solution because:

Filters will always have a way around them.
Anyone actively seeking a way to bypass a filter can easily find it. Even kids who are not intentionally bypassing filters can stumble upon ways around them.
Filters do not teach children how to use the internet or their devices.
At some point, our kids will leave the protection of our home and live in a world without filters. We want to equip our kids for this moment. We want them to have had practice saying no to things that want to destroy them or distract them from their purpose. We want them to know how to make wise media choices
Filter users are more likely to seek out porn.
Stats from the Barna study The Porn Phenomenon show that filters do not work for those who want to live porn-free lives. The study found that 54% of the general population say they "never" seek out porn, while 0% of filter users say they "never" seek out porn. This stat is alarming if we are only using a filter to raise porn-free kids.

What is the best internet solution to protect children from graphic content online? Should we keep children's devices until they are 18? Never allow them to use any form of social media or text their friends? Move to one of the few remote villages left with no internet? Surely these are not the only solutions for protecting children.

The best solution pairs age-appropriate filters, monitoring and healthy accountability conversations. Covenant Eyes Screen Accountability is a tool that combines all three of these solutions and is a helpful tool for preparing children to use technology in a world without filters. It is also perfect for parents who want to model this accountability and responsibility to their family.

March 27, 2019

Four Dangerous Parenting Styles

Wed, 20 Mar 2019 14:00:23 GMT

Four Dangerous Parenting Styles

The infograph on the right is telling in what Tim Elmore believes to be "the new methods of coping with our new realities."

"While none of these methods are tragic, they do signal a different way of coping with our busy lives," Elmore wrote in a recent blog .

"When my kids were toddlers we gave them a pacifier when they became fussy or fidgety. Today, 90% of preschool aged children are on a tablet or portable device amusing themselves," Elmore wrote.

According to the article, four parenting styles that may exemplify poor leadership in families and "unhealthy outcomes in the children" include parenting styles centered on preoccupation, paranoia, passivity, and defenselessness or pandering.

Elmore encourages parents to evaluate their parenting style and behavior. Is there something that could be changed in order to produce healthy outcomes in your child's character? How can you better model values and traits you would like your children to replicate?

March 20, 2019

Two Tips for Teaching a Child How to Cope with Bullying

Wed, 20 Mar 2019 13:55:36 GMT

Two Tips for Teaching a Child How to Cope with Bullying

More than half of all teenagers in America see bullying as a major problem among their peers, according to a new survey by Pew Research . Teenagers were more likely to rank bullying as a problem than poverty, drug addiction or alcohol consumption. Anxiety and depression, problems that bullying contributes to, ranked high in the survey.

Here are just two of the many tips offered in a recent article by Joe Carter to assist parents in training a child to defend themselves and others against bullying:

Tip 1 - Encourage Intervention

Children must be taught to be defenders of those being bullied and not to be afraid to protect other people (Matthew 7:12; 1 Thessalonians 5:14; Hebrews 13:6). A child's willingness to intervene can make a significant difference. Research has shown that more than half the time, when children intervene and play the role of "defender," bullying stops within 10 seconds.

Rather than waiting until an incident occurs, pro-actively teaching children how to behave as a defender of others will equip them to be prepared.

According to Carter, at a minimum, children should be told to commit to the following:

I will not bully others.
I will try to help other children who are bullied.
I will try to include other children who are left out.
If I know somebody is being bullied, I will tell an adult at school and my parents.
I will pray both for those who are being bullied and those who are bullying others.

Tip 2 - Ask Children About Bullying

Before making an assumption, ask children if they have been bullied. Only about 20 percent to 30 percent of students who are bullied notify adults about the bullying.

If the child admits to being bullied, let them know you are on their side. Dr. Walt Larimore explains that it is essential to refuse to believe any lies being told about him or her and not place blame on a child. According to Dr. Walt Larimore, "The bully is the disturbed one. Remind your children of their value in your and God's sight, and help them understand that no one can make them feel inferior without their permission."

March 20, 2019

Youth Vaping Declared an Epidemic

Wed, 13 Mar 2019 13:50:46 GMT

Youth Vaping Declared an Epidemic

According to the National Institutes of Health , "America's teens report a dramatic increase in their use of vaping devices in just a single year, with 37.3 percent of 12th graders reporting 'any vaping' in the past 12 months, compared to just 27.8 percent in 2017."

Vaping is on the rise among high school seniors, with 21% reporting vaping nicotine in the last 30 days - up 10% from the prior year.

Earlier this month, FDA Commissioner Scott Gottlieb announced his resignation , prompting concern that his recent efforts to prevent youth from vaping may be thwarted or reversed.

This prompted the US Surgeon General to declare youth vaping an epidemic , citing that approximately two-thirds of JUUL (a popular vaping device) users aged 15-24 did not know that the substance always contains nicotine. According to Axis , since that time, the Food and Drug Administration has worked diligently to hold e-cigarette and vaping companies in check, making it harder for teens to acquire their products.

No successor for Scott Gottlieb has been announced; therefore, the future of these preventative initiatives is unclear, but our role isn't. We must talk with students about vaping often, answering their questions and helping them understand the risks.

Download the Parent's Guide to Vaping/Juuling created by Axis to help you start the conversation with your teens today.

March 13, 2019

Have You Had 'The Prom Talk' With Your Teen?

Wed, 13 Mar 2019 13:48:13 GMT

Have You Had 'The Prom Talk' With Your Teen?

With spring comes the anticipation of prom season for thousands of parents and teens. Formal attire is purchased, hair appointments are scheduled and arrangements to take pictures at a unique location are made in preparation for the big day.

Amidst all the excitement, do not lose the opportunity to talk to your teen about the pressures they may face on prom night. Our culture teaches young adults to perceive prom night as an opportunity to compromise their beliefs and boundaries. Because of this, building up your teen's strength of character prior to prom and having a conversation with them about the choices they may face is important.

Ask your teen...

"What will you be doing after prom?"
"Who will you be with that evening?"
"How can you prepare mentally for the unexpected situations that may arise at prom?"
"What boundaries have you made for yourself going into prom?"

Tell your teen...

"If you find yourself in a situation that is uncomfortable, do not hesitate to call someone (mother, father or sibling) and we will pick you up no matter the circumstance."
"It does not matter how much money your date may have spent on your ticket and corsage, you do not owe them anything. They have the privilege of taking you on a date. It is ok to say n o."

At the end of the day your teen needs to know that they are loved and that they have a choice. They need to know that not everyone is 'doing it' and that you believe they have the ability to go against what culture says and say 'no'.

March 13, 2019

Raising a Knight to Remember

Wed, 13 Mar 2019 13:46:31 GMT

Raising a Knight to Remember

On Saturday, March 9, the Abstinence Clearinghouse hosted a Knight to Remember for mothers and sons in Sioux Falls, South Dakota.

The event encouraged young men to choose to reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously and reach for God's greater reward! Young men attending the Knight to Remember learned more about what it means to be a man of God and the importance of protecting their purity and integrity.

Young people are constantly surrounded by messages promoting a "hook-up culture" grounded in the pursuit of instant gratification. Social media and television are slowly distorting the meaning of love, and the idea of commitment has become seemingly nonexistent.

Now more than ever young men need to hear messages encouraging virtuous leadership and Godly wisdom. Thank you to all who served, supported and prayed for our team as we hosted the Knight to Remember. It is our pleasure and privilege to come alongside parents as they continue to guide their sons and daughters into adulthood with passion and purity.

March 13, 2019

A Father's Honest Reflection

Thu, 07 Mar 2019 13:45:41 GMT

A Father's Honest Reflection

It is with gratitude that Dr. Michelle Watson shared a father's honest reflections as a man whose daughter paid the price for unwise decisions that he had made in the past. Despite being a father with a failing marriage, with a daughter who was "making horrible choices to mask her pain," this father overcame difficult relational circumstances.

"If I had the opportunity to stop my old self from making the mistakes I did, of course, I would - as would most of us. But since I can't, I can only strive to be my best self, to love those close to me, and continue to trust God with the darkest of situations," he wrote.

There is great value in disclosure, vulnerability and sharing in sorrows and triumphs. There is also great hope for restoration and renewed relationship. Read the full story HERE .

March 7, 2019

Lies Young Women Believe: I Can't Handle the Loneliness of Staying Pure

Thu, 07 Mar 2019 13:44:11 GMT

Lies Young Women Believe: I Can't Handle the Loneliness of Staying Pure

A young girl enrolled in a Christian middle school gave voice to the great loneliness many feel in their quest for purity. She said:

I think that at my school, having sex is normal. Everybody has either had sex or they are really close to it. That is something I struggle with a lot. I wonder if I am going to wait. It is all about the moment for me. I struggle with waiting.

"An overwhelming number of young women admit they [have] felt lonely in their quest to live a pure life," wrote Dannah Gresh in a recent article . "It's easy to dwell on the loneliness when you are trying to honor the gift of sex and wait until marriage."

As a fifteen year old student attending a Christian high school, Dannah compromised in her convictions and found that "the worst loneliness lies in the aftermath of compromise."

Being one who was active in her youth group and in leading Sunday school she felt like a fraud. "I just knew that could never happen to me," she wrote. "After all, I was a Christian girl who believed in purity."

By God's grace, Dannah has found forgiveness and healing despite her former choices. "In time the Lord graciously healed up my heart. He gave me a great Christian husband who was a virgin on our wedding night and has extended much forgiveness to me."

Today, Dannah encourages young women to pursue purity and virtue through Pure Freedom Ministry. She believes that a commitment to purity challenges a woman to safeguard her heart until the time is right to awaken love. She also encourages young women that while "this often feels painful and even lonely...the pain of self-denial is far better than the pain of self-destruction."

https://abstinence.net/2019/03/07/helping-your-daughter-become-a-confident-woman/

March 7, 2019

Helping Your Daughter Become a Confident Woman

Thu, 07 Mar 2019 13:39:16 GMT

Helping Your Daughter Become a Confident Woman

A father can have a heroic impact on his daughter as he helps protect her from the negative influences of our culture.

In a recent broadcast by Focus on the Family , Dr. Meg Meeker encourages fathers to model the kind of honorable character traits that he would like to see his daughter be attracted to in a future husband. Dr. Meeker also addresses how to help your daughter establish boundaries in relationships and makes suggestions on how to best show your daughter love in her teenage years.

Listen to the full broadcast Helping Your Daughter Become a Confident Woman HERE .

March 7, 2019

Adolescent Sleep Deprivation & Depressive Symptoms

Wed, 27 Feb 2019 13:36:49 GMT

Adolescent Sleep Deprivation & Depressive Symptoms

Tim Elmore set out to discover what kept teens and college students up at night. Young adults made known that binge watching YouTube videos, social media and texting their friends late into the night motivated their lack of sleep. In addition to too much screen time before bed, teens may lose sleep due to a lack of exercise and high sugar and caffeine diets. Students also admitted the temptation to fall asleep during school hours.

According to Elmore , research suggests that "adolescents require more sleep than younger children, yet they get less sleep than those younger kids." Teenagers need between 8 and 9 hours of sleep to solidify proper growth, development and pruning of the brain.

The Child Mind Institute posted , the "National Sleep Foundation surveyed more than 1,600 adolescents and found that many exhibited depressive symptoms on a frequent if not daily-basis. More than half (56%) said that they felt stressed out and anxious. Many reported feeling hopeless about the future. Less sleep correlated with higher levels of depression. And, in turn, those kids with more depression had problems falling or staying asleep. It's a vicious cycle lack of sleep affects mood, and depression can lead to lack of sleep. Multiple studies, including Dr. Ryan C. Meldrum's, have found that severe sleep debt is linked to suicidal ideation."

Elmore suggests the following action tips if your child is in need of additional sleep:

Make the bedroom a quiet place.
Take a hot bath or shower before going to bed.
Cool the room down to 68 degrees for the body to cool off.
Turn alarm clocks away from the bed and close all curtains.
Keep your phone at least ten feet away from the bed.

In conclusion, Elmore suggests the entire family be screen-free for at least the last 30 minutes of each day. Consider making this a challenge in your home today!

February 27, 2019

Discover Your Strengths and Weaknesses as a Parent

Wed, 27 Feb 2019 13:33:31 GMT

Discover Your Strengths and Weaknesses as a Parent

February 27, 2019

Good parents aren't perfect and that is ok! There is no "one size fits all" formula to follow, but there are ways you can grow daily as a parent.

Focus on the Family's 7 Traits of Effective Parenting Assessment gives parents an honest look at their unique strengths and offers encouragement in areas that you may need additional wisdom. In order to be a great parent, it is important to first know and evaluate your strengths and weaknesses.

We want you to be equipped as a parent to develop the skills needed to raise the next generation of healthy, mature and responsible children.

Colorado House Approves a Bill Requiring Comprehensive Curriculum

Wed, 20 Feb 2019 13:32:02 GMT

Colorado House Approves a Bill Requiring Comprehensive Curriculum

On Tuesday, the Colorado House approved bill HB19-1032, requiring school districts who choose to provide sex ed courses to teach a comprehensive curriculum. According to Colorado's 9News, Jeff Johnston, a culture and policy analyst for Focus on the Family based in Colorado Springs, stated that he believes the bill is unconstitutional.

"Colorado State Constitution makes it clear that local districts will control the instruction in public schools in their districts and this gives control to the state," Johnston stated. The bill also seeks $1 million dollars a year to create a grant for smaller school districts who can't afford these kinds of programs.

February 20, 2019

YouTube is a Facilitator of Sexual Exploitation

Wed, 20 Feb 2019 13:30:51 GMT

YouTube is a Facilitator of Sexual Exploitation

Last week, we shared a press conference by the National Center of Sexual Exploitation as they released their 2019 Dirty Dozen List . Among the companies listed, YouTube was found to be a corporation that profits from sexual exploitation, specifically child pornography.

According to NCOSE, "In April 2018 [YouTube] was criticized for allowing a pornographic ad to appear on a trending YouTube video, and in November 2017 it was revealed that YouTube's flagging system to prevent child victimization on its platform was reportedly malfunctioning for a year." It was also discovered that the YouTubeKids app has been infiltrated with disturbing and often sexual content (read more here ).

Help us hold YouTube to a higher standard by signing this petition . We also encourage you to read the entire Dirty Dozen List and discuss each corporation with your teenagers. Are they surprised by the businesses listed? Do they feel the accusations are fair given that many of the corporations named are profiting indirectly through a second party? Encourage a discussion and possible actions that your family can take to end sexual exploitation.

February 20, 2019

Avoid the "What Could I Have Done Differently?" Feeling

Wed, 20 Feb 2019 13:27:26 GMT

Avoid the "What Could I Have Done Differently?" Feeling

February 20, 2019

At the Abstinence Clearinghouse, we have often heard that "clients who receive a negative pregnancy test are the most difficult clients to meet with."

While we agree that the client who receives a negative pregnancy test is difficult to consult, we know that the negative test client holds the greatest potential for transformation. When a woman comes in for a pregnancy test she is often scared, confused and hopeless. When news is given to a client that a pregnancy test result is negative, a feeling of relief may be seen in a client's eyes. But, the feeling of relief may only be temporary when months later she walks through the doors of your center seeking another pregnancy test.

Learn how you can best encourage women receiving a negative pregnancy test when you download the e-booklet, Inspiring Virtue in the Life of a Negative Test Client .

The e-booklet offers:

A list of topics and questions that can be discussed before and afteroffering negative test results.
Advice on encouraging the client in pursuing sexual integrity and evaluating future goals.
Insight on the science of sex and practical tips on choosing to wait.

We want to give you the tools to avoid the "what could I have done differently?" feeling we have all experienced. A negative test gives you an opportunity to plant seeds and change the direction of a woman's life. We hope you find this e-booklet helpful in meeting with and pouring into the lives of clients receiving news of a negative pregnancy test!

The 2019 Dirty Dozen List Revealed

Wed, 13 Feb 2019 13:22:24 GMT

The 2019 Dirty Dozen List Revealed

February 13, 2019

On Monday, the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) revealed the 2019 Dirty Dozen List, an annual campaign that names and shames twelve mainstream facilitators of sexual exploitation. Companies making this year's list include Message Envy, Amazon, Netflix and more.

Click the video above to watch the full press conference .

https://abstinence.net/2019/02/13/free-e-book-how-to-use-defining-moments-to-change-dads-lives/

Free E-Book: How to Use "Defining Moments" to Change Dads' Lives

Wed, 13 Feb 2019 13:21:04 GMT

Free E-Book: How to Use "Defining Moments" to Change Dads' Lives

The National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI) is the nation's leading non-profit organization working to end father absence. Underlying many of society's most pressing challenges is a lack of father involvement in their children's lives.

According to NFI, "Increasing father engagement is, at its most basic, about helping dads to change their behavior by increasing pro-fathering awareness, knowledge, attitudes, beliefs and habits."

In a new ebook, How to Use "Defining Moments" to Change Dads' Lives , created by NFI, the organization offers insight into how to create meaningful, inspiring experiences in your work with dads. The book describes four ways to create meaningful connections by utilizing four "levers" including: elevation, insight, pride and connection.

You can use this formula to tap into your motivation to create positive change in the lives of fathers and their children. Transform your organization and community by equipping fathers to intentionally and proactively engage in their children's lives.

Download your free ebook HERE .

February 13, 2019

Provocative Ad Ran During Super Bowl

Wed, 06 Feb 2019 13:19:22 GMT

Provocative Ad Ran During Super Bowl

Millions of football fans watched the 53rd Super Bowl this past Sunday. For many, the game is not what draws viewers. The commercials have become the most memorable, exciting part of viewing the game. According to a recent article by Movie Guide, in the commercial lineup for this year, Devour, a Kraft food brand, aired a new provocative ad satirizing porn addiction.

The censored version aired during the third quarter of the game while earlier last week, Devour released the uncensored version in an attempt to generate buzz and draw attention to the ad campaign.

According to Movie Guide, "The uncensored video ad focuses in on an unmarried couple where the girlfriend speaks to the audience relaying that her partner has an addiction to 'frozen food porn.'"

In tandem with the ad campaign, Devour created a hotline number for people to call that "suffer from" food porn addictions. Those who called were met with men and women in sultry voices talking about things they enjoy eating and offering the caller options for where they would like their call to be directed.

New research is annually released revealing the destruction of pornography in our culture. Addiction is no laughing matter. We encourage families to refrain from purchasing Kraft products and make concerns known to the company through the customer service phone number at (877) 535-5666.

February 6, 2019

Pope Francis Calls for Universal Sex Education

Wed, 06 Feb 2019 13:14:41 GMT

Pope Francis Calls for Universal Sex Education

On Sunday, January 27, 2019, the issue of "sex education" was addressed by Pope Francis at an inflight press conference on his return to Rome from Panama on World Youth Day. According to a recent article by Randy Engel, Pope Francis called for universal "sex education."

Engel's article outlines why Pope Fancis aims to push sex education so persistently and ignores the "latency period" so well accepted by the Catholic Church. St. John Paul II referred to the latency period as the years of innocence. According to St. John Paul II, this stage varies from child to child and can span into adolescence.

Everything in this culture wants to violate those years of innocence.The world seeks to destroy innocence by design. Advertisers, books, movies and social media attempt to sexualize children at a young age.

According to Dr. Richard Day, a former National Medical Director of Planned Parenthood-World Population, the real purpose of "sex education" is to get children interested in sex at an early age and have them make the connection between sex and the need for contraception early in their lives, even before they become sexually active. In a 1969 speech on the coming "New World System (Order) Day" insisted that sex and reproduction must be separated.

Following the U.S. Supreme Court decision of Roe vs. Wade on January 22, 1973 Dr. Alan Guttmacher, another Planned Parenthood official, was asked by a Washington Star News reporter how the decision could be made absolutely secure, once and for all. Guttmacher responded with two words, "sex education."

According to Engel, in the text of Amoris Laetitia, released by Pope Francis in 2016, he uses terms such as virtue, modesty, chastity, commitment, respect and fertility. The term "sex education," often sold to Catholic parents as "family life education," points youth in the opposite direction because:

"Sex Education" is not about God or the Natural Law. It is about sexual idolatry.
It is not about virtue, but about vice.
It is not about morality, but about immorality.
It is not about chastity and modesty, but about the destruction of innocence and purity.
It is not about the facts if life, but rather about death and killing.
It is not about fertility, but about sterility.
It is not about love, but about achieving physical pleasure.
It is not about respect and honor, but about dishonor and infidelity.
It is not about family life, but about the destruction of the family and the undermining of parental authority.

Engel writes that ultimately, the idea of "'sex education' is anti-educational, anti-child and anti-family."

Read the full article HERE .

February 6, 2019

The Reality of Raising Young Adults

Wed, 06 Feb 2019 13:12:34 GMT

The Reality of Raising Young Adults

"When our kids are small, we can talk until we are blue in the face about the struggles that come in the early years," Katie Bingham-Smith wrote in a recent blog post . She reflects, "As my kids have gotten older and more self-sufficient, I've realized something I didn't think about when they were small: I still need help."

Katie encourages parents to continually consult the "village" of people that you sought in your child's early years because it takes just that, a village, to raise a child. The reality is that it is difficult to raise a teenager. According to Katie, parents of young adults "need just as much help and understanding as new mothers." Rather than reflecting on what is not working in your family and becoming discouraged, reflect on what has been working and what's bringing your family together.

February 6, 2019

Preparing for Valentine's Day

Wed, 30 Jan 2019 13:10:52 GMT

P reparing for Valentine's Day

Valentine's Day is on the horizon. February 14 is often a day of chocolates, teddy bears and proposals. But, what if you haven't found "the one" or you feel called to a life of singleness? What if you are patiently waiting for your future spouse and are practicing contentment in your current season?

Does being single on Valentine's Day mean you can't participate in the one day a year set aside to celebrate love? Absolutely not.

Embrace this love-filled holiday and start planning a day with your friends! No doubt, each friendship you have brings unique joys and blessings into your life. Consider arranging a progressive dinner, having a spa day or hosting a Pinterest party and movie marathon. Use this Valentine's Day to let your friends know that they are appreciated and loved!

January 30, 2019

Are You Aware of These Apps?

Wed, 30 Jan 2019 13:09:15 GMT

Are You Aware of These Apps?

It is nearly impossible to keep up with every new, trending app that is marketed to young adults. Talking to your children about the potential risk-features associated with new apps is essential to maintaining safety online. Risk features may include: interaction with strangers, anonymity and apps that warrant privacy concerns.

Common Sense Media recently released an article outlining ten apps that parents should be aware of in 2019. Apps mentioned include Lipsi, an anonymous "feedback" app that allows users tell others what they think of them without revealing their own identities and HOLLA, an app that allows users to video chat with strangers.

Be aware that developers releasing free apps often make money through advertising, in-app purchases and selling user data. Know what is on your child's device and engage in regular conversations about the apps and accounts they use to help you and your child determine if the apps should continue to be used.

January 30, 2019

Is Your Child Ready for Social Media?

Wed, 30 Jan 2019 13:03:53 GMT

Is Your Child Ready for Social Media?

January 30, 2019

Age alone should not be the determining factor in your child having personal social media accounts. The right question should be closer to "based on everything I know about my child, do I believe he or she is ready to handle the pressures, risks, emotions and unpredictable nature of using social media responsibly?"

In order to answer that question well, it requires you to truly know your child. Study your child. Analyze the behaviors of your child. It requires parents to be observant, engaged and informed.

Here are six questions Protect Young Eyes encourages parents to consider:

What are your child's friendships and social skills like?
If friendships in real life have any level of drama or tension, then those relationships will ignite on social media. Social media can be like gasoline for cruel behavior.Furthermore, can your child carry on a meaningful, face-to-face conversation with a non-parent adult? If not, then they are likely not ready for social media. Your child should be able to order their own food at restaurants, shake hands, look people in the eye and speak confidently to adults. Allow them to master face-to-face interactions long before they are tested through a screen.
How well does your child obey rules?
Is there a level of deception or defiance in your child? Does your child lie regularly? If yes, then they are not ready for social media.
Does your child have a strong heart?
Is your child confident and secure in their identity? The ability to overcome the temptation to compare is a necessity on social media, especially for young people. If your child cannot name three positive qualities about themselves, they are not ready for social media.
Is your child trustworthy?
Is your son or daughter able to be home alone for an extended period of time without contact from you? If your child is not able to handle two hours alone in the real world, then he or she likely cannot handle a few minutes alone in the social media world.
Is your child at least 13 years old?
Children who begin using social media before age 13 are beginning their journey into social media by lying about their age. Children must legally be 13 years old to activate a personal social media account.
Have you had direct and frequent conversations about social media?
Discussing sexting, pornography and sexual predators is a must before allowing your child to engage on social media. Before using social media, your child needs to know what sexting, pornography and sexual predators are and what to do when confronted by situations that involve them.Go through every possible "what if?" scenario and ask yourself the following questions: Have we talked about that? Does my child know what to do when they see pornography? Can your child recognize the signs of a sexual predator and be confident in knowing what to do if they are approached online?

Addressing Abortion from the Pulpit

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 18:06:07 GMT

Addressing Abortion from the Pulpit

January 23, 2019

There are thousands of women sitting in church services who need to hear that God's gift of forgiveness is offered to all - even those who have had an abortion.

In an article recently shared by Care Net, the author expressed his frustration towards pastors and clergyman who avoid the topic of abortion. He then explained that for many pastors, their silence on the issue of abortion is "not due to cowardice or apathy, but due to a very understandable concern of emotionally damaging their congregants who they know are post-abortive."

He writes, "I'm not saying that the best response to that fear is silence on abortion. I'm merely acknowledging that when a pastor is shepherding hundreds of people, and he knows that some of them are post-abortive, it's at least understandable for him to be very concerned for their well-being if someone says something in church that equates abortion to killing babies."

The author goes on to describe a woman who shared her personal testimony as both a church attender and woman who had gone through with an abortion.

She said to a group of pastors in attendance, "Twenty years ago I had my abortion. The week before I had my abortion, I was sitting in my seat in my pew at my church. The week after my abortion I was sitting in my pew at my church. For the last twenty years, I've sat in that same seat, in the same pew. Never once has there been a message in our church offering hope and healing, and as a result, I assumed [abortion] must not only be the unspeakable sin, but therefore it must be the unforgivable sin."

The pastors began to weep and she challenged them saying, "If you think you are doing something compassionate by not bringing this issue up, if you think by being the priest or the Levite by avoiding it and just hoping it will go away, and you're helping people, you're not." Do everything you can. Help those in need. Help those in unexpected pregnancies. Help our culture that is sick. We have the answer. The gospel of Jesus Christ was not only a gospel of salvation, but it was a gospel of building His Kingdom here on earth. The way we do that is to love our neighbors as ourselves."

Equipping Students to be Mentally Tough

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 18:04:36 GMT

Equipping Students to be Mentally Tough

Removing hardship from students generally adds to their anxiety in the long run. According to Tim Elmore, "students begin to look outside for their remedy to stress, rather than growing some grit and learning to 'do hard things'."

Rather than teaching students that life is filled with stresses that they must learn to deal with, we are beginning to create "cognitive distortions" in their minds, making them think things are catastrophic when they really are not. By removing these relatively small risks when the stakes are low, we create risk-deprived kids.

"We've now produced the most risk-averse population of kids to date," Elmore wrote."If members of Gen Z have been risk-deprived and are therefore more risk-averse, then it is likely that they have a lower bar for what they see as daunting... They will see more ordinary life tasks as beyond their ability to handle on their own without help from an adult."

The list below comes from Dr. Roberty Leahy, Stephen Holland and Lata McGinn's book, Treatment Plans and Interventions for Depression and Anxiety Disorders and represents a few of the nine "cognitive distortions" that can be remedied by healthy, logical thinking.

You can help students battle these cognitive distortions daily:

Emotional Reasoning: Letting our feelings guide our interpretation of reality. (I feel down about my class today, therefore I should drop this course.)
Catastrophizing: Focusing on the worst possible outcome as the most likely. (If I don't pass this class, I will never get into a college.)
Overgeneralizing: Perceiving an overall pattern of negatives based on a single example. (I knew this would happen. I seem to fail at almost everything I do.)
Mind Reading: Assuming that you know what people think without having good enough evidence. (He thinks I'm a loser.)
Blaming: Seeing other people as the source of your negative feelings, so you refuse to take responsibility for yourself. (She makes me angry! My parents did this to me.)

We will only build tough minds by preparing the student for the path, not vice versa. You can read the full list of cognitive distortions HERE .

January 23, 2019

Social Media and Mental Health

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 13:00:07 GMT

Social Media and Mental Health

New findings published by The Lancet suggests social media use may be associated with young people's mental health, specifically young girls.

United Kingdom researchers examined data on 10,904 14-year-olds born between 2000 and 2002 in the U.K. for the study, using a variety of regression and path models to find associations between social media use and depressive symptoms.

On average, research showed that girls had higher depressive symptom scores compared with boys. Girls also reported spending more time on social media than boys. According to the study, teen girls who spent more than five hours on social media per day had a 50 percent increase in depressive symptoms and boys experienced a 35 percent increase in symptoms compared to those who used social media for only one to three hours per day.

Overall, more social media use resulted in a higher probability of teens experiencing mental health problems, the study found.

January 23, 2019

Ending Child Pornography on Social Media Platforms

Wed, 16 Jan 2019 18:02:52 GMT

Ending Child Pornography on Social Media Platforms

Last November, it was discovered that child pornography was being shared on the popular social media platform Tumblr. As a result, Apple removed the Tumblr app from their App Store. A month later Tumblr made the decision to remove all pornographic content from their site.

According to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCSE), WhatsApp, a popular texting app, is following suit and facing the same issue of child pornography being shared through the app. WhatsApp, owned by Facebook, is one of the most popular messaging apps in the world. Early last year, WhatsApp hit 1.5 billion monthly users with over 60 billion messages sent per day.

There are two major factors the NCSE believes contribute to the issue of inappropriate content being shared:

WhatsApp allows adult pornography on their platform.
While child pornography is banned on WhatsApp, adult pornography is allowed. As Tumblr learned first-hand, permitting adult pornography opens the door for a toxic environment. Boundaries are slowly pushed and content becomes gradually more extreme.
WhatsApp lacks proper moderation.

Facebook has a team of 20,000 employees monitoring content posted on the social media platform. However, none of these employees work for the Facebook-owned WhatsApp. WhatsApp has 300 employees to independently manage content on a large, ever changing platform.

It is time for WhatsApp to follow Tumblr's example and remove all explicit adult content from the platform . Take action by raising awareness about this important issue. You can also leave a negative review for WhatsApp on the App Store asking them to stop sharing all forms of exploitive content.

January 16, 2019

Anti-Trafficking Law Named after Abolitionist Frederick Douglass

Wed, 16 Jan 2019 18:00:58 GMT

Anti-Trafficking Law Named after Abolitionist Frederick Douglass

On Tuesday, January 8 President Donald Trump signed into law the Frederick Douglass Act, a bill authorizing $430 million to combat human trafficking.

According to CBN News , the $430 million will be used over four years to fund the following:

Shelter and counseling for victims;
Training airline employees to spot potential victims;
Oversight to make sure government funds do not employ traffickers;
Prevention education for children;
Facilitation of anti-human trafficking supply chains in US commerce.

The legislation received bipartisan support and is named in honor of Frederick Douglass who was born into slavery around 1818. Douglass fought to abolish the institution and served as an American diplomat. He was also the US minister and consul general to Haiti for three years.

"In the fight to end modern day slavery, my law honors the extraordinary legacy of one of the greatest Americans who ever lived," Representative Chris Smith of New Jersey said in a press release last Wednesday.

Smith has previously authored four major U.S. laws to fight trafficking: the landmark Trafficking Victims Protection Act (P.L. 106-386) that started it all, the Trafficking Victims Protection Reauthorization Act (P.L. 108-193), the Trafficking Victims Protection Reauthorization Act of 2005 (P.L. 109-164) and the International Megan's Law (P.L. 114-119).

January 16, 2019

Children Abusing Children: A Dangerous Trend

Wed, 09 Jan 2019 17:58:08 GMT

Children Abusing Children: A Dangerous Trend

Kansas City television station KSHB recently interviewed doctors and nurses at Children's Mercy Hospital, a hospital that serves roughly 1,000 children annually who have been sexually assaulted.

Heidi Olson, a nurse at Mercy Hospital said that she was shocked at what the data has told them: "almost half of our perpetrators are minors" between the ages of eleven and fifteen with twenty five percent of all sex crimes now being committed by minors.

According to Jennifer Hanson, a child abuse pediatrician at Mercy Hospital, many of these assaults "include physical violence in addition to sexual violence." A major factor, in the victimization of these children is something society has often deemed "harmless": pornography. Often, according to Mercy nurses, the young victims are forced to view pornography, others forced to act out something portrayed in a pornographic video, and others are recorded in a sexual act.

January 9, 2019

Reclaiming the Smartphone: Free Video Series

Wed, 09 Jan 2019 17:57:10 GMT

Reclaiming the Smartphone: Free Video Series

Are you sick of having cell phones ruin your family dinners? Do you feel behind and out of control when it comes to all of the changes in technology?

Axis, in partnership with the Colson Center, has created a free video series for parents who are looking to purchase a phone for their child, reclaim technology in the home and build trust with their children. Learn how you can avoid functioning on the defensive or be seen as "the bad guy" when it comes to technology today.

January 9, 2019

Cyberbullying Now a Crime in Michigan

Wed, 09 Jan 2019 17:55:25 GMT

Cyberbullying Now a Crime in Michigan

Governor Rick Snyder of Michigan recently signed Public Act 457 into law officially defining cyberbullying as a misdemeanor crime that takes effect in March 2019, according to the Detroit Metro Times . At the very least, the law makes cyberbullying punishable by up to 93 days in jail, plus a $500 fine.

"Cyberbullying can cause just as much trauma as traditional bullying so it's important that it be considered a crime," Snyder said in a statement to the Detroit Metro Times . "With this bill, we are sending a message that bullying of any kind is not tolerated in Michigan."

The bill follows a number of suicides in Michigan. In 2015, a 13-year-old girl committed suicide after being bullied and taunted by classmates on Facebook. At the time, police said the social media posts did not indicate criminal wrongdoing.

January 9, 2019

New to Netflix: Sex Education

Wed, 09 Jan 2019 17:53:56 GMT

New to Netflix: Sex Education

With series like Elite, Baby, Rain, Big Mouth and Chilling Adventures of Sabrina, Netflix has enticed teens into watching shows centered on teen prostitution rings, pornography, hookups, and more.

On January 11, Netflix's new series Sex Education will release with teens in mind. The show centers on the life of Otis Milburn and his friends as they start a peer led sex clinic in their high school to educate their classmates and answer questions about sex. While Otis himself has never engaged in sexual activity, his mother is a sex therapist. Sex Education addresses masturbation, gender identity, sexual orientation and more.

Teenagers need to be hearing about the normal changes that their bodies will go through from their parents, not Netflix. Communicating God's design for human development and sexual intimacy within the context of marriage needs to be expressed by parents. Likewise, the lies and misuse of God's intended plan need to be discussed in the home.Not sure where to begin these conversations? Developing a relationship with your teenager that encourages open conversations and giving your child the opportunity to feel heard and understood is a step towards routine dialogue to discuss difficult topics. Even if your past reflects poor choices, you can still speak truth in the lives of your children and grandchildren. Consider the following tips from the book Abstinence 101 :

Treat sex education as a process. Educating children about sexual integrity is not a one-time lesson but an ongoing process.
Be honest. Many young people are looking for honest answers about what to do on dates, how to interact with the opposite sex and how premarital sex can affect their future.
Be a loving guide, not "just a friend." Parents need to be a mature voice of wisdom in their children's lives.

In addition to regular conversations and discussions, setting parental controls on Netflix can help filter negative content from your family's streaming options.

Looking for an additional resource? Passport2Purity (P2P) was developed to assist you in building a relationship with your teen while laying a foundation of purity. Through the shared listening experience, object lessons and guided conversations of a P2P weekend getaway, you can set your son or daughter on a journey of moral integrity and strengthen the bond between you and your teen.

January 9, 2019

Graphic Novels: A Distortion of Love

Wed, 02 Jan 2019 17:51:59 GMT

Graphic Novels: A Distortion of Love

Traditionally, pornography was often thought of as a struggle for men. However, studies show that porn use among women is rapidly increasing, particularly among younger females.

According to a recent article by Covenant Eyes, some women get pulled into pornography through seeing graphic sexual images, while many women are introduced by the combination of romantic themes and sexual arousal through graphic novels. An example of this would be the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise, with the first book selling more than 100 million copies.

Society tells women that sexually explicit novels are justified due to a perceived belief that the content does not appear to be as lewd or offensive as visual porn, particularly when a "storyline" has redeeming qualities. However, as incurious as it may seem, there are many hidden destructive effects that mirror the impact of visual pornography.

Did you work with a seemingly impossible student who turned their negative circumstances around last semester? Are you a parent who has been trying to reach your son or daughter for months to no avail until this last year? Maybe you work at a pregnancy resource center and had a negative test client who had never had the opportunity to talk with someone about sexual integrity and had never been told that there is a second chance. We want to hear from you!

Celebrating victories with our affiliates is one of our favorite things to do as a team! As we continue to reflect on the many ways we look to make an impact in 2019, we also want to hear your 2018 highlights and victories!

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January 2, 2019

Free For a Limited Time

Thu, 20 Dec 2018 17:45:07 GMT

Free For a Limited Time

photos with your phone or camera that you actually missed aspects of

what was going on around you? Does perfectionism play into your

photo-taking or your photo-sharing?

In her book, Screens and Teens: Connecting With Our Kids In a Wireless Worl d, Dr. Kathy Koch encourages adults to consider, as well as model, appropriate technology use for the teenagers in their lives.

Dr. Koch discusses the risks of becoming entangled in narcissistic, "selfie" culture. To counter and remedy this fixation with the self, she emphasizes the value of implementing face-to-face connecting days, as well as setting times for when technology should be put away (e.g., during mealtimes, right before bed, on vacations, etc.). By modeling positive behaviors and routines for adolescents, adults have the extraordinary opportunity to acquaint young people with life outside of the screen. Further, by taking time for "playing," as well as delighting in each other's company, the constant desire to use technology loses much of its former, urgent enticement. Koch notes: "Teens who are loved well and affirmed honestly at home will be less likely to become preoccupied with selfies."

In short: by conducting a self-examination of ourselves, we are able to not only address some of our own opportunities for self-improvement, but also pass along to the young people in our lives both wisdom and anecdotes for bettering their lives, as well as the lives of others.

December 20, 2018

Starbucks Bans Pornography

Wed, 12 Dec 2018 17:33:59 GMT

Starbucks Bans Pornography

Starbucks recently announced the franchise will begin blocking pornographysites throughout its in-store Wi-Fi service in 2019. According to WORLD Magazine the decision came after years of pressure from numerous organizations to set up filters to block explicit content.

In late November, Enough is Enough (EIE), an organization centered on internet safety, announced a new petition calling on Starbucks to follow through. "By breaking its commitment, Starbucks is keeping the doors wide open for convicted sex offenders and others to fly under the radar from law enforcement and use free, public Wi-Fi services to access illegal child porn and hard-core pornography," EIE President and CEO Donna Rice Hughes said . "Having unfiltered hotspots also allows children and teens to easily bypass filters and other parental control tools set up by their parents on their smart phones, tablets and laptops."

December 12, 2018

Alive to Thrive: Preventing Teen Suicide

Wed, 12 Dec 2018 17:31:45 GMT

Alive to Thrive: Preventing Teen Suicide

December 12, 2018

Teen suicide is a serious and troubling problem facing our country. Suicide is the third leading cause of death among teens in America. Focus on the Family recently published Alive to Thrive - A Guide to Preventing Teen Suicide , a program that explores the social, psychological and spiritual aspects of the epidemic.

This resource, written by clinical experts, is designed to help parents, youth workers and educators understand suicide and act against the epidemic with a preventative approach.

Topics covered include:

The Best Defense Against Suicide
Things That May Make Children Vulnerable to Suicide
Mental Health Issues & Suicide
Technology & Suicide
Problem Behaviors & Suicide
Dealing with Suicide

Alive to Thrive also features videos of church workers, healthcare providers and young people discussing their own struggles with suicidal thoughts and how comfort and clarity can be found in a turbulent and confusing world.

Initiating Change & Combating Pornography

Wed, 28 Nov 2018 17:29:29 GMT

Initiating Change & Combating Pornography

Accessing pornography is increasingly easy due to technology. The statistics can be overwhelming.

Over 40 million Americans are regular visitors to pornography websites.
There are 42 million pornography websites totaling 370 million pages of pornography.
The pornography industry's annual revenue is more than the NFL, NBA and MLB combined. It is also more than the combined revenues of ABC, CBS and NBC.
47% of families in the United States reported that pornography is a problem in their home.
Eleven is the average age that a child is first exposed to pornography. By age 14, 94% of children will have seen pornography.

Realizing that pornography is a systemic societal issue is the first step in overcoming the numbers. Men, women and children are susceptible to exposure and addiction. If you are struggling with pornography, or know someone who is, consider looking into the following resources:

Control the content that comes through your devices by using an internet filtering and accountability software like Covenant Eyes .
Be encouraged by men and women who have experienced healing. Delivered shares stories of individuals from a variety of backgrounds who found hope and healing.
Go through the Conqueror Series with a group of trusted, like-minded individuals.
Share The Truth About Pornography with parents, educators and students. The booklet assists readers in identifying triggers that may lead to viewing, seeking accountability and developing a long-term success plan.
Engage in discussion with your children about sexting, safe technology use and learn how to react if your child unintentionally views pornography.
Find additional articles and resources HERE .

*Statistics from Barna Group and Covenant Eyes

November 28, 2018

Social Support Fosters Academic Achievement

Wed, 28 Nov 2018 17:26:21 GMT

Social Support Fosters Academic Achievement

Research suggests that parental involvement and supervision considerably advance children's academic achievement. Support from family and friends also protects against bullying, which increases depressive symptoms and poor academic achievement , and promotes positive affect .

Likewise, parents can assist their children in achieving academic success by regularly discussing academics at home, partnering in their child's learning and advocating for their child.

November 28, 2018

Embracing an Attitude of Gratitude as a Family

Wed, 28 Nov 2018 17:23:17 GMT

Embracing an Attitude of Gratitude as a Family

Practicing gratitude is an essential attribute to enjoying the holiday season. According to psychologist and author Dr. Thomas Lickona, "Gratitude is the virtue of feeling and expressing thanks for benefits received. It's been called 'the secret of a happy life.'" In a recent article , Dr. Lickona explains that grateful people are healthier, more alert, sleep better, and have more positive relationships.

A grateful spirit makes us aware of all that others do for us and inspires us to be helpful in return. Frequent expressions of gratitude cost nothing but do a lot to make others feel appreciated and create a loving atmosphere in the home.

Create an attitude of gratitude in your home and make gratefulness part of your family culture by practicing these family habits:

Start dinner with a round of "gratefuls" ("What are you grateful for today?").
At the end of dinner, thank the individuals who prepared the meal for their work or for a part you especially enjoyed. Also, thank whoever set the table or will be doing the dishes.
Make it a family practice to sincerely thank anyone who does you a service, such as those who wait on you in restaurants or stores.
Teach your children to thank their teachers and school staff like secretaries and custodians who might not get a lot of appreciation.

Learn more about how your family can practice gratitude this holiday season by reading Dr. Lickona's full article here .

November 28, 2018

Entertainment vs. Exploring

Wed, 14 Nov 2018 17:21:44 GMT

Entertainment vs. Exploring

"The world's artificial pleasures are all but evidence that the human

race has to a large extent lost its power to enjoy the true pleasures

of life, and is forced to substitute for them false and

degrading thrills." - A.W. Tozer

Has entertainment served as a culprit in the loss of your time? Has entertainment for the sake of entertainment caused you to withdraw or retreat into yourself in order to escape reality, rather than helping to find your place and purpose in reality?

Reading rich, thought-provoking material can give way to wisdom and a greater desire for exploration and knowledge. Reading sets our eyes on the vast universe we inhabit and its many possibilities and opportunities. Just as honey can be added to enhance the flavor of a homemade dessert, some entertainment can sweeten and benefit our lives, but over-consumption has an ill effect.

Productive reading, however, especially when done in excess, fuels victory, passion, knowledge and understanding. Dave Ramsey explains: "One of the great gifts my mom gave me was she taught me that anything that you want to know, anything that you want to be, any problem that you have, can be solved from a book. Books give you access to other people's wisdom, other people's experience, and the wisdom of the ages for that matter."

November 14, 2018

How to Avoid Over-Scheduling Your Family During the Holidays

Wed, 14 Nov 2018 17:20:40 GMT

How to Avoid Over-Scheduling Your Family During the Holidays

When you look at your calendar between now and the New Year, is it a source of stress? It is far too easy to over-schedule our families and ourselves as the holidays approach.

Here are a few tips for finding balance during the holiday season from Focus on the Family :

Prioritize. Consider carefully what things are most important. There will always be competing demands on our attention (technology, work, etc.), but you get only a limited amount of time to build relationships together as a family. Choose wisely.
Check in. Try to have weekly (or at least monthly) meetings as a family. Mealtimes are great opportunities for conversation. Discuss your calendar and talk about what can stay and what needs to go. Explore what is working and not working, what hurts and what helps. As a family, learn to say "no" to unnecessary time-stealers.
Pause. Take time to laugh, smile, and connect. Focus on what is really important in the big picture, rather than just what is urgent at the moment.

As a parent, you get about 6,500 days with each of your children between birth and 18 years of age. Do you really want to spend all those days leading a frantic, stress-filled life? Make the most of your time by concentrating on the crucial things: God and each other.

November 14, 2018

Monitoring Your Teenager's Online Activity

Wed, 07 Nov 2018 17:18:09 GMT

Monitoring Your Teenager's Online Activity

There are many apps parents can use to monitor their teens social media activity and amount of time spent online. In addition to regular conversations about technology and online safety, using apps to monitor family technology use may help foster positive conversations between parents and teens. Parents may also find apps like Norton to be helpful in monitoring the amount of time spent online. The following apps are among several that can empower a parent to know what's happening on their child's phone:

Norton: This allows you to set phone time limits and filter web content coming in.
TeenSafe: This allows you to track your child's calls, texts, GPS and social media activity.
MobSafetyRangerBrowser: This enables you to view your child's website browsing and set time limits.
PhoneSheriff: This enables you to do all of the above, but is available for fewer devices.
DinnerTime: This allows you to limit phone internet use during family meals.
Qustodio: This allows you to track and set phone curfews which cause phones to shut down.

November 7, 2018

Helping to Manage Teen Stress & Anxiety

Wed, 07 Nov 2018 17:17:06 GMT

Helping to Manage Teen Stress & Anxiety

According to a study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, researcher Dr. Michael Leahy found that "anxiety has increased so much that typical schoolchildren during the 1980's reported more anxiety than child psychiatric patients did during the 1950's." Research from Dr. Jean Twenge released in 2017 showed that there has been a sharp rise in anxiety over the last five years. Today, the Center for Disease Control reports that about one in five teens will experience an anxiety attack or some other mental health disorder. Learn how you can help teens overcome stress and anxiety in a free e-book, Stressed Out, by Tim Elmore.

November 7, 2018

5 Ways to Avoid Burnout in a Helping Profession

Wed, 07 Nov 2018 17:14:13 GMT

5 Ways to Avoid Burnout in a Helping Profession

Counselor burnout is defined by its symptoms: feelings of exhaustion and detachment and dehumanization when dealing with clients. For some, feelings of depression and inadequacy may be present. In addition to burnout, compassion fatigue is also common among helping professionals. Compassion fatigue occurs when the helper is traumatized by his or her efforts to be compassionate towards the individual they are helping who is suffering from trauma.

As helping professionals who listen to and support clients in difficult circumstances, often on a daily basis, there is a high risk for professional burnout. Working long hours, vicarious trauma, and empathy fatigue are all things that are part of working in a helping profession and can lead to burnout.

We are going to walk through five ways you and your team can avoid burnout and compassion fatigue in your helping profession.

Celebrate Victories
Celebrating victories is essential in helping organizations. One practical way you can inspire one another is by spending a few minutes on a daily basis discussing positive conversations, encounters and accomplishments. This is best when done at the end of each work day.
Discuss Client Cases
Sharing client stories and seeking the advice and wisdom of co-workers or other individuals in your field helps both you and the clients you serve succeed. You, as a helper, are able to transfer some of the responsibility and feeling of “aloneness” in functioning in and among a community of other helpers. Dialoguing with others may also offer a new perspective on your client’s situation and care plan.
Find Renewal
At times, it is difficult to say, ‘I need some time for myself.’ As someone who is used to helping others it may feel selfish. It takes strength and self-control to know what you need and ask for it.Developing healthy coping mechanisms is essential to the success of your ability to be a helper and encourager at work and in your personal life. Compartmentalizing work life and home life is important in developing resiliency as a helper. After a difficult day, take time to personally process by yourself or with a coworker before leaving work.
In addition to compartmentalizing work life and home life, take time to do one thing for yourself each day. This may sound simple, but self-care can easily be neglected. Read a book, exercise or take time for a new hobby.
Seek Help When Needed
When burnout takes hold, an impairment in one’s ability to be fully present for clients may occur. In this case, merely discussing client cases with peers and engaging in peer supervision may not be enough. Individuals who are experiencing this level of burnout are encouraged to seek professional counseling to help move beyond impairment and find more specific coping mechanisms. Informing your supervisor of how you feel will give them an opportunity to be informed and potentially make changes to your work environment. Your supervisor may also have suggestions and referrals as you seek help.
Remember the Goal
Last, and most important, remember the goal. Be reminded that God has led you to where you are in your profession for a specific purpose and He will sustain you. With each interaction and each conversation, you are planting a seed; a seed you may never see come to fruition. You may never see God’s saving work in the life of your client. You may never know if they made a life affirming decision for their child, but you can be encouraged knowing that you spoke words of truth and hope while they were visiting your center. You were able to plant a seed.

Burnout occurs when we as individuals feel we are in-control when, in fact, we are not. Be encouraged because Christ claimed the ultimate victory when His Son Jesus Christ died on the cross for the sins of the world. Rejoice knowing that God is sovereign and death is defeated. Engaging in personal or staff led Bible reading and prayer will help remind you of Gospel truths and will serve as an encouragement for you and your team each day.

November 7, 2018

Talking with the Parents of Your Child's Friend Viewing Pornography

Wed, 31 Oct 2018 17:11:53 GMT

Talking with the Parents of Your Child's Friend Viewing Pornography

October 31, 2018

Jen Ferguson found herself in a difficult circumstance. Her daughter, a sixth grader at the time, was working on a collaborative project with a friend at school and clicked the wrong tab on her friends computer which led to pornography.

Jen and her husband were able to help their daughter process what she had seen, but were still concerned about their daughters friend who was likely still viewing pornography. This led them to have a conversation with her parents.

Here are a few of Jen's tips published by Covenant Eyes for talking to parents of your child's friend viewing pornography:

Deal with Your Own Emotions First, Then Act

Jen expresses experiencing great anger in having worked so hard to protect her daughter's devices. Yet, she and her husband were powerless when it came to protecting their daughter from the devices of others. "Access to porn is ever-evolving," Jen wrote. "Even when we think we have all the bases covered, there are usually still opportunities where our kids can be exposed."

Be Helpful, But Not Pushy

Although it may be tempting to offer advice right away, Jen suggests waiting to see if the parent asks. "Let them know you'd be happy to have conversations about what has worked for you to keep your kids safe, but give them space to say 'yes' to your input."

Read more tips and conversation starters HERE .

Government Mandated Sex Education in Uganda

Wed, 31 Oct 2018 17:09:15 GMT

Government Mandated Sex Education in Uganda

Parents in Kampala, Uganda began lamenting the effects of a new sex education program less than two months after it was introduced in schools.

As a father of four, John Musisi shared with National Catholic Reporter (NCR) how government-mandated sex education courses in Catholic schools have harmed his 12-year-old son.

According to the article , "Musisi is among thousands of Catholics in this East African nation of 37.67 million who have rejected sex education in Catholic schools unless administrators change the curriculum to reflect traditional values."

Catholics make up the largest religious denomination in Uganda with 39 percent of the population; around 32 percent are Anglican, and 14 percent are Muslim according to 2014 Census data .

The government has introduced guidelines for sex education in all schools, including ones founded by faith-based organizations. The officials said the requirement was necessary because sexual crimes, unwanted pregnancies, teenage pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases are common among school-age children. According to a government document, the new program instructs children between 3 and 5 years old to "know" themselves sexually.

"Teachers are giving kids ideas of things that they had never thought of before," said Musisi. "It's our responsibility as parents to raise our children the way we want. It's embarrassing to see our kids start to think [about] and discuss sex."

October 31, 2018

Divorce Rates Decline in the United States

Wed, 31 Oct 2018 17:06:18 GMT

Divorce Rates Decline in the United States

A recent study found that divorce rates are falling across the United States. According to University of Maryland professor and author of the study, Philip Cohen, the divorce rate in the United States dropped by 18 percent from 2008 to 2016. Many believe millennials are leading the trend.

Licensed marriage and family counselor, Marsha Vaughn told WORLD that "several factors influence the divorce rate, including the age at which people get married."

Vaughn explained that the median age of first marriage is on the increase. "In 2016, the median age for first marriage was around 29 for men, and around 27 for women. That is up from 1990 when those numbers were 26 and 24 for men and women," she told WORLD.

Vaughn also believes that many millennials delay marriage because they desire financial stability, a college education and a career prior to marriage which "statistically speaking leads to fewer divorces."

"Millennials are the children of baby boomers," Vaughn points out, "And that's the generation with the highest rate of divorce." For some millennials this may cause them to shy away from marriage altogether. For others, cohabitation is the answer to the marital struggle observed in parents' failed marriages. While divorce rates are low, cohabitation is at an all-time high despite research showing that cohabitating relationships are far less stable."

In conclusion, WORLD reporter Anna Johansen explains that "Although fewer people are getting married, the ones who do are more likely to stick it out."

October 31, 2018

A Mother's Reaction to Teen Sexual Orientation Surveys

Wed, 24 Oct 2018 17:02:58 GMT

A Mother's Reaction to Teen Sexual Orientation Surveys

Connie Jo Hutchinson found herself confronting her sixth grade son's principal after learning that her son was surveyed on his sexual orientation in class.

In a recent article Hutchinson stated that she did not see the educational value of what was being asked of her child. She also expressed a lack of information about the program that was being presented to her son. The program, Shifting Boundaries, is a federally funded program requiring surveys to be handed out to students. The sixth question posed to students read "What is your sexual orientation?" and gave ten possible options. Hutchinson removed her son from the program and has since met with the principal. She credited the principal for taking her concerns seriously and being proactive in addressing the issue.

Read Abstinence 101 to learn how you can be vigilant in staying up to date on policy and help develop policy in your local school district.

October 24, 2018

Keeping Your Family Safe on the Internet For Free

Wed, 24 Oct 2018 17:01:30 GMT

Keeping Your Family Safe on the Internet For Free

Marital Happiness Improves Over Time

A study examining 20 years of data, discovered multiple factors that contribute to long-term marital happiness. Researchers found that a belief in lifelong marriage, hi gh religiosity, shared decision-making and shared housework increased the odds of high happiness and low conflict in marriage.

According to new research , marriages that remain together for more than 20 years also experience a return to initial levels of happiness, continuous declines in discord and increased shared activities.

October 17, 2018

Sextortion Among Adolescents

Wed, 17 Oct 2018 16:10:41 GMT

Sextortion Among Adolescents

October 17, 2018

A research article published in late September outlined just how significant the issue of sextortion is among young people in the United States. According to the article, "Sextortion is the threatened dissemination of explicit, intimate, or embarrassing images of a sexual nature without consent, usually for the purpose of procuring additional images, sexual acts, money, or something else."

Approximately 5% of the middle school and high school students surveyed reported that they had been the victim of sextortion and about 3% admitted to threatening others who had shared an image with them in confidence. Prior to the articles' release, and despite increased public interest in the prevalence of sextortion among teenagers, there was no other empirical examination among adolescents. Sextortion had only been investigated in adults.

Sameer Hinduja, Ph.D., a professor in Florida Atlantic University's School of Criminology and Criminal Justice and one of the articles authors expressed the concern he felt when he realized researchers had not bothered to investigate how this problem affects the most digitally literate people in society: teenagers.

Comprehensive Sex Education Fails to Serve America's Youth

Wed, 17 Oct 2018 16:09:02 GMT

Comprehensive Sex Education Fails to Serve America's Youth

The American College of Pediatricians (ACPeds), a national organization of child and adolescent physicians and health professionals, observes that most comprehensive sex education (CSE) programs offered in schools have not been effective at increasing long-term sexual abstinence in young people. Instead, the ACPeds reports that CSE curricula operates on the premise that sexual activity for teens is normal and acceptable.

In 1988, Debra Haffner, then Executive Director of the Sexuality Information and Education Council of the United States (SIECUS) , wrote in a report that teens should "explore the full range of safe sexual behavior" and suggested that "a partial list of safe sex practices for teens could include talking, flirting, dancing, hugging, necking, massaging, caressing, undressing each other, masturbation alone, masturbation in front of a partner, and mutual masturbation."

"Not all CSE programs include these suggestions, but many do," ACPeds observed. The group states this ideology has not served teen public health well since, as the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) notes, "abstinence from vaginal, anal, and oral intercourse is the only 100% effective way to prevent HIV, other STDs, and pregnancy."

In August, the CDC released data revealing that the number of cases of sexually-transmitted diseases (STDs) had skyrocketed for the fourth consecutive year. According to the CDC , "half of the 20 million new STDs reported each year were among young people, between the ages of 15 to 24."

ACPeds notes that while studies suggest a range of factors - such as poverty, discrimination, and drug use - may contribute to STD increases, it is still reasonable to ask, "After forty years of widespread 'comprehensive sex education' (CSE) in American schools, why are STDs at epidemic levels among teenagers, and continuing to rise?

ACPeds says that the focus needs to shift to promoting character development and abstinence in young people as the primary means of preventing STDs, pregnancy and other public health dangers.

The pediatricians assert the common CSE ideology that risk avoidance is "not attainable, and the best anyone can do to help our youth is to reduce risk by promoting contraceptive education and services," is not helping young people to remain free of STDs. Even condoms are used they are not 100 percent effective against STDs.

"In short, Comprehensive Sex Education (CSE) is not comprehensive," ACPeds reports. "Instead, CSE is almost entirely focused on skills to help teens attempt to reduce the physical consequences of sex through the use of contraception."

October 17, 2018

What Teens Are Watching This Fall

Wed, 10 Oct 2018 16:06:43 GMT

What Teens Are Watching This Fall

As fall TV season begins this month, Axis makes note of two new releases that are gaining popularity among teenagers.

First, the third season of the show Riverdale begins airing on the CW this week. Although the series is based on the Archie comics, the show does not reflect the characteristics of the comic as it regularly uses sex, sensationalism, drama and beautiful people to capture its younger audience's attention, and nothing is as it seems in this adaptation.

According to Axis, "unlike the original comics version, Riverdale reveals the dark, deeper issues bubbling below the surface in small town Americana." For more on Riverdale and how to talk about the television show with your teens, check out Axis's new Parent's Guide to Riverdale .

Second, the entire second season of Netflix's Big Mouth releases today. The highly sexualized animated series is filled with adult themes, but geared toward teens. It highlights the awkward nature of adolescent life, puberty, hormones and shame. Despite crude humor, the series is praised for portraying acceptance of all forms of sexual expression.

Not sure where to begin these conversations? Passport2Purity (P2P) was developed to assist you in building a relationship with your teen while laying a foundation of purity. Through the shared listening experience, object lessons and guided conversations of a P2P weekend getaway, you can set your son or daughter on a journey of moral integrity and strengthen the bond between you.

October 10, 2018

Working With Students is Noble and Admirable

Wed, 10 Oct 2018 16:03:55 GMT

Working With Students is Noble and Admirable

Working With Students is Noble and Admirable

While teaching a workshop for high school and collegiate administrators, deans and principals, author and speaker Tim Elmore posed the question "What changes do you plan to make this school year?" While passing through the discussion groups he heard one administrator say to his colleagues "I'm just biding my time until I retire in two years."

In an article sharing his account, Tim explains that no doubt, the man was likely exhausted after many years working at the school and he had "run out of gas."

According to Elmore, the administrator:

Didn't have it in him to make any effort to understand students today.
Didn't have any more vision for creating a better future for his school.
Didn't see the point in preparing the way for tomorrow's leaders.

Elmore continues by saying that often times our careers drift in the same direction. "Our work with students begins well. We are passionate about teaching them and building skills inside of them. We work at connecting with them and find creative ways to impart those 'lessons' we know they need. But over time, we get beat up. Our ideas fall on deaf ears. Our efforts aren't always rewarded by students who are hungry to learn... So, we stop trying so hard. We become frustrated and impatient when change happens slowly and eventually, we may even stop working to make positive change."

Working with students is noble and admirable. "The emerging generation is the best place to invest your time and energy. They represent the future, and while you can quickly find easier jobs, you likely won't find a more important one," Elmore wrote. "Don't ever forget the nobility of your work. You can rest later. Today, those students need what you have to offer. "

October 10, 2018

California University Reaffirms Truth

Wed, 10 Oct 2018 16:01:42 GMT

California University Reaffirms Truth

Azusa Pacific University in California recently demonstrated the kind of unwavering leadership needed at Christian institutions by proving it is never too late to reaffirm truth as it relates to sex, marriage and gender.

Religious institutions of higher learning are consistently faced with pressure to compromise beliefs pertaining to issues of sexual morality.

After considering a change to a long standing policy in APU's student handbook, the institutions Board of Trustees issued a statement reaffirming "biblical orthodoxy," in which they clarified that APU's convictions "aren't subject to outside pressure of legal, political, or social varieties."

"God's perfect will and design for humankind," the board went on, "is the biblical understanding of the marriage covenant as between one man and one woman. Outside of marriage, He calls His people to abstinence." Importantly, they reaffirmed the school's commitment to walking with students through such challenging questions, and valuing them as individuals.

The Abstinence Clearinghouse commends Azusa Pacific's Board in reaffirming truth and taking steps to restore a biblical understanding of human sexuality. The conviction and clarity shown by the board of trustees will act as a major qualification for leaders of religious institutions in the years to come.

October 10, 2018

According to Facebook, Pregnancy Centers are Political

Wed, 03 Oct 2018 15:56:15 GMT

According to Facebook, Pregnancy Centers are Political

Facebook's adjusted advertisement policy, implemented last May, has affected many non-profit organizations including Heartbeat International, an organization that comes alongside pregnancy resource centers in the United States and throughout the world.

According to a recent blog published by the organization, Facebook stated that their submitted advertisement would run without a "paid for by" label. The ad was soon deemed political and was promptly removed by Facebook.

Based on Facebook's FAQs, a political ad:

Is made by, on behalf of, or about a current or former candidate for public office, a political party, a political action committee, or advocates for the outcome of an election to public office; or
Relates to any election, referendum, or ballot initiative, including "get out the vote" or election information campaigns; or
Relates to any national legislative issue of public importance in any place where the ad is being run; or
Is regulated as political advertising.

Creating Facebook ads is necessary to the success of many businesses and non-profit organizations. Lean how you can prepare yourself for similar situations and how you can prevent your ads from being removed by Facebook HERE .

October 3, 2018

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

Wed, 03 Oct 2018 15:53:48 GMT

Domestic Violence Awareness Month

The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that 1.3 million women and 835,000 men are victims of physical violence by a partner annually. October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM), an important national campaign created to consider prevention and recovery efforts and raise awareness for the many women and men impacted by domestic violence.

Recognizing that domestic violence can be reinforced and shaped by issues like prior childhood sexual abuse, sexual assault, and pornography is essential to conversations surrounding prevention and recovery efforts.

According to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation , domestic violence intersects with pornography in three ways:

Pornography sets expectations of violence and abuse. Pornography fosters aggression by normalizing and depicting verbal and physical violence as enjoyable.
Sometimes abusers use pornography to manipulate victims. Behaviors like threatening, isolating, gas lighting and more, are hallmarks of domestically abusive relationships. The term "revenge pornography" is often not connected to domestic violence or abusive relationships, but the reality is that these phenomena often overlap.
Pornography use by domestic abusers can increase the odds of sexual assault. In a study of 271 battered women, it was found that 30% of the abusers reportedly used pornography. The study concluded that "the majority of women (58%) whose abusers used pornography acknowledged that the pornography had affected their abuse."

If you or a loved one are victims of an abusive relationship of any kind, the National Domestic Violence Hotline is 1-800-799-7233, with more information at www.thehotline.org .

October 3, 2018

Creating a Family Media Plan

Wed, 03 Oct 2018 15:52:10 GMT

Creating a Family Media Plan

Set screen time limits and encourage playtime.
Screen time shouldn't always be alone time.
Be a good role model.
Limit digital media for your youngest family members.
Create tech-free zones.
Don't use technology as an emotional pacifier.

Finally, AAP suggests creating a Family Media Plan that is specific to your family. Accoring to the AAP, "Media should work for you and within your family values and parenting style. When used thoughtfully and appropriately, media can enhance daily life. But when used inappropriately or without thought, media can displace many important activities such as face-to-face interaction, family-time, outdoor-play, exercise, unplugged downtime and sleep."

October 3, 2018

Teen Privacy: Where to Begin

Wed, 26 Sep 2018 15:50:21 GMT

Teen Privacy: Where to Begin

From a locked diary a generation ago to private social media activity on today's smartphones, parents and teens continue to face the same tension between privacy and protection, between freedom and accountability.

Is it ever ok to invade my teen's privacy? How do I keep tabs on their online activity while still giving them an appropriate amount of freedom? Axis tackles these tough questions and more in the new Parents Guide to Teen Privacy.

September 26, 2018

Implications of Child Behavior in Divorce

Wed, 26 Sep 2018 15:48:40 GMT

Implications of Child Behavior in Divorce

According to the Marriage and Religion Research Institute, two national assessments show that parental divorce worsens children's behavior, decreases life opportunities and increases the risk of morbidity and mortality .

A recent study in the Journal of Child Abuse and Neglect also indicates that adverse childhood experiences (like divorce) reduce educational attainment and intimate relationship longevity.

September 26, 2018

Colorado Parents Win the Fight Against Pornography in School

Wed, 26 Sep 2018 15:45:42 GMT

Colorado Parents Win the Fight Against Pornography in School

A small group of parents in the Cherry Creek School District in Colorado fought for two years to have the district end services with EBSCO Information Services, a firm that embeds pornography in its academic databases.

The National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE) reports that "EBSCO promises 'fast access to curriculum-appropriate content' in their advertising to schools." However, the curriculum provides easy access to pornography sites and graphic sexual content. Innocent searches provide pornographic results.

EBSCO provides materials to more than 55,000 schools nationwide. The pornographic content cannot be blocked with filters because the company's databases are enclosed and not part of the Internet.

According to a recent article , the Colorado parents began battling with school officials in September 2016 and remained persistent until the Cherry Creek School District decided to cancel their contract with the database service earlier this month. Senior counsel Matt Heffron of the Thomas More Society, which represented those parents, credits them for persevering, despite hostile treatment from the school board.

September 26, 2018

What is School Surveillance Software?

Wed, 19 Sep 2018 15:42:35 GMT

What is School Surveillance Software?

Children returning to school this year are more likely than ever to be given an electronic device such as a laptop or tablet. While the Children's Internet Protection Act requires pubic schools to filter inappropriate content, some administrators want to do more to protect students. Increased rates of online bullying and teen suicide have prompted many school districts to implement surveillance software that scans students' online activity. The software uses Natural Language Processing to scan all the words used in emails, text messages and documents stored on the Cloud. An alert is sent to administrators if words indicating self-harm or violence are detected.

One particularly dramatic example of the successful use of student surveillance comes from Wausau, Wisconsin. According to the WORLD broadcast , a student sent an email to a friend at 7:42 a.m. mentioning intentions of suicide, kicking off an alert to district officials who contacted the school at around 7:48 a.m. -just six minutes later. They found the student in the bathroom just seconds away from a suicide attempt.

WORLD reported that the surveillance tactic has raised privacy concerns; however, surveillance companies like Gaggle assure students that personal accounts remain private. Parents can also benefit from the parent portals that are offered through many of the online surveillance programs. The parent portals give parents the ability to monitor what their child is searching online.

September 19, 2018

Guide to Mentoring Fathers

Wed, 19 Sep 2018 15:41:27 GMT

Guide to Mentoring Fathers

If you are an experienced dad, you have a great opportunity to mentor other fathers within your circle of influence. From dads who care for their own children to seasoned grandfathers, fathers of all types can make a difference.

By tapping into your reservoir of fatherhood knowledge, you can offer your time to other fathers in need of guidance. By giving just a little time each week, you can make a difference. Many men, especially young men, have become fathers without understanding the responsibility and commitment that is involved in raising children. Some fathers may not have had the guidance of their own father, and could benefit from your fatherhood experience. Whether reaching out to a dad with whom you are already close, or volunteering to work at a mentoring organization or local pregnancy center, you can help increase the chances of children succeeding in life and contribute to combating the father absence crisis.

Want to learn more about becoming a mentor? Download the National Fatherhood Initiative's free Guide to Mentoring Fathers today!

September 19, 2018

Inspiring Virtue in the Life of a Negative Test Client

Thu, 13 Sep 2018 15:40:29 GMT

Inspiring Virtue in the Life of a Negative Test Client

Negative test clients are by far the most difficult clients for me to meet with.

We often hear this phrase at the Abstinence Clearinghouse. While we agree that the client who receives a negative pregnancy test is difficult to consult, we know that the negative test client holds the greatest potential for transformation. When a woman comes in for a pregnancy test she is often scared, confused and hopeless. When news is given to a client that a pregnancy test is negative, a feeling of relief may be seen in a client’s eyes. But, the feeling of relief may only be temporary when months later she walks through the doors of your center seeking another pregnancy test.

We want to give you the tools to avoid the “what could I have done differently?” feeling we have all experienced. A negative test gives you an opportunity to plant seeds and change the direction of a woman’s life. We hope you find this e-booklet helpful in meeting with and pouring into the lives of clients receiving news of a negative pregnancy test. Thank you for inspiring men and women of virtue.

DOWNLOAD NOW

Sincerely,

Leslee Unruh

Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder

September 13, 2018

Public Libraries Hosting Drag Queen Story Hours

Wed, 12 Sep 2018 15:38:10 GMT

Public Libraries Hosting Drag Queen Story Hours

Recently, the American Library Association (ALA) has been actively encouraging libraries across the United States to host "Drag Queen Story Hours" for children. More than 25 locations in 20 states are participating in the story hours. In response to the events, CitizenGO and The Activist Mommy have created a petition to combat the overt sexual indoctrination in public libraries.

At the Drag Queen Story Hours, "gender fluid" drag queens read stories about gender identity, ask children to explore their "preferred pronouns," and encourage children to become drag queens. The Drag Queen Story Hour claims to create a space where "kids are able to see people who defy rigid gender restrictions and imagine a world where people can present as they wish, where dress up is real."

We ask you to consider signing the petition requesting that the ALA end gender indoctrination in children's libraries.

September 12, 2018

Sexual Integrity in South Africa

Wed, 12 Sep 2018 15:36:53 GMT

Sexual Integrity in South Africa

The Abstinence Clearinghouse had the opportunity to equip educators attending the Africa Cares 2018 Flourish Conference with materials to help inspire virtue in the lives of men and women in South Africa. These materials included our Sexual Exposure Chart Card .

Abstinence educators, pregnancy center directors, volunteers and board members were among the sixty delegates who attended the conference focused on connecting individuals who are on the frontlines of sexual integrity education and the pregnancy help movement. What a privilege to come alongside the life affirming work being done in South Africa!

September 12, 2018

Sex Addiction Now Classified as a Mental Disorder

Wed, 12 Sep 2018 15:34:39 GMT

Sex Addiction Now Classified as a Mental Disorder

Recently, the USA Today reported that the World Health Organization (WHO) added "sex addiction" to its list of mental disorders. Many experts hope the new classification "will help change the disorder's perception from a moral failing to simply a medical issue." According to Breaking Point , one addiction specialist praised the WHO for removing sex addiction from the realm of "morality" and "religion," and placing it in the realm of medicine.

The shift, according to the article , "resembles previous changes to how doctors viewed other addictive disorders, such as alcoholism, drug addiction or gambling." Begging the question, are these things now outside the realm of morality and religion, too?

Breaking Point addresses the moral responsibility in addiction in their recent broadcast Sex Addicts Need Deliverance, Not Just Diagnosis.

September 12, 2018

Downloading a Digital Item Frequently Asked Questions

Thu, 30 Aug 2018 15:17:11 GMT

Downloading a Digital Item Frequently Asked Questions

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August 30, 2018

Addressing Teen Sleep Deprivation

Wed, 29 Aug 2018 15:15:51 GMT

Addressing Teen Sleep Deprivation

With a new school year underway, many schools are addressing sleep deprivation in the classroom. According to the Child Mind Institute , biology, technology and societal expectations, combined with homework and extracurricular activities, create a perfect storm for chronic sleep deprivation. Sleep deprivation can negatively affect a teens mood, as well as their ability to think, react, regulate their emotions, learn and get along with peers.

A recent article published by the Washington Post reports that Philadelphia's Temple University is honoring a 45-year relationship sparked in a campus elevator. According to the article, Sharyn Rubin and Eric Schlesinger met on move-in day on September 6, 1972, while she was moving in and he was operating a dorm building elevator. The Philadelphia Inquirer reports Rubin formally introduced herself a few days later at a college mixer, walking up to Schlesinger and saying, "Hi, Mr. Elevator Man." The quote is now affixed to the elevator, which was named for Shari Rubin Schlesinger last Friday.

Shari died last year from colon cancer. She and her Elevator Man had been married for more than 42 years. Eric Schlesinger told the Washington Post that meeting his future wife in the elevator was "the most important thing" that happened to him at Temple.

Photo provided by Temple University.

August 22, 2018

How "Fear of Missing Out" (FoMO) Affects Time Behind the Wheel

Wed, 22 Aug 2018 15:07:53 GMT

How "Fear of Missing Out" (FoMO) Affects Time Behind the Wheel

Many have heard the phrase coined among today's teenagers, "Fear of Missing Out" (FoMO). While most perceive it as a harmless mantra for today's hyper-connected youth, a study released by Liberty Mutual Insurance revealed that the pressures of this "always-on" lifestyle have manifested in potentially deadly consequences behind the wheel. According to AAA Foundation for Traffic Safety, cell phone use while driving is highest among 16-24 year old drivers, and female drivers using a cell phone are more likely to be involved in a fatal crash than male drivers.

From maintaining full school and extracurricular schedules, to constant technology updates, it appears that teens are more hyper-connected and exhausted than ever. The new study found that nearly half of teens report texting more when alone in the car, most often to update their parents. Equally concerning, 56 percent of teens have fallen asleep or nearly fallen asleep at the wheel, revealing the potential risky implications "FoMO" may have on today's young drivers and signaling an important wake-up call needed for both parents and teens.

Modeling safe phone use and encouraging teenagers to wait until they reach their destination or pull over to contact friends and family members is important. Consider using a Teen Driving Contract to encourage positive driving habits. Using an agreement and keeping it up to date as a teen driver progresses shows involvement and trust, growing their autonomy and driving abilities.

August 22, 2018

Taking a Stand Against Pornography in America's Schools

Wed, 22 Aug 2018 15:06:10 GMT

Taking a Stand Against Pornography in America's Schools

As the parent of a middle school child, Robin Paterson and her husband were shocked to discover pornography in the school sponsored digital databases last year.

The couple wrote an article expressing their concern. "We discovered, quite by accident, while perusing articles on 'grade 7 biology', that there were hundreds of articles streaming sexually graphic text and images, full color advertisements for sex products, with links to the vendors, articles promoting the use of pornography for 'sex education', with links to hard core porn sites, articles espousing sexual violence, with ads for the BDSM industry, graphic articles, with images, encouraging and detailing the use of handcuffs, floggers and gags during sexual activities, promoting 'hook-ups'."

According to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCSE) , Elton B. Stephens Co. Information Services and other K-12 "homework" database providers, such as Cengage's GALE and ProQuest, are becoming promoters for Big Porn and, much like Big Tobacco has done in past years, they are targeting children with advertisements in schools.

The NCSE created a booklet for parents looking to ensure their school's online databases are pornography free. Download your free booklet HERE .

August 22, 2018

Workshop: Inspiring Virtue in the Life of a Negative Test Client

Wed, 22 Aug 2018 15:03:42 GMT

Workshop: Inspiring Virtue in the Life of a Negative Test Client

"The negative test clients are by far the most difficult

clients for me to consult."

We often hear this phrase at the Abstinence Clearinghouse. While we agree that the client who receives a negative pregnancy test is difficult to consult with, we know that the negative test client holds the greatest potential for transformation!

Join us Wednesday, September 5 at 4pm in Atlanta, Georgia at the 2018 Care Net Conference as Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh presents on how you can inspire virtue in the life of a negative test client.

If you are attending the conference this year, plan to visit the Abstinence Clearinghouse booth in the exhibit hall and collect free product samples. Unable to attend the conference but still want to learn more about reaching negative test clients at your pregnancy center? Email info@abstinence.net and we will send you a link after the conference informing you how to get a copy of the new e-booklet Inspiring Virtue in the Life of a Negative Test Client.

August 22, 2018

Studying Teens and Technology

Wed, 15 Aug 2018 15:01:43 GMT

Studying Teens and Technology

The Pew Research Center published five new findings on how teens use technology. According to the Culture Translator created by Axis, the study's findings provided eye-opening research. In the study, 85% of teens say they use YouTube compared to only 51% who still access Facebook. This is why Mark Zuckerberg's social media empire recently launched a Youth Portal to bring back this coveted demographic.

More importantly, 45% of teens reported that they are online "almost constantly". For most, "being online almost constantly is simply a means of social survival." Read the report yourself and ask your teen if they agree with the findings. Check out our article, Parents and Grandparents: Starting a No Tech Time to help you set limits on screen time and create tech-free zones in your home.

August 15, 2018

Discussing Campus Safety With Your College Student

Wed, 15 Aug 2018 14:58:55 GMT

Discussing Campus Safety With Your College Student

August 15, 2018

Concern for the safety of college students has grown in light of numerous incidents and tragedies on college campuses.

Ideally, a three-way partnership will do a great deal of good in ensuring the safety of college students. Parents need to talk to their son or daughter about safety, students need to exercise awareness and behave responsibly, and colleges need to take precautions to keep students safe.

Here are a few safety tips for students transitioning into college:

Be aware of lighting on the campus at night and take a well lit path even if it results in a longer route.
Do not let an unknown individual into the residence hall.
Always lock dorm rooms and car doors, even if you plan to only be gone for a few minutes.
Know where you are going. When navigating a new location, walk with confidence and avoid looking confused.
Be aware of emergency phones or "blue lights" on campus and do not hesitate to use them.
Have the Campus Security phone number saved in your phone.
Share your schedule with a roommate or friend. Let them know where you will be and when you expect to return.
Learn how to physically defend yourself in a self-defense class and purchase safety supplies like pepper spray and/or personal alarms .

4 Tips for Parents Sending Their Student to College

Wed, 15 Aug 2018 14:57:10 GMT

4 Tips for Parents Sending Their Student to College

Here are some tips on how to successfully parent your son or daughter as they prepare to leave for college:

Stay in touch, but do not overwhelm.
Allow your student to have the time and space necessary to adjust and immerse themselves in college life. Make sure that he or she knows you are always there when need-be. Check in every so often and schedule your visits ahead of time.
Talk about finances before your student leaves for school.
Every family handles college finances differently, but no matter who is paying for books and meals it helps to talk budget with your student before they are on their own on campus. Encourage them to download a budget app to help them track their spending.
Do not pressure students to come home.
If he or she wants to come home frequently on the weekends, encourage that they stay on campus instead. Students who stay on campus for classes only and return home each weekend tend to enjoy college less because they are not as tied to the campus community. Encourage your son or daughter to join a campus club or activity to get to know some other students.
Send a care-package.
Consider creating a care-package that your college student can enjoy with others. Giftcards, movies, a long phone charger, holiday decor, a diffuser, snacks and games are a few items you could include.

August 15, 2018

Responding to Problematic Sexual Behavior in Children

Wed, 08 Aug 2018 14:55:19 GMT

Responding to Problematic Sexual Behavior in Children

More children are mimicking inappropriate pornography-inspired sexual behavior. Behavior that they do not fully comprehend but have not been taught to process. Sexual behaviors are being mimicked in the same way other behaviors are mimicked by children.

According to a recent article by Dawn Hawkins of the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE), "The real blame in such cases rests on us, not on the children involved. We have allowed our society to become inundated with sexually explicit media and hardcore pornography. We have given our children unfettered access to this material via Internet-connected devices."

https://abstinence.net/2018/08/08/waiting-until-marriage-whats-the-big-deal/

August 8, 2018

Waiting Until Marriage: What's the Big Deal?

Wed, 08 Aug 2018 14:52:36 GMT

Waiting Until Marriage: What's the Big Deal?

"I knew I was supposed to wait until marriage to have sex, but I didn't really know why," Ally Spotts wrote in an article published by Relevant. Spotts went on to explain that many individuals in their 20s who grew up in the "True Love Waits" generation are guilty of asking the wrong questions.

Instead of asking, "Why am I supposed to be doing this?" Spotts admitted to spending most of her energy asking, "How far is too far?" or, "How much kissing is too much kissing?" "Can I sleep in the same bed with someone?" "What if our clothes are on?"

Spotts goes on to explain learned benefits of waiting until marriage and her realization of the deep trust and friendship that forms when choosing to wait. Spotts also writes on the value of boundaries and realizing the realities of lust in a relationship.

August 8, 2018

A Note From the NAC Team

Wed, 08 Aug 2018 13:52:57 GMT

A Note From the NAC Team

In preparation for the upcoming school year, we have had many individuals and groups partner with us through affiliate membership. As our network of abstinence advocates who are passionate about inspiring virtue grows, we wanted to be sure to share our organizations goals with you. For all you social media guru's, consider this our "Friday Introduction."

The Abstinence Clearinghouse is the largest network of abstinence educators, representing thousands of abstinence educators in all 50 states and over 100 countries world-wide. Our organization's main goals are to:

Support parents as the primary educators of their children.
Promote healthy relationships, increase self-respect, encourage wise decision-making and build character among youth and young adults.
Empower youth to make healthy choices by remaining sexually abstinent until marriage.
Provide resources and educational material containing scientific and relevant research to educators supporting youth in their journey to pursue sexual integrity.

For over 20 years we have been a clearinghouse for abstinence information and a network of advocates for sexual integrity. Thank you for raising the bar and inspiring virtue in your community!

August 8, 2018

E-Cig Use Increases Among High School Students

Thu, 02 Aug 2018 13:48:07 GMT

E-Cig Use Increases Among High School Students

For a slim device that looks like a USB stick, the Juul e-cigarette packs a powerful punch. Each refillable insert contains twice the nicotine as a pack of cigarettes. According to Business Insider, “the Juul now represents nearly 71% of the entire e-cig market. In June, sales of the devices surged 738%.”

Despite Juul’s growing popularity the company, now valued at $15 billion, is facing backlash from several state and federal investigations due to a growing concern that the popularity among teenagers is becoming worrisome. According to the Centers for Disease Control’s recently released Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance Survey, 42.2% of the students surveyed have used an electronic vapor product including e-cigarettes, e-cigars, e-pipes, vape pipes, vaping pens, e-hookahs and hookah pens.

Teachers and administrators across the country have expressed concerns as Juuling in the classroom and school bathrooms has become commonplace. To combat the spread of the devices, some schools have banned flash drives to avoid any confusion between the items.

The Massachusetts Attorney General is investigating whether Juul violated state consumer-protection laws by failing to keep minors from buying its products and marketing directly to teens. Likewise, the Food and Drug Administration recently cracked down on sales of the Juul to minors. On top of those concerns, the city of San Francisco recently banned flavored tobacco products like the Juul, a move public-health researchers hope other cities follow.

Learn more about the health implications associated with vaping and how you can facilitate a conversation about vaping with young adults HERE .

August 2, 2018

On Social Media, The Past Is Never Past

Wed, 01 Aug 2018 13:43:21 GMT

On Social Media, The Past Is Never Past

Atlanta Braves pitcher Sean Newcomb lost the bid for a no-hitter on Sunday in the ninth inning. Shortly after the home game against the Los Angeles Dodgers, Newcomb found himself faced with his past as tweets he had posted on social media in his late teens surfaced on Twitter.

The Braves released a statement calling Newcomb's old tweets "hurtful and incredibly disappointing." Newcomb was one of a number of players in the league watching old social media comments and post resurface years later.

Newcomb's misconduct in his teens emerging in adulthood offers educators and parents an opportunity to discuss the reality of social media with young adults. Newcomb reportedly did not remember posting the Tweets and years later is offering an explanation and issuing an apology for his actions.

Ask your teen if they are aware of examples of negative social media posts resurfacing. Are your teens aware of what they have posted over the years? Are they aware that future employers may choose to look at their social media profiles? It is also important to acknowledge that even after a post is deleted, the content could have been saved by another user. Newcomb's apology on a national stage serves as a reminder that actions online can never entirely be erased.

August 1, 2018

Mycoplasma Genitalium On Track to Become Antibiotic Resistant STD

Wed, 01 Aug 2018 13:37:13 GMT

Mycoplasma Genitalium On Track to Become Antibiotic Resistant STD

August 1, 2018

First identified in the 1980s, the bacterium Mycoplasma genitalium (MG) remains relatively unknown to the American public, compared to a sexually transmitted disease (STD) like chlamydia. According to a 2015 report by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), MG is more common in most settings than the bacteria behind gonorrhea, called Neisseria gonorrhea.

According to medical professionals , the prevalence of MG is especially concerning because most people infected with the bacteria do not know they have the disease. Symptoms can be non-specific and non-existent. Left untreated, MG can produce devastating health problems including urethritis, cervicitis and pelvic inflammatory disease.

Not only can the STD be difficult to diagnose, MG is also becoming more resistant to antibiotic drugs. Resistance to treatment has become a worldwide issue with with studies from Japan , Australia and the United States all showing cases of treatment failure. 72% of sexual health experts said that if current practices do not change, MG will become a superbug, resistant to 1st and 2nd line antibiotics, within a decade.

Sex Education: Working With Your School Board

Wed, 01 Aug 2018 13:28:55 GMT

Sex Education: Working With Your School Board

August 1, 2018

School board members play a crucial role when it comes to deciding sex education curriculum. The following suggestions, from the book Abstinence 101, can assist you in working with your school board in the area of sex education.

Do your homework.

It is important to know the process in which your school district chooses curriculum and everyone who is involved in selecting and approving materials. Find out specifically what role the school board plays. Be sure you are also familiar with your district and state policies on sex education, abstinence and STD education.

Take time to get to know each board member individually.

Have another like-minded person join you when you meet with school board members. If you have children in the school or district, be sure to let the school board member know. Get to know their views on education and what areas in education are of greatest concern to them. Be prepared to provide them with resources and documentation on your views as you may find yourself in a position to educate them on sex education policy.

Be proactive in your involvement.

Write a letter to board members introducing yourself and your concerns. Attend school board meetings to learn board procedures. Show your interest in education and gain credibility when a controversy occurs.

Be prepared to testify and present.

Testify before the board when issues of sex education are being considered. Coordinate your testimony with a group of individuals to ensure consistent messaging is portrayed and repeated. Be respectful toward the board and community members opposing your views. The strongest arguments are reasonable, medically accurate and include some emotional appeal and passion. When possible, speak form your perspective as a parent.

Do you desire to learn more about the impact you can make on your local school board? Abstinence 101 includes sample school board policy statements and information on how you can respond to arguments against abstinence-until-marriage education. Order Abstinence 101 HERE.

One Woman's Marital Struggle

Wed, 25 Jul 2018 20:38:03 GMT

One Woman's Marital Struggle

In a recent podcast created by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub, the couple addressed the following question submitted by a regular listener: How can I stop feeling wrong and dirty about sex with my spouse?

The discussion that ensued was both honest and telling. The woman who submitted the question admitted that she experienced difficulty allowing herself to be physically involved in her marriage after growing up in a home where sex was perceived to be dirty and wrong. After four years of marriage she was still finding it hard to be physically intimate with her husband.

The podcast's hosts point out that many of their friends experienced some of the same thoughts when they were first married. When speaking to teens, it is important to emphasize the reality that sex is inherently good. Sex should not be viewed as bad or negative. Communicate with clarity. You may wish to incorporate a biblical perspective when talking to your own teens. It is important that teens know:

Sex was created by God. Sex in the context of marriage is a good thing and an amazing gift that God gave us to enjoy with someone with whom you have made a lifetime commitment.
Pornography and sexually charged entertainment provoke lust, and lusting is like committing adultery. The Bible says we are to flee from temptations that cause us to lust or engage in sexual immorality.

Listen to the full podcast by Dr. Josh and Christi Straub HERE .

July 25, 2018

HIV Rates and Condom Use

Wed, 25 Jul 2018 20:33:30 GMT

HIV Rates and Condom Use

Many individuals around the world are given the false impression that condoms provide complete protection from HIV and other STDs. However, a great deal of research suggests otherwise. In his book Broken Promises: How the AIDS Establishment Has Betrayed the Developing World, former Harvard researcher Dr. Edward Green found that "More condom use is associated with more casual and commercial sex and often higher, not lower, HIV rates."

A study done in four African cities by UNAIDS found that condoms had virtually no measurable effect on HIV levels. Research has also found that increased condom use may correlate with a higher likelihood of contracting HIV and other STDs, as well as a greater chance of unintended pregnancy.

Looking for a resource to share with teens and young adults? Order the Condom Quiz brochure through the Abstinence Clearinghouse.

July 25, 2018

Sexual Integrity On The Rise

Wed, 25 Jul 2018 20:31:08 GMT

Sexual Integrity On The Rise

The Centers for Disease Control recently released encouraging results from the 2017 Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance study, a biennial survey that seeks to quantify tee n behavior. The survey found that over 60% of students surveyed have not had sexual intercourse resulting in a decline, relative to to recent years. The survey also found that drinking and drug use are on the decline.

Read the Youth Risk Behavior Surveillance study HERE.

July 25, 2018

Quitting Instagram

Wed, 18 Jul 2018 20:25:17 GMT

Quitting Instagram

A recent essay that describes one 22-year-old woman's "empowering and unexpectedly isolating" experience in freeing herself from Instagram is gaining the attention of both Millennials and Generation Z.

The essay's author, Carolyn, falls into the Generation Z category, which means that she is part of a generation that has never experienced the world without a smartphone. The essay offers a refreshing take on the effect social media can have on an individual.

The essay also gives a window into the mind of Generation Z and their relationship with social media. We recommend sitting down and reading the essay with your family. Ask your teens if they resonate with Carolyn's thoughts and attitudes or if they have felt the same tension on social media.

Moving On After a Breakup

Wed, 18 Jul 2018 20:23:59 GMT

Moving On After a Breakup

Sometimes it feels good to keep talking after a break up. But in reality, if you're still talking, you're not moving on. Your immediate comfort is prolonging the heartache. If it wasn't meant to be, it has to come to an end at some point. Cutting them off may hurt now, but you're protecting your heart and theirs in the long-run.

Read similar posts on the Abstinence Clearinghouse Facebook page.

https://abstinence.net/2018/07/18/the-pondering-preschooler/

July 18, 2018

The Pondering Preschooler

Wed, 18 Jul 2018 20:22:12 GMT

The Pondering Preschooler

Establishing a strong line of communication with your child means helping them to start developing their ability to express themselves early. Young children benefit from "thick" conversations. Thick conversations are characterized by giving children many chances to speak and communicate, asking open-ended questions, encouraging them to think and imagine and having many back-and-forth exchanges.

Here are four strategies to engage young children in thick conversations in your home:

Encourage back-and-forth exchanges.
Take turns communicating and provide time for a response.
Extend children's language and vocabulary.
Expand on children's words or their attempts at words by adding a little more. For example, if the child says "ball", you can say "the blue ball is bouncing!"
Invite children to talk about what they are doing.
Encourage children to make comparisons and consider other possibilities.
Encourage high level thinking.
Help children make connections between what is happening in the classroom and what is happening in their home or community.

Asking questions is one of the simplest ways to communicate and learn. Extending conversations by asking a child to make a prediction or offer an explanation allows the child to better express routine situations. Ask your preschooler questions at meal time, on the road, in the waiting room, before bed or anytime you have a few spare moments.

Need inspiration and creative conversation starters to expand your child's horizons? The book The Pondering Preschooler offers parents, grandparents and teachers hundreds of questions to engage young minds. Take the book with you wherever you go and have fun listening and getting to know your child as they learn and grow.

July 18, 2018

Banks: The Unexpected Heroes Against Human Trafficking

Wed, 18 Jul 2018 20:20:28 GMT

Banks: The Unexpected Heroes Against Human Trafficking

An estimated 25 million individuals are exploited for forced labor or sexual exploitation worldwide. Human trafficking earns an estimated $150 billion annually for traffickers. According to Fortune , many financial institutions are beginning to show how banks and law enforcement can work together to combat trafficking. Traffickers often leave financial footprints funneling money through accounts and transferring large sums quickly. Repeated deposits and withdraws as well as, credit transactions and purchases through classified ads can be flagged by software and submitted to law enforcement.

Several major banks including JPMorgan, Chase, Citigroup, and Bank of America launched a team devoted to the problem of human trafficking. The group collaborated with the Manhattan district attorney's office to find the best ways to identify trafficking and implement software detecting suspicious activity. Iowa-based MetaBank also developed technology monitoring prepaid cards which can be used by traffickers as a tool to transfer funds between countries. When suspicious activity is detected, information is given to law enforcement.

Law enforcement, internet firms and financial institutions may not be able to end human trafficking on their own. However, in working together, they can disrupt traffickers' operations, rescue victims and ensure justice is served.

July 18, 2018

Sex Strikes in Protest Against Threats to Roe v. Wade

Wed, 11 Jul 2018 20:19:03 GMT

Sex Strikes in Protest Against Threats to Roe v. Wade

In a tweet posted on Monday, author Jennifer Wright suggested that single women stop dating and having sex with men expressing "anti-abortion views". Wright also suggested that women indicate their stance by adding the female judge emoji to their dating profiles.

Others have chosen to support a "woman's right to choose" by adding #Lysistrata2018 to their posts on social media. The #Lysistrata2018 movement was named after Aristophanes's ancient Greek comedy Lysistrata in which women refused to sleep with their warring husbands until they agreed to a truce.

Read more about the #Lysistrata2018 movement HERE .

July 11, 2018

Tinder Releases Loops

Wed, 11 Jul 2018 20:17:42 GMT

Tinder Releases Loops

According to Business Insider, Tinder remains the most popular dating app with an estimated 50 million users worldwide. The app allows individuals to create profiles for others to view. Participants can scroll through images and swipe right to "like" and save the profiles of individuals that they find attractive. Swiping left would indicate that the user is not interested. If both parties swiped to the right, they will "match" and be able to chat.

Tinder recently released a new feature allowing users to upload 2-second looping videos in place of pictures on their profile. According to Tinder , the videos allow users "to show more personality, which is the best way to get more right swipes".

The Cultural Translator, created by Axis, warns parents that even if your teens do not use Tinder "the videos will reinforce the dehumanizing idea of mass objectification, that people should be judged, sifted through, and discarded or liked based on a 2-second impression that reduces human beings to products in a seemingly endless digital display window where not only their bodies, but also their hearts and souls seem up for sale."

July 11, 2018

Teen Straight Talk Celebrates 30 Years

Wed, 11 Jul 2018 20:15:59 GMT

Teen Straight Talk Celebrates 30 Years

When Mary Duke, executive director of Teen Straight Talk, began her work in 1989, she thought she would only be teaching students for a year at most. Duke told the Tribune Chronicle that she never imagined that in 2018, she would still be speaking to and educating children, teens and adults on personal worth, abstinence until marriage and healthy decision making.

"Truth does not change and that message will always be the same. God has allowed me to stand faithful and do this 30 for years," Duke said at the organization's recognition dinner.

At the Abstinence Clearinghouse we are continually encouraged by the work of our partners and affiliates in spreading the message of abstinence until marriage. Thank you for continuing to inspire men and women of virtue, Mary!

July 11, 2018

Summer Family Bucket List

Wed, 11 Jul 2018 20:15:10 GMT

Summer Family Bucket List

With only half the summer season remaining, planning for an intentional last few weeks of summer is a great investment for your family. Download a free, printable Summer Family Bucket List template and start brainstorming and creating a list of activities your family would like to complete together. Here are a few summer bucket list ideas for your family:

Watch a movie outside
Learn and play a new board game
Unplug for the day (no television, tablets, computers or cellphones)
Design your own mini-golf course in the backyard
Lake day (rent kayaks, paddleboards or a boat)
Visit a museum
Participate in a community education watercolor class
Create a family reading goal (ex: read for 30 minutes each day)
Make a homemade pie

July 11, 2018

What is IGTV?

Mon, 02 Jul 2018 20:12:34 GMT

What is IGTV?

Instagram, the most popular social media outlet among Generation Z, recently released IGTV. The standalone app features long-form (up to 1 hour) vertical videos that automatically play upon opening. It is also accessible through a new button in the main Instagram app.

Instagram's new outlet for sharing video footage is allowing YouTuber's an alternative to Google's YouTube platform. At this time, no compensation plan has been offered to YouTube stars who use the IGTV platform, which means anyone can create and upload video content to IGTV. This may lead teens to attempt to gain their own following and "make it big" through IGTV. More time will inevitably be spent on the app due to the new video feature; therefore, talking to your teens about the app is essential.

IGTV viewers have little control of the videos that appear on their screen because the videos play automatically, similar to cable television. Ask your teens what they think of the new video feature on Instagram. Ask if they have ever created content through IGTV or run into any negative content.

July 2, 2018

Texas Attorney General Demands Fort Worth School District Hand Over Human Sexuality Curriculum

Mon, 02 Jul 2018 20:10:45 GMT

Texas Attorney General Demands Fort Worth School District Hand Over Human Sexuality Curriculum

Texas Attorney General Ken Paxton recently sent a letter to Fort Worth Independent School District (ISD) requesting a full and complete copy of the district's human sexuality curriculum after the district repeatedly denied parents access to these public documents. Parents reported that not only were their records requests denied, but their children were prohibited from bringing a copy of their textbooks home for review or from taking photos of the curriculum.

According to an article released last Thursday, Paxton cited state and federal laws that give parents access to "all written records of a school district concerning the parent's child" and "the right to inspect and review the education records of their children."

"Parents have the right to inspect and review information regarding what their child is learning and participating in while attending school," Attorney General Paxton said. "By law, public school curriculum should be fully available to the public, and parents retain their constitutional right to direct their own child's upbringing. Denying parental and public access to curriculum of any kind is a clear violation of the Texas Education Code."

The letter requests that Fort Worth ISD provide a complete copy of their human sexuality curriculum, which has been used in 22 schools since 2015, to the Office of the Attorney General.

Read the Attorney General Paxton's full letter to ISD HERE .

July 2, 2018

June 27, 2018

Mapping Suicide Deaths Across the United States

Wed, 27 Jun 2018 20:09:25 GMT

Mapping Suicide Deaths Across the United States

The Washington Post released a graphic illustrating the data presented in a new study by a team of Centers for Disease Control and Prevention researchers. The graphic depicts a 30 percent rise in suicides between 1999 and 2016.

Researchers hope that mapping suicide rates by county provides greater clarity in describing geographic patterns of suicide and contributes to a better understanding of changes in suicide rates over time. Findings may inform more targeted prevention efforts, as well as future research on community-level risk and protective factors related to suicide mortality.

Read the full article by the Washington Post HERE .

June 27, 2018

Teen Dating Violence Prevention

Wed, 27 Jun 2018 20:07:50 GMT

Teen Dating Violence Prevention

For parents of teenagers and organizations regularly working with teens, knowing and recognizing the warning signs of unhealthy behavior that can lead to teen dating violence is crucial. This is especially true in the context of a recent national survey in which 1 in 10 teens reported being hit or physically hurt on purpose by a boyfriend or girlfriend at least once in the last twelve months. Teens surveyed also reported that during the twelve months prior to the survey, 1 in 10 teens were being touched, kissed, or physically forced to have sexual intercourse without consent at least once by their significant other.

According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) , 1 in 4 women and 1 in 7 men experience domestic violence at the hands of an intimate partner at some point. Increasing awareness of what domestic violence is and how it can present itself, especially in teen dating relationships, is critical for keeping the teens in our lives safe, both now and in the future.

The role parents play in talking to teens about the importance of healthy, respectful relationships is crucial. According to one study , 3 in 4 parents have never talked to their children about domestic violence. Parents are in the best position to take action if they think their teen may be in an unhealthy or dangerous relationship. Parents should be able to recognize the following warning signs and be ready to listen and give support when their child is ready to open up:

You notice their significant other calls them names or puts them down in front of other people.
Their significant other becomes jealous if they talk to other people.
They apologize for their significant other's behavior and make excuses justifying their behavior
They frequently cancel plans at the last minute for reasons that sound untrue.
Their significant other is always checking up, calling or texting and demanding to know where they have been and with whom.
They are constantly worried about upsetting their partner or making them angry.
They give up things they used to enjoy such as spending time with friends or other activities.
Their weight, appearance or grades have changed dramatically. These could be signs of depression, which could indicate abuse.
They have injuries they can't explain or the explanations they give don't make sense.

Modeling healthy behavior begins in the home. Parents can set an example for their children each day and practice open communication and relational dialog with teens as a form of dating violence prevention.

June 27, 2018

YouTuber Addresses the Importance of Abstinence

Wed, 27 Jun 2018 20:05:32 GMT

YouTuber Addresses the Importance of Abstinence

Style and beauty YouTuber Courtney McCalmont recently released a video on her channel affirming and encouraging young women to wait to have sex until marriage. Courtney is a 21-year-old from Pennsylvania who says she wanted to make the video for "the girl out there who wants to wait until marriage but in this day and age with pop culture and with television and music out there, and everything she's seeing on social media, she just doesn't think that it's possible."

Courtney went on to explain that she decided at a very young age that she wanted to wait to have sex until marriage and that it was a personal vow she made to herself. In the video she also explains her personal experience in living out her commitment.

Learn more about Courtney McCalmont and her YouTube video through a Life News article HERE .

June 27, 2018

Practical Purity

Wed, 27 Jun 2018 20:03:13 GMT

Practical Purity

Purity is lived out in practical ways: setting boundaries, inviting mentors into your relationship and having a high level of accountability through conversation. Whatever you need to do to ensure you are honoring your significant other and yourself, do it. There's no shame.

Share this message and read similar messages on Abstinence Clearinghouse's Facebook, Instagram and Pinterest pages. Click the links below to follow us on social media and share messages that #InspireVirtue.

June 27, 2018

The Right to Resist Peer Pressure

Wed, 20 Jun 2018 20:01:42 GMT

The Right to Resist Peer Pressure

If someone is pressuring you to do anything that's not right or good for you, you have the right to resist. You have the right to say no, the right not to give a reason why and the right to just walk away from a situation. Resisting peer pressure can be difficult. With a little practice, resisting peer pressure gets easier.

Tips for Resisting Peer Pressure:

Say "no" and let them know you mean it
Stand up straight
Make eye contact
Say how you feel
Don't make excuses
Stick up for yourself

When practiced consistently, these tips can help in resisting drugs and alcohol, sex and other behaviors that go against the goals you have created for yourself.

June 20, 2018

10 Body Safety Rules for Children

Tue, 19 Jun 2018 20:00:32 GMT

10 Body Safety Rules for Children

Read Child Sexual Abuse "Fire Drill" to learn more about how to talk to your children about body safety and sexual abuse.

*Infograph created by Safely Ever After Inc.

June 19, 2018

Your Life Has Purpose

Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:57:34 GMT

Your Life Has Purpose

Over the course of one week, fashion designer Kate Spade and television personalty Anthony Bourdain committed suicide. Both individuals seemingly had it all. From the world's perspective, they were attractive, successful and led exciting lives. However, they each found themselves in such darkness that they felt death was better than the life they were leading. If you find yourself hurting, reach out to someone. Your life has purpose.

Learn about suicidal ideation among teens by reading the article Teen Suicide: 7 Warning Signs to Watch For or watch this video , created by Mayo Clinic, describing common warning signs exhibited by a teen who is considering suicide. The video also includes suggestions for what to say to a teen who may be at risk for suicide. Learn how you can communicate directly and immediately.

National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

June 13, 2018

Planned Parenthood's Recent Facebook Ads Uncovered

Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:56:05 GMT

Planned Parenthood's Recent Facebook Ads Uncovered

Facebook is now requiring publishers to submit identification and a mailing address in order to run advertisements deemed political in the United States through the social media outlet. Facebook and Instagram ads created May 7, 2018 or later will be stored in a public, searchable archive for up to seven years.

According to Lifesite , the database has already been used to uncover some alarming ads from Planned Parenthood. One ad features a picture of a condom on a banana, while another ad declares that "Sex is hot - bad sex ed is not." Other ads in the series feature the recurring tagline, "Having sex? You deserve sex ed!" The analytical data for the ads reveals that the overwhelming majority of the people seeing them are girls, and that the ads are reaching children as young as age thirteen.

Read the full article here .

June 13, 2018

Hundreds Abused in Chicago School System: Report

Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:52:55 GMT

Hundreds Abused in Chicago School System: Report

June 13, 2018

Hundreds of Chicago Public School (CPS) students were sexually abused by employees over the past ten years, according to a Chicago Tribune report published earlier this month.

Based on police data, both public and confidential records, and interviews with alleged victims, the report found more than 500 allegations of sexual abuse and rape at CPS over the last decade. Since 2011, CPS investigators have discovered "credible evidence of misconduct" in 230 reports of sexual abuse involving adults and students, according to Chicago Tribune, which carried out a wide-ranging investigative report entitled Betrayed .

The newspaper estimated the actual figure could be much higher because the CPS did so little to understand and tackle the problem. The school system employed "ineffective background checks," the Tribune said, which failed to weed out employees with criminal convictions and arrests for sex crimes.

Read the full report here .

Breaking Free Virtual Summit

Wed, 13 Jun 2018 19:51:01 GMT

Breaking Free Virtual Summit

Join thousands of other individuals in watching or listening to 70+ hours of candid, casual conversations between over 45 experts in the areas of pornography, sexual addiction, spouse support and recovery. Learn how to find lasting freedom and true healing from spouse betrayal and trauma.

Watch the Breaking Free Virtual Summit now through June 19 by claiming your free summit ticket here today! Hurry - content is only available for a limited time!

June 13, 2018

"Sex is no big deal!"

Tue, 12 Jun 2018 19:48:51 GMT

"Sex is no big deal!"

If you have thought that, you've been fed a lie by Alfred Kinsey. Kinsey, a social "scientist" of the 1940's, spent his lifetime ripping down the institution of family and pushing homosexual, pedophiliac, and bi-sexual relationships as normal, socially acceptable behavior. He is the father of the sexual revolution, the one who told America that sex could be casual and that sex could be made "safe." The stories presented in this e-book, The Casualties of Kinsey, are real stories from real people. Unless otherwise noted, their real names have been used. When asked about how Kinsey's lies have been passed down from generation to generation, they will tell you that they believed sex was no big deal...until they were hurt by it. They will tell you that Alfred Kinsey and his theories are wrong. They will tell you that they wished they had been told the truth about sex before it was too late. Perhaps the stories in this e-book will strike a chord in your heart. Maybe you were sexually active before marriage. Perhaps you are Leslee Unruhhurting, either physically or emotionally, because someone violated you. It is never too late for healing. It is never too late to start over. The men and women featured in The Casualties of Kinsey have spoken out to reveal the hideous work of Alfred Kinsey and to spread the truth about the consequences of sex before marriage. These are their stories.

Sincerely,

June 12, 2018

A Father's Joy

Mon, 11 Jun 2018 19:42:54 GMT

A Father's Joy

June 11, 2018

STD Rates Increase Nationwide

Wed, 06 Jun 2018 19:40:11 GMT

STD Rates Increase Nationwide

June 6, 2018

According to the California Department of Health , more than 300,000 cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea or syphilis were reported in the state in 2017. Overall, the transmission rate of chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis has spiked by a staggering 45 percent over the past five years.

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) show that STDs are rising across the country. From 2015 to 2016 alone, gonorrhea rates in men increased by 22 percent nationwide, while syphilis rates increased by 14.7 percent.

Some of those cases had tragic endings: 30 of the 278 babies affected by congenital syphilis in 2017 were stillborn, the highest number in 22 years. Congenital syphilis occurs when syphilis passes from a pregnant woman to her unborn baby. According to the CDC, up to 40 percent of babies born to women with untreated syphilis may be stillborn or die from the infection as a newborn.

"Half of chlamydia and a third of gonorrhea cases are folks under age 25," stated Dr. Heidi Bauer, the California Public Health Department's Chief of the Sexually Transmitted Diseases Control Branch, in a recent interview. There is not a more crucial time to educate teens about the benefits of waiting until marriage to have sex. It is never too late to start making healthy choices.

Need help getting the conversation started? Consider using a brochure from Abstinence Clearinghouse's Truth Series. The Truth Series includes the following titles: The Truth About STD's , The Truth About Abstinence, The Truth about Pornography and the new Sexual Exposure Chart Card .

The Jeffrey Dean Show

Wed, 06 Jun 2018 19:35:25 GMT

The Jeffrey Dean Show

For over 25 years, Jeffrey Dean Ministries has reached youth and parents with messages of encouragement. Understanding cultural trends and offering parents advice as they navigate through the teen years is Jeffrey's passion.

Tune in at 9:00pm CST this Saturday, June 9 as Jeffrey Dean launches a live radio show for parents and teens on SuperTalk radio (99.7 WTN). The call-in show will address all things family, marriage and culture.

Click HERE to bookmark the page and listen live this Saturday night!

https://abstinence.net/2018/06/06/2018-summer-slang/

June 6, 2018

2018 Summer Slang

Wed, 06 Jun 2018 19:33:41 GMT

2018 Summer Slang

Slang is an integral part of growing up. A word or abbreviation can add significant meaning or emotion to a message or text. Slang helps teens define their connections, feel accepted and gain independence. Keeping up on teen slang and lingo may seem daunting; however, understanding the language teens communicate with verbally and through social media is important.

Here are a few slang terms you should know this summer:

Scoop: To pick someone up (i.e. at their house)
Finna: Fixing to do something
Gualla: Money
Rn: Right now
WTTP: Want to trade pictures?
121: Let's chat in a private message
Aeap, alap: As early or as late as possible (referencing parties)
Curve: To reject someone romantically
Salty: Talking in a sassy or bitter way
123: I agree
IDEK: I don't even know
IKR: I know, right?
99: Parents are gone
Basic: Someone or something is ordinary or boring
Dime: On a scale of 1-10, dime is a 10 or a very attractive person
Woke: Awareness of current affairs or social issues
Savage: When a person speaks or acts bluntly or without a filter in public
Gucci: Very impressive
Sus: Suspicious

Familiarizing yourself with these words and phrases will help you better understand their online interaction and if they are amplifying positive or negative conversations in texts and on social media. Engaging in conversation and having open dialogue about technology and language is the best way to avoid digital disaster (read Being a Positive Source for Conversation ).

June 6, 2018

What is Westworld?

Wed, 30 May 2018 19:30:49 GMT

What is Westworld?

Westworld, a TV series created by the television network HBO, recently released a second season. The show is set in a futuristic theme park that allows high-paying guests to experience the American Old West. The park is populated by androids, also called hosts, created to look like humans. The theme park is designed to allow the guests an opportunity to experience life in a variety of relationships and realities that they would never get away with in the real world.

According to Movie Guide's review , the immorality portrayed in Westworldis "not far off from Game of Thones in its indecency." Nudity, explicit violence and numerous sexual encounters are portrayed in each of the series' episodes. Westworld's executive producer pointed out that they wanted to make sure the show did not go "too far into the pornographic world and keeps it in the sensual world." By way of admission, the statement offers that the show has already entered the "pornographic world."

What may appear to be an innocent show about the American West is indeed an immoral depiction of a world with no consequences. Ask your child if they or their friends have watched Westworld. If your child has been exposed to the show, discuss what it would mean to live in a world where actions do not have consequences. Consider reading the article How to React When Your Child Has Viewed Pornography, by the Abstinence Clearinghouse, to gain a better understanding of how to address the explicit content your child may have been exposed to through the show. Finally, ensure appropriate HBO parental control settings are set on every device in your home. Click HERE to learn how to set parental controls on your devices.

May 30, 2018

Show Dogs Re-Cut Version Still Grooms Children to Accept Abuse

Wed, 30 May 2018 19:28:13 GMT

Show Dogs Re-Cut Version Still Grooms Children to Accept Abuse

Global Road announced that a re-cut version of the PG-rated family film Show Dogs would be released over Memorial Day weekend. Numerous parenting blogs and organizations took issue with a subplot involving the lead undercover police dog, Max, as he was taught to become comfortable with strangers touching his genitals in preparation for an undercover dog show competition. In the film, Frank, Max's human partner played by Will Arnett, touches Max's private parts to get him used to what will occur at the dog show. Max did not like the experience and would regularly snap at his owner. Max was then told by a previous dog show champion that it would be an easier experience if he went to his "zen place" when it happened.

Parents and organizations alike were outraged by the troubling message, grooming children for sexual abuse and normalizing unwanted genital touching. Global Road Entertainment issued the following statement after receiving criticism following the movie's release:

Responding to concerns raised by moviegoers and some specific organizations, Global Road Entertainment has decided to remove two scenes from the film Show Dogs that some have deemed not appropriate for children. The company takes these matters very seriously and remains committed to providing quality entertainment for the intended audiences based on the film's rating. We apologize to anybody who feels the original version of Show Dogs sent an inappropriate message.

Minnesota has passed Bill SF 2554 (Benson)/ HF 2967 (Lohmer), a groundbreaking bill recognizing pornography as a contributing factor in human trafficking. According to an article by author Amanda Zurface, "State legislators have affirmed that pornography, like sex trafficking, is a commodification of the human person and should be studied as a cause on both the supply and demand side of the problem."

According to Zurface's article, Bill SF 2554 (Benson)/ HF 2967 (Lohmer) does the following in the state of Minnesota:

Publicly recognizes the link between pornography and human trafficking

Adds language to include the use, prevalence and involvement of pornography in the crime of human trafficking to the list of data that may be collected, thereby providing law enforcement better information to fight the commodification of human persons

Directs fines collected for the offenses of child pornography and the dissemination and display of harmful materials to minors to the Safe Harbor Program

The effort to educate Minnesotans on the connection between pornography and human sex trafficking and help those who are commodified by these industries was led by the Minnesota Catholic Conference under Jason Adkins, Executive Director.

Adkins believes "The first legislative resolution from Utah, declaring pornography a public health crisis, helped break the conceptual Gordian knot that has stalled legislative efforts related to pornography, due to the fear that they would be struck down in court."

With such a great success across numerous states in the United States and Canada, North America is becoming more educated on how pornography negatively impacts society and is raising the bar. Society as a whole is beginning to realize that pornography impacts real people and is a driving force behind human trafficking.

According to Adkins, "What was once a whisper is now a part of the public conversation. The public is discovering that pornography is not just a harmless pastime but instead a multi-billion dollar industry that perpetrates violence against persons. It was amazing to hear witnesses come forward at our State Capitol talking about its harmful effects. The public will now have a greater understanding of pornography's contribution to sex trafficking and that there are consequences that flow from our consumer choices."

May 22, 2018

7 Facts Parents Need to Know About Sexting

Tue, 22 May 2018 17:54:53 GMT

7 Facts Parents Need to Know About Sexting

The video above , created by Covenant Eyes, offers seven facts that parents need to know about sexting among teens. Here are three additional tips for parents looking to talk to teens about sexting:

1. Never take images you would not want everyone to see.

2. If you forward a sexual picture of someone underage, you are just as responsible for this image as the original sender and may face legal charges.

3. Ensure your child or teen that you are a safe person to come to if explicit images are received. Explain the importance of reporting an incident immediately to a trusted adult prior to deleting the images.

Click HERE to learn more about this issue by downloading this free podcast by the National Center on Sexual Exploitation, Does Sexting Make you Vulnerable to Exploitation?

May 22, 2018

Teen Developed "Wet Lung" After Vaping

Tue, 22 May 2018 17:52:33 GMT

Teen Developed "Wet Lung" After Vaping

According to a case study published in the medical journal Pediatrics last Thursday, an 18-year-old developed hypersensitivity pneumonitis, also known as "wet lung", after vaping for only three weeks.

Dr. Casey Sommerfeld, one of the patient's doctors and the lead author of the study, attributed the diagnosis to her use of e-cigarettes saying that the nicotine, flavorings, propylene glycol, and vegetable glycerin caused an immune response in her body leading to "leaky" blood vessels. This led to fluid accumulation in the lungs. The patient was unable to get enough oxygen into her blood and required a mechanical ventilator (respirator) to breathe for her until her lungs recovered.

While the case study noted this was the first reported case of "wet lung" in a teenager that was linked to e-cigarette use, it seems very possible more cases will occur in the future. The United States Food and Drug Administration (FDA) reports that "e-cigarette use rose from 1.5% to 16% among high school students and from 0.6% to 5.3% among middle school students from 2011 to 2015." In some places, even elementary students are vaping. Monitoring the Future , a national survey of 8th, 10th, and 12th graders that has been conducted every year since 1975, recently found that 1 out of 3 high school seniors has tried vaping in the last year, while 1 out of 6 seniors has vaped in the last month. Roughly 11% reported having vaped hash oils (marijuana).

When discussing vaping with your children and teens, consider all angles including legal responsibilities, possible health implications and the importance of making wise choices. Consider asking these questions to start a conversation:

Do you know about vaping? Do you have friends that vape?
Why, in general, do you think people like to vape? Why do some people vape nicotine free e-liquids? Do you think they have good or valid reasons for doing so?
Why do you think some people vape even though it is illegal? What does this say about their view of authority?
How can we be wise about what we put into our bodies? Discuss what this might look like when it comes to the food we eat or the amount of caffeine we consume.

May 22, 2018

Affection Cannot Be Bought

Wed, 16 May 2018 17:50:09 GMT

Affection Cannot Be Bought

Pressuring someone to have sex is not saying "I love you."

It is saying "I love me."

Sex is not leverage. Affection cannot be bought. It does not matter how much time someone has spent with you or how much money has been spent on extravagant dates. The four-course meal and dessert they purchased for you is not a free pass to dishonor you as a person. You don't owe them affection. You don't owe them sex. Affection given out of obligation is not true affection. You and your body are too valuable to be given away in exchange for a nice meal.

You are worth having your boundaries respected. If someone is not willing to respect your boundaries, then they do not see your true worth. You are worth respecting. Don't let someone's inability to see your true worth determine your value.

https://abstinence.net/2018/05/16/fairfax-county-sex-education-policy-under-review/

May 16, 2018

Fairfax County Sex Education Policy Under Review

Wed, 16 May 2018 17:46:02 GMT

Fairfax County Sex Education Policy Under Review

Parents in Fairfax County are continuing to protest newly proposed sex education policies. According to an article by Fox5, the new curriculum would expand lessons on the different types of contraception available to students, change curriculum language from "biological sex" to "sex assigned at birth" and would include education on PrEP, an HIV prevention drug not yet approved for individuals under the age of 18.

Those opposed to the new curriculum believe that it goes too far and does not teach students about the health issues associated with pre-marital sexual activity. Concerned parents have also voiced their concern that abstinence is not addressed and should be presented as an option to students.

Last Thursday, May 10, the school board heard from parents on both sides of the issue. Public comment is open until June 8 when the board will vote on whether or not to adopt the new plan.

May 16, 2018

Parents and Grandparents: Starting a No Tech Time

Wed, 16 May 2018 17:35:57 GMT

Parents and Grandparents: Starting a No Tech Time

May 16, 2018

At the Clearinghouse we often encourage parents to schedule "no tech times." One dad recently told me that his daughter told him that she looks forward to the nights that she doesn't have to worry about her phone. Her dad asked why she thought it was such a relief to not have her phone and she said because of the pressure she feels to constantly present herself through social media. She felt a constant need to update her Snapchat story and make her life look glamorous and busy in real time, all the time. The conversation that followed between that father and daughter was priceless. Until that point, he had no idea his daughter had felt so much pressure to look "perfectly put together on social media" and "no tech night" gave him an opportunity to talk with his daughter about social media.

I read a study recently that said it takes seven minutes to get into a real and engaging conversation. Sometimes weeks get busy and time for a full tech free family night is impossible, but even the 15 minute drive across town can serve as a great time to put phones away and talk.

I know a couple who has created a designated space on the kitchen counter for everyone to put their phones during dinner each time their adult children and grandchildren come over for dinner. If anyone gets up to answer a call or text that person has to do the dishes. I personally have witnessed these evenings and things get extremely competitive among the grandchildren. We hope you consider implementing a "no tech time" into your family's routine! Engaging in meaningful dialogue as a family is priceless.

- Alyssa Blankespoor, Director

Best Predictors of Addictive Behavior

Wed, 09 May 2018 17:31:16 GMT

Best Predictors of Addictive Behavior

In a recent article published by Covenant Eyes , author and counselor Carl Stewart explains the tendency of many pornography addicts to ignore the root cause of their dependence. "Trying to simply 'contain' the behavior or 'manage' the behavior is miserable. Like cutting back a weed. It feels good for the first day or so, until it grows back again to taunt you."

"You have to deal with the root to change the fruit," Stewart continued. According to Stewart the best predictors of addictive behavior are a history of abuse and/or neglect, especially during childhood.

Abuse

A history of physical, sexual or verbal abuse is the best predictor of addictive behavior in someone's life. It isn't an excuse, but helps uncover the root that often drives negative behavior. "Abuse means you were being treated in a way that humans should not be treated which affects the brain," Stewart stated simply. According to Stewart, when a child is abused the following conclusions are drawn in the child's mind:

I'm not worth much. Maybe I don't have any worth at all if this happened to me.
I can't trust others. I'm on my own.
If anyone ever really knew, they would never love me.

Neglect

Stewart defines neglect as "not getting the things you needed in order to develop." Living in survival mode without adult influence, being concerned about food, housing and clothing effect a child's sense of worth. The following conclusions may be drawn in a child's mind:

If my own parent/parents don't care about me, then I definitely don't have any value.
If they don't love me, how can I expect anyone else to love me?

According to Stewart, "Porn is one of the ways people self-medicate the confusing pain that stays with them from abuse and neglect." Dealing with the effects of childhood abuse and neglect starts cutting away at the roots and is necessary to achieving a successful recovery. The article suggests a number of ways to seek success in battling neglect including seeing a counselor and going to a support group. Downloading an accountability software and internet filters through Covenant Eye s is also recommended.

Click HERE to read the full article.

https://abstinence.net/2018/05/09/child-of-divorce/

May 9, 2018

Child of Divorce

Wed, 09 May 2018 17:28:56 GMT

Child of Divorce

In this video by Culture Project, a man explains what he wrestled with as a teenager following his parents divorce. The questions he struggled with were crippling and left him wondering if there was hope in his future marriage. This video describes the importance of finding a mentor and the implications of seeking out individuals who will help inspire virtue in your future relationships.

"We are not a summary of our parents'

choices and mistakes."

https://abstinence.net/2018/05/09/opting-out-is-not-an-option-in-orange-county/

May 9, 2018

Opting-Out is Not an Option in Orange County

Wed, 09 May 2018 17:26:49 GMT

Opting-Out is Not an Option in Orange County

In a letter written to the Orange County School Board, General Council Ronald Wenart explained the implications of the California Healthy Youth Act. The letter explained in detail the lack of rights available to parents desiring to opt their children out of the county's sex education curricula. Following the letter, a statement was released by the Orange County School Board. The statement explained that parents can no longer opt their child out of discussions on gender identity, gender expression and sexual orientation.

According to the Orange County Board of Education, parents "do not have a constitutional right to excuse their child from portions of the school curriculum that they find objectionable."

Click HERE to read the full statement released by the Orange County School Board.

May 9, 2018

How to Set Up Parental Controls on Netflix

Wed, 02 May 2018 17:25:31 GMT

How to Set Up Parental Controls on Netflix

Follow along with the video above or read the instructions below to learn how you can set parental controls on your families Netflix account.

Go to Netflix.com and log in using the admin username and password. The settings can only be changed by the administrator on the account, which is the person set up to pay for the account.
Once you are in the account profile, click on the drop down arrow in the upper right hand corner of the Netflix screen, and select "Your Account."
This will take you to a page that details your account information. Under the "Settings" header, click on "Parental Controls" where you will be prompted to enter your Netflix password to continue.
Next, in the field titled "PIN," enter a four-digit numeric PIN and select a specific show rating that requires the PIN. Be sure to click save. Remember, anyone who knows the pin will be able to watch whatever they want, so make sure to keep the PIN private!
Once you have parental controls set, you can limit an individual profile to only child-appropriate shows. This is only password-protected if parental controls are turned on.

The administrator can change the settings for all of the profiles on the account and will receive an email from Netflix every time restrictions are edited.

*Video and parental control guidelines were created by CovenantEyes.com

The Benham brothers, who lost a deal with HGTV over their beliefs, endorsed the Sex Ed Sit Out saying, "you can guarantee students who choose to sit out will get some sort of 'civilized bullying' in the form of pressure or persecution from the teachers and administrators who are drinking the sexual revolution's Kool-Aid."

"At some point, we all have to say enough and stand in the gap to speak up," the Benham brothers urged. "We must utilize every ounce of our influence to stand against this type of moral perversion... We're telling you: If people don't speak up now, our kids will suffer greatly," they warned. "Pastors, teachers, business owners, moms, dads, grandmas and grandpas - stand up and speak! Sex is a gift from God and is meant to be enjoyed in the safety of marriage. This is the only truth that will protect and preserve family, the building block of society."

Effects of Adverse Childhood Experiences

Wed, 02 May 2018 17:20:14 GMT

Effects of Adverse Childhood Experiences

According to an article published by the National Fatherhood Initiative (NFI), research now shows that divorce or separation from a parent or guardian is one of the top two most adverse childhood experiences nationally. And which parent is the one a child is least likely to live with after divorce or another type of separation? That's right. It is Dad.

According to the article, "An 'adverse childhood experience' (ACE) is an experience or event in a child's life that creates trauma and, accordingly, leads to a negative outcome during childhood or later in life." If a child experiences one ACE, it is likely that they will experience multiple. Research shows that 1 in 10 children experience three or more ACE's throughout childhood.

Child Trends recently analyzed national data to identify the prevalence of ACEs nationally and in each state. The data found that nearly half of all US children have had an ACE. The data also showed that along with being separated from a parent by divorce or another factor (e.g. having an incarcerated parent), economic hardship is the other most prevalent ACE. According to NFI, father absence also plays a role in economic hardship. Children in single-parent homes are more likely to live in poverty.

Combating ACE and the negative outcomes of a child requires a steady, supportive relationship with a caregiver, such as an involved, responsible, committed dad. Helping and mentoring fathers can prevent parental separation and help in the healing that comes after separation has taken place.

Learn more about the prevalence of ACE's in your state by downloading the Child Trends' report HERE .

May 2, 2018

Let's Move In Together

Wed, 25 Apr 2018 17:18:36 GMT

Let's Move In Together

More than 70% of couples in the United States cohabitate before marriage despite research confirming that living together before marriage increases the chance of divorce, leads to less satisfaction and poor communication in marriage, and increases levels of domestic violence.

But why? In Chastity Projects recent article, Let's Move In Together , author Megan Finegan debunks three main arguments for cohabitation including:

Wed, 25 Apr 2018 17:12:58 GMT

Sex Ed Sit Out Success: Your Voices Were Heard

April 25, 2018

Parents around the world kept their children home from school on Monday, April 23 in protest of the graphic content found in comprehensive sex-ed curriculum. The "Sex Ed Sit Out" provided parents the opportunity to unify and demand graphic content be removed from their school districts.

The Abstinence Clearinghouse aims to support parents as the primary sex educators of their children by participating in the Sex Ed Sit Out. Parents united in guarding the minds and hearts of children. This past Monday, April 23 we were encouraged by those who took a stand against the indoctrination of innocent children and joined us as we empower parents to inspire their children to be men and women who pursue virtue.

Thank you for recognizing that the innocence of a generation is at stake and embracing your role as a defender of that innocence.

Family Structure and Child Development Study

Thu, 19 Apr 2018 17:11:54 GMT

Family Structure and Child Development Study

A study published in the European Journal of Population shows how family structure can impact child development. The study revealed that children raised with their father in an intact, biological family grow up experiencing better socio-economic outcomes opposed to children raised by single mothers or stepfathers.

Click HERE to read more.

April 19, 2018

The Words of a Father

Thu, 19 Apr 2018 17:10:16 GMT

The Words of a Father

"There is something special and powerful about the words that are spoken between a father and his children," JT Waresak wrote in a Focus on the Family article . "Children and teens crave and need affirmation from both their parents," Waresak continued. "If not received and known, our sons will often withdraw within themselves, while our daughters will seek a man's affection and approval elsewhere."

In Waresak's article, he outlines 12 things children need to hear from a parent on a regular basis including:

"I love you."

"I believe in you."

"I am here for you - always."

"No, and this is why..." and "Yes, and this is why..."

"You are one of the greatest joys in life."

"Please forgive me."

"It's ok to make mistakes. We all do. It is how you respond to them that matters most."

Click HERE to read the full article.

April 19, 2018

7 Steps to Using Social Media for Fatherhood Programs

Thu, 19 Apr 2018 17:08:22 GMT

7 Steps to Using Social Media for Fatherhood Programs

Social media can be an important component of your fatherhood program for recruiting, engaging, and retaining fathers. In this webinar , created by National Fatherhood Initiative's Maggie Spain and Melissa Steward, you can learn how to begin using social media to recruit fathers and what content will help enhance your program delivery.

Click HERE to watch the webinar now!

April 19, 2018

Walmart Removes Cosmopolitan Magazine from Checkouts

Wed, 04 Apr 2018 17:07:14 GMT

Walmart Removes Cosmopolitan Magazine from Checkouts

Last Wednesday, Walmart announced that it would be removing Cosmopolitan magazines from the checkout lines at over 6,000 store locations protecting minors from the sexually explicit material that Cosmopolitan embodies and perpetuates.

"As with all products in our store, we continue to evaluate our assortment and make changes," Walmart said in a statement released last week. "Walmart will continue to offer Cosmopolitan to customers that wish to purchase the magazine, but it will no longer be located in the checkout aisles. While this was primarily a business decision, the concerns raised were heard."

April 4, 2018

10 Apps Teens Are Using That Parents Need to Know

Wed, 04 Apr 2018 17:04:41 GMT

10 Apps Teens Are Using That Parents Need to Know

https://abstinence.net/2018/04/04/a-royal-stand-against-pornography/

April 4, 2018

A Royal Stand Against Pornography

Wed, 04 Apr 2018 16:56:17 GMT

A Royal Stand Against Pornography

According to a recent podcast produced by WORLD Magazine, the Kansas City Royals have become the first pro sports team to address the dangers of pornography. With baseball season beginning and the anticipation of another high-stress season, the franchise decided to hold a seminar for players outlining the negative effects of pornography as a part of the team's leadership training in March.

The seminar talked about the link between pornography use and inter-partner violence and abuse. Research was also presented on how viewing pornography can negatively effect the brain and impact marriages and relationships.

According to WORLD reporter Sarah Schweinsberg, players were respectful and attentive to the presentation and some stayed afterwards to speak with presenters.

Click HERE to listen to the podcast.

April 4, 2018

Heartbeat 2018: What to Watch For

Wed, 04 Apr 2018 16:54:21 GMT

Heartbeat 2018: What to Watch For

Will you be attending the Heartbeat International Conference in Anaheim, California next week? Our team would love to meet you!

If you will be attending the conference, don't miss:

Visiting the Abstinence Clearinghouse booth #417 to enter to win FREE resources and receive FREE samples of new brochures, booklets and cards!
Hearing Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh speak on the main stage on Tuesday, April 10 at 12:0 0pm.

April 4, 2018

Senate and House Passes FOSTA-SESTA

Wed, 28 Mar 2018 16:50:24 GMT

Senate and House Passes FOSTA-SESTA

Last week the Senate passed FOSTA-SESTA (Fight Online Sex Trafficking Act and Stop Enabling Sex Trafficking Act). This legislation is a great victory in the fight to end the modern-day slavery of online sex trafficking by giving victims their day in court and empowering state Attorney Generals to prosecute websites that facilitate sex trafficking. The Senate's bipartisan vote, following the vote in the House, brings survivors of sex trafficking a major step closer to justice and to holding the websites that facilitated their abuse accountable.

Thank you to all who contacted Senators and requested that they listen to survivors and amend the Communications Decency Act. Your calls, emails and social media activism made a difference!

https://abstinence.net/2018/03/28/what-my-parents-dont-know-about-social-media/

March 28, 2018

Many Women's Battle

Wed, 28 Mar 2018 16:42:53 GMT

Many Women's Battle

"Being a woman who struggles with lust can feel like being alone in a crowded room," Marian Jacobs wrote in a recent article. "You think you are the only one tempted when you watch that movie and read that book. Yet the opposite is true."

Jacobs goes on to explain that lust must be redefined. Claiming that lust only happens when a man looks at a woman who is not his wife and desires her is "misleading and incomplete" Jacobs says. "If women don't begin to redefine what lust means for them, they will continue to isolate themselves from each other, their spouses, and, in so doing, cripple their chances of overcoming temptation."

In the book Every Woman's Battle, Shannon Ethridge describes her emotional affairs with male friends. "Even though I wasn't having sexual intercourse with any of these other men, I was still having an affair with each of them... fascination with Tom's wit, Mark's maturity, and Scott's verbal talents affected my marriage in a way just as damaging as a sexual affair would have."

Upon surveying a group of women in her church, Jacobs came to find that although female attraction functions less visibly than male attraction, it is easier for women to dismiss sexual sin. "If lust is only described through men's eyes, we won't recognize it through our own," Jacobs concluded. 'The most alarming trend in my survey was the number of women who were alone in their struggle."

Click HERE to read Marian Jacobs' full article and learn four ways in which women can prevent further isolation and defeat lust.

March 28, 2018

What My Parents Don't Know About Social Media

Wed, 28 Mar 2018 16:23:21 GMT

What My Parents Don't Know About Social Media

A teacher recently asked her 9th-grade students to anonymously finish the statement "What my parents don't know about social media is..." The students responses proved to be both eye-opening and heartbreaking.

Over 80% of the students wrote that they have social media accounts even though they were instructed by their parents not to have accounts. One student wrote "You can send nudes, receive nudes, sext, buy drugs, password (protect) pictures, delete texts, buy bongs, pipes, hookah" all from home.

The teacher's response was emotionally driven and went so far as to say that teenagers should never have smartphones. It is important to remember that shock and fear are not reactions that will bring change and encourage conversation with your teen. Read last weeks article Being a Safe Source for Conversation to learn how you can better respond to your child's mistakes and help create a safe space for future conversations.

Looking to purchase a smartphone for your teen soon and don't know where to start? Learn how you can develop your own parent-teen smartphone contract HERE .

March 28, 2018

The Significance of a Good Mentor

Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:22:13 GMT

The Significance of a Good Mentor

"Our very brains are shaped and molded by the significant others in our lives, especially those relationships we call role models," wrote counselor Jim Rose in a recent article published by Covenant Eyes.

In the article, Jim explains three ways in which science reveals a need for everyone to have good mentors including how mentors influence the Enteric Nervous System, the Autonomic Nervous System and three regions of the brain (the corpus callosum, the temporal lobes and the pre-frontal cortex).

Click HERE to read the full article, Science Reveals 3 Reasons We All Need (Good) Mentors.

March 20, 2018

Cosmo Glamorizes Sexual Promiscuity

Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:20:08 GMT

Cosmo Glamorizes Sexual Promiscuity

The Journal of Law and Social Deviance (LSD), a peer-reviewed journal affiliated with Florida International University, recently published an article, The 'Cosmo Girl' Invades Middle Schools: Grooming Girls for Disease and Depression. Author and researcher Dr. Judith Reisman describes how Cosmopolitan, supposedly aimed at adult women, uses teen television stars and teen influencers on its covers to lure young women ages 10 to 17 to purchase the magazine. For example, some of the magazine covers feature well-known Disney film and television stars juxtaposed with sexually explicit titles.

Over the course of the last decade, Cosmopolitan Magazine has outdone itself in glamorizing sexual promiscuity. Current published pieces being marketed towards teens include: The 12 Best Porn Movies Money Can Buy, 10 Must-Read Tips for First Time Sex and Anal Foreplay Tips for Beginners.

Dr. Reisman's article, published in LSD, describes how children and adolescents who are exposed to media with sexual content engage in sexual activity at younger ages and with greater number of partners. All material that encourages multiple sexual partners threatens the physical health of adolescents and of young women in particular.

Click HERE to read The 'Cosmo Girl' Invades Middle Schools: Grooming Girls for Disease and Depression.

March 20, 2018

A Father's Influence

Tue, 20 Mar 2018 16:19:04 GMT

A Father's Influence

Fathers, you have more influence than you can imagine! No matter how old your little girl is, she still needs an example of a spiritual leader and a positive role model. Here are a few tips for you as you continue to pursue and protect your daughter's heart:

Schedule Time

What gets in the way of you spending time with your daughter? Brainstorm how you can be more intentional. Chances are if you are not pro-active about scheduling time for your daughter, then you will not make time.

Know Your Daughter

Learn what your daughter enjoys! Study her hobbies, her style and her personality. If you are going to purchase her a gift, learn what she would actually like and enjoy. Being intentional with your daughter could be as simple as picking up her favorite ice cream on your way home from work and sharing it as a late night snack together.

Go the Extra Mile

Once a month, go the extra mile by taking her out, just the two of you. Go to the mall and purchase that jacket she has been talking about all week, send her flowers or create a scavenger hunt leading to her favorite coffee shop.

Regardless of how you chose to spend your time, your decision to invest in her will have a lasting impact.

March 20, 2018

Pornography's Long-Term Effects: Erectile Dysfunction

Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:17:31 GMT

Pornography's Long-Term Effects: Erectile Dysfunction

A recent article from the Marriage and Religious Research Institute (MRRI), outlined the effects of pornography on culture over the course of the last ten years. According to MMRI the most telling effect of pornography is the epidemic of erectile dysfunction (ED) among men. "For all of human history this was mainly an older man's problem," MMRI reported. "As recently as 2002 the rate of ED for men aged 40-80 was about 13% in Europe. By 2011 rates reached 28% for men aged 18-40. As reported above, a 2014 cross-sectional study of active duty, relatively healthy, 21-40 old males in the US military, found that one third (33.2%) suffered from ED."

Click HERE to read the full article by MRRI.

March 14, 2018

Being a Safe Source for Conversation

Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:15:52 GMT

Being a Safe Source for Conversation

Take Your Time:

Listen:

Keep Boundaries Consistent:

Utilizing these three tips when responding to your child's mistakes will help to create a safe space for future conversations.

March 14, 2018

Suicide Prevention

Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:12:23 GMT

Suicide Prevention

This video , created by Mayo Clinic, shows teens describing common warning signs exhibited by a teen who is considering suicide. The video also includes suggestions for what to say to a teen who may be at risk for suicide. Learn how you can communicate directly and immediately.

For more information about how you can recognize red flags congruent with suicidal behavior read, Teen Suicide: 7 Warning Signs to Watch For.

March 14, 2018

Parenting Through Spring Break

Wed, 14 Mar 2018 16:10:22 GMT

Parenting Through Spring Break

Spring Break presents a great opportunity for parents to talk to their teens about hook-up culture, sexual assault, binge drinking and drug use. Research affirms that your voice as a parent matters to your teen. Studies show that teens whose parents frequently talk to them about substance abuse are 50 percent less likely to try alcohol or drugs.

Here are some tips to help you have a conversation about drugs and alcohol with your child:

Avoid turning "the talk" into a lecture. Engage in discussion in a relaxed setting. Start by asking them what they know and how they feel about underage drinking.
Establish rules and expectations, but emphasize throughout that the key concerns are not social ones, but have to do with personal safety and health risks.
Use natural conversation starters to your advantage. If someone on a TV show or in a movie is using drugs, take the time to talk about the negative consequences of their actions and ask your child what they would do in a similar situation.
If your child is going to be with another family during Spring Break, be sure to find out who will be there and ensure that your child will be supervised. Speak with the parents to decide if they will provide a level of oversight that you are comfortable with.

Finally, being active in planning parties at your house and inviting your child's friends on family outings allows you to better control the invite list and atmosphere. Learn more about how you can make your home the go-to place for your teen and friends to hang out over Spring Break in a previous Abstinence Clearinghouse article, Make Your Home Teen-Friendly.

March 14, 2018

Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography

Wed, 07 Mar 2018 16:09:04 GMT

Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography

In 2015, the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops released Create in Me a Clean Heart: A Pastoral Response to Pornography. In this groundbreaking document, the U.S. bishops provide the Catholic Church with instructions to help heal the pain and suffering of so many members of the Body of Christ. One of the primary steps recommended by the bishops includes creating safer environments in today's internet age.

Covenant Eyes has published a Diocesan and Parish Implementation Guide providing the tools Diocesan and Parish Leaders need to create safer environments, while providing practical guidance on how to strategically implement Create in Me a Clean Heart in the life of dioceses, parishes, and schools. Request your free Diocesan and Parish Implementation Guide HERE .

Click HERE to learn more about the Create in Me a Clean Heart initiative and the efforts of Covenant Eyes in equipping leaders.

March 7, 2018

Why Kid's Need Boundaries

Wed, 07 Mar 2018 16:07:36 GMT

Why Kid's Need Boundaries

In the video above, Dr. James Dobson illustrates the connection between those who are inadequately exposed to healthy "barriers" and "boundaries" of behavior as children, and those who as young adults excessively wander and meander through their formative years in search of meaning.

March 7, 2018

Teen Suicide: 7 Warning Signs to Watch For

Wed, 07 Mar 2018 16:05:38 GMT

Teen Suicide: 7 Warning Signs to Watch For

Teenagers are capable of all kinds of unexpected behavior. How can you tell whether a teen is exhibiting typical teenage angst or showing signs that he or she is at risk for suicide?

Here are seven red flags the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry (AACAP ) encourages parents and educators watch for:

Changes in eating or sleeping habits

Feelings of homelessness or helplessness

Aggression or disruptive behavior

Withdrawal from friends, family and regular activities

Frequent complaints about physical symptoms often related to emotions, such as stomachaches, headaches, fatigue, etc.

Decline in the quality of schoolwork

Preoccupation with death and dying

Young people who are thinking about suicide may also stop planning for or talking about the future and begin to give away important possessions. For some teens, suicide may appear to be a solution to their problems. Being attuned to the warning signs and prevention methods is key to detecting early suicidal thoughts.

Click HERE to learn more about suicide prevention.

March 7, 2018

The Law of Diminishing Return

Wed, 07 Mar 2018 16:04:21 GMT

The Law of Diminishing Return

A guy said to his date, " I don't make a move on you for four dates." If that isn't love, then I don't know what is. Not every guy is trying to use you, you know.

If you're with a guy with "Russian hands" and "Roman fingers", it may be wise to heed these words. Too many young women say they spend the whole night trying to fight the guy off. Many have said "I really like my boyfriend. He might put up with me saying 'no' for awhile, but I might lose him if I don't give in eventually."

Actually, nothing could be further from the truth. If Jason truly is your "Mr. Wonderful", he will stick by you because you don't put out. If he leaves you because you don't, chances are he has already been with other women. The chances are also high that he would be unfaithful to you even if you did marry him. Building a lasting relationship involves much more than "getting turned on" every time you get together. Mr. Right won't keep trying to see how much further he can go each date. To really know your partner takes several months, even years. If you skip the meat and potatoes and go straight to the dessert you'll lose your appetite. Too many people want to live on dessert and the results can have emotional and physical consequences.

The article above is an excerpt from the Abstinence Clearinghouse

brochure, Teen Esteem. Click HERE to order now!

March 7, 2018

Child Sexual Abuse "Fire Drill"

Wed, 28 Feb 2018 16:03:09 GMT

Child Sexual Abuse "Fire Drill"

When it comes to emergency preparedness, the value of discussing a safety plan with children is invaluable. Children are often taught where to go in case of a fire at school, to go into the basement if they hear a tornado siren and to seek cover during an earthquake. Children know these things because parents teach and practice these concepts until they become second nature.

What if children were not faced with a natural disaster, but a situation where they could be sexually abused? Would they know how to successfully navigate a harmful situation? Would they know what to do, who to tell and how to communicate their experience?

Children are more likely to face the reality of sexual abuse than they are to navigate a fire or be involved in a natural disaster, but they are far less prepared. While many parents talk to their children about the basics of "stranger danger," many children do not know what to do if someone they trust takes advantage of them. Children are more likely to be abused by someone they know than by a stranger.

Offering children the right words, knowing their boundaries and having a safety plan empowers children with necessary knowledge. Just as students are taught to walk calmly to their designated area during a school fire drill, children can be taught to be prepared before they are confronted with a negative situation.

Learn more about how to talk to your children about body safety and sexual abuse in the book, Body Safety Education: A Parents Guide to Protecting Kids from Sexual Abuse.

February 28, 2018

Victory in Florida

Wed, 28 Feb 2018 16:01:05 GMT

Victory in Florida

On Tuesday, February 20, the Florida House passed a resolution declaring that pornography is a public health risk. "Research has found a correlation between pornography use and mental and physical illnesses, difficulty forming and maintaining intimate relationships, unhealthy brain development and cognitive function, and deviant, problematic or dangerous sexual behavior," stated resolution sponsor Ross Spano at the state's House Health & Human Services Committee in January.

Please thank Representative Spano on Twitter and Facebook for what he is doing to defend dignity and promote the truth about the harms of pornography.

Here are some suggested tweets:

Thank you, Rep. @RossSpano, for your leadership in working to protect women, men, and children from the harms of pornography! #PornHarms

Thank you, Rep. @RossSpano, for your dedication and work in the Florida House to pass a resolution declaring pornography as a public health risk. The research supports you and we support you. #PornHarms

Learn more about how pornography fuels sex trafficking, child exploitation and sexual violence by downloading the Pornography & Public Health: Research Summary HERE .

February 28, 2018

6 Strategies for Hosting a Successful Meeting

Wed, 28 Feb 2018 16:00:03 GMT

6 Strategies for Hosting a Successful Meeting

Creating an atmosphere that allows for productivity and creativity can be challenging. Be intentional about making your next meeting more useful by incorporating the following tips:

Have the Right Individual Leading: Without the right person to "run" a meeting, focus can be derailed quickly. You need someone who can politely and firmly facilitate discussion to ensure productivity.
Start on Time: Starting on time sets a professional tone and shows respect to those who arrive on time. Remember, starting late means you are going to finish late and can disrespect attendees time.
Have an Agenda: An agenda is the "plan" for the meeting. Each individual attending should be given a copy of the agenda. Know what action items need to be resolved (who, what, when, where). Make sure that you have enough time to do the things that need to get done during the time allotted. Do not over-fill your agenda!
Facilitate, Don't Dictate: Part of running a meeting is making sure that you encourage good feedback from the people attending. Do not waste your opportunity to brainstorm and get collective minds focused on the job at hand.
Review Action Items: Summarize and review what was decided and note any action items (who, what, when, where).
Always, Always Follow-Up: Discussing something and then leaving it undone defeats the purpose of meeting in the first place. Be sure to follow-up with people who need to be followed up with after the meeting.

Remember, time is a valuable asset. If you are going to take the time to meet, then you should be prepared to make the most of that time.

February 28, 2018

Taxpayers Fund Pornography Education

Wed, 21 Feb 2018 15:57:32 GMT

Taxpayers Fund Pornography Education

On Wednesday, February 14 the New York Times released an article titled What Teenagers Are Learning From Online Porn. The outlet asked the "question can teens be taught to see pornography more critically?"

For insight, contributing writer Maggie Jones turned to a "Porn Literacy" class, a course currently funded publicly and taught to Boston high school students. While interviewing students participating in the class, Jones gathered that the students were perplexed about how porn translated into real life. They wondered if the violence portrayed in pornography is desired in real relationships.

The "peer-leadership program" shows graphic material in hopes of creating "savvy" and "critical" consumers of pornography. Not once in the curriculum do students learn the damaging effects of pornography. There is also no condemnation directed towards pornography use or acknowledgement that pornography has been accepted as a public health crisis by numerous state governments and public health officials.

Abstinence Clearinghouse's new booklet, The Truth About Pornography , outlines that pornography:

1. Decreases Sexual Satisfaction

2. Disconnects Real Relationships

3. Creates an Addiction

4. Lowers your View of the Opposite Sex

5. Supports Human Trafficking

The lack of virtue and self-respect is only one of the glaring flaws in Jones' article. The question is not "whether the legal viewing age of 18 is too high," but how educators can offer a better moral foothold for students who will be future husbands, wives and parents. Sex education will only serve to teach sex and will continue to expose students to inappropriate content and eliminate parents from the equation.

February 21, 2018

Worthy of Love and Respect

Wed, 21 Feb 2018 15:55:58 GMT

Worthy of Love and Respect

Respect begins with believing "I am worthy of love." If you do not believe you are worthy of love and respect, you may allow yourself to be disrespected or disrespect others. Believe that you are worthy of love and honor because God gave us infinite value when He gave His Son for us.

He knows the desires of your heart. He knows your desire to be loved and to be known. In His perfect timing, God's plan will unfold. Ecclesiastes 3:11 says, "He has made everything beautiful in its time." Be encouraged, your story is not yet finished. You are not late or early, but right on time.

February 21, 2018

Snapchat in Need of Policy Change

Wed, 21 Feb 2018 15:54:14 GMT

Snapchat in Need of Policy Change

Snapchat is arguably the most popular smartphone app used by millennials and teens. Despite the app's popularity, Snapchat recently made the National Center for Sexual Exploitation's (NCSE) Dirty Dozen List. According to NCSE, Snapchat is frequently used for sexting and the sharing of self-produced child sexual abuse images. The built-in feature called Snapcash has enabled Snapchat and its users to monetize and profit from the exchange of pornography. Snapchat's business model facilitates sexual exploitation yielding hefty profits for the company without any regard for the associated harms.

What should change?

1. Allow users to opt-out of publisher content on the Discover page.

2. Provide prominent in-app reporting systems for users to report those that send or promote sexually exploitive content.

3. Create a clear policy explaining that the promotion of pornography and prostitution is in violation of Snapchat's Terms of Use.

Click HERE to add your name to an email petition to be sent to Snapchat executives.

February 21, 2018

Register for the Heartbeat International Annual Conference

Wed, 21 Feb 2018 15:34:55 GMT

Register for the Heartbeat International Annual Conference

Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh will be a keynote speaker at the Heartbeat International Annual Conference in Anaheim, California. The conference will be held from April 10-12.

Click HERE to view a full list of workshops, keynote speakers and to register!

February 21, 2018

Parents Given the Option to Opt-Out in Indiana

Wed, 14 Feb 2018 15:33:26 GMT

Parents Given the Option to Opt-Out in Indiana

In January, the Indiana State Senate passed Senate Bill 65 requiring schools to obtain written permission from parents or guardians before teaching students about human sexuality, including "sexual activity, sexual orientation or gender identity."

The bill, sponsored by Senator Dennis Kruse, also requires school corporations to make their sexual education instructional material available for inspection by parents prior to being used in the class.

Five years ago the National Center for Sexual Exploitation (NCSE) created the Dirty Dozen list exposing twelve corporations perpetuating sexual exploitation through pornography, prostitution, sexual objectification and human trafficking.

According to NCSE, "the Dirty Dozen List is an activism tool that gives back power to individuals who want a voice in the culture. People can participate by taking easy online actions, from sending emails to sharing social media messages."

The Dirty Dozen List has united thousands of individuals to create monumental change. The list has led to improvements at companies like Google, Hilton Worldwide, Verizon, Walmart and the Department of Defense.

The 2018 Dirty Dozen list includes iBooks, Snapchat, Steam, Twitter and YouTube. Click HERE to view the entire list and to learn what you can do to combat sexual exploitation.

February 14, 2018

Hollywood's Recognition of Sexual Exploitation

Wed, 07 Feb 2018 15:13:46 GMT

Hollywood's Recognition of Sexual Exploitation

Dr. Judith Reisman successfully spent much of her career laying the foundations for deconstructing both 'soft pornography' and 'Kinsey myths'. Her work, uncovering and documenting systemic perversion by well-funded efforts in academia, politics, business and media, sheds light on what spawned the 'sexual from birth' dogma. That dogma helped to launch the global pollution of classrooms and institutions, print and broadcast media and, indeed, the internet.

In a recent interview with Eric Metaxas, Dr. Reisman addresses Hollywood's recent recognition of sexual abuse and sexual exploitation.

Click HERE to listen to Dr. Reisman on the The Eric Metaxas Show.

February 7, 2018

Teaching Independence

Wed, 07 Feb 2018 15:11:38 GMT

Teaching Independence

In the video above, Dr. James Dobson recalls a time in his teens when his parents gave him his first big taste of freedom. The principle in play was that if children are allowed to "test the waters" a little at a time they will be equipped and ready to handle responsibility once they find themselves on their own.

February 7, 2018

A Note From Purity Ball 2018

Wed, 07 Feb 2018 15:09:28 GMT

A Note From Purity Ball 2018

The following is an excerpt from Dan Elliott, the individual who photographed the Abstinence Clearinghouse's Purity Ball event on Saturday, January 27:

It's not easy for a Dad to take his little girl to a Purity Ball, and it's not easy for a daughter either. It's a date to a ball, and it's not like those come around very often. Then there's that level of awkward in the idea of talking about sex and waiting.

Some dad's in the room have walked the straight and narrow and have never fallen and made a mess of things. But for a lot of dad's it's a struggle because we are far from perfect and we have made some pretty big mistakes and poor choices.

At this Purity Ball put on by the Abstinence Clearinghouse, I photographed what I think are my all-time favorite father/daughter shots. They were of a dad, dancing with his girl, and praying over her while they danced. Hoping the best for her, praying the best over her, desiring the best.

Dads, it's not about us and our baggage, thank God. It's about Him and His righteousness. Oswald Chambers said prayer does not fit us for the greater work; prayer is the greater work, and I think that's what I love most about that image. You don't see a man with flaws, you see a teacher demonstrating to his daughter the importance of appealing to Christ on her behalf. She is there, in perfect peace wrapped up in her Daddy's arms as the song plays, hearing his words spoken over her as he presents his requests. Finally, Christ is there, and the Word of God speaks over their entire dance as He calls them both His masterpiece. More than the dance, the dresses, the cake, the speaker, or any of the other words spoken that night, that prayer at that moment was the greater work.

February 7, 2018

Modest is Hottest!

Wed, 31 Jan 2018 15:08:00 GMT

Modest is Hottest!

January 31, 2018

Kirk Cameron: CONNECT

Wed, 24 Jan 2018 15:01:32 GMT

Kirk Cameron: CONNECT

In a social media-centered world, the smart phone has become a cultural rite of passage for kids. But is that rite all wrong? In this new film, CONNECT, Kirk Cameron asks if this generation of parents can blaze a new trail to equip their kids to thrive in an ever-changing digital environment while steering clear of the dangers that lurk nearby. Find help, hope and strength for parenting kids and teens in a social media world.

CONNECT is only available in theaters February 27 and March 1. Click HERE to learn more and discover if CONNECT is available in a city near you!

January 24, 2018

Join the #TackleDemand Campaign

Wed, 24 Jan 2018 15:00:06 GMT

Join the #TackleDemand Campaign

As sports fans around the country prepare for Super Bowl 52, they may not know that vulnerable people will be sex trafficked at this year's Super Bowl, just as they have been year after year.

According to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCOSE), in 2017 183 sex buyers and 9 sex traffickers were arrested at the Super Bowl in Houston, Texas. Join the Tackle Demand campaign before and during the Super Bowl so you can help send a loud message that real sports fans don't buy sex!

Click HERE to schedule a one-time Tweet or Facebook post to be posted during the Super Bowl kick off! With all of the messages posting at the same time, thousands can be reached through the Thunderclap flash-mob of posts.

January 24, 2018

Is your child being solicited by the Fifty Shades franchise?

Wed, 24 Jan 2018 14:58:35 GMT

Is your child being solicited by the Fifty Shades franchise?

When the first Fifty Shades of Grey film, based on the book series, was released three years ago, a new view of love and romance was formed in the minds of those exposed to the story. The Fifty Shades of Grey franchise cultivates and normalizes rape myths, psychological grooming for abuse and sexual violence. In the age of #MeToo, the messages that Fifty Shades promotes are not only in poor taste, they are socially irresponsible.

On February 9, the third film, Fifty Shades Freed, will open in theaters. Here are a few tips on how you can respond to children questioning the unhealthy messages and irresponsible view of relationships promoted by the Fifty Shades of Grey franchise:

Model an appropriate reaction to the film through your actions and behaviors. Your example is more powerful then you think. Respond to questions of why you are not going to see the movie with honesty. For example, "I'm not going to see this movie because I don't want to promote entertainment that goes against my values."
Be ready to talk about the message the media is trying to portray. Help cut through the hype and if your child is mature enough explain the mentality of the main character to your child. "The main character acts like a sexual predator. He looks for a young woman who is an easy target, and then he manipulates and grooms her to use and abuse for his own selfish purposes." It's so important for kids to become media savvy. Help them peel away the glitz and pyrotechnics to analyze the values and messages portrayed by the characters.
Unlike the previous films, Fifty Shades Freed, depicts the main characters as a married couple. Create a dialogue based on what they have already heard about the film. Explain to your child what a healthy marriage should look like.

As a parent you know your child's level of latency and understanding. Be cautious not to give too much information, but also understand that truth must be communicated.

January 24, 2018

Parents as Primary Educators

Wed, 17 Jan 2018 14:56:15 GMT

Parents as Primary Educators

Parents, talking with your children about purity doesn't have to be scary. Even if you didn't make the best decisions in the past, you can still speak truth in the lives of your children. Consider the following tips from our book Abstinence 101 on talking with your children:

Treat sex education as a process. Educating children about sexual integrity is not a one-time lesson, but an ongoing process.
Be honest. Many young people are looking for honest answers about what to do on dates, interacting with the opposite sex and how premarital sex can affect their future.
Be a loving guide, not "just a friend." Parents need to be a mature voice of wisdom in their children's lives.

Read more from Abstinence 101 here or find great age appropriate abstinence resources from our Family Resource Store here .

January 17, 2018

Redefining Beauty

Wed, 17 Jan 2018 14:54:32 GMT

Redefining Beauty

True beauty includes more than what is on the outside. But how can we express that to a culture that is only focused on outward physical beauty? This article from JT Waresak suggests two ways that men, especially fathers, can redefine beauty to the women in their lives. First, he mentions helping others associate beauty with who they are, not with what they look like. Beauty is more than skin deep. It includes attitude, demeanor and confidence. Second, help others see how God sees them. Rather than compare ourselves to what is considered beautiful by media, affirm the perfect way that God created them and sees them as a whole person. These two simple ideas can help eliminate the need to seek validation in negative ways. Men, you can make a difference in the lives of so many!

January 17, 2018

What Does Virtue Mean?

Wed, 17 Jan 2018 14:53:14 GMT

What Does Virtue Mean?

Virtue isn't something that is often talked about on the news or media. So what is virtue and why is it important? In short, virtue is a word used to describe someone who shows high moral standards. This may sound easy, but living a virtuous life requires developing positive habits, not just making one good choice and expecting the rest to fall into place. Some examples of virtuous choices include: choosing abstinence until marriage, saying no to drugs and alcohol and choosing to not engage in negative media. Over time, these decisions become easier to choose and develop into positive habits. Virtue is important because leads to a higher quality of life. Naturally, good choices lead to positive results and success. Each day is a new day and a new opportunity to live virtuously. Make today your best day yet!

January 17, 2018

NAC Hosts a Knight to Remember

Wed, 17 Jan 2018 14:52:31 GMT

NAC Hosts a Knight to Remember

On Friday, January 12, the National Abstinence Clearinghouse hosted a Knight to Remember. This memorable event was designed for mothers and sons ages 12-18 to focus on virtue and integrity. The evening included a panel of speakers, hor d'ouevres and a dance. Below are a few pictures from the event. Check out our Facebook page for more photos and videos!

January 17, 2018

Does Marriage = Success?

Wed, 10 Jan 2018 14:51:20 GMT

Does Marriage = Success?

A Checklist for Casting Vision

According to John C. Maxwell, "people need to be shown the team's vision clearly, creatively, and continually." Try using the following checklist and make sure that every vision created with your team possesses the following components:

Clarity: brings understanding to the vision (answers what the people must know and what you want them to do)
Connectedness: brings the past, present, and future together
Purpose: bring direction to the vision
Goals: bring targets to the vision
Honesty: brings integrity to the vision and credibility to the vision-caster
Stories: bring relationships to the vision
Challenge: brings stretching to the vision
Passion: brings fuel to the vision
Modeling: brings accountability to the vision
Strategy: brings process to the vision

Excerpt from The 17 Indisputable Laws of Teamwork by John C. Maxwell

January 10, 2018

The Gift of Technology

Wed, 03 Jan 2018 14:45:22 GMT

The Gift of Technology

Technology based toys are becoming a popular gift for all ages, even infants. Smartphones, gaming devices and wireless baby monitors are just a few types of devices created for entertainment and convenience. Unfortunately, these devices can also be hacked to gain personal information.

Here are a few tips on how to keep your toys and other electronics safe:

Connect toy to Wi-Fi network that is password protected and secure. Any open connection Wi-Fi is not secure and allows for others to potentially get your data.
Turn off toy when not in use. This reduces the risk of a hacker connecting to the device.
Be aware of what information is being sent over the toy/device. Does it ask for personal information like where your child goes to school or where they live? Is there a camera or video attached to the device that can store information?

Affiliate Spotlight

The Bahamas GodParent Center in Nassau, Bahamas is a faith-based, non-profit pregnancy resource and youth center offering support, education and resources to men, women and youth facing unplanned pregnancies.The prevention arm called Students4Life shares the realities of sexual activity and the benefits of forming healthy families. The organization teaches how to identify and build healthy relationships, provides training in character building and life skills, explains the consequences of sexual activity outside of marriage and explains the consequences of family fragmentation on child and family well-being. The program also defines the characteristics and benefits of healthy family formation.

The Center uses the Abstinence Clearinghouse's brochure, The Truth About STD's, in the classroom to inform students about the risks of contracting STD's. The students are able to see the value in waiting for marriage and abstaining from ALL sexual activity until after marriage. "The brochures are helping to change the minds of the young people on abstaining," Youth Education Director Audra Darville told Clearinghouse staff.

Thank you Bahamas GodParent Center for making a difference in the lives of youth! Make a difference in your community and order our new The Truth about STD's brochure for your center HERE .

January 3, 2018

2017 Interviews, Workshops & Articles

Wed, 27 Dec 2017 14:34:05 GMT

2017 Interviews, Workshops & Articles

On behalf of the Abstinence Clearinghouse Team, thank you for another wonderful year! We look forward to serving you in the new year as you continue to inspire virtue among youth and families in your community. Here are a few featured interviews, workshops, and articles presented by Abstinence Clearinghouse in 2017:

- Read an article on Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh’s interview with American Family News HERE

- Learn how you can order, Seeking Virtue After a Negative Pregnancy Test, a workshop given by the Abstinence Clearinghouse at the 2017 Heartbeat Conference HERE

- Listen to Abstinence Clearinghouse Director Alyssa Blankespoor’s radio interview on the Shilling Show at Values Voter Summit HERE

- View an article about the work of the Abstinence Clearinghouse published by The Stream describing how social media can be a helpful tool in reaching the next generation HERE

December 27, 2017

A Season Full of Thanks

Wed, 20 Dec 2017 14:27:29 GMT

December 20, 2017

Real marriages aren't perfectly scripted like those portrayed in movies. They take work, patience and constant learning. When couples take time to work on their marriage, there is more time to celebrate it! Consider the following advice on helping your marriage grow:

Give it your all. Marriage requires work from both people and choosing to love each and every day.
Don't have unrealistic expectations for your spouse, yourself or your relationship. We are all imperfect and will make mistakes.
Only speak words of encouragement to each other. When you speak about your spouse to others, speak positively.
Know your spouses' love language. Love languages are things like physical touch or quality time that show others you care for them. Learn more about Love Languages here .
Take time to appreciate your marriage. Think of your marriage and your spouse as a gift that you get to unwrap everyday.

Learn more from Milk and Honey Magazine here .

Is it Love?

Wed, 13 Dec 2017 14:20:40 GMT

Is it Love?

New relationships are exciting and filled with lots of emotion. With all of these new feelings, how do you determine if it is love or infatuation? Check out the differences below:

The Fairy Tale - Infatuation
Fall into it suddenly
Wants sex or physical intimacy now
Emotional ups and downs
Emphasizes physical apperance
Has an idealized image of the other person
Avoids problems or confrontation
The Real Thing - Love
Grows with time
Willing to wait for sex or physical intimacy
Consistent emotions
Emphasizes character
Has a realistic view of the other person's strengths and weaknesses
Works through problems

Strategies for Resolving the Teen Sexual Activity Crisis

Wed, 13 Dec 2017 14:18:01 GMT

Strategies for Resolving the Teen Sexual Activity Crisis

In a culture that is assaulted with sexualized images, music and other negative media, it can be easy to give up in the fight for purity. But be encouraged! These tips can help reach youth and make a positive impact on our culture:

Include and Involve Parents - Parents play a pivotal role in the lives of their children. Churches, youth groups and schools should encourage parents to get involved with their programs and what their child is learning.
Teach Abstinence Until Marriage and the Consequences of Promiscuity - Teens are encouraged and empowered when they hear the abstinence message and see the benefits of choosing abstinence in their daily lives. Teach them that saying no to sex now means a healthier future later.
Eliminate Mixed Messages About Abstinence - Teens and young adults want to hear truth and they want to be respected. Don't water down the message by removing "until marriage" or encouraging teens to use contraception because "they are going to do it anyway." Trust that they will make the right decisions with the information presented.
Use Available Resources for Abstinence-Until-Marriage Education - Use social media and technology to spread a positive message to combat the negative. It is a great way to reach teens in an environment that is comfortable to them. A number of resources are also available through our online store .

It is time the truth about pornography is made mainstream. This article from JT Waresak sheds light on pornography.

Pornography hurts everyone.
Pornography hurts our relationships with others and how we view our husband/wife. Most of the time, pornography is viewed in private which creates trust issues, including keeping secrets from our friends and family. Waresak writes, "When we choose porn over our spouse we devalue them and are essentially saying, 'You're not good enough. I need someone else to fulfill me.'"
Pornography doesn't fulfill sexual desires.
Sexual desires are best fulfilled within the boundaries of a marriage. Despite what our culture teaches, anything that attempts to satisfy these desires will not bring true happiness or fulfillment. Pornography allows for a quick fix and a temporary high.
Pornography destroys families.
True intimacy is more than just sex and pornography only shows the airbrushed and scripted version of sex. Pornography is often thought of as only a male problem. However, pornography also affects women and children. Both women and men can struggle with a pornography addiction. With the internet becoming more and more accessible, the average age now for a child to view pornography is 8-10 years old.

November 29, 2017

Marriage...It's More Than Just a Piece of Paper

Wed, 29 Nov 2017 14:09:57 GMT

Marriage...It's More Than Just a Piece of Paper

Marriage makes a difference! Did you know marriage has a transformative effect on the behavior, emotional health, and financial well-being of adults, especially men? Watch the video above to learn more about the benefits of marriage.

November 29, 2017

The Ambulance in the Valley

Wed, 29 Nov 2017 14:07:20 GMT

The Ambulance in the Valley

Twas a dangerous cliff, as they freely confessed,

Though to walk near its crest was so pleasant;

But over its terrible edge there had slipped

A duke, and full many a peasant.

The people said something would have to be done,

But their projects did not at all tally.

Some said, "Put a fence 'round the edge of the cliff,"

Some, "An ambulance down in the valley."

The lament of the crowd was profound and was loud,

As their tears overflowed with their pity.

But the cry for the ambulance carried the day

As it spread through the neighboring city.

A collection was made, to accumulate aid,

And the dwellers in highway and alley

Gave dollars or cents - not to furnish a fence,

But an ambulance down in the valley.

"For the cliff is all right if you're careful," they said;

"And if folks ever slip and are dropping,

It isn't the slipping that hurts them so much

As the shock down below - when they're stopping."

So for years (we have heard)

as these mishaps occurred,

Quick forth would the rescuers sally

To pick up the victims who fell from the cliff

With the ambulance down in the valley.

Said one, to his pleas, "It's a marvel to me

That you'd give so much greater attention

To repairing results than to curing the cause;

You had much better aim at prevention.

For the mischief, of course,

should be stopped at its source.

Come, neighbors and friends, let us rally;

It is far better sense to rely on a fence

Than an ambulance down in the valley."

"He is wrong in his head," the majority said;

"He would end all our honest endeavor.

He's a man who would shirk this responsible work,

But we will support it forever.

Aren't we picking up all, just as fast as they fall,

And giving them care without dally?

A superfluous fence is of no consequence

If the ambulance works in the valley."

The story looks queer as we've written it here,

But things oft occur than are stranger.

More humane, we assert, than to succor the hurt

Is the plan of removing the danger.

The best possible course is to safeguard the source

By attending to things rationally.

Yes, build up the fence and let us dispense

With the ambulance down in the valley.

Author Unknown

November 29, 2017

NAC on The Stream

Wed, 29 Nov 2017 14:05:45 GMT

NAC on The Stream

This week The Stream, a conservative online news source, published an article about the work of the Abstinence Clearinghouse. The article features the importance of encouraging youth to choose abstinence and how social media can be a helpful tool in reaching the next generation.

Read the full article HERE .

November 29, 2017

Teaching Critical Consumerism

Wed, 15 Nov 2017 14:03:21 GMT

Teaching Critical Consumerism

Have you ever been with your teen in the car and heard a sexually degrading song lyric or found yourself changing the channel during a family night? Next time you find yourself in a situation where a song or television show is controversial, ask your teen to interpret what moral is being compromised or challenged. For example, if a television show insinuates that a couple is cohabitating prior to marriage, discuss how cohabitation is harmful to a relationship.

Teach your child to be a critical consumer of media and culture. Why? Many young people are raised on a steady diet of misinformed, harmful views of sex and relationships. Help your teens train themselves to critically examine the media they consume and the cultural dynamics that shape their lives each day.

November 15, 2017

Dating: It's (Not) Complicated

Wed, 15 Nov 2017 14:01:16 GMT

Dating: It's (Not) Complicated

In the video above, Jason Evert explains how to eliminate the confusion and drama of modern dating relationships. "If you win him with your body, you will keep him with your body," Jason explains. Physical attraction can be replicated in the same way pleasure can be replicated in relationships that are not grounded in commitment. Winning a guy over with who you are as a person is important because you can not be replicated! A marriage relationship grounded in commitment and trust is the only relationship that allows for true intimacy.

November 15, 2017

Make Your Home Teen-Friendly

Wed, 15 Nov 2017 13:59:26 GMT

Make Your Home Teen-Friendly

The bottom line: Teens want to hang out with their friends. As a parent, it is important that you make your home a welcoming place for other teens so your children feel comfortable hanging out with friends within the safety and comfort of your watchful eye. This simple act of opening your home can make a profound difference in your child's life as you help them escape harmful behavior because there is "nothing better to do."

Here are a few helpful tips in making your home fun for teens:

Have an area available where they can be on their own. While this space should be fun for teenagers, you can occasionally breeze in and out. Dropping in with snacks or drinks is a good way to check in and get to know your teen's friends.
Invest in a few activities with your teen in mind. Electronics, a Foosball table, games, a fire-pit or basketball hoop can help make your home the "go-to" hang out spot.
Have snacks available. Foods that are fun for teenagers will make all the difference in the world.

Finally, keep your standards and do not be afraid to set limits. Do not let objectionable movies, alcohol, tobacco or drugs into your home. You set the rules and enforce them and the kids will respect them.

November 15, 2017

Dr. Judith Reisman

Wed, 15 Nov 2017 13:57:15 GMT

Dr. Judith Reisman

Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh and Dr. Judith Reisman reunited in Arizona last week to discuss the dangers of comprehensive sex education. Dr. Judith Reisman is known for exposing the sex research led by eugenicist Alfred Kinsey in the 1960's. Judith is an activist for child and family rights and has published numerous articles and books including Stolen Honor: Stolen Innocence and Kinsey: Crimes and Consequences .

Dr. Reisman's work has paved the way for child and family rights to be re-evaluated and reinstated in America. "Parents should not just be the primary educators of their children. They should be the only educators of their children," she told Abstinence Clearinghouse staff.

November 15, 2017

Drinking Declines Among Youth

Wed, 08 Nov 2017 13:54:53 GMT

Drinking Declines Among Youth

According to the Monitoring the Future report, young adults are becoming more likely to participate in events that are not focused on alcohol. The report , which started in 1975, shows a decline in both college age and teen alcohol consumption. Instead, youth are choosing alcohol free events like color runs, board game parties and "juice crawls" (events that focus on fresh juice mixes instead of alcohol). These young adults blame high prices and crowds for their lack of interest in bars and the nightclub scene. Others simply find that they do not need alcohol to have a good time, but instead are more focused on the people they are sharing their time with.

November 8, 2017

Stop Texting and Driving!

Wed, 08 Nov 2017 13:53:04 GMT

Stop Texting and Driving!

Texting and driving do not mix. Even a one second glance to read a message can mean disaster. Fortunately, there are ways to decrease the temptation to check your phone while driving:

Turn off your phone. It's the easiest way to know you won't be distracted by an incoming text or call while driving.
Download an app. There are a number of apps (like Drive Safe Mode and Live2Txt) available that will auto respond to texts to let others know you are driving. Some smart phones have this feature already installed in the phone.
Pull over and call the person back. If you need to respond to a message before arriving at your destination, talk with them on the phone via Bluetooth or headset.
Adults can struggle with texting while driving too! Parents, be a role model on what is acceptable while driving. Put away the phone and minimize distractions. Your children will notice!

November 8, 2017

Healing After Sexual Abuse

Wed, 08 Nov 2017 13:51:44 GMT

Healing After Sexual Abuse

November 8, 2017

Recently, there has been a lot of news regarding sexual abuse in Hollywood. Regardless of when or how sexual abuse has affected a person, it is still a difficult experience. Here are some ways to help if you or someone you know has been affected by sexual abuse:

Reach out for support.

Talk with someone you trust. You don't have to go through this alone. If you feel unsafe or are in immediate danger call 911.

Acknowledge that what happened is not your fault.

Sexual assault often silences victims and causes them to feel shame. There is hope and healing after sexual abuse.

Talk to a professional.

There is no one way to react or feel after sexual assault. A counselor can help you express and/or manage the feelings you have after sexual assault.

Practice self-care.

Take time to exercise, get enough sleep, and eat well. Do things that relax and refresh you.

Parents, talk with your children about what sexual abuse is and how to report it. Looking for more information or help? Check out the booklet When Trust is Lost or call the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673)

Waiting For The One

Wed, 08 Nov 2017 13:49:34 GMT

Waiting For The One

If you are anxiously waiting for "the one" you are not alone! A recent survey from the Pew Research Center found that the main reason single adults are not married is because they have not found the right person. With all the negative news on divorce and infidelity, it is encouraging to know that people still value marriage and the person they marry. Another promising result from the survey found that 58% of adults stated they want to get married someday. Unfortunately, our media does not model how to find the right person or display marriage in a positive light. Say no to the lies our culture tells about cohabitation, sex before marriage and pornography. Instead, say yes to purity and virtue. You are worth the wait!

November 8, 2017

Are You A Good Accountability Partner?

Wed, 01 Nov 2017 13:47:46 GMT

Are You A Good Accountability Partner?

According to clinical therapist Dr. Peter Kleponis, exercising compassion, being tough and maintaining a "never give up attitude" are key components to being a good accountability partner to someone battling a pornography addiction. As you walk alongside the individual you aim to keep accountable, remember that the addicted person is fully responsible for his or her own sobriety and recovery. As an accountability partner, you are simply a caring individual there to help that person stay on track.

According to Dr. Kleponis, the following characteristics are often reflective of a good accountability partner:

Each individual truly understands what the other is experiencing. While a person who does not struggle with a porn addiction can be a good accountability partner, he or she may never fully understand what it means to be addicted.
There is a greater sense of teamwork when two individuals who struggle with pornography addiction keep each other accountable. Dr. Kleponis suggests a daily phone call that lasts between 10 to 20 minutes and a commitment to never give up.
The best accountability partner is someone of the same sex as the addicted person.

Make Schools and Libraries Safe-Zones

Last fall the Abstinence Clearinghouse shared a campaign informing parents and educators of the sexually explicit content that has made its way into schools and libraries across the country. Libraries were created to be safe environments for children and individuals within communities to come together to pursue education and character development. They are now sharing explicit sexual content. We ask that you again present information to your local Parent Teacher Association to protect K-12 students in your area.

According to the National Center on Sexual Exploitation (NCSE), schools and libraries are fostering unsafe, unhealthy environments for children in three primary ways:

Inadequate or non-existent computer and Wi-Fi filters to prevent exposure to pornography
Online school databases that expose children to pornography, normalize sexually violent and risky acts, and promote prostitution
Inadequate or non-existent filters to block pornography on school-owned devices like iPads or laptops that are distributed to children

Learn how you can create a packet to present to your school district by clicking HERE !

November 1, 2017

Choosing Secondary Virginity

Wed, 25 Oct 2017 13:40:36 GMT

Choosing Secondary Virginity

Secondary virginity is the decision to stop having sex and remain abstinent until marriage. If you or someone you know may have gone too far physically in a relationship before marriage, there is still hope. Surround yourself with others who are waiting for marriage, set strong physical boundaries, and don't give up. By saying "no" to the world around you, you are saying "yes" to all your future holds! It's never too late to make good decisions. Want to know more about secondary virginity? Order our brochure HERE !

October 25, 2017

What is "Ghosting?"

Wed, 25 Oct 2017 13:39:34 GMT

What is "Ghosting?"

October 25, 2017

"Ghosting" is a term used when someone you went on a date with stops responding to messages or phone calls. There is not a definite break up or goodbye, and it often happens in casual relationships or in online dating. Unfortunately, "ghosting" is becoming more acceptable in a culture where casual sex and relationships are accepted. This can be especially hurtful if you have invested a significant amount of time talking to and getting to know someone. Parents, consider talking to your children about "ghosting" and respect in relationships. If you have been "ghosted," don't take it personally. Anyone that does not respect you enough to have an open conversation about your relationship is not worth it.

Help Your Child Overcome Negative Emotions

Wed, 25 Oct 2017 13:38:46 GMT

Help Your Child Overcome Negative Emotions

Managing negative emotions in a healthy way can be difficult. For children and teens, it can be even more challenging because their brains are not fully developed. Fortunately, parents have a big influence on how their children grow emotionally. This article from Protect Young Minds suggests parents and children create "care tags." These tags include the following:

When I...(behavior): Discuss common behaviors that your child exhibits - laugh, cry, yell, etc.
I am feeling...(emotion): Parents will discuss common feelings that their child feels. For example, when the child is crying, they may feel scared or angry.
I need...(healthy response/self-care): Parents discuss with their child what they need when the have that emotion (a hug, to be left alone, etc).

This exercise can also be beneficial for adults. How often do we choose to eat a bowl of ice cream when we are stressed rather than take a short walk? By learning how to manage negative emotions now, the brain can make better decisions next time it is under stress.

October 25, 2017

WRAP Week - October 29 to November 4

Wed, 25 Oct 2017 13:37:37 GMT

WRAP Week - October 29 to November 4

Start the conversation about pornography - White Ribbon Against Pornography (WRAP) starts Sunday. People from all across the United States will stand together to educate others on how devastating pornography is to society. This year marks 30 years of WRAP week. Several organizations and groups will be hosting webinars, providing resources, and wearing white ribbons. Take a stand against pornography! Find more ways to participate in this event from the National Center on Sexual Exploitation here .

October 25, 2017

Online Parent Guides

Wed, 18 Oct 2017 13:36:19 GMT

Online Parent Guides

Talking about issues like smartphones, eating disorders, Snapchat, video games and sexting with teens can be scary and complicated. But it does not have to be! Axis has created guides to help you understand the things teens face and how to have real conversations without intimidation.

Click HERE to view the Axis Parent Guides!

October 18, 2017

Values Voter Summit Recap

Wed, 18 Oct 2017 13:34:59 GMT

Values Voter Summit Recap

Abstinence Clearinghouse had the opportunity to attend the Values Voter Summit last week. Speakers included President Donald Trump, Tony Perkins, Michele Bachmann, Dr. Alveda King and more. Abstinence Clearinghouse staff members were able to discuss with attendees the important role sexual integrity can play in society. Staff also presented the message of abstinence until marriage as one preventative measure to societal harms such as abortion, poverty and abuse.

Abstinence Clearinghouse Staff Member Alyssa had the opportunity to share about the importance of sexual integrity on The Schilling Show at the Values Voter Summit.

Tue, 10 Oct 2017 13:29:44 GMT

Stop Comparing Yourself to Others

How many times do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? In this video, Comedian Tom Shillue talks about how comparing yourself is unrealistic and will lead to unhappiness. It can be easy to only see the positive and successful parts in someone's life, but what about the trials and struggles? Shillue states "If you don't factor in everything, about whoever you're comparing yourself to, you're playing a mix and match game that doesn't exist in the real world." To truly have a happy life, don't spend time beating yourself up about what you don't have. Instead, celebrate your unique talents and blessings.

October 10, 2017

Sexual Virtue Webinar

Tue, 10 Oct 2017 13:28:33 GMT

Sexual Virtue Webinar

It's no secret that pornography, sexting, affairs, casual sex and other "private" decisions have lowered standards for our relationships. Sooner or later, those secrets are often exposed and affect many lives. So what steps can be taken to make a change in the culture? In this webinar, Cristina Barba of The Culture Project will discuss how private choices can both positively and negatively affect your relationships and your future. For more information and to register, click here.

October 10, 2017

Single Life Struggles

Tue, 10 Oct 2017 13:26:51 GMT

Single Life Struggles

In a season of singleness or lifelong chastity, it's not uncommon to feel lonely or to crave physical intimacy. Our culture encourages a "quick fix" with hook ups and relationships without commitment, but they only lead to heartbreak. Covenant Eyes gives the following tips on how to fight against sexual temptation and live a life of purity as a single person:

Understand God's Design for Sex - Like many good things, sex is best within the safety and security of marriage.
Prepare for Battle - Be prepared for temptation so you are ready to fight it when it happens.
Make the Choice to Flee or Fight - Sexual thoughts and temptations will come your way even if you don't seek them out. Choose to flee or fight.
Flee from it. Physically remove yourself from the situation.
Fight it. When you can't physically get away from a thought or visual, mentally fight against it. Shift your focus to something positive.
Make Victory Easier - Remove temptations and triggers. Delete any apps or install website blocking software. Get an accountability partner or talk with others about your struggle.

NAC at Values Voter Summit Tomorrow!

Tue, 10 Oct 2017 13:24:08 GMT

NAC at Values Voter Summit Tomorrow!

Join us this week, October 12-15, as we learn from national speakers who are passionate about traditional marriage, religious liberty and the sanctity of human life. Unable to attend the Summit? Follow the Abstinence Clearinghouse on Facebook to stay informed on what is happening at the 2017 Values Voter Summit in Washington D.C.!

October 10, 2017

STD's Hit Record High

Wed, 04 Oct 2017 13:22:24 GMT

STD's Hit Record High

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) released an alarming report on Tuesday indicating that 2016 had the highest number of sexually transmitted diseases ever recorded. More than 2 million cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis were reported, with the impact affecting a growing number of populations. The following statistics were reported:

Chlamydia

- 1.6 million cases

- Nearly half of cases were diagnosed in women

Gonorrhea

- 70,000 cases

- 22% increase in men diagnosed

Syphilis

"The death of Hugh Hefner has elicited tributes of many kinds, including that he was a pioneer who liberated the sexual frustrations of a culture. In reality, his efforts and entrepreneurial pursuits helped enslave generations of both women and men." - Jim Daly, President of Focus on the Family"

Hefner himself was not single-handedly responsible for the massive social changes that rocked the Western world from the Sexual Revolution onwards, but he was easily the single most recognizable symbol of them all," LifeSite recently reported . Hefner had been inspired by the work of Alfred Kinsey. After launching Playboy in December 1953, Hefner wrote that "If Kinsey had done the research, I was the pamphleteer, spreading the news of sexual liberation through a monthly magazine."

Despite an outward appearance of luxurious fun and frivolity, Hugh Hefner leaves a legacy of brokenness. Pornography corrupts the enjoyment of marriage and objectifies the gift of sexuality. Pornography effects individuals of all backgrounds and beliefs. It is glorified within society. We do not rejoice in the death of Hugh Hefner but we do mourn for the millions of broken lives and countless victims he has left in his wake.

October 4, 2017

Effects of Family Structure on Children's Health

Wed, 27 Sep 2017 13:16:29 GMT

Effects of Family Structure on Children's Health

According to Marripedia , children raised in intact families tend to be healthier, have better access to health care and exhibit less emotional and behavioral difficulties as compared to children raised in non-intact families.

However, the percent of married-parent families has significantly declined over the past 50 years, while the proportion of divorced, cohabiting and single-parent families has risen. This research summary offers evidence as to why promoting marriage is essential to ensure the physical and mental well-being of our nation's youth.

September 27, 2017

A Mother's Reaction to New Netflix Series

Wed, 27 Sep 2017 13:15:12 GMT

A Mother's Reaction to New Netflix Series

The newest Netflix original series, Big Mouth, is scheduled to release on September 29, 2017. Be advised, the agenda presented is vulgar and repulsive. According to concerned mother, Rebecca Smith, Netflix has proven willing to operate in a gray area where anything goes. Click HERE to read Smith's full review of the new show targeted at teens.How can you be a pro-active, engaged parent? Here are a few tips:

Consider changing your video streaming to a different provider: PureFlix or VidAngel
Daily monitor the viewing habits of your children/teens
Set high parental controls or pay for additional screening services
Increase time spent away from screens
Talk with your teens about the worldview and ideology shows, like Big Mouth, try to impose on society

September 27, 2017

Early Adolescent Drinking Linked to Earlier Sex

Wed, 27 Sep 2017 13:12:42 GMT

Early Adolescent Drinking Linked to Earlier Sex

According to a recent study, teens who start drinking at younger ages are more likely to have their first sexual encounter earlier than others. Research revealed that the onset of drinking before age 14 more than doubled the odds that adolescents of either gender would have earlier sexual encounters. For females who had their first drink at 13 or younger, the likelihood of early sexual initiation quadrupled.

Sanford Researcher, Dr Arielle Deutsch had this to say in response to the research study, "When teens talk about things like drinking, sex, hanging out with their friends, and partying, it's all interconnected...We should be talking to teens about how to make good choices overall and have the experiences they want in life."

Click HERE to learn more about how adolescent alcohol consumption is linked to earlier sexual encounters.

September 27, 2017

Child Protection League Event

Wed, 27 Sep 2017 13:10:31 GMT

Child Protection League Event

Abstinence Clearinghouse staff members Erica and Alyssa had the privilege of attending the Child Protection League event, Hijacking Their Minds, in Minneapolis, Minnesota.

Erica and Alyssa had the opportunity to learn from Stella Morabito and Dr. Karen R. Effrem as they unmask the radical, child endangering trends in education. Attendees discussed how 'safe schools' and social emotional learning (SEL) indoctrinate our nationals children.

September 27, 2017

A Creative Bouquet

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 13:09:05 GMT

A Creative Bouquet

Many weddings today are filled with fun and creative elements to make a couple's special day memorable for all who attend. One bride from Australia decided to make her day memorable by using donuts instead of flowers for her and her bridesmaid's bouquets! Click here to see her delicious and beautiful bouquet!

September 20, 2017

Coffee or Dinner?

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 13:07:09 GMT

Coffee or Dinner?

Dating apps, television shows and social media has lowered the bar when it comes to commitment. In a culture where first dates have become more casual, it is more important than ever to set clear expectations when going on a first date. So what's the difference between going out for coffee and going to dinner? Moral Revolution suggests the following:

"Coffee implies a more casual interest and is low stakes for both parties involved. You show interest but also a desire to keep it light. Dinner implies a more serious intent. This communicates you're for sure interested and ready to let her know. Maybe you already know her or maybe you just know you're interested. It's more intentionally showing romantic interest."

The key is to be clear on the intention of each interaction. Have fun getting to know each other, but don't get stuck in the ambiguous "we're just hanging out" cycle. It will save you time and heartbreak.

September 20, 2017

What Are Your Parenting Goals?

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 13:05:24 GMT

What Are Your Parenting Goals?

Setting goals, personal or professional, is a great way to lead a purposeful life. Many times these goals include things like buying a house, maintaining a successful career or saving for retirement. But what about setting goals as a parent? Here are a few questions for parents (or soon to be parents) to consider as they begin setting their own parenting goals:

Do you want parenting to be a priority in your life? Is time alone or with your friends more important than reading a book to your child? Be intentional about the time that you spend with your child/children.
What do you want to achieve as a parent? What kind of parent do you want to be? What memories do you want your children to remember as they grow up? If your childhood was not positive, consider what changes you can make as you raise your own children.
How will you balance parenting and your relationships? Are you taking care of you? Are you taking time to be with your spouse? Taking time for the other relationships in your life can help you be a better parent and shows your child/children what healthy relationships look like.
Do you reflect the qualities you want your child/children to value? Do your actions match your words? Parents are the first and primary educators of their children. IF you are a parent, take time to consider what values and priorities you want to teach the next generation.

September 20, 2017

Dangers of Tattoos and Body Piercing

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 13:03:17 GMT

Dangers of Tattoos and Body Piercing

This month, the American Academy of Pediatrics warned against the consequences related to tattoos and piercings. Researchers suggest that both parents and doctors should talk intentionally about the dangers of tattoos and piercings with teens and young adults. By starting the conversation early, teens are aware of the dangers before they are able to make decisions about tattoos and piercings when they turn 18 and become an adult.

Here are some things to talk about with your teen:

Do not over estimate how easy it is to have a tattoo or piercing removed. Tattoos are meant to be permanent. They are also expensive and sometimes hard to remove.
Unsanitary conditions or untrained staff can cause serious health issues. Some complications can include: Severe infections, allergic reactions and keloids (growth of extra scar tissue).
Tattoos and piercings can negatively affect employability. In a 2014 survey of nearly 2700 people, 76% thought that tattoos and/or piercings had hurt their chances of getting a job, and 39% thought employees with tattoos and/or piercings reflect poorly on their employers.
Tattoos and piercings have a connection with high risk behaviors. Know who your teen spends time with and talk with them about making good choices.

September 20, 2017

Striving to Be a Good Dad

Wed, 13 Sep 2017 13:01:12 GMT

Striving to Be a Good Dad

Focus on the Family President and author Jim Daly overcame the challenges of his upbringing to become a good father to his two sons despite the reality that he grew up with an absent father. According to Daly, more than 40 percent of America's children are being raised in a fatherless home. In his broadcast, Striving to Be a Good Dad, Daly reports that children growing up in a fatherless home account for the following:

63 percent of youth who commit suicide come from a fatherless home
71 percent of pregnant teens lack a father figure
71 percent of high school dropouts come from a fatherless home
85 percent of youth in prison lack a father figure
90 percent of homeless and runaway children lived without a father

Click HERE to receive a free download of Striving to Be a Good Dad and learn how you can enhance your family legacy by becoming an irreplaceable component in your child's life.

September 13, 2017

What Your Volunteers Desire

Wed, 13 Sep 2017 12:58:40 GMT

What Your Volunteers Desire

Many volunteers walk through the doors of non-profits having expectations. According to one study , those expectations can be summed up with the word "GIVERS" (see acronym, right).

Click HERE to learn ten ways that you can incorporate all of these expectations into your volunteer program.

September 13, 2017

Six Facts About Women and Masturbation

Wed, 13 Sep 2017 12:54:04 GMT

Six Facts About Women and Masturbation

According to Shannon Ethridge, anyone, no matter how smart, popular or religious can develop a sexual addiction. In her book Every Young Woman's Battle Ethridge outlines six facts about women and masturbation:

Masturbation is a problem for both men and women.
If you are tempted to masturbate, it does not mean that you are a bad person, only that you are a human being with sexual desires and passions.
Masturbation can be habit-forming and addictive.
The momentary relief that self-gratification may provide is not worth the long-term stress it can create.
Masturbation does not satisfy sexual desires; it intensifies them.
You will not automatically stop masturbating once you get married.

Victory is possible! While it's true that habitual masturbation is difficult to control, it's not impossible to control. Do you or someone you know need help fighting masturbation? Click HERE for more information about creating a strategy to defeat lust and masturbation today!

September 13, 2017

It's Time to Opt-Out

Wed, 06 Sep 2017 15:14:36 GMT

It's Time to Opt-Out

September 6, 2017

When Ashley Bever asked to see her 11-year-old child's sex education curriculum the instructor was reluctant. Bever told WORLD Magazine of her shock as she read what was being taught in the San Diego public school that her daughter attended. Several times the curriculum, Rights, Respect, Responsibility, instructs middle school students that they can self-refer to a clinic "like Planned Parenthood" without informing their parents or teachers. The curriculum also instructs students on how to obtain an abortion without parental consent. "You're taking this huge corporation with this huge policy agenda and giving them direct access to our children," Bever responded. The city of San Diego is one of the more extreme examples of an organization like Advocates for Youth stepping in and pushing highly sexualized, gender neutral ideals. Bever opted her daughter out of the class this past school year and also made strides in encouraging the district to promote abstinence. Bever's story is an important reminder to parents that the beginning of the school year is an important time for parents to be paying attention to forms about opting-out of sex education classes. What an opportunity you have as a parent to teach your child that safe sex is saved sex; that seeking virtue and pursuing sexual integrity is the best choice. Not sure how to begin the conversation? Click HERE to read Tips on Teaching Your Kids About Sex.

FREE Online Parenting Teens Summit

Wed, 06 Sep 2017 15:13:29 GMT

FREE Online Parenting Teens Summit

Parenting and discipling teens can be stressful, frustrating, intimidating, and draining. Axis, an organization dedicated to partnering with parents to disciple students into lifelong faith, has designed a free online summit for parents looking to connect on a deeper level with their teens.

We understand that staying aware of what is influencing teens is not necessarily an easy, hopeful task; in fact, it can be discouraging. But the beauty is that culture is not the only, nor the most powerful influence at work. Parents are powerful influences. Join us as we join Axis in participating in a summit week filled with hope and practical advice.

Click HERE to register for your free webinar ticket today! The summit will kick off Monday, September 11, so reserve your spot for this online conference while space is still available!

September 6, 2017

Care Net National Conference Summary

Wed, 06 Sep 2017 15:11:39 GMT

Care Net National Conference Summary

September 6, 2017

Abstinence Clearinghouse in Washington, D.C.!

Wed, 30 Aug 2017 15:10:01 GMT

Results from the "International Sex Survey" revealed how people incorporate and rely on technology to shape their sexual experiences and habits. The international survey conducted by the Kinsey Institute and Clue (an overseas company that promotes using technology to track women's cycles) revealed 34% of Americans admit to using a mobile app to find sexual partners and 43% of 18- to 20-year-olds sext using Snapchat .

How should we react to these findings? Teens are always early adapters when it comes to technology. It is important to help students realize the habits that they are forming regarding sex and technology, especially if technology is used as a replacement for real intimacy. This is especially concerning given that 10% of visitors to porn sites are under age 10.

Click HERE to view eight ways you can better protect your children from a culture that continues to promote a relationship between technology and sexuality.

August 30, 2017

Commitment Yields True Happiness

Wed, 23 Aug 2017 15:02:07 GMT

Commitment Yields True Happiness

People tend to move from place to place with the hope of starting anew. They tend to travel around the world, looking to find themselves, intending to escape their trou bles. In response to this, Seneca, a Roman philosopher from the 2nd century once wrote, "Your faults will follow you withersoever you travel."

Wed, 16 Aug 2017 14:54:40 GMT

Teaching Teens How to Treat the Opposite Sex With Dignity

In an article published by Family Life's co-founders Dennis and Barbara Rainey, the couple explains how they would often tell their teenagers, "When you go out with someone, you're going out with either your future mate or someone else's future mate." The couple found that this knowledge helped their children to treat the opposite sex with dignity and honor.

According to the Rainey's article, there are a few other specifics teens need to learn about the opposite sex prior to dating:

What a girl needs to know about boys:

Girls must be prepared to set the physical boundaries in the dating relationship.
Boys are stimulated by sight and touch.
Girls should allow a young man to take the initiative in a relationship.

What a boy needs to know about girls:

Boys need to be taught how to be moral leaders and draw boundaries for behavior on dates ahead of time.
Boys need to know that girls are typically stimulated by words of kindness.
Some girls today desire affection they are not receiving from their fathers.
A young man must treat a young lady with dignity.

Click HERE to learn more about each of these points outlined by Dennis and

Barbara Rainey in their article, Teaching Your Teen to Treat the Opposite Sex With Dignity.

August 16, 2017

How to React When Your Child Has Viewed Pornography

Wed, 16 Aug 2017 14:49:36 GMT

How to React When Your Child Has Viewed Pornography

For parents maneuvering their way through the thick fog of pornography, it can be easy to fall into despair and negativity. Parents can be angry and guilty by the fact that their child has viewed porn while the child too is ashamed and fearful of seeking counsel and healing from his or her parents. However, Protect Young Minds advocates a parent remaining on the same team as his child can easily lift the fog of confusion pornography creates.

Protect Young Minds offers the following six tips to create this team dynamic between you and your child:

Stop blaming your child or yourself. Rather than falling into defeat in response to the problem that has happened, see how it can bring you and your child closer by entering into the healing process together.
Openly acknowledge this situation is not their fault. Despite their curiosity, children do not seek the reality of what pornography is.
Honestly admit you may not have taught your child all the skills necessary to avoid the pull of porn.
Be understanding of your child's fears. Reassure your child that feelings of fear and hesitancy in admitting his or her problems are normal and that your goal is not to punish but to help.
Reassure your child that your relationship is important to you. Problems regarding viewing pornography create trust issues and tension between a parent and child. Bringing these issues to the light will help heal parents and their children as well as strengthen their relationship.
Use the words we and us. It is important for parents to remind their children that they are in this together. Such human connection ensures that children feel and know they are safe.

Click HERE for additional information on each of the tips provided and receive a free SMART Guide for parents looking to help their child heal from exposure to pornography.

August 16, 2017

Settling for Less

Wed, 09 Aug 2017 14:47:16 GMT

Settling for Less

All people long to be loved, whether they acknowledge it or not. Unfortunately many men and women, coming from hurtful past relationships with their family or significant others find themselves so desperate for attention and affection that they stoop quite low to satisfy these deep longings. Yet when men and women stoop so low, as speaker and writer, Lisa Cotter, articulates in her article , they often fall into using one another rather than loving one another.

Cotter writes, "Mutual physical and/or emotional use is often seen as part of the dating equation these days. Guys might give girls the affection and attention they long for if girls will give guys the sexual gratification they desire and vice versa. They hang out and call it fun because both parties are getting something out of it that they desire. Yet, when they really think about it, they don't actually want to be treated as a thing for another person's gratification." People longing for love ultimately know that what they are settling for is not really love but allowing themselves to be used.

How can people tell if they are loving or using? Cotter states, "If taking away good feelings or sexual gratification removes love, then love was never truly there to begin with." Yes, physical attraction is part of love, yet it is nowhere near its entirety. There is so much more one can live for and receive if he refuses to settle for allowing themselves to be used.

August 9, 2017

Google Lobbies Against Human-Trafficking Legislation

Wed, 09 Aug 2017 14:46:00 GMT

Google Lobbies Against Human-Trafficking Legislation

According to an article by the National Center on Sexual Exploitaiton (NCSE), Google lobbyists are blitzing members of the U.S. Congress to stop their efforts to combat online sex trafficking by amending section 230 of the Communications Decency Act (CDA) in the respective bills S. 1693 and H.R. 1865.

As currently interpreted by U.S. federal courts, Section 230 of the CDA grants broad immunity to Internet platforms for third-party posts, even to websites that intentionally facilitate sex trafficking online such as Backpage.com.

Technology lobbyists continue to claim that free speech is under attack despite research by Consumer Watchdog revealing that Google has provided millions of dollars to support Backpage's legal defense and a Harvard professors discovery that Google has earned over a billion dollars in revenue from unlawful advertising that includes child sex trafficking.

Google has countless lobbyists and seemingly unlimited financial resources. If you wish to help defend individuals effected by human trafficking, sexual violence or prostitution, your voice is needed!

Here are three ways you can take action today:

Email your elected officials and ask them to support efforts to amend section 230 of the Communications Decency Act.
Sign a petition asking Google to stop defending websites that facilitate sex trafficking.
Spread the word! Talk to your friends about this problem, ask any journalists you know to cover this story.

Viewing pornography has been proven, for both men and women, to decrease sexual satisfaction in marriage, cause viewers to escape into fantasy and avoid connection in authentic relationships, lower the viewers perception of women and create a thirst for watching more pornography. Gilkerson concludes by encouraging women to fight for the sexual health of their husbands.

Click HERE to read more about the harmful effects of pornography in a short e-book published by Covenant Eyes, Your Brain on Porn.

August 2, 2017

Instant Emptiness

Wed, 02 Aug 2017 14:36:20 GMT

Instant Emptiness

August 2, 2017

Imagine you are on a run on a summer morning. Not far into the three miles you intended to run, your body is already aching to stop. Everything feels heavy. The air is much hotter and thicker than you expected. A couple miles from the endpoint, all you want is to snap your fingers and immediately be back in the air-conditioned luxury of your home, holding a juicy wedge of watermelon. Despite the temptation to stop and seek the quickest form of comfort, the air-conditioning and watermelon are so much more of a gift after persevering through that hot, summer run. Annemarie Miller articulates society's growing desire and accommodation to make instant gratification available in her article , Why Instant Gratification Never Gratifies.

Miller illustrates today's instant gratification culture: "Tons of current relationships are based on physical intimacy, and they leave the people deeply injured. A variety of dating apps are on the rise, as more and more people try to instantaneously find a random person to date. And cohabitation is now incredibly commonplace. No commitments, no strong sense of self-control, just living on desires." As good as it seems in the moment, living in such a way can only lead to emptiness. Physical gratifications of this world are constantly passing. Since they only gratify a person's desires for a moment, people constantly grapple for the next moment of pleasure.

Referring to the well-known 1960s "Marshmallow Study" performed by researchers at Stanford, Miller claims studies show that children who waited to eat a marshmallow that was put in front of them grew up to be "more socially competent, had stronger relationships, and higher SAT scores." Instant gratification never truly satisfies. Despite difficulties of resisting pleasure in the moment, there is lasting gratification in waiting.

Support Healthy Decision Making

Wed, 02 Aug 2017 14:30:34 GMT

Support Healthy Decision Making

According to last month's CDC National Centers for Health Statistics report, over 50% of teens have not engaged in sexual activity. This statistic is prime evidence pointing to the reality that not everyone is "doing it". Sexual integrity is pursued by over 50% of teens in our nation; therefore, we should recognize this population of students not as a minority, but as a group to serve in our sex education system.

"It is time that we recognize students who are making healthy choices and look at what is motivating them to delay sex," Alysse ElHage wrote in an article published by Institute for Family Studies. Abstinence-until-marriage is not a thing of the past. It is a virtuous lifestyle choice being pursued by the youth of our nation.

August 2, 2017

Broken and Beautiful

Wed, 26 Jul 2017 14:29:10 GMT

Broken and Beautiful

Once some one is in the depth of darkness, there often seems to be no way out, whether that be in an unplanned pregnancy or a suffocating relationship. Despite a decision or way of life being immoral and the opposite of life giving, it can sometimes seem good and pleasurable in the moment, making the darkness that ensues more difficult to resist. Yet there is hope in the daily human tendency to fall away from the good. Madeleine Coyne reflects on beauty found through imperfection in her article where she presents examples of the beauty in imperfection through classic literary characters. Coyne states, "I believe there is sometimes more beauty to be found in flawed relationships and human frailties than in perfect, happy endings, because it is real."

Kristin Lavransdatter, a fictional 14th century Norwegian woman, deals with this very problem in Sigrid Undset's novel. Amidst her lustful relationship with her lover, Erlend, while she is betrothed to another, Kristin struggles to resist the wrong in which she finds herself surrounded. The author reflects on Kristin's secret love affair with Erlend: "So in this sense of tension there was just as much anticipation as there was terror; there was sweetness as well as anguish. She was unhappy, but she felt that her love for Erlend was like a plant that had been sown inside her, and for every day that passed it sprouted a new and even lusher abundance of flowers, in spite of her misery." Amidst Kristin's apparent struggles to resist what she knows is wrong and pursue good, she continues to get up time and time again after she falls in the novel. Coyne concludes, "Kristin Lavransdatter reveals the values of faith, family, and perseverance getting through the hard times in life."

Mistakes and blemishes to the clean slate of life humanity desires are inevitable. Yet as Anne of Green Gables says in L.M. Montgomery's novel, "Tomorrow is a new day with no mistakes in it yet." It can seem quite arduous to get back up and say yes to life after residing in a dark place. However, a person is not defined by his actions but simply his good and beautiful existence. No matter how many times one falls, there is always hope to start anew.

July 26, 2017

Child Protection League Event

Wed, 26 Jul 2017 14:26:41 GMT

Child Protection League Event

Join us in attending the Child Protection League event, Hijacking Their Minds, on September 26, 2017 in Bloomington, Minnesota.

Learn from expert speakers Stella Morabito and Dr. Karen R. Effrem as they unmask the radical, child endangering trends in education. The event will discuss how 'safe schools' and social emotional learning (SEL) indoctrinate our children.

Click HERE to register before September 12 to receive an early bird discount.

July 26, 2017

Pulling Funds From Teen Pregnancy Programs

Wed, 26 Jul 2017 14:25:38 GMT

Pulling Funds From Teen Pregnancy Programs

The Trump administration has pulled $213.6 million from teen pregnancy prevention programs. The decision, made by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services, will end five-year grants awarded by the Obama administration.

"The funding cuts to teen pregnancy programs is a step in the right direction," Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh told American Family News. "Frankly, taxpayers should not have to pay for programs that are not working. America's current sex education system does not allow parents to be at the forefront of their child's education in sexual health."

Unruh went on to describe the great need for parents to be involved in all matters of sexual integrity. Parents know their children better than anyone and should seek the tools needed to navigate a society promoting a "hook-up culture" grounded in the pursuit of instant gratification.

A withdrawal in funding also allows non-profit organizations the opportunity to meet with financial partners and develop personal relationships. Government grant recipients often find themselves in compromising situations that do not develop a culture of life. Having donors invested in what an organization does on an emotional and financial level ensures that the organization continues to produce fruit.

July 26, 2017

Modesty: Whole vs. Parts

Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:24:50 GMT

Modesty: Whole vs. Parts

"It's my body. I can do what I want with it. It's a man's fault if he doesn't have the control in his mind to respect me, regardless of what I wear." These are some of the statements many women give in response to the question of modesty. Addressing the importance of modesty, especially to young women, can ease the storm of today's sex-crazed culture in which many people find themselves drowning. Katie Hartfiel addresses this issue in her article , "Modesty: What's the point?"

Hartfiel begins by addressing the correlation and today's discrepancy between the respect that women desire and how they present and carry themselves (their modesty). She states, "While we deserve respect, we might not always get it. In fact, we might even do things that don't ask for respect, but rather invite others to treat us disrespectfully." What is essential in enabling women to understand the incredible impact of modesty is to understand how vastly different the male brain functions. Hartfiel addresses studies that analyze male psychology: "Brain scans have shown that when men see provocative pictures of women they relate the images with action words that are connected to function and use." Thus, men are led to objectifying women they see in this way. When shown pictures of fully clothed women, however, male test subjects referred to verbs implying respect, and Hartfiel concludes, "They more easily viewed them as a person," rather than mere parts of a whole.

Hartfiel continues, "The irony of these feminist times is that the culture claims to want women to be respected, equal and strong, yet so often the world portrays women in a way that serves lust and use." Women have within them a beautiful dignity, which they nearly eradicate when they think they need to present themselves in a scandalous, "sexy" way in order to be loved. By presenting an inner-confidence and self-respect rather than parts of their body, women and men can call each other into relationships based on true respect, dignity and love.

July 19, 2017

Becoming Numb

Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:20:56 GMT

Becoming Numb

Unfortunate individuals born with a certain rare neurological disorder, congenital insensitivity to pain with anhidrosis (CIPA), undergo rather unique, burdensome symptoms. For example, one could place his hand on a stove-top, burn his hand, but not even notice or feel the fact that the stove burns his hand. In an article by TIME magazine, What Every Generation Gets Wrong About Sex, Rachel Hills quotes a 32-year-old from London in an attempt to claim that sex is about "open-mindedness" as saying "Nothing should be seen as alien, or looked down upon as wrong." This nonchalant approach to life and the "If that's what you believe, good for you" attitude has become the predominant inspiration of today's sex culture, numbing people to the pain experienced by the circumstances that they indulge which ultimately leave them feeling burned.

Hills illustrates today's view and use of sex: "Today sex is all over our TV screens, in our literature and infused in the rhythms of popular music. A rich sex life is both a necessity and a fashion accessory, promoted as the key to good health, psychological vitality and robust intimate relationships. But sex also continues to be seen as a sinful and corrupting force." How can sex be seen as something so life giving but at the same time death inflicting? The ability to see sex as something more than mere pleasure (instead something that is sacred and brings life into the world) erases the teeter-totter effect of sex also seen as a "sinful and corrupting force." The numbness people try to inflict attempts to cover the "sinful and corrupting force" of sex primarily through contraceptives and abortion procedures. Yet this numbing effect only helps one ignore the pain that is still and will continue to inflict pain until healing takes place. Just as today's sex appeal is distortedly rooted in feelings of pleasure, one can not ignore occurring feelings of discontent or disagreement in these moral issues. As American author and essayist Flannery O'Connor once said, "Push back against the age as hard as it pushes against you."

July 19, 2017

Recalculating a Mindset of Consumption

Wed, 19 Jul 2017 14:19:48 GMT

Recalculating a Mindset of Consumption

When was the last time you told your child "no" when they asked for something in the store, or advised him or her to wait before clicking the "purchase" button? As parents of teens with over $258 billion a year in disposable income, what can we do to help them counter this culture of consumption and instant gratification.

According to a recent article by Axis, "Consumption becomes a habit that, if we aren't careful, makes us believe that everything is marketable and buyable , from identity and acceptance to happiness itself." This mindset allows people to become products and relationships are reduced to disposable transactions. Is freedom the ability to buy whatever we want even if we cannot say no to ourselves? Are we really free or merely slaves to our impulses?

"Ask your teens, how much do you create compared to how much you consume?" says the Axis Team. Parents, foster creativity in your home. Instead of eating out, cook a meal as a family. Instead of binging on Netflix, encourage your son or daughter to write the story they would want to watch. "If we aren't careful," the author concludes, "the American dream of having more could become a nightmare."

July 19, 2017

Summer Slang

Wed, 12 Jul 2017 14:17:15 GMT

Summer Slang

Do you feel equipped to understand your teens' vernacular? Netsanity published an excellent infographic that categorizes current teen slang into three categories: "Fun and Harmless," "Keep an Eye On" and "Warning Flags." Below you will find a list of six slang terms you may find yourself hearing by this summer.

Hundo P: short for 100% sure or certain
Gucci: something is good or cool
9: short for "A parent is watching!"
Throw shade: to give someone a nasty look or say something unpleasant about them
Stealthing: secretly removing one's condom during sex, then bragging about it by encouraging other men to do the same
Curve: to reject or deny someone's sexual advances or romantic interests

Click HERE to read Netsanity's full article, Decoding Teen Slang.

July 12, 2017

'No' Is a Love Word

Wed, 12 Jul 2017 14:14:53 GMT

'No' Is a Love Word

"The most important revolution in the last century has been the sexual revolution," stated Mark Dever, pastor of Capitol Hill Baptist Church in Washington D.C. "It is in this revolution, simple changes instigated profound effects. Contraception replaced conception, and the "price" of sexual activity seemingly dropped dramatically. Pleasure was separated from responsibility... It was as if a licence was given out, legitimizing the bending of every part of our lives around serving ourselves."

"Since that time, divorce, remarriage, abortion, pre-marital sex, and extramarital sex have been accepted by increasing percentages of the public," Dever said. "The boundaries that once seemed fixed now appear less secure. Sadomasochism, polygamy, pederasty and bestiality are all represented by groups working to promote their acceptance in our society."

The issue of sexuality goes beyond politics and reaches the core of what our society truly values. Flawed views of sexuality and the egocentric mentality of our culture has impressed perceived culture "norms" among youth. These "norms" are heavily impressed upon teens, which lead some to never hear their options when it comes to sexuality.

For example, some teens may never be told that saying "no" is an option. According to the Abstinence Clearinghouse Founder Leslee Unruh, "The Abstinence Clearinghouse raises the bar and teaches that 'no' is a love word." Our goal is that every young person hears the realities of waiting until marriage and sees the value in pursuing virtue.

Do you know someone who needs to hear the message of abstinence until marriage? Consider sharing one of the resources below:

Click HERE to view our brochure, The Truth About Abstinence .

Click HERE to download and learn more about the Love and Laugh App.

Wed, 05 Jul 2017 13:58:31 GMT

Considering Commitment

At the age of 21, Lily Maley found herself pregnant and alone. After realizing the father of her child had no intention of parenting, Lily made a conscious decision to focus on her faith and young daughter.

"Being a mom changed my perspective about love and about life itself. It brought me closer to God and gave me a sense of purpose," Lily wrote in an article by Millennials for Marriage. She finished college while working and raising her daughter. When she did begin to date, she found herself looking for a specific type of person, completely contrary to her past relationship.

"I was looking for a good man who had strong morals and principles," she wrote. "I wanted someone who was ready to commit to God and to building a family... Beforehand, I was led by 'feelings' but now, I had a clear sense of who I was and what I wanted."

Lily's relationship with Matthew, her now husband, led her to re-prioritize her beliefs about relationships. Commitment was the characteristic that she believed would allow a relationship to survive the trials of parenthood, unemployment, long term disability, etc. Her changed heart was driven by a desire to commit to one person, an aspect of relationships that Lily believes many millennials miss. "It wasn't until my external circumstances made me reconsider what was important in a spouse that I realized that I genuinely needed something more than just a feeling to sustain me," Lily wrote.

Click HERE to read Lily Maley's full story.

July 5, 2017

Commit and Cohabitate?

Wed, 05 Jul 2017 13:54:03 GMT

Commit and Cohabitate?

"Mutual I'm sure." The twang of these words Bing Crosby hears in the film, White Christmas, from his prospective date are like nails on a chalkboard to his ears, for they could not be farther from the truth. As this woman fawns over Crosby, his only desire is to rid himself from this rendezvous immediately. Unfortunately today many couples can find themselves in comparable situations. Scott Stanley, a research professor at the University of Denver and a fellow of the Institute for Family Studies, wrote in a recent article about today's growing difficulty of asymmetrical commitment, especially in unmarried couples and how this lack of mutual commitment in relationships is a recipe for disaster.

Stanley, referring to his and other studies, identifies two types of commitment: dedication and constraint. He writes, "Dedication reflects the desire to be with a person in the future, to form an identity as a couple, to sacrifice for and prioritize the relationship. Dedication can lead you to do the right or best thing for your partner and the relationship, now and into the future. What we call dedication often goes by the simple name of 'commitment' in much of the literature where commitment is measured relatively well." In contrast, constraint consists of past and present factors that make leaving a relationship more difficult and consequential. Financial factors are often examples of this. Stanley states: "While it's become easy to have positive perceptions about the benefits of cohabiting prior to, or instead of, marriage, what people fail to recognize is that cohabiting also increases constraints to remain together before dedication has become clear or matured."

Stanley concludes that unhealthy relationships (which tend more toward aggression) tend to have lower dedication and higher constraints, especially common among couples who cohabitate. So, when considering the concept of cohabitation, ask yourself, "Am I committing to this relationship or avoiding commitment?"

July 5, 2017

A Father's Influence

Wed, 05 Jul 2017 13:50:42 GMT

A Father's Influence

One of the many climactic moments of a wedding is the entrance of the bride. All eyes in the church turn and gaze at her. Although most eyes remain on the radiant bride on her special day, one cannot forget or overlook the man next to her, who escorts her to her soon-to-be-husband. In an article published by Verily Magazine, a women offers her personal reflection on her own relationship with her father. The author highlights how a father's love is truly transformational in every aspect of a girl's life, especially concerning the men who enter in and out of her life, as she grows older.

She reflects, "The security that my dad gave me meant that I didn't feel like I had to go out and seek validation from guys before I was ready for romantic relationships." On top of a personal experience with her father, the author notes that recent research also validates influence a father can have on his daughter. "Daughters who perceive that their fathers care a lot about them, who feel connected to their fathers, have significantly fewer suicide attempts and fewer instances of body dissatisfaction, depression, and low self-esteem," writes Dr. Meg Meeker in her book Strong Fathers, Strong Daughters. Daughters who have a strong and healthy relationship with their fathers are also proven less likely to drop out of college and more likely to abstain from sex before marriage. The author additionally states that her close relationship with her dad served as an example for what she looks for and expects in men. This can ultimately help women to avoid "settling" for relationships that strip away their worthiness, and cause them to stray from the truth that they are good, beautiful, and loved.

The loving and steadfast presence of a father or father figure is vital to a healthy and wholesome upbringing of the child. It is never too late to invite a daughter or son into this love, to escort them to the reality of what they so desperately seek and desire.

July 5, 2017

June 14, 2017

What is Snap Map?

Wed, 28 Jun 2017 13:48:14 GMT

What is Snap Map?

Law enforcement and safety activists were quick to acknowledge the dangers of Snapchat's new app function, Snap Map. This new tool allows users to share their location in real time, giving other users permission to track their whereabouts. "We've built a whole new way to explore the world!" Snapchat wrote in a blog post announcing the new update.

Several police forces have issued child safety warnings since the update was released last week in hopes that parents will talk to children about the risks of the new map component.

A spokesperson for the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children said in an interview , "It's worrying that Snapchat is allowing children under 18 to broadcast their location on the app where it can potentially be accessed by everyone in their contact lists. With public accounts, this will include those who are not known to the user. This highlights why it's vital that children are automatically offered safer accounts on social media to ensure they are protected from unnecessary risks."

Parents, ask your teens if they have already utilized this new feature, and if they have thought about the repercussions. Snapchat does allow users to turn off the map component. Users can do so by turning on "Ghost Mode" within the apps settings.

June 28, 2017

Casual Sex vs. Monogamy

Wed, 28 Jun 2017 13:46:02 GMT

Casual Sex vs. Monogamy

An article by the Institute for Family Studies sheds light on the perceived notion that young people think that casual sex is the norm. After interviewing a series of working-class young adults, the author found that many believe people are too quick to expect sex in a relationship or feel like it is expected of them.

While many young people may feel this way, others are realizing the realities of hookup culture. Lauren Peterson wrote of her experience using the dating app Bumble in the New York Times : "Dating apps are the courtship equivalent of next-day shipping, where you don't have to twiddle your thumbs and wait for an adequate romantic prospect to drift by. They release a flood of potential suitors, your inbox notifications flashing red with heartbeats of their own... They tempt you to keep swiping, and as you whiz through tens, hundreds or even thousands of profiles, you can only infer the obvious. Out of all these people, there's got to be someone better than the person I'm seeing right now. Which means that monogamy requires more sacrifice than ever."

Peterson goes on to describe her loss of interest in the dating app after realizing its purpose did not meet her unexpected expectation of commitment. Peterson, like many young adults, realized that the sacrifice of monogamy and commitment was indeed worth pursuing as it ultimately would offer security. Furthermore, Peterson was able to recognize the beauty of a real, committed relationship grounded in mutual respect and genuine love.

June 28, 2017

Internet Safety Month

Wed, 28 Jun 2017 13:44:39 GMT

Internet Safety Month

Internet Safety Month offers parents the opportunity to refresh themselves on safe internet use and teach children how to be safe online throughout the summer months. The National Cyber Security Alliance (NCSA) and ConnectSafely kicked off the month offering tips on the following topics:

Gaming Safety for Parents and Teens
Child Phone Use
Safely Planning Summer Trips Online

Click HERE to read the full article.

Still not sure how to address internet safety with your children? The following books from the Family Resource Store contain information about internet safety for children:

Click HERE to purchase Good Pictures Bad Pictures.

Click HERE to purchase Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.

Click HERE to purchase Body Safety Education: A Parents Guide to Protecting Kids from Sexual Abuse.

June 28, 2017

Choosing Your Battles

Wed, 21 Jun 2017 13:38:50 GMT

Choosing Your Battles

Counselor Shelby Hall published an article through Focus on the Family describing a session with a frustrated mother who was sharing a heated conversation she had had with her teen. The mother finally said, "I know I have to pick my battles; I just don't know which ones to pick."

This 4x4 magnet reads: The greatest victories come from choosing to never look back.

This magnet would be a perfect addition to your next presentation or youth event as it emphasizes the importance of moving forward, celebrating victories and learning from setbacks. Click HERE to order now!

June 21, 2017

Stay Single

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 13:29:25 GMT

Stay Single

"Keep your heart for yourself. Cherish the bones of you," Shani Jay wrote in a recent article published by Thought Catalog. "Enjoy these precious lone moments while you're lucky enough to have them. Realize your worth. And never settle. Stay single."

Jay goes on to express, through a poem, the importance of not compromising and waiting for someone willing to fight for you. She explains the beauty of saying no with the knowledge that a yes will someday come.

"Even when those voices in the back of your head are whispering, you won't meet anyone who treats you better than this - stay single. Until you meet the one who's going to squash all your doubts in a heartbeat."

Click HERE to read the full poem by Shani Jay.

June 14, 2017

Tips on Teaching Your Kids About Sex

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 13:25:40 GMT

Tips on Teaching Your Kids About Sex

Our culture paints a tremendously tainted version of sexuality. Blaring messages thrown around on TV, social media, and billboards must be challenged and confronted in the home. Our culture is not ashamed to talk about sexuality; therefore, parents cannot afford to be ashamed to address sexuality in the home.

How you pursue and model relationships in your own life is a great start to teaching your children about healthy relationships. Ultimately, portraying sex as a positive thing in the correct context is important. Here are two practice tips for teaching your children about sex:

1. Sex is not a bad thing.

The goal of purity is not to get rid of your desire for sex, but to manage your appetite for it. Saying no now means saying yes to better things in the future. Your sexuality is important. According to author and speaker Kris Vallotton, "the value of virginity is in the battle it took to keep it." It gives something valuable; something to sacrifice and fight for, to give away to the one they love on their wedding night.

2. Teach your children to manage their desires from a young age.

This principle begins when they're young! Think about how your kids threw a tantrum in the grocery store because you would not allow them to have the candy bar on the shelf. This is an opportunity to teach your child to manage this desire by telling them they need to wait until after dinner to have candy. This trains them in gratification delay, so that when they're older they've already learned how to wait for good things. We can't always get what we want when we want it, and every child needs to learn this lesson from a young age. It will only help as they manage their sexual appetite when they're older.

June 14, 2017

4 Things Parents Should Know About Snapchat

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 13:24:14 GMT

4 Things Parents Should Know About Snapchat

With over 100 million daily users , Snapchat has experienced a staggering increase in users since its beginning in 2011. For a quick summary of what the Snapchat app is, click HERE prior to reading the facts below.

June 14, 2017

Five things every parent should know about Snapchat:

Snapchat is a means of communication and like any form of communication, it can be used for good or bad. Talking with your teen about Snapchat and ensuring open communication is extremely important.
The " Terms of Use " Snapchat offers should be read and discussed with children. These terms include verifying the user is at least 13 years of age and, if under age 18, they have parental permission. The user also agrees to grant Snapchat access to their address book and allows it to upload that information to its servers.
In 2015 Snapchat Discover was created as a place where various media outlets such as BuzzFeed, Vice, MTV and Cosmopolitan share content designed specifically for Snapchat. A class-action lawsuit was filed by a 14-year-old boy and his mother based on the explicit content found on the app. Click HERE to read the full complaint.
When a Snapchat account is created, the user accepts full responsibility of the content exchanged while logged on. If a teen boy is Snapchatting a teen girl and an inappropriate image is exchanged and saved, it may be deemed possession of child pornography. Likewise, the viewer has no way to filter the content others are sending.

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Does Less Sex Education Lead to Less Sex?

Wed, 14 Jun 2017 13:11:22 GMT

Does Less Sex Education Lead to Less Sex?

Teen pregnancies in England fell dramatically after cuts to funding for a sex education program, according to a new study . The analysis, published in the Journal of Health Economics last month, examined the effect of budget cuts to government-run teen pregnancy prevention programs including sex education, free condoms and access to the morning after pill in the last decade.

Between 1999 and 2010 the British government invested millions into expanding access to birth control and sex education through the national Teenage Pregnancy Strategy program. Funding was cut in 2008, decreasing the program budget by 70 percent. Politicians and activists claimed teen pregnancy would rise tremendously due to budget cuts.

Instead, England saw a nearly 50 percent drop in the conception rate among women under the age of 18 between 2007 and 2015. The statistics show the lowest level since 1969, leading the study's authors to conclude government initiatives to reduce teen pregnancy may be "counterproductive."

"Put simply, birth control will reduce the risk of pregnancies for sex acts which would have occurred anyway but may increase the risk among teenagers who are induced by easier access to birth control either to start having sex or to have sex more frequently," wrote the study's authors, David Paton from the University of Nottingham and Liam Wright from the University of Sheffield.

Paton and Wright collected and examined data from 149 local districts between 2008 and 2014. Their conclusion: More sex education and easier access to contraceptives is not just unhelpful, it's likely harmful.

Whereas some anticipated the rates of pregnancy would drop the most in the areas with the smallest cuts, "to our surprise, we found the opposite," Paton and Wright wrote. "Authorities making bigger cuts saw relatively large decreases in both birth and abortion rates among teenagers."

While critics attempt to find alternate explanations for the study, some experts have praised the results. Jill Kirby, columnist and former director of the Centre for Policy Studies claims the study "proves exactly what those of us who have specialized in this area have been saying for years."

"For decades we have failed young teenagers by making sex acceptable and facilitating it... Today, once more, there is clear evidence of a direct correlation between increased sex education and teenagers having more sex. Yet still, the official approach is to insist that sex education-at younger and younger ages-is the only answer to the crisis."

June 14, 2017

5 Red Flags to Consider Before Marriage

Wed, 07 Jun 2017 13:08:41 GMT

5 Red Flags to Consider Before Marriage

Have you ever looked at a couple that's about to get engaged or married and thought, "Oh please, no! Don't do that!" as the glaring red flags of their unhealthy relationships taunt you? According to author and speaker Kris Vollotton, for some couples the phrase love is blind could not be a more real.

Vollotton offers five red flags to consider before marriage:

1. If someone says they love you but they refuse to respect you, they are lying.

2. Never marry someone to fix or change them; it never works!

3. They say love is blind, but the truth is, love is stupid blind!

4. Ladies, however this guy treats his mother is probably how he will treat you when you marry him.

5. Getting pregnant so a guy will stay with you never works!

Click HERE to read the full article originally published by Moral Revolution.

June 7, 2017

Peer Pressure: Start the Conversation

Wed, 07 Jun 2017 13:07:23 GMT

Peer Pressure: Start the Conversation

The term peer pressure is used so frequently in our culture that many of us gloss over the phrase. Parents may assume their children are already aware of peer pressure and they have heard all the messages: Just say no. Don't succumb to pressure. Believe in yourself. Be YOUnique. All of the cliches that hang on the walls of school cafeterias are good; however, the issue of peer pressure must constantly be addressed in real and ongoing conversations.

Peer pressure can come in many forms. Impending cultural pressure is often quiet and sneaky. Peer pressure is not just a group of tough boys gathered around some poor kid, pushing a beer in his face saying "Just try it!" The pressure to be on top of their social media game; the pressure to compromise self-respect for the latest styles; and the pressure to share inappropriate images for the sake of fitting in are all examples of the pressures felt by today's youth.

Parents, pay attention: the affects of peer pressure can absolutely affect the direction of a teen's life. Small choices that teens make in order to fit in can quickly shift their path until their trajectory is a thousand miles away from where it would be if they had stayed true to themselves.

If a teen is willing to share, be prepared to receive. How a parent reacts will set the tone for future conversations. It is crucial that parents embrace a sensitive, compassionate approach when discussing what may seem to be a shocking situation. In conversation peer pressure does not need to be called "peer pressure." Simply talking about the latest Snapchat Discovery news, their class bonfire or how they handled a bad call in their soccer game is sufficient in expressing interest and formulating conversation around topics that could become controversial. Conversations about peer pressure should not happen once, but often. Taking interest in what makes your teen a unique individual and emphasizing aspects of their interests and passions will likely lead to the realization that being your own person is actually really cool.

June 7, 2017

Link Found Between Pornography and Erectile Dysfunction

Wed, 07 Jun 2017 13:01:44 GMT

Link Found Between Pornography and Erectile Dysfunction

During the Annual Scientific Meeting of the American Urological Association (AUA) on Friday, May 12, 2017, results from a recent survey were presented that showed a correlation between male pornography consumption and sexual dysfunction.

According to the American Urological Association , "Sexual dysfunction has a significant impact on one's quality of life and occurs when there is a problem preventing an individual from wanting or enjoying sexual activity. The use of pornography among females and its impact on sexual dysfunction is poorly described. Similarly, the impact of pornography use in evaluating males with sexual dysfunction is not well examined. Two separate surveys were conducted to better define pornography use and any contribution to sexual dysfunction in women and men."

Researchers surveyed 312 men, ages 20 to 40, who visited a San Diego urology clinic for treatment. Of those men, 3.4% said they preferred masturbating to pornography over sexual intercourse. In talking to these men, the researchers found a correlation between pornography use and sexual dysfunction for those who regularly viewed pornography. The typical outlet for viewing pornography was the Internet (72.3%) and smart phone (62.3%). The male survey also reported the weekly frequency of pornography use:

25.9% indicated less than weekly
24.66% indicated 1-2 times a week
21.3% indicated 3-5 times a week
5% indicated 6-10 times a week
4.3% indicated greater than 11 times a week

"Visual stimulation will often increase sexual arousal in both men and women, but when the majority of their time is spent viewing and masturbating to pornography, it is likely they will become less interested in real-world sexual encounters," said Dr. Alukal, associate professor of urology and obstetrics/gynecology, as well as director of male reproductive health at New York University. "These studies suggest the issue may be trivial in women, but not so for men, and could lead to sexual dysfunction. Sex is half in your body and half in your head and it may not be a physical component driving the behavior, but a psychological one."

June 7, 2017

Sale: Warrior

Wed, 07 Jun 2017 12:59:42 GMT

Sale: Warrior

Are you a youth leader, educator or parent looking to mentor one-on-one or form a small group for young men? Warrior, by Jeremy Brown, looks at what it means to be a man of virtue in today's culture. The book also discusses men throughout history who have "done it right" and "gotten it all wrong." Warrior is designed to be ripped, written in and tattered. We challenge you to mess it up, read it all and talk about it with others.

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June 7, 2017

Maryland High School Bans Graduate Due to Pregnancy

Wed, 31 May 2017 12:57:24 GMT

Maryland High School Bans Graduate Due to Pregnancy

Heritage Academy, a small Christian school in Maryland, banned senior Maddi Runkles from graduation this week despite her 4.0 grade point average. Why? Because she is pregnant.

In a letter to parents, the school principal said Maddi wasn't being disciplined because she is pregnant but "because she was immoral." According to an article by the Washington Post, Maddi admits she even considered having an abortion due to the humiliation and "continual punishment" from her Christian community. "Some pro-life people are against the killing of unborn babies, but they won't speak out in support of the girl who chooses to keep her baby," Maddi said.

Maddi's story, and her school's response, is a great opportunity to reframe the conversation about purity, shame and compassion. The solution: replacing a culture of shame with a community of compassion. Committing to live a lifestyle of virtue is something everyone should strive to do; however, humanity is fallen and imperfect. Perfection cannot be obtained here on earth; therefore, mistakes are inevitable. Maddi's greatest frustration was that her classmates who had broken school codes in the past have not been found out or punished to the same degree because their misconduct was not visible.

While consequences and accountability are necessary, shame is not. Compassion and a spirit of change must be present in order for the message of virtue and grace to go forward.

May 31, 2017

Wait is a Four Letter Word

Wed, 31 May 2017 12:55:05 GMT

Wait is a Four Letter Word

Whether you are waiting for the dream, the cure or the right guy; everyone is waiting for something. However, when God says, "WAIT," we can control only two things: how we wait and who we become along the way.

In this free e-book, Wait is a Four-Letter Word, author Elizabeth Thompson offers insight into the lives of historical women who were called to wait on God's perfect timing. From Miriam to Sarah, learn how their stories can inspire you during your season of waiting.

Click HERE for your free e-book, Wait is a Four-Letter Word.

May 31, 2017

Four Lies Porn Uses to Keep You in Bondage

Wed, 31 May 2017 12:52:12 GMT

Four Lies Porn Uses to Keep You in Bondage

"I have found that recognizing some of the many lies porn tries to sell me has grown in my heart a deep distaste for it - mostly because I've come to recognize how much porn detests me," said author and speaker Michael Johnson in a recent article by Covenant Eyes.

Here are four of Johnson's 21 lies that pornography uses to keep individuals in bondage:

Porn says, "Let me take your mind off all of that," as it takes over your mind.
Porn says, "I think we're alone now." But by "we" it means just you.
Porn says, "Give yourself a break," as it breaks you.
Porn says, "Just live in the moment," but afterward you're deleting your history and then desiring your next hit.

Johnson encourages readers, "Don't be fooled by porn. It's lying to you... as you can see there is a method to its madness. Which means you need a method to your sanity."

Click HERE to read the full article and discover how you can live a life of freedom and integrity.

May 31, 2017

Longing to be Loved

Wed, 24 May 2017 12:48:28 GMT

Longing to be Loved

Lynsi Snyder, president of In-N-Out Burger, has fond memories of her father growing up. Her fond memories are also coupled with memories of hospital visits. She was too young to understand her father's severe drug addiction. After Snyder's father passed away her world shattered. She found herself looking to fill a void. Shortly after her high school graduation, she found herself married at 18 to a man she knew was not right for her. Snyder was soon divorced and began dating another man.

Despite knowing the consequences of her father's addiction, Snyder also began using drugs. After two more marriages and numerous affairs, Snyder realized the void she felt could not be filled by another person. "You could see where someone that just wanted that love and appreciation was getting further and further from what she wanted," Snyder said in her White Chair interview with I Am Second . Snyder started believing the lies that she deserved what she was getting until she discovered true peace and grace.

Click below to watch Lynsi Snyder's video with

I Am Second and to learn how she fulfilled her longing to be loved.

May 24, 2017

STDs: Among the Most Common Contagious Diseases in the United States

Wed, 24 May 2017 12:45:02 GMT

STDs: Among the Most Common Contagious Diseases in the United States

The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says there are about 20 million new sexually transmitted disease infections (STDs) in the United States each year. To put that number in perspective, it is about the population of New York state.

STDs are among the most commonly reported contagious diseases in the United States. According to a report by the CDC, half of STD infections are found among people 15-24 years of age, and every year the American health care system spends an estimated $16 billion diagnosing and treating STD infections.

In 2015, over 1.5 million cases of chlamydia were reported in the United States, making it the most commonly reported STD. Gonorrhea, which has similar symptoms, was second. Over half of those infected have no noticeable symptoms. When chlamydia or gonorrhea symptoms are present, they often include discharge and pain or burning during urination. These two STDs are easily treated, but if they are left untreated they can cause more serious complications down the road for both men and women, including making it difficult or even impossible for women to become pregnant.

STD Prevention Materials:

Click HERE to view The Truth About Gonorrhea brochure ($0.30 each).

Click HERE to view The Truth About Chlamydia brochure ($0.30 each).

Click HERE to view our new The Truth About STDs brochure ($0.35 each).

May 24, 2017

Anti-Teen Suicide Campaign: 13 Reasons Why Not

Wed, 24 May 2017 12:41:41 GMT

Anti-Teen Suicide Campaign: 13 Reasons Why Not

The Netflix original series 13 Reasons Why has contributed to nationwide debates as many individuals have voiced concern over whether the show promotes teen suicide.

When the Academic Dean of Oxford High School, Pam Fine, discovered the show was working on a second season, she proposed the Michigan school release a counter campaign called 13 Reasons Why Not.

According to Assistant Superintendent Denise Sweat, the program is meant to address the issues of bullying and suicide in the school district, which is still coping with the loss of student Megan Abbott who committed suicide in 2013 just weeks before the end of the school year.

The 13 Reasons Why Not campaign, created by Oxford High School staffers and the Bully Buster leadership class, began May 1. Within the first week, according to an article by ABC, 1,800 students heard stories about body shaming, poverty, being told to kill themselves, feeling unwanted, trouble at home and more.

Click HERE to read more about the 13 Reasons Why Not campaign.

May 24, 2017

Addressing Pornography in the Church

Wed, 17 May 2017 19:13:08 GMT

Addressing Pornography in the Church

According to apologist and writer Josh McDowell, "You have to start preparing your children for being exposed to pornography at age five." Research conducted by Barna Group, and commissioned by Josh McDowell Ministry, reported that roughly half of teenagers, and nearly three-quarters of young adults see pornography on at least a monthly basis.

In a recent Sexploitation podcast, Josh McDowell shared how after eight years in ministry he came to realize how pornography was informing young people's sense of authority. McDowell also addresses the platform leaders, both religious and non religious, should take when addressing pornography.

Click HERE to listen to the podcast on Google Play.

Click HERE to listen to the podcast on iTunes.

May 17, 2017

"Gamifying" Addiction Recovery

Wed, 17 May 2017 19:05:56 GMT

"Gamifying" Addiction Recovery

May 17, 2017

A recent article by Fortify offers individuals overcoming pornography a new way of defeating addiction by viewing recovery as a game or quest to be conquered. Research has shown that "gamifying" a tough challenge can bring about positive change. Rather than viewing recovery as a heavy burden or boring program, Fortify recommends approaching it as the ultimate challenge- The Quest for a Porn-Free Life.Adapting a new perspective and looking at recovery as the next game to be figured out and completed, individuals may feel more motivated to conquer the challenges involved. Setbacks become a new level to be conquered, triggers turn into bad guys to be taken down, and allies turn to trusty sidekicks, helping you every step of the way.

Here are four ways to "gamify" the process of recovery:

1. Embrace Challenges and Quests

2. Find and Battle the Bad Guys

3. Collect and Activate Power-Ups

4. Find and Recruit Allies

Click HERE to read more about these four steps towards recovery.

Download the Love and Laugh App

Wed, 17 May 2017 18:02:12 GMT

Download the Love and Laugh App

With an overwhelming amount of negative media today, youth need positive reinforcement. The Abstinence Clearinghouse recently updated the Love and Laugh App to encourage and motivate young people to make positive, healthy choices. The daily affirmations are created to be profound, thought provoking and humorous.

How to download the Love and Laugh App:

1. Go onto Google Play or the iTunes App Store, type in Abstinence Clearinghouse, click the Love and Laugh App showing the NAC logo and download the app.

2. Follow the links below to download through Google Play or the iTunes App Store.

May 17, 2017

The Truth About Romantic Novels

Wed, 17 May 2017 12:31:52 GMT

The Truth About Romantic Novels

Myth:

A good book on physical love will help your sex life.

Truth:

Sex books, romantic novels and erotic magazines promote salacious aspects of sex and often paint an unrealistic and perverted picture of what sex means. According to the book Sex. Discovering Real Love in a World of Counterfeits , when taken literally, romantic novels force couples into roles designed to satisfy carnal fantasies that do not encourage selfless love.

Married couples should discover sexual expression based on selfless love, mutual honor and compassionate acceptance. Husbands and wives find satisfaction in accepting each other as a blessing and discovering together what constitutes the physical aspects of their sex life.

May 17, 2017

Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution

Wed, 10 May 2017 17:58:14 GMT

Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution

A new documentary, Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution, provides shocking insight into the sexual landscape students encounter as a result of "hookup culture." The documentary follows college students on their Spring Break journey. According to Axis , "The documentary heartbreakingly exposes that culture, ultimately offering a hopeful perspective on what it means to be truly liberated." It is important to recognize true liberation can only be attained by the grace found in Christ's death and resurrection.

After director Benjamin Nolot released Nefarious in 2011, a documentary unveiling the hidden world of the global sex trade, his film team felt compelled to dig deeper. "We began to investigate the forces in our society that were enabling such an industry to thrive," Nolot wrote in an article . "We will never be able to stop the sexual exploitation of women and children if we do not shift the pornographic culture that fuels it."

As parents, teachers and youth workers, we ask that you thoughtfully consider seeing the film. Though the eye-opening content is disturbing, it can help you better encourage your students to love, pursue, and promote true liberation.

Click HERE to view a trailer of the film, Liberated: The New Sexual Revolution. Please be aware, viewer discretion advised. Content is not suitable for children.

May 10, 2017

The Evolution of Swimwear

Wed, 10 May 2017 17:55:45 GMT

The Evolution of Swimwear

With summer pool days on the horizon you may be anticipating the dreaded trip to the mall in search of a swimming suit for yourself and your teen. No doubt, finding an appropriate and fashionable swimsuit is a challenge for all women. But... there is hope!

According to Kristen Jenson, founder of Protect Young Minds, abuse can happen to anyone. No one can completely protect a child from abuse. Jenson goes on to report that 93% of perpetrators are known by the victim. Click HERE to read more on how to identify the warning signs of perpetrators. So how can parents be pro-active in training their children to avoid dangerous situations and people?

Read these four ways you can protect your children from sexual abuse as posted in an article by Protect Young Minds:

1. Start body safety rules and boundaries early. It is never too early to start educating a child on personal space and boundaries. Consider going through the Body Safety Education book with your child. Body Safety Education is a step-by-step guide filled with simple, practical and age-appropriate ideas, as well as important information on how abusers groom and signs a child maybe being sexually abused.

2. Be aware that pornography fuels child on child harmful sexual behavior. Help your young child reject "bad pictures" by reading them Good Pictures Bad Picture s. Included in the book are several body safety rules that help children say no to taking pictures of their private parts.

3. Teach young children about good secrets and bad secrets.

Perpetrators continue to abuse because they either threaten or bribe the child to keep the abuse a secret. Assure your child that it is always the right decision to tell you if anyone every tries to get them to keep an inappropriate secret.

4. Consider nixing sleepovers.

In her recent article, Warning Signs of Sexual Abuse-How to Protect Your Child , Jenson suggests that rather than having your child sleep over at a friends house, pick up your child up by 10 pm and offer to bring them back in the morning for breakfast. At the very least, don't allow your child to sleepover unless you know the family very well, have been over to their home multiple times and know exactly who will be there. Also, make sure your child has a code word or phrase if they need to call you to get them out of a difficult situation. Read more about creating code words HERE .

Click HERE to read the full article by Protect Young Minds.

May 3, 2017

Teen Smartphone Usage

Wed, 03 May 2017 17:35:46 GMT

Teen Smartphone Usage

An eye-opening infographic detailing teen internet and smartphone usage reveals how it is impacting the future of teens and turning their attention into a commodity.

According to the infographic smartphones are the new frontier of attention harvesting. Our phones consume experiences before we do. According to Youth Ministry Media, the average student gets a phone between the ages of 12 and 13 and 70% of them admit to hiding their online behavior from their parents.

Some claim smartphones encourage living in the moment to a fault. Check out the infographic and ask your teens if they ever think about the reality that what they post today might impact their future relationships, college admission and employment.

May 3, 2017

Women and Masturbation

Wed, 03 May 2017 17:33:16 GMT

Women and Masturbation

"Lust is not a guy problem-it's a human problem," wrote Kristen Clark in a Covenant Eyes article. "If you're a woman who has struggled with any sort of lustful sin habit, including masturbation, you're not alone. Millions of women (single and married) are facing similar temptations every day."

Last week Covenant Eyes released part two of series entitled, Women and Masturbation: Talking About It Openly . Clark claims that understanding the damaging effects of lust and masturbation is only the first half of the equation. The second half is actually doing something about it.

Here are two of Clark's six strategies for women wishing to defeat sexual sin in their lives:

Choose to fight the battle.
According to Clark, people often struggle daily with wrong because they do not choose to aggressively battle against it. A person may claim, "I hate this, I want to defeat this!" but then do very little to actually defeat the habit they are struggling with.
Find an accountability partner.
Masturbation is stereo-typically known as a "guy problem." This stereotype can cause women to feel as though no one else shares their struggle. Freedom is found in accountability and sharing a burden with someone of like-minded values. As hard as it may be, humble yourself and ask a godly woman to hold you accountable in this area. Ask her to follow up with you on a regular basis to ask how you're doing.

Click HERE to read Women and Masturbation: Talking About It Openly (Part 1).

Click HERE to read Women and Masturbation: Talking About It Openly (Part 2).

May 3, 2017

Arkansas Declares A Public Health Crisis

Wed, 26 Apr 2017 17:27:44 GMT

Arkansas Declares A Public Health Crisis

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April 17, 2017

YouTube Releases TV

Mon, 17 Apr 2017 14:53:15 GMT

YouTube Releases TV

YouTube recently introduced YouTube TV, providing live broadcasts from a growing list of major TV networks for $35 per month. Until now, live sports and cable TV have only been available through cable/satellite TV (unless you paid for individual networks).

According to Axis , YouTube has been a dominant online presence since its start in 2005, with younger generations watching hours of video on the site each day. The development of YouTube TV creates yet another reason for parents to implement appropriate filters for safe searching on YouTube. Click the HERE to learn more about setting up YouTube strict search through Covenant Eyes .

April 17, 2017

Over-the-Counter Oral Contraceptives

Mon, 17 Apr 2017 14:49:04 GMT

Over-the-Counter Oral Contraceptives

A team of pediatric, adolescent and women's health experts believes that regulatory, behavioral and scientific evidence supports switching oral contraceptives from prescription-only status to over-the-counter (OTC) availability.

"Decades of research show that a majority of adolescents initiate sex before the age of 18 and that earlier use of contraception reduces the risk of teen pregnancy. Our review strongly suggests that giving teens easier access to various contraceptives will not lead to more sex but would result in fewer unwanted pregnancies," says Krishna Upadhya, M.D., M.P.H., assistant professor of pediatrics at the Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine and the paper's lead author.

The study, published March 14 in the Journal of Adolescent Healthy, fails to address the high probability that young adults just beginning puberty would have access to contraceptives without being provided information about the consequences of the drug by a physician. Likewise, it would do a large disservice to youth and parents acting as the primary educators of their children. Furthermore, easy access to synthetic hormones will not solve teen pregnancy it will simply serve to cover the overarching issue of unintended pregnancy.

April 17, 2017

Join Our Workshop: Seeking Virtue After A Negative Pregnancy Test

Mon, 17 Apr 2017 14:47:25 GMT

Join Our Workshop: Seeking Virtue After A Negative Pregnancy Test

Are you attending the Heartbeat Conference this week? Don't miss out on our workshop Seeking Virtue After a Negative Pregnancy Test at 10:00 on Friday, April 21. Abstin ence Clearinghouse founder Leslee Unruh will be educating attendees on how to encourage clients towards sexual integrity after a negative pregnancy test result.

Can't attend the workshop? Follow us on Facebook to keep up on conference action all week long!

April 17, 2017

Twitter Takes a Stand

Wed, 12 Apr 2017 14:38:25 GMT

Twitter Takes a Stand

Do Celebrities Influence Out-Of-Wedlock Births?

According to World Magazine, fifty years ago, only about 8 percent of babies in the United States were born to single women. Today that figure is over 40 percent.

A new study presented at the 2017 American Sociological Association meeting indicated the increase of babies born out of wedlock may be due to the way the media portrays celebrity lifestyles.

According to the study, celebrity lifestyles have had a huge impact on social norms and the makeup of the traditional American family. "When the media depicts celebrities as successful, beautiful, brilliant, interesting and funny, we want to be like them," World reported.

Author and speaker Glenn Stanton claims that "having children outside marriage is often the status divider in society today. When the media portrays a single celebrity who has children as successful and happy, we think it should work out the same for us."

In reality, what is portrayed by the media is not always as it appears. For the largest percent of the population, "these celebrities are really communicating an unrealistic and imaginary world by saying you can have babies with lots of different men and still drive nice cars and live in nice houses and have a great career," Stanton told World Magazine.

Amazon Offering Hugh Hefner Series

Wed, 29 Mar 2017 13:58:55 GMT

Amazon Offering Hugh Hefner Series

Amazon Prime Video has released plans to reveal a new Amazon original series about the Playboy empire of Hugh Hefner.

"We are excited to bring Prime members the untold story of Mr. Hefner's remarkable life and his contributions to modern American history," Conrad Riggs, head of programming at Amazon Studios told Variety.

There is no denying the impact Hefner's empire has had on our culture. However, it is not an impact that should be displayed positively. According to Dr. Judith Reisman, Hugh Hefner single-handedly led the sexual revolution and "hook up culture" that normalized cohabitation. The Playboy empire also opened doors for millions to become exposed and addicted to pornography.

Join us as we partner with Movieguide in signing a petition demanding Amazon not spend millions of membership fees to fund American Playboy: The Hugh Hefner Story.

Click HERE to sign the petition.

March 29, 2017

Have You Had 'The Prom Talk' With Your Teen?

Wed, 29 Mar 2017 13:57:26 GMT

Have You Had 'The Prom Talk' With Your Teen?

With spring comes the anticipation of prom season for thousands of teens. Formal attire is purchased, hair appointments are scheduled and arrangements to take pictures at a unique location are made in preparation for the big day. Amidst all the excitement, do not lose the opportunity to talk to your teen about the pressures they may face on prom night. Pressure to engage in sexual activity and participate in substance abuse is high. That being said, building up your teen's self-esteem prior to prom and having a conversation with them about the choices they may face is important.

Ask your teen...

"What will you be doing after from?"
"Who will you be with after prom?"
"How can you mentally prepare for unexpected situations that may arise?"

Tell your teen...

"If you find yourself in a situation that is uncomfortable, do not hesitate to call someone (mother, father or sibling) and we will pick you up."
"It does not matter how much money your date may have spent on your ticket and corsage, you do not owe them anything. They have the privilege of taking you on a date. It is ok to say no."

At the end of the day your teen needs to know that they are loved and that they have a choice. The need to know that not everyone is 'doing it' and that you believe they have the ability to go against what culture says and say 'no'.

March 29, 2017

How Far Is Too Far?

Wed, 22 Mar 2017 13:54:46 GMT

How Far Is Too Far?

Quite possibly the most terrifying question a teen can ask an abstinence educator is "How far is too far?".

According to abstinence advocate Chad Etzel, "this question assumes that acts of arousal are only more intense forms of affection, that sexual touching is only a more intense form of holding hands. In reality, we express physical romance in two distinct ways: affection and arousal."

Perhaps the wrong question is being asked. Rather than question what type of physical romance is appropriate in dating, consider what is appropriate in the context of marriage. Therefore, acts that bring about sexual arousal (passionate kissing, sexual touching, etc.) should only be reserved for marriage to spare long-term negative emotional effects.

To be fair, a person who asks, "How far is too far?" may be asking how to best express his love in a physical, selfish way. However, the question should not be, how far can I push my significant other towards a vague boundary but, how can I best push both myself and my significant other to be a better person.

John Wooden, a ten-time national champion basketball coach at UCLA, once said, "Goals achieved with little effort are seldom worthwhile or long-lasting." While Wooden was talking about sports, love is not much different. An athlete must remain disciplined to become a champion. Likewise, a couple that is dating needs to say no to using one another for selfish pleasure if they desire authentic love. The greatness of love is found through effort and sacrifice.

March 22, 2017

4 Reminders for Stressed Parents

Wed, 22 Mar 2017 13:49:44 GMT

4 Reminders for Stressed Parents

Parents be encouraged: Someday, you will look back on this difficult period of conflict and be thankful that you stayed on course! Here are four of Dr. James Dobson's eight reminders for stressed parents:

You are not to blame for the temperament with which your child was born. Your child is simply a tough kid to handle and your task is to rise to the challenge.
If you fail to understand your child's lust for power and independence, you can exhaust your resources and be bogged down with guilt. It will benefit no one.
Don't panic, even during the storms of adolescence. Better times are ahead. A radical turnaround usually occurs in the early twenties.
Stay on your child's team, even when it appears to be a losing team. You'll have the rest of your life to enjoy mutual fellowship if you don't overreact to frustration now.

Click HERE to read the full article.

March 22, 2017

The Unspoken STD

Wed, 22 Mar 2017 13:48:07 GMT

The Unspoken STD

According to Meg Meeker, it is no coincidence that as STDs have become an epidemic in teens, so has depression. In a recent article , Meeker outlined three common physical repercussions of unprotected sex:

We now have 35 known STDs. In 1960, we only had two.
Teenagers make up one-third of the U.S. population, but they carry 50 percent of STDs.
One in four teens has an STD. (Over 80% of those infections have no symptoms, so they can go undetected, which is dangerous for the teen, their future sexual partners and their future children.)

Meeker claims that many teens who have had multiple sexual partners also find themselves battling depression.

Consider these numbers:

In 2015, an estimated 3 million adolescents age 12 to 17 in the U.S. had at least one major depressive episode in the past year -that's about 12.5% of all 12 to 17 year olds.
From 1999-2014, the suicide rate in girls age 10 to 14 tripled.
About 20% of teens will experience depression before they reach adulthood.

Despite what our culture teaches, teens do not have the cognitive ability to fully process the impact of intimate relationships at such a young age. "Depression occurs by un-grieved losses and the truth is, sex for teen boys and girls causes many losses on many levels," Meeker wrote. Parents, educators and healthcare providers must be aware of the rise in depression among teens and one of its possible causes: sex outside of marriage.

Click HERE to view the full article.

March 22, 2017

Mark Your Calendar

Wed, 15 Mar 2017 13:45:30 GMT

Mark Your Calendar

Show your support for films that promote positive messages by tuning into the 25th annual Movieguide Awards on April 16th. This unique event, hosted by actor and director Terry Crews, recognizes and awards the good in Hollywood.

Click HERE to learn more about the Movieguide Awards!

March 15, 2017

Parents Beware of Roblox

Wed, 15 Mar 2017 13:42:36 GMT

Parents Beware of Roblox

A new game, Roblox , is gaining popularity among children ages 8-12. Roblox allows children to "create adventures, play games, role play and learn with their friends."

So what do parents need to be aware of? The game has a chat feature that allows predators to approach children online. It is also possible to use one's avatar to demonstrate sexual positions and acts. We encourage parents to delete this game from all devices. We also encourage parents to discuss internet safety with your child.

Body Safety Education , available through our Family Resource Store, is a wonderful resource for parents wanting to learn more about internet safety and protecting their children from sexual abuse.

March 15, 2017

Teach The X-Plan To Your Teen

Wed, 15 Mar 2017 13:38:39 GMT

Teach The X-Plan To Your Teen

Parents all over the country are sharing the X-Plan on social media, an idea coined by Bert Fulk, a youth pastor in West Virginia. The concept is simple: give your kids a way to escape peer pressure without completely ruining their social status.

Bert Fulks' blog post " X-Plan: Giving your kids a way out (#xplan) " explains how and why he came up with the code that is both simple and effective. Working with teens, Fulks quickly learned that when they were surrounded by peer pressure, they believed it was easier to stay put than find a way home.Imagine your son or daughter is offered their first drink and does not want to drink it but also does not want to seem uncool. Even if your teen would rather leave, it may be unlikely that they would call you to come pick them up.

Que the X-Plan! Giving your teen the option to simply text the letter "X" to you, a sibling or spouse allows your teen to communicate that they would like out of an uncomfortable situation without going into great detail. A parent or sibling is then encouraged to go pick up the teen and take them out of the pressure filled environment.

Fulk wrote, "This is one of the most loving things we've ever given our son, and it offers him a sense of security and confidence in a world that tends to beat our young people into submission."

It's a pretty smart idea, but there's one more piece without which the X-Plan can't function: "The X-plan comes with the agreement that we will pass no judgments and ask no questions (even if he is 10 miles away from where he's supposed to be)."

This can be a difficult thing for some parents; however, it will not only save them from unhealthy situations, it will also go a long way in building trust between you and your teen.

March 15, 2017

Become An Affiliate Today!

Wed, 08 Mar 2017 21:26:32 GMT

Become An Affiliate Today!

Inspire young men and women of virtue with truth! Interested in joining the nations largest network of abstinence educators, representing thousands of abstinence educators in all 50 states and in over 100 countries world-wide?

Click HERE to learn how you can become a member of the National Abstinence Clearinghouse today!

March 8, 2017

Harvard Administrators Embezzle Funds Intended for Disabled Students

Wed, 08 Mar 2017 13:36:41 GMT

Harvard Administrators Embezzle Funds Intended for Disabled Students

Two former Harvard Law School administrators, Meg DeMarco and Darris Sailors, resigned after being accused of stealing thousands of dollars from an account meant to help students with disabilities. According to the police investigation, the women stole $110,000 in funds and used the money to purchase laptops, iPads, DVDs, jewelry and sex toys.

Click HERE to read more.

March 8, 2017

How to Erase Pornography From Your Brain

Wed, 08 Mar 2017 13:34:08 GMT

How to Erase Pornography From Your Brain

Did you know the brain has a "delete button"? There is an old saying in neuroscience: neurons that fire together wire together. This means the more you run a neuro-circuit in your brain, the stronger that circuit becomes.

According to an article by Judah Pollack and Olivia Fox Cabana , the ability to learn is about more than building and strengthening neural connections. Even more important is our ability to break down old ones through synaptic pruning. Synaptic pruning allows your brain the ability to create physical space to build new and stronger connections so you can retain more information.

Here are two things you should know about synaptic pruning:

1. Sleep is important! Synaptic pruning primarily happens when you are asleep. The pruning that takes place while you are sleeping creates space in your brain to store new

information.

2. Mindfulness is key. "It's the synaptic connections you don't use that get marked for recycling," Pollack wrote. "The ones you do use are the ones that get watered and oxygenated."

When we look at how pornography effects the brain, we know that connections are formed when viewing sexually explicit images. These connections are associated with pleasure. The more time spent viewing pornography, the stronger the connections become.

However, old connections and pathways in the brain can be pruned away to create room for new, stronger connections. Just like viewing pornography creates connections in our brain, staying away from it will weaken them until they fade away. A pornography addiction can be difficult to overcome, but time can allow you to regain control. Remember, your brain is customizable: you decide how it changes by focusing on what you put in it.

March 8, 2017

The 2017 Dirty Dozen List

Wed, 01 Mar 2017 21:00:05 GMT

The 2017 Dirty Dozen List

Each February The National Center on Sexual Exploitation releases their annual list of companies promoting sexual exploitation through pornography, prostitution and sex trafficking. The organization refers to the Dirty Dozen List as an "activism tool" allowing others to become aware of the various companies and corporations profiting from sexual exploitation.

So which mainstream brands, companies and organizations support sexual exploitation in America? Amazon, Comcast, Twitter, and EBSCO Information Services are four of the twelve companies listed.

Click HERE to view the complete 2017 Dirty Dozen List.

March 1, 2017

How Do You React When Your Child Admits to Watching Porn?

Wed, 01 Mar 2017 20:58:17 GMT

How Do You React When Your Child Admits to Watching Porn?

"No parent looks forward to the day their child admits to watching porn for the first time, but such a scenario is inevitable today," John Fort wrote in a recent article .

Wed, 22 Feb 2017 20:46:05 GMT

Four Behavioral Signs of Sex Addiction

Are you wondering if you are a sex addict? Think about your real and imagined sexual activity. If you're still wondering, "Am I addicted to sex?" then read these four signs that your sexual activity may constitute a sexual addiction:

Secretive
Hollow
Abusive
Mood-Altering

Learn more about these four behaviors and how you can break sexual addiction by reading the rest of this article by Covenant Eyes.

Source: CovenantEyes.com

February 22, 2017

Millennial Views on Cracked Phones and Casual Sex

Wed, 22 Feb 2017 20:43:38 GMT

Millennial Views on Cracked Phones and Casual Sex

A recent article in USA Today says it all: "Survey: Sleeping together before a first date is a-OK, but cracked phones are a put off." The story focuses primarily on the attitudes millennials have towards dating and relationships.

According to the annual Singles in America survey , funded by Dallas-based dating service Match, 34 percent of singles have sex before the first date and millennials are 48 percent more likely to have sex before a first date than any other generation.

Helen Fisher, a biological anthropologist and chief scientific adviser to Match, claimed "Sex before the first date could be a sex interview, where they want to know if they want to spend time with this person... In many ways sex has become a less intimate part of dating... We used to think of sex as you crossed the line now you are in an intimate zone, but now sex is almost a given and it's not the intimate part..."

The article published by USA Today brings the issue of casual sex to a new level. Frankly, casual sex leads to heartache and betrayal. It is unreasonable to say that two individuals can have sex and not develop feelings towards one another. The biological release of oxytocin is enough evidence to support the bond that is created between two individuals. The bottom line: "casual" sex is not casual.

February 22, 2017

Debunking the "Ball and Chain" Myth

Wed, 22 Feb 2017 20:41:20 GMT

Debunking the "Ball and Chain" Myth

The common "ball and chain" perception of marriage among men is that it is an "expensive encumbrance on their freedom and their sex lives." However, new research released by the Institute for Family Values finds that married men have more money, better sex and longer lives than their single and cohabitating peers.

Researchers Bradford Wilcox, director of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia, and Nicholas Wolfinger, a professor at the University of Utah have debunked the "ball and chain" perception of marriage and found a clear takeaway: Marriage is good for men in "every conceivable measure."

Three specific benefits to men in a monogamous, marital relationship:

Married men make about $16,000 more per year in salary than their single peers. Men with otherwise similar backgrounds have three times the accumulated wealth by their 50's, an average of $167,719 compared to $48,528 for single men.
Married men report the most satisfaction with their sex lives. Over 50 percent of married men indicated that they are extremely satisfied, compared to 39 percent of cohabiting men and 36 percent of single men.
Men who are married live up to 10 years longer than those who are unmarried or divorced.

Now we must consider how to debunk the "ball and chain" perception in the wider culture, something Wilcox and Wolfinger say should be a priority, given the "adverse consequences men, women and children have suffered in the retreat from marriage."

February 22, 2017

The Number of Sexual Partners Prior to Marriage Matters

Wed, 15 Feb 2017 20:38:41 GMT

The Number of Sexual Partners Prior to Marriage Matters

Faith and Family Findings regularly releases data on family structure and its impact on everything important to a functioning society. One particular study measured the intactness of marriage at the end of the first five years of marriage given the number of sexual partners the spouses have had in their lifetime (see chart). Research indicated that almost 95% of those who only had one sexual partner in their lifetime maintained intact marriages after the first five years. However, for women who had one additional sexual partner prior to being married the percentage dropped to 62% and for two additional partners the rate dropped to almost 50%.

According to the Director of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute (MARRI) Patrick Fagan, "chastity and monogamy are foundational to the intact married family, and thus to the prosperity and success of a nation."

"A culture of chastity is foundational to a culture of monogamy," Fagan wrote in a recent article. He concluded that this research is one of the most important in social sciences. This data reflects the importance of virtue within a society to be successful in marriage.

February 15, 2017

North America Begins Addressing Public Health Crisis

Wed, 15 Feb 2017 20:36:39 GMT

North America Begins Addressing Public Health Crisis

Shortly after Canadian parliament members voted to recognize pornography as a public health crisis in December 2016, state legislatures within the United States began to step forward. Legislatures in Utah voted recognizing pornography as a public health crisis and South Dakota legislators followed suit voting unanimously to recognize pornography as a public health crisis.

The South Dakota bill not only recognizes pornography as a public health crisis , it also addresses the issue of sexual abuse and child pornography. "Pornography normalizes violence against and abuse of women and children by treating women and children as objects and often depicts rape and abuse as if it were harmless," the bill states. "Moreover, pornography equates violence towards women and children with sex and equates pain with pleasure which increases the demand for sex trafficking, prostitution, child sexual abuse, and child pornography."

We strongly encourage you to talk to your state legislators about the impending health crisis surrounding pornography and thank those legislators who have stepped out and addressed the issue.

February 15, 2017

INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE RISES AMONG YOUNG ADULTS

Wed, 08 Feb 2017 20:35:00 GMT

INTIMATE PARTNER VIOLENCE RISES AMONG YOUNG ADULTS

The rate of young adults choosing to cohabitate is on the rise. However, research continues to point to a risk of high levels of physical abuse among cohabiting couples compared to married couples. A recent study published in December 2016 emphasizes the impending risks of intimate partner violence (IPV) among cohabitating couples in their 20's.

Click HERE to read more from a recent Family Studies recent article comparing two research projects involving commitment and relational constraints on young couples choosing to cohabitate.

1. Be the first to talk to your child about sex and pornography.

It is essential that parents be the first to bring up conversations involving sex and pornography. Using examples of how your spouse loves you and emphasizing that abusive behavior is not a part of love can help debunk the belief that abusive love equates to real love in the mind of a child.

In a recent post, author and speaker Jessica Harris wrote, "A common mistake parents make is thinking that talking to their children about something will rob them of their innocence or make them more curious. It's important to remember that the first person to tell your children about sex will often be the person they listen to."

2. Affirm your daughters value as a woman.

Your daughter has a voice. Encourage her to express her opinion and desires for future relationships. For example, it is ok to say no to sexual contact with a future boyfriend. Exercising the virtue of self-control and purity should never be downplayed.

February 8, 2017

#TackleDemand Success

Wed, 08 Feb 2017 20:25:59 GMT

#TackleDemand Success

Thank you to all who joined our social media thunderclap to help combat sex trafficking on Super Bowl Sunday! The Abstinence Clearinghouse, in partnership with more than 20 other organizations and countless individuals, reached over 890,390 people through a variety of social media outlets this weekend.

February 8, 2017

The Dangers of Fifty Shades Darker

Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:24:47 GMT

The Dangers of Fifty Shades Darker

When The Fifty Shades of Grey film franchise, based on the book series, was released a year ago, a new view of love and romance was formed in the minds of those exposed to the story. The Fifty Shades franchise is one that promotes rape culture and abuse. On February 14 the second film, Fifty Shades Darker, will open in theaters. Frankly, there is nothing worthy or respectable about this film. We ask that you join us in bringing awareness to this films unhealthy message and the irresponsible view of relationships promoted by the Fifty Shades of Grey community.

February 2, 2017

Snapchat Petition Succeeds

Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:24:00 GMT

Snapchat Petition Succeeds

A petition created by Change.org was submitted to Snapchat in November 2016 outlining the need to end the sexually suggestive featured stories on Snapchat. The petition stated that Snapchat users should be able to opt out of seeing the suggestive content posted daily by publishers.

With over 26,000 signatures, the petition gained the attention of Snapchat creators. In the past week Snapchat announced that they will be updating policies involving the content posted by publishers on its "Featured" section. Thank you to all who signed the #NoThanksSnapchat petition!

February 2, 2017

Treasuring the Latency Period

Thu, 02 Feb 2017 20:11:53 GMT

Treasuring the Latency Period

Stay-up-to date on the release date of the product by visiting their website .

January 25, 2017

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Ed Sheeran's New Single: Love or Lust?

Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:59:01 GMT

Ed Sheeran's New Single: Love or Lust?

Ed Sheeran's new single Shape of You debuted at the top of the charts this week. Sheeran's success is set to continue as it looks like the singer-songwriter could hold the top two spots on the Official Singles Chart this Friday for a third consecutive week.

In his recent single Castle on a Hill, Sheeran sings "The club isn't the best place to find a lover, so the bar is where I go", and continues "Girl, you know I want your love."Are these lyrics talking about love or lust? Love is patient, love is kind, it does not boast, it is not proud, it is not self-seeking, it takes no pleasure wrong-doing. Lust is the opposite of love. Addressing the false claims of love made by the world is important. Just because the word "love" is used in a lyric, that does not mean true love is being demonstrated. How often it is that we mindlessly listen to music unaware of the message within the lyrics. Challenge yourself to be more aware of the music you listen to each day and do not hesitate to call out the lies our culture promotes through music.

January 25, 2017

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Purity Ball: Sioux Falls, South Dakota

Wed, 25 Jan 2017 19:57:09 GMT

Purity Ball: Sioux Falls, South Dakota

The Abstinence Clearinghouse, in partnership with the Alpha Center, will be hosting a Purity Ball for fathers and daughters on Saturday, February 11th at CJ Callaway's in Sioux Falls, South Dakota. This event is designed for father figures and girls ages 12-18 to focus on purity (abstinence) until marriage. The evening will include a speaker, dessert and a dance!

Please call (605)335-3643 for more information on the Sioux Falls Purity Ball or to learn how you can host a Purity Ball in your own community.

January 25, 2017

Can You Protect Your Library from Porn?

Wed, 18 Jan 2017 19:55:18 GMT

Can You Protect Your Library from Porn?

A large number of public libraries do not have have sufficient pornography filtering software. Those that do have software employed often do not realize that it is ineffective. This is not only an issue for adults, but also for children who are using the internet. The risk for unintentional exposure is high.

Tune in to the "Sexploitation?" podcast to learn why some librarians refuse to protect libraries from pornography and what YOU can do to change their minds.

Produced by The National Center on Sexual Exploitation, this podcast titled Can You Protect Your Library from Porn? is available on both iTunes and Google Play .

January 18, 2017

Free Parenting Teens Summit

Wed, 18 Jan 2017 19:53:04 GMT

Free Parenting Teens Summit

Don't miss The Axis Virtual Parenting Teens Summit that will be held exclusively online February 2-15. Sign up to claim your FREE ticket.

Gary Chapman, PhD, author of the bestselling book The 5 Love Languages will be speaking on Parenting the Love Languages at 3:00pm on Tuesday, February 7.

Other topics include: how to start conversations with your teen about faith, body-image, failure, pornography, sex, social media, leadership, prayer, college prep and more. Get your free digital seat at the conference today!

Speakers will include practical advice in these three categories:

1. Know Their Culture

2. Connect the Generations

3. Develop Their Hearts

*Note: This is a religious event.

January 18, 2017

Fight Smarter, Not Harder

Wed, 18 Jan 2017 19:50:24 GMT

Fight Smarter, Not Harder

Rather than simply "fighting more" or "fighting harder" against pornography, these tips are about "fighting smarter".

1. Fortify Your Home Base

Make your environment work for you, not against you. It is not uncommon for people's own homes to be full of triggers.

2. Mobilize Your Allies

For most of us, pornography has driven us apart from people who care about us, and it may have even created some tension or resentment. Is it time to counterbalance that force? Consider seeking an accountability partner. Being open and honest will help you tackle this harmful habit so that you do not have to live with skeletons in your closet anymore.

3. Deepen Your Other Connections

Obviously, getting free from porn would make a difference in the connections you feel. That's a no-brainer, but what we're talking about here is something a little different - strengthening relationships around you as a way to step towards freedom. Being isolated and distant from others can make you more vulnerable to turning to old habits. Focus on the relationships in your life to avoid old habits.

Source: Fortify

January 18, 2017

Valentine's Day Sale

Wed, 18 Jan 2017 19:47:00 GMT

Valentine's Day Sale

Looking to purchase a gift for your special someone or children this Valentine's Day? Browse our Family Resource Store for age-appropriate gifts that the whole family will love!

January 18, 2017

The Danger of Facebook Lurking

Wed, 11 Jan 2017 18:06:45 GMT

The Danger of Facebook Lurking

Every month, 1.79 billion people actively use the social media site Facebook. On average, each user spends 50 minutes a day using the site. This is not a staggering statistic until you contrast time spent participating in other leisure activities.

In the U.S., Americans spend just 19 minutes, on average, reading each day and just 17 minutes on exercise, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics. So the nearly one hour spent on Facebook is significant; it's about the same amount of time spent eating and drinking (just over one hour).

A study out of Denmark concluded that excessive time spent on Facebook can negatively affect one's well-being and create "unrealistic social comparisons." Facebook users who took a one-week break from the site reported significantly higher levels of life satisfaction and reported significantly improved emotional life.

If you're a regular Facebook user interested in increasing your well-being, you may consider significantly limiting your usage or quitting the site for good. The researchers suggested making adjustments in your usage behavior could be enough to prompt positive change. Consider downloading an app like Moment or BreakFree to help you track and reduce the amount of time you spend on social media sites each day.

January 11, 2017

Matt's Story: I Quit Watching Porn And I've Never Been Happier

Wed, 11 Jan 2017 18:04:46 GMT

Matt's Story: I Quit Watching Porn And I've Never Been Happier

After being exposed to pornography at the young age of 10, Matt developed a serious struggle that carried on for many years. It was only after taking a break from his porn habit that he realized how much more free he felt. After meeting the love of his life and having a wonderful honeymoon, he thought everything was good, until he quickly realized his struggle with porn wasn't entirely gone. It took time and strength to realize what he was really fighting for: real love.

*Video Produced by Fight the New Drug

January 11, 2017

Hope Bracelet Giveaway

Wed, 11 Jan 2017 18:02:09 GMT

Hope Bracelet Giveaway

Don't miss your chance to enter our Hope Bracelet giveaway available now on our Facebook page!

How to enter:

Follow the National Abstinence Clearinghouse on Facebook.
Tell us what the word hope means to you under the Hope Bracelet giveaway post!

The winner will be chosen and contacted Monday, January 16th. Click HERE to purchase our silver Hope Bracelet available for only $8.00!

January 11, 2017

An Open Letter to a Female Sex Addict

Wed, 04 Jan 2017 17:59:12 GMT

An Open Letter to a Female Sex Addict

The following letter, featured by Covenant Eyes, was written by counselor, speaker, teacher and author, Kimberly Johnson. Her experience and knowledge come not only from the hundreds of stories she has heard, but from seeking healing in her on her own journey of sexual brokenness.

"Dear Precious One,

I have been where you are. I am no stranger to the shame that you feel. Although they are now in my rear view mirror, the horrible self-hate, the embarrassment, the sexual desires that I feared I could not control, the depression, the regret, and so many other emotions were all too real to me not long ago.

When I was about 11 years old, I came across a hidden stash of pornography under a relative's mattress. Very quickly I began intentionally seeking out what I accidentally stumbled across."

January 4, 2017

'Passengers' Exposes Truth About Casual Sex

Wed, 04 Jan 2017 17:43:57 GMT

'Passengers' Exposes Truth About Casual Sex

Passengers, recently released in theaters, portrays two passengers on a 120-year voyage to another planet. Jim and Aurora, played by Chris Pratt and Jennifer Lawrence, awaken from their hibernation pods 90-years too early and discover their ship is malfunctioning. They soon realize it is up to them to save the 5,000 hibernating passengers on board.

The movie is rated PG-13 due to sexuality, nudity and action. The trailer gives evidence of a love scene between Lawrence and Pratt. In numerous interviews Lawrence explains how awkward and uncomfortable it was for her to shoot the scene with Pratt.

Jennifer Lawrence felt a need to get drunk and call her mom seeking reassurance that what she was doing was "ok" prior to filming. She told one Hollywood reporter, "I knew it was my job, but I couldn't tell my stomach that. So I called my mom and I was like, 'Will you just tell me it's okay?' It was just very vulnerable. That was the most vulnerable I've ever been."

"The reality is sex is a big deal or it isn't," Sean McDowell Ph.D., a professor of Christian Apologetics at Biola University, wrote in a recent blog post.

Wed, 21 Dec 2016 17:32:58 GMT

A Letter to Women

Crystalina Evert was inspired to write a letter to herself after a time of healing in her life. She soon realized the message was not just for her but for women everywhere.

Let this be an encouragement to all who read it:

Why do you always seek man’s approval? You’re always wondering: “Do I look pretty enough? Do I sound smart enough?” With a shadow of insecurity hovering above you, you’re always trying to keep others interested. Meanwhile, you give yourself away while ignoring your gut. Don’t be controlled by the amount of attention and approval you receive, and stop being ashamed of yourself. Your worth can’t come from who you’re with, what you wear, or what others think of you. Are you scared to admit your own self-worth? Do you keep your true beauty, gifts, and talents so locked away and hidden from the world that you can’t truly see how amazing you are? Are you afraid of shining so bright that the light will scare others away? Do not shy from who you are because you fear abandonment or the negative opinions of others. You take scraps from the world but I have given you everything you need, deep within you. Everyone’s light is different and some brighter than others. But do not be scared of your own light, for it was put in you so that others who are blinded by their own darkness could see your light. Why are you scared and sad? Why do you belittle yourself and dim your own light? Your light was made to shine—that is its purpose. Your self-worth is within you and has been given to you for a purpose. Your beauty—God’s beauty—was given for a great reason as well. The darkness has tried to extinguish this beauty within, but it cannot. It will not be put out. At times, you allow your insecurities to overpower you, and your thoughts run wild. But with Jesus’ love you can control any vice, wickedness, or evil weapon that comes against you. It’s time to rise up, unafraid of who you are. Embrace it. Do not lower yourself or hide, because the power of my love and grace will always be there to catch you and show you the way. I will catch you, but will you let me? Deep down you know who you are and what you are supposed to do. Stop lowering yourself to the world and start rising to heaven. Even though it might seem so far away, it truly is all around you. Heaven is watching, praying, and cheering you on. You have a whole army of angels and saints wanting you to succeed in your battle. But the biggest battle of all will be with yourself. Know who you are and what you are not. You are a beloved daughter of Jesus, He who is God.

December 21, 2016

Creating a Porn Free Christmas

Wed, 21 Dec 2016 17:30:55 GMT

Creating a Porn Free Christmas

Did you ever consider that you may have porn under your Christmas tree this year? Many parents, with no intention of harm, will gift their children their first laptop, tablet or phone without equipping them with the tools needed to combat pornography. So how do you confidently broach the issue of internet safety, pornography and sexting? Check out these two tips:

Teach and train your children how to identify and avoid pornography.

Teaching young children age-appropriate internet safety is essential. The book, Good Pictures Bad Pictures serves as a comfortable, read-aloud story about a mom and dad who teach their child what pornography is, why it's dangerous and how to reject it.

Going through Passport2Purity with pre-teens is a great way to engage in object lessons and guided conversations. The program is designed for parents and pre-teens to experience a weekend getaway, set a foundation of moral integrity and strengthen the parent-child bond.

Guard your children from seeing or experiencing what they do not know exists.

Check out Covenant Eyes app developed to help replace porn habits with new habits through Overcome Porn: The 40 Day Challenge. Download the app today to get:

Articles and videos that will educate you and encourage you on the road to freedom
Practical action steps to retrain your brain and break the porn habit
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December 14, 2016

When You Can't Work it Out

Wed, 14 Dec 2016 17:14:39 GMT

When You Can't Work it Out

You liked him and he liked you. You thought it was meant to be but now it's obvious that the relationship is not going to work. You've officially broken up, but now what? Here are two things to do when you can't work it out:

1. Forgive Freely

No matter how long it takes, choose the high road and forgive.

2. Seek Reconciliation

What is reconciliation? In terms of our relationships, it means to come to a place of peace.

December 14, 2016

NEW PRODUCT: Give Please a Chance

Wed, 14 Dec 2016 17:10:32 GMT

NEW PRODUCT: Give Please a Chance

In this #1 New York Times bestseller, Bill O'Reilly and James Patterson together present a beautifully illustrated, instantly classic picture book that celebrates the magic of the word "Please" for our children.

Bill O'Reilly and James Patterson remind us all that a single word "Please?" is useful in a thousand different ways. From finding a lovable stray dog to needing a partner on a seesaw, from reading a bedtime story to really, really needing a cookie, Give Please a Chance depicts scenes and situations in which one small word can move mountains.

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December 14, 2016

Teens Pursing Abstinence: Not a Minority

Wed, 14 Dec 2016 17:06:00 GMT

Teens Pursing Abstinence: Not a Minority

In a recent report , nearly half of teens in the United States claimed they have had no sexual contact in the past year. At the Abstinence Clearinghouse, we believe this statistic is prime evidence pointing to the reality that not everyone is "doing it". Sexual integrity is pursued by 45.7% of teens in our nation; therefore, we should recognize this population of students not as a minority, but as a group to serve in our sex education system. Abstinence-until-marriage is not a thing of the past. It is a virtuous lifestyle choice being pursued by the youth of our nation!

December 14, 2016

Four Things All Husbands Want to Hear

Thu, 08 Dec 2016 16:59:42 GMT

Four Things All Husbands Want to Hear

It is no secret that the universal love language for men is respect. Check out these top four of the ten things that all husbands desire to hear:

I value your leadership.
I am glad I married you.
Thank you for being dependable.
I appreciate all you do for our family.

Click HERE to read all ten things that all husbands desire to hear!

December 8, 2016

Foul Play

Thu, 08 Dec 2016 16:55:16 GMT

Foul Play

The National Football League has taken a new approach to combating a recent loss in revenue. According to an article by the Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood, the NFL's new advertising campaign is directly geared towards children. The Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood recently released a report outlining the following dangers of this direct marketing strategy:

Increased sedentary screen time
Exposure to junk-food marketing
Loss of valuable instructional time in school
Encouraging gambling behaviors
Exposure to the league's off-the-field controversies."

Click HERE to read the full report.

December 8, 2016

Study Shows Teen Virgins are Healthier

Thu, 08 Dec 2016 16:51:56 GMT

Study Shows Teen Virgins are Healthier

A new report published by the Center for Disease Control (CDC) concluded that students who are virgins report consistently higher in almost all health-related behaviors than their sexually active peers.

Glenn Stanton, author of author of The Ring Makes All the Difference , had this to say about the report's release:

"Our children should know there's very compelling scientific evidence on so many levels showing how saving the precious gift of their sexuality for the safe harbor of marriage is nothing about old-time moralism or unhealthy sexual repression."

At the National Abstinence Clearinghouse we appreciate studies that show the benefits of pursuing sexual integrity. We believe that spreading a message grounded in truth and inspired by virtue is essential to combating sex prior to marriage.

December 8, 2016

Looking for a Christmas Gift?

Thu, 08 Dec 2016 16:49:55 GMT

Looking for a Christmas Gift?

The Three Gifts of Christmas (audio CD included) is only $8.80 plus shipping when you use code WINTER20 at checkout now through Christmas Day! This book is perfect for children ages 6 to 10!

Story Description:

It's Christmas! But the king and queen have a problem-their precious daughter has become spoiled. So they decide that this year will be different. Their child will receive only three gifts. Will she choose to share the treasures-or hoard them to herself with a selfish heart?

December 8, 2016

Establishing Quality Accountability Relationships

Wed, 30 Nov 2016 16:48:00 GMT

Establishing Quality Accountability Relationships

Having an accountability partner is a great way to deal with life challenges, staying on track with goals, creating change that lasts and implementing action plans. Choosing the right type of person to confide in and seek accountability can be difficult.

Covenant Eyes believes these four questions should be asked of oneself when choosing someone for an accountability relationship:

Who are the people in my life with whom I have, or could have, this kind of relationship?
Which of these characteristics are strongest in our relationship?
Which of these characteristics would require intentionality or fortify a weakness?
Am I willing to take the next step to begin or improve my accountability relationships?

November 30, 2016

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